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Good men are out there, but they are so hard to find.

@ ty4real
Where is de fun if we no yab.
It's not easy saying goodbye, it sounds so final.

@Stephanay,

Unfortunately hearts will be broken no matter how hard you try to shield it. At the moment you are feeling insecure is this your first love?

Healthy -------------------------------------- Unhealthy

Love: Development of self first priority.

Toxic love: Obsession with relationship.


Love: Room to grow, expand; desire for other to grow.

Toxic love: Security, comfort in sameness; intensity of need seen as proof of love - may really be fear, insecurity, loneliness.


Love: Separate interests; other friends; maintain other meaningful relationships.

Toxic love: Total involvement; limited social life; neglect old friends, interests.

 
Love: Encouragement of each other's expanding; secure in own worth.

Toxic love: Preoccupation with other's behavior; fear of other changing.

 
Love: Appropriate Trust (trusting partner to behave according to fundamental nature.)

Toxic love: Jealousy; possessiveness; fear of competition; protects "supply."

 
Love: Compromise, negotiation or taking turns at leading. Problem solving together.

Toxic love: Power plays for control; blaming; passive or aggressive manipulation.

 
Love: Embracing of each other's individuality.

Toxic love: Trying to change other to own image.


Love: Relationship deals with all aspects of reality.

Toxic love: Relationship is based on delusion and avoidance of the unpleasant.

 
Love: Self-care by both partners; emotional state not dependent on other's mood.

Toxic love: Expectation that one partner will fix and rescue the other.

 
Love: Loving detachment (healthy concern about partner, while letting go.)

Toxic love: Fusion (being obsessed with each other's problems and feelings.)


Love: Sex is free choice growing out of caring & friendship.

Toxic love: Pressure around sex due to fear, insecurity & need for immediate gratification.


Love: Ability to enjoy solitude by being alone.

Toxic love: Unable to endure separation; clinging.

 
Love: Cycle of comfort and contentment.

Toxic love: Cycle of pain and despair.


Love: Conversations based upon intent to Understand, Help, or convey affection.

Toxic love: Conversations based upon intent to blame, defend, or manipulate.


Love is not supposed to be painful. There is pain involved in any relationship but if it is painful most of the time then something is not working. Loving relationships are based upon appreciation & affection and not fear and manipulation

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Dubai

No matta how woman take dress, mad man go still rape am. Man must learn to control the beast between im legs. De only answer na to castrate the rapists.

I'll stick with my day job thank you.

Me too, the day my papa die (rest in peace pa, I love you).

A real man will only love the woman he's with.

Wich one be your wahala, next time you see dem make you look away.

Anytin dey possible.

@ a square
You must be ugly to call others UGLY.

Make you waka go, when love don't really love you.

If he can't afford a home help, I see nothing wrong in a man helping out with the house work.

Me I no fit marry an in-law or out-law

Keep the communication going, only you can tell when the time is right to tell her how you feel. Make you think twice before you enter long distance relationship. If you no wan loose am make you pack go meet am.

Best you see your doctor as soon as possible.

How else pastor go chop, if dey no tell una to pay tithe.

Please stay, you'll be greatly missed if you should go.