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men staying at home and babysitting

their friends would first of all, laugh the living hell out of them

some men are just too egoistic to stay home and change their baby's diaper, feed them etc while they have a wife

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=249630.msg3639186#msg3639186 date=1237950851]Hmmm.

tooto lo so. sugbon bawo ni waa se nan omo e and send him to school with marks?[/quote]translate oo

tiffcisco:
Hi,

I thought I'd ask a question on here. Are spankings very common in Nigeria? I would assume so. I am just wondering as I am American and my fiance is Nigerian. I know we will live in Nigeria. In my family there were a necessity. If my parents didn't spank me, I'm sure I would have turned out to be quite the little terror. My fiance is the most patient and calm man I've met, but I'm sure he does believe in spanking, though we have not discussed this too much. Just wondering is it common practice. Or have they jumped on the silly notion that children can be disciplined and never have to be spanked. Also, just wondering, Sistawoman, are you American?? I think so, but just wondering, lol!! I really enjoy reading all of your posts!!

yes Nigerian parents and teachers do use spanking and flogging to discipline children

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=249630.msg3639141#msg3639141 date=1237949523]Truth be told, I can't be a teacher cuz I'd bruise any kid that disrupt my class.

And what is the alternative if none of your suggestion works?

What if your child is being disruptive in class due to peer pressure?[/quote]yes, peer pressure is a very powerful force that can seriously hinder a child's academic achievement, so if i pin- point the cause of the child's distraction in class as PP, then i would definitely focus on it and helping him/her get through it / or avoid it totally cause no matter how hard it may seem it is totally resolvable.

if all my initial plan doesn't resolve the issue, and lets say pp is not the problem, and if he exhibits the same pattern of behavior at home, i would get him/her evaluated for Attention-deficit disorder

@ Sistawoman

i'm really   by your strategy

the teacher didn't report you to child services for the belt spanking?

oh well! if that settles the case, then . . . but then i rather do the spanking at home

@ Ebony-Silk

if i get those "teachers calls" he/her has some serious explaining to do.

first i would start by confronting him/her with the teachers complains, and we would have serious discussions about the instances, i would warn him/her, advice them to change their behaviors and that i don't want to get those calls again from the teacher and if i do there will be serious consequences. if the calls persist, i would schedule a meeting with the teacher, with him/her included, and i would tell the teacher the discussion i had with him/her and the complains they had, and i would allow the teacher and the child to negotiate without interference to see if the problem is going to be solved. i would  Follow up with the teacher and the child as to how things are going and i will be ready to mediate.

and if things don't get resolved after the meeting and the follow ups, then i would show my colors cause they cant really do that, cox during my time i didn't. i would have to establish serious rules and must sure i stick to them.  grounding them would be on the list, privileges would be taken away, and i would be coming to his/her classroom to check on them during class period no matter the embarrassment it might cause him or her. spanking and flogging wouldn't be excluded. when it comes to education, i don't mess with it and i will definitely show them what i am made of if they scroll around. handle them with tough hand and they will learn you ain't joking

squirrel

none

never let a guy know all (if any sef) of your secrets or past lives, just keep them guessing

match gini

for a guy

(some would really careless, it is the thing under the pant that matches their eyes)

or just out of my obsession

i don't think i would last in an arranged marriage, i'm not just the type

what is the class level of the child, cox i would have to implore different spanking degree depending on which level they are

i wouldnt agree to the idea no matter my relationship with her, good or bad. i just want my own space with my our family and i dont want her looking over my shoulder every time i do something, and it wouldnt be more exciting to have her come when it there is a child, cox she lives near.

as for the husband, agreeing to the idea, he has to choose one me or the mom, he is marrying me not his mother so i dont think he would over rule my choice just to have his mom near, cox then i would also want to live near my own mother. which would turn into the " battle of the mothers"

yes, i would especially if they start acting up and if i have somebody back home that would take good of them.

oh yes i do

Pepeye:
Parenting techniques differ person to person; traditional parents want to go strictly by the books. .
but a more modern approach being touted in western culture encourages dialogue and subtle negotiations

that's more reason why our dearest Tgirl opened this thread so the 4rom east to west, north, south, old, new, can share their ideas/tips/discuss their own individual or cultural methods of parenting.

wearing my skinny jeans

this should b in the culture section though

yea, i heard those supt. b4 like walking across somebody's legs, dnt how true it is though/ or its meaning

giving somebody something with your left hand, i dnt think is a sup. i think it deals more with respect. using ur left hand (especially when the person is not lefter) 2 give something 2 ur elders/seniors  is seen as b  disrespectful at least in my own culture.

i also heard that u r nt suppose to write the name of a living person with a red pen, only the death have their names written in red pens

fried plantain with egg and akamu

i'm back

teacher

i will accept it jare however leaving my faith would be a hard one

university is where folks explore their wider sides of life including their fashion sense, so you cant really do anything about it, it is part of the university experience, it is prolly the same in most cases every where, for some of them, this is their only chance to be crazy, have fun etc

same to u

MrCrackles:
Palm Oil!

very funny

why not try groundnut oil

tishat:
i don't like white underwears,but i was wondering if babes still wear those sparkling white bras and pants,and if its still en-vogue.

i wear white undies/bras so i guess yes, they are still in en-vogue