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theTranslator:
you write nice fiction.
If you need a job I can connect you

Oh, thanks bro. You are so generous and kind. However, I am just telling a part of my history. If there is a monetary value to it, I welcome it

Lemmy123:
If anything, his superiors should have heard about the shenanigans of the said boss. You don't dead big matters like that; aside that homosexuality is a crime in Nigeria, Boss' actions also inversely affected your job, and you just left everything "for God" like that. I've seen his moniker, I've stopped taking him seriously, too.

Lemmy wetin I do you? Everything is not joke o. Things are happening. Even if you don't believe me, hear me. I will say it again, I was hunted by gays in Chevron. The chase didn't directly lead to my being fired. It was a build up.

I knew the actions to take but trust me, none was genuine enough to carry my case. I am not seeking public sympathy cos it is over a decade now. I have moved on and I write to express what other victims can't. For the sake of humanity, I beg you to stay neutral even if you choose not to believe victims.

Everyone talks about due process. Yes, every entity has due process to protect against indiscriminate behaviour in the workplace, but my word against yours isn't legit enough to prove a case.

Fact is, this is not about me now. There are many victims out there. Know that they need your support. I am fine, bro. My career didn't plummet. I'm good. I dont crave for attention. I am anonymous and will remain so until I deactivate my accout. I thought it would be cool to share for people who need to know.

DrFunmisticGlow:
chronicles from team foreign babes. Grass isn't always greener on the other side

Sorry about your ordeal though, have you tried therapy?.

Thanks bro. Not really but I am fine.

texazzpete:
The guy is 100% right. Not only can your immediate boss not fire you in a multinational company like that, but there’s nothing in your story that says you tried to bring this up to HR.


But you’re the same person with the story of how the daughter of your boss is trying to seduce you. Same person who a 14 year old is infatuated with. Same person whose friend’s wife wants to sleep with him.


Why do you post these lies on Nairaland? Do you thrive off the engagement? Why not pursue more reasonable hobbies?

Bro, why are you relitigating my conversations here? I ain't under investigation, am I?
I simply feel like sharing a part of me online anonymously. How does that discredit my post? Some of these things happen at different stages of my life. I have lived, bro. I have stories for days.

If I were a liar, which true victim out here in Nigeria have you voiced out support for?
Who beyond your family and close pals have you selflessly reached out to?
Have you investigated any true victim this way so as to lend a hand?

Bro, if actuality is your domain, there are many that you walk past every day and pretend not to see.
Feee me!

GloriousGbola:
There are enough workers in multinational oil companies who will tell you outright that your story is s**t. This fairy tale is actually far more likely to play out in the lower tier Nigerian run oil companies. The ones that have taken over divested assets. In companies like that the oyibos can do anything they want, taking their cue from management excesses.

But chevron? Getdafkouttahere!

Suit yourself.

JomoGbomo2:
Your story is either pure lie or fiction and the least you can do is say the story with facts.

1. What Dept were you working for Chevron?
2. Apparently the way you sounded, you are not a blue badge, I doubt you are a green badge too. So tell me are you a community worker or someone just brought you ?
3. What location are you? Warri/Escravos/Lagos or which of the flow station or where?
4. Do you know chevron is one of the companies that supports LGBTQ and have an inclusive policy for them? So if you have an LGBTQ boss that’s a blue badge he definitely knows not to harass you
5 do you know chevron has an anonymous hotline to report every kind of workplace harassment anonymously? This number is placed in every facility and it goes straight to Houston or San Ramon? Why didn’t you use it?

Like I said, your story is pure lie until you provide some facts based on above questions.

Thank you, Mr. Chevron. You remain the sagacious emperor and almighty knower. Same reason that I chose not to be brought before people like you. Cos' a victim has to prove his innocence. You are the kind that sit on panels to judge victims. What case can a victim present to someone with your antagonistic judgement stand?

What you need now are details. Provide this and provide that... while debunking everything presented. Are you a jury to demand details? You went ahead relegating the victim further by categorising him. What difference does category provide in crediting your antagonism? If I mention your father's name, What would be your next move? Simply push back and vilify the victim the more.

Stop exuberating in your contumacious pride. The world is larger than your bubble. It is over a decade now and I am not here to seek your support. I am only telling my history to pave the way for others who are or may experience this in the future. If you read what I wrote correctly as the Mr. Sage that you are, you would see the timeline.

I said that my final YEAR was horrendous. I didn't say that I was fired outrightly for declining sexual requests. It was a chain reaction.

DAMN99:
Nah una problem for dis place be dis. Always quick to call people liars

I keep wondering in what cave these men live. They doubt every fact and make fun of every victim. It is fun to them.

This is my history and not my story. They simply will not believe it.

princewarri1985:
How do men get attracted to their men? It's still a mystery to me i swear to God. I feel like throwing up now. YUCK!

If I begin to recount how many times men have hit on me, I will run out of numbers. We live in a new age bro. It is not a secret. People keep doubting until their own kids gets raped.

AroOkigbo:
I doubt this happened in Chevron Nigeria.
Your boss can't sack you!

Why do you doubt me? He didn't fire me outrightly but the hate led to series of woes for me. Like I said, it was more than a year after that I finally got axed.

One thing led to another. It was a build up. Minor mistakes are escalated and my record was stained so badly. Depression set in. I was emotionally drained and we both knew what he was doing before the big mistake from me happened. I couldn't escape it and it happened.

Bro, please do not doubt everyone because things sound strange to you. A dead body should not be an evidence to a crime. I do not crave for public sympathy cos it happened years ago and I have moved on mentally and career wise. I am simply writing my own history to bring awareness to what is considered strange yet claims many victims.

It is always questionable when it is not you or someone that is close to you.

Uzomacharles:
I've never been in love to someone who's happy seeing me under bondage..

it begins in a subtle way then becomes a norm before it engulfs you

Uzomacharles:
Upon every every you went begging her....

Baba you be the SIMPlest SIMP I have ever seen..

love. Have you ever been in love?

Met this girl while running my degree course in UBC. She approached me, dropped her number in my pocket. All I wanted to do was get my deg and a career cos parents done spent too much already. She was going for my body but I snubbed her. She was too young for me. I met her half sister (Irish-mexican) who is older. The blue eyes, the hair, height and teeth were mesmerising. I fell one time.

She was all over me like she found a priceless trophy. I thought we could be married but she didn't want any kids yet. She wants bikini body rather. We dated for 9 months. She treated me like a toy. I saw that marriage would be harder for me. She was so scared of losing me. The insecurity made my life miserable. I had to inform her wherever I went. Take pictures and send. Be on video calls like every time I was away. She knew all my friends and the people who walked past me on the streets. I had to be on the fone all my life to prove that someone else wasn't hitting on me.

I couldn't admire any lady or stare. I felt like a prisoner being watched constantly. I had to mention that she was my girl to every girl around me. She put a ring on my finger. I have her pictures on my walls. She had to be my wallpaper on my laptop and the theme on my fone. I had to save her number as "My baby". She had to check my wardrobe and ensured that she bought all items in it. She checks my pockets for numbers. Picks me up from the gym.

She was controlling and she taught me how to never be controlled by a woman again. She was more like a mother than my girl. She cries every time I try to talk about this issue. Saying that she wanted me to be safe. That she was scared to lose me. I did everything to prove to her that she was the only one but I tried too hard. Honestly, there was no one else. She was persnickety over nothing.

Finally, she attended a family funeral in Alberta and stayed for 6 days. Longest time away from me. During this time, her friend called me asking of her since she couldn't reach her. Then, she told me that she was coming to the house. I obliged innocently. As it wasn't the first time. When she arrived, she stayed the night since the weather was very bad. We only talked and the only nice thing I said to her was complemented her hair.

Nothing happened. As a matter of fact, my girl permitted her to stay the night and asked for her to sleep in the other room. My girl and I had a lovely conversation till I went to bed. She usually talked till I felt asleep.and watched me sleeping. When I sleep, I die. I didn'thear the fone ringing and didn't see her messages. Now, when she returned 2 days later, she acccused me of cheating with her girlfriend. Asking me if she was my type. So, anyways. We fought over this, for 3 months she nagged and uttered irreversible damage into my life. Still, I apologized and begged and did everything to win her over.

I felt heart-broken. We broke up. She moved out. 2 weeks into break up I went to her, begged and called but met silence. I gave up. 3rd week, she called and demanded that I could have kept on fighting and begging into the 3rd week if I truly loved her. I apologized thinking that we could get back. She asked for all my passwords, I gave her to win her over. She went through them found nothing. Cried on my shoulders and still went back to feeling broken and uttering vile things.

A month after break up, I knew it was over. I couldn't end up feeling miserable for the rest of my life. I moved on. Never been able to fix a relationship since then.

This is how broken women break good men and, then call men so many names. Many bad men in town are products of broken women. Today, I just can't stand any woman who is a control freak. Many men are battered. We also cry, but we don't tear. We also have emotions, but we die in silence. Many men home and abroad are controlled but they can't utter their pains

segcymoor:
No wonder....

Dare continue with that Paro for just 3 months
.... Consider yourself married but by style

I am really impressed by the number of people who strengthened me with words here. I least expected it from fellow Nigerians. Some people are truly morally virtuous. The media makes you think that everyone is immoral. Nigerians surprised me, seriously.

I am currently distancing myself from them and I took many things said here seriously. I feel so proud that I have not gone that deep or even initial a sensual conversation.

jaxxy:
Fascinating stories u have.

you seem to be following. Haha thank you. But, this very one is no jokes. I felt that I could share a part of my life and maybe someone might need it.
It didn't happen this years. About 10 years ago. I hardly share secrets with people but since I am anonymous here, why not share and offload some secrets.
Regarding that married woman. It is fresh. Happening now.

Exactly. You understand the situation better cos you have been there before. Many pundits here have no clue how the human conscience works. It is hard to betray some people even if you find yourself in a difficult situation.
Ah, because of temporary pleasure or because of pressure, you act against your conscience. And, it is clear to you that you and this person cannot end well. So, why risk it? There are no go areas for everyone.

placeofallure:
Yes.
I was just done with NYSC then. No job and I had plenty of time on my hands. Then a new neighbour, a whole family, moved in. They are Ibos. A man, his wife and 2 girls. They just had a boy, a few months back. It's a young family. I've never seen a family so nice, both the husband and the wife. I immediately fell in love with their baby boy. Everyday, after the early morning routine of bathing and feeding him, the mother lets me have the boy till evening. The boy has gotten so used to me that once he eats breakfast, even if they don't bring him (he'd started to walk) he'd bring himself. New people in the neighborhood thought he was my baby cause we were inseparable. I had more than enough time on my hands to care for a baby.

The mother let me organise his two-year birthday, everything. She doesn't bother with anything that has to do with the boy anymore. The dad gets something for my sister and I everyday when he returns from work. The wife knows about it. We all thought nothing of it, you know harmless gifts as cake, suya, wine, money, recharge card; those stuff. I don't know he has designs on me.

Then, he had his chance when we somehow somehow were alone. He said he'd loved me since he first saw me, then I fuelled the fire when he saw how I cared for his boy. He said I should ask for anything. He was making promises. Now, that was tempting cause he's rich. And na today girls dey date married men? I'm no saint. But he was different.
I remember how his wife treated me like her sister. She tells me things even as we're of different tribes. She shares her joys and woes with me. I couldn't do that to her.

The man continued to pester at every opportunity but we both kept a straight face. Shortly after, we moved out of the neighborhood and it died there. I couldn't even tell my sister. What if the wife hears, she'd be devastated.

bluefilm:
Okay.
Wahala dey o.

I have seen worse. There's no wahala here. It's only a sign not a sigh. Can't one be single and live normal in peace?

bluefilm:
Does your wife know all this?

I am single still. Not ready for marriage yet.

petitejolie:
there's nothing peaceful about that home. The friend just passed on his wahala to his friend so he will have time for his other chick. All the same na still God go punish that simp of a friend for carrying load that is not his.

He doesn't have a side chick. He is my bestie. Why will God punish me when I am doing is helping a struggling family stay together?

I will not say their home is perfect but even at odds, they are better than many others that I know. I believe couples should stay together and no one should separate.

I recently noticed the dependency on me and I am now trying to keep a distance to let them mend. Did I commit a sin? She is like a sister to me.

petitejolie:
he's a nonsense humanbeing. Controller of people's wife

Bro, get my point. This is just my personality. I didn't set to control anybody. I have my logic and people submit to it cos I make my point stand out. I am not violent but I lay out my case in a way that many people find it logical and reasonable.

All I tried to do was cover my friend's deficiency and help them build their marriage. He asks me to step into cases and that is only when I do.

I am not a counsellor but I have some experience. 3 times they have parted and I know how I fought hard to get them together. Do not run a conclusion as if I set out to talk to her or control her. I am not a control freak. If something is sound and logical, a reasonable person will oblige.

Sometimes, the way a case is presented makes one party feel controlled or being used like a rag. It is the argument, the tone, the passion with which I address some issues.

I don't control her.

DevPundit:
Why do you want to spoil your friends relationship? Don't you have a girlfriend who you can spend time with? You need to get busy with your life and stop subjecting yourself as a side simp to a girl already in a relationship with your friend. Have some dignity man.

Bro, I have my dignity. I never said anything emotional to her or stuff. He is my friend and before she showed up we hung up for days. He at my house and me likewise. No one has raped anyone yet. I am only complaining about the dependency of this marriage on me.

I didn't ask for it. He asked me to call his wife and chat her up with trust because he knows that I would never do such a thing. You don't know me better than he does. I didn't tell you that I want to spoil their marriage. I have got them together 3 times they went apart. I have talked and done things to keep these two together.

What I wrote is, she is that lately I have been giving excuses and pretending to be busy to pull away from her frequent calls. Some of these calls is me begging her to stay and put up with my friend's inadequacies. Some is her calling to narrate what happened or reporting him to me.

We all get stuff sometimes. I have clearly spelled it to her that I would never have anything sexual to do with my friends' wives. I never said that we were making out. I am noticing the dependency and even on both sides on me to calm situations and to bring the connection and fire back.

The calls, I have reduced now but telling a lie that I am busy. I am not saying anything bad has happened but I forsee what could happen if this dependency becomes a contagious addiction.

Do not blame me as if I do this behind closed doors. The husband knows and even asks me to call her. That part of other issues springing from it is what I find disturbing.

BriggsBryan:
“ I call and we have healthy conversations for hours” - Get yourself a job and get busy.

I do have a job. I can talk while at work for hours. At least 6 hours each work day.
Get the point. My friend and I got jobs. His job is more tasking. He gets home exhausted and he has a lackadaisical approach to life.
Try to understand the situation. Things happen fast. I knew there was a problem when I'd ask her to do something that she had already declined from her husband and she would oblige. He callously asks me to talk her into doing things. Is like he has no control of the woman. Pleading and begging and literally he hands her 200k each month without a track on how the cash is spent. But, I can track the cash.

I am very detailed and I don't let a woman control me. I stand my ground but he gives in too easily. I dunno why. I try to get him to stand strong as a man and place his feet on the ground. What I see is that, she needs a man who is domineering. A man who strips off her educated wings and makes her understand that she is a woman and someone who needs protection.

I feel weak. Is like their relationship hangs on my shoulder. I feel pity for him and sometimes pissed off.

RoddyMan:
Reminds me of a topic I read sometime ago, where a married guy gave a BJ for a job and couldn't go through with the final act.

I think you should have reported him to HR, it would be a ground for suing him/Chevron. Now that you've been let go, it will be more difficult to prove except you have evidence of inappropriate messages or CCTV footage of his advances at the lounge.

There's no evidence bro. Just my words against his. Everything happened far away from camera coverage. They are smart and more conscious of cameras and the public.
I could have reported him, yes! But, not enough evidence. You don't need to imagine the kind of person the HR was. I would have ended up in the media and the case would have been buried like others. Somethings are no secrets in the oil and gas. 95% are extremely immoral and have more bones under their couches than what you are trying to uncover. This is my own experience, I saw worse with others.

Best thing is to walk away than be buried. Don't you ever pray to be at the mercy of a merciless man.

Ussycool:
Your conscious will soon fail you... You wanna sleep with her abi?

No, I can't. I moved on already. Have no feeling for her again. Would not hesitate to assist if she needed something that I could afford though.

Happy to get an oil and gas job. Dream come true. Everything was perfect with me. 3 years into my job, a new boss showed up. A light skin Nigerian male. His wife and kids were in Canada. I visit the gym 3x per week.

He requested to go to the same gym. Pretended to work out and asked that I mentored him. It all happened fast. I thought he was responsible as he was married. He started touching my body inappropriately. Caressing my chest holding my arms. Thought he was enamored by the muscles only. I would somehow break him off and redirect him to the session.

Then, after work it was about meeting me, talking to me, confiding in me. Initially, I was happy to build a close relationship with a boss. Of course, that's my career growth right there.

Not until, this night, he invited me over to his lounge. As soon i arrived, he undressed to a G-string, I was dazed for real. He tried to kissed me. I blocked it. Then, came the love, the feeling, and sex plea. So, I took my leave quickly. Felt disappointed and betrayed. I told no one but my bestie who laughed over it and made a mockery of the whole thing. Telling me that he would have busted his ass for the money.

All I needed was my job and no drama. He advanced toward me several times. Showered me with expensive stuff. I rejected everything he offered. I couldn't shake him anymore, no hugs, nothing. I felt truly perplexed cos he was very connected and has brothers and relatives in top positions in Chevron. I met with him, talked to him man to man politely. He told me he had been in it since he was 14. I asked him if he would love that life for his kids. He said, no! So, I told him that I have a faith, a conscience and a commitment to my God. That I would not entertain homosexuality. So, after more attempts, the hate set in.

Well, my final year in Chevron was horrendous until i finally got axed 17 months after my new boss showed up. I moved on with my dignity but with a bigger lesson in life. I kept it a secret for many years. Only my bestie new about it.

Many men are victims. People hardly believe the few who cry out. Many will question the authenticity of my history and blame me afterall. Making it harder for the next man to come out.

Many argue that they will beat, hit, or punch a man for advancing toward them. There are consequences. Read your room. Justice hardly comes in a world of injustice. Sometimes, the best thing to do is walk away.

Saxxon:
Guy, you and all this your never ending stories. I'm now quite certain that you're making stuff up and the mods are your nuts unknowingly.

Bro, this is my history. Nothing was made up. It happened, and it is real. I love to joke but this isn't. For real. People go through stuff in life. It is noce if we share and be socially aware. Everywhere on the news, it is killing and bloodshed.

Let people get some relief too. Stories like this don't harm no one. Don't try to make it worse, the country is killing us already

duduade:
The interview where you farted...
Have you been called

you bad. You are my type of paddy. I like your sense of humour. They haven't called yet. Haha

This beautiful girl, 14 at the time came to stay by her aunty who was frequently ill and later diagnosed of cancer. Later hospitalized for months. The aunty loved me so much and was always delighted to have me around and so did her husband. They really showed me so much love like a brother and I was only a neighbour. Opened their home to me and even would allow me stay all day in the house. She had a little daughter whom I also loved and felt that I should protect too. So, this niece of hers was taking care of her daughter and a one-year old son while she was battling cancer. I would buy some stuff for the kids especially the older daughter (5 years old at the time) and play with her a bit to keep her comforted while her mom was in the hospital. 6 months later, my friend died. I cried. First time I ever felt that I lost someone close.

During this period, the niece gave me every greenlight possible and finally told me that she loved me and wanted to sleep with me. I felt it was an aberration. Giving the pain my neighbour was going through. I declined though it wasn’t easy. Because of her I restricted my visit to the house and the kids. I loved from afar. Come in drop whatever and zoom off.

Now, the husband remarried within a year and this girl moved out. Came back after three years and looking so beautiful and more womanly. This time, she told me that I hated her. I am scared to touch this girl cos I see her aunt’s face each time I looked at her. I liked her somehow and felt like I was being too slow. Her friends in the hood told me that she loved me and all. I just declined. I felt indebted to her aunty to give anyone relating to her the measure of love that she had for me. I seriously wanted to sleep with her but I knew she wasn’t my type and it will not end well. I don’t want to betray that love given me, dead or alive.

Has anyone felt obligated to hold back because of the kindness received from somebody relating to someone that they could have smashed?

This distant relative came visiting my aunt with a big bag and her two daughters both under 12. After telling some fairytales about her husband and other relatives, she said that she was going out to collect something from someone and that she would be back in 30 minutes. It is now 8 months.

All efforts to locate her is in wasteland. Some relatives said that they saw her in a village market and some other person said she is fine and well. Another one said that she was seen with a new husband, and another said that she saw her along the Cotonou highway.

The girls are worried. They have been enrolled in a school but where is this woman? What would make a mother abandoned her girls without trying to reconnect? Even a call is soothing.

kb83:
You don't understand international politics very well am sorry. You forgot the same sanctions were placed on North Korea for years and yet the survived to the point that the West does not have leverage over them today, sanctions sometimes is good, it helps you look in words and prevents over reliance on others, I tell you, if Russia whethers the storm of this sanctions, prepare yourself for a new World Power.

what do you know about North Korea? How did North Korea fair after the sanctions? Bro, just be at peace if you can. Go to Venezuela and Cuba and see what sanctions can do. Do not let anyone's pride becloud your reasoning. People are suffering for real. Forget the media. Russia before now was never economically sound. The oil belongs to the Oligarchs

So, the boss's daughter just completed her masters and we are putting her through the secrets of the company's success and running. I run my own department. Therefore, I have the task to email all the details to her. She has relentlessly invited me to her office to explain every email that I sent to her. Is like repeating myself but no sweat I have to do it.

It is obvious to me that she is mesmerised with my knowledge in the business, speaking abilities and poise. Her eyes are always on my lips and chest and, I don't know if it's my teeth or lips but the way her eyes connect from eyes to lips and chest etc. Then, whenever I walk out the office, from the corner of my eyes I see her starring.

My boss has understood this awkward interaction and has 6 times jumped in to stop the flow. I saw them through the transparent glass arguing over what I didn't hear. But, now my relationship with this boss is tasteless. He wears a frown each time I get close and talks to me impolitely.

She stopped engaging me for two weeks but now the fire has erupted unstoppable. She now asks more about my personal life than work tasks. She now sends me text messages on whatsapp asking me to choose what bag she should buy, asking when I will go on vacation, what I do on vacation, why I am unmarried. Also, offers me tea and snacks which is a rarity. I have tried to be very formal with her at all levels.

She smiles seductively at me and I am getting really uneasy in my place of work now. Everyone knows and mocks me but I know that I am getting fired soon cos that man will kill for that girl. So, I am already in search of another job. I love my job and I want to keep it but in this environment, I know that if I resist her to a limit, she will start hating me and everything that I do will be criticised. As it has happened before.
Has anyone been in such a situation? How did you handle it?

So, she felt bored since she moved in from her previous base. She got not friends around and was always home. Friends has a tasking job.
So, he asked me to call her sometimes when I am free. I call and we have healthy conversations for hours. I am very cautious of any emotional strings. I spell it out to her in clever ways during the conversations.

However, it is becoming addictive. She obliges to certain things only when I ask her to even after declining her husband's suggestions. My friend is so soft and can't seem to handle a tough and educated lady like her.
So, she compares me to him few times and wants him to be like me in terms of being conversational and humurous. Her man isn't willing to change.

So, I am distancing myself away from her because it is becoming an addiction for her to express herself freely with me and spend more time with me rather than my friend. I step in each time they quarrel.

Should I continue the healthy conversation spree or continue with my busy shedule excuses?

smiliyB:
Hahhahaha you made me laugh so hard, don't worry, it's actually a SixFiguresFart

I'm happy that I created a happy time for you today. It's only a fiction