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Skepticus:
The "Desperate for your commitment" part reminds me to inform men (who care to read/listen) that men who are on their purpose or indifferent to women and are getting choosing signals (Green Light) from women should be highly observant and try to understand the deep underlying reasons why women are choosing them.

Most men who are on their purpose, bettering themselves (making money, building status etc) give off "provider" vibes which attracts mostly women who are there to enjoy the "provision", not the man or his essence. In fact, most choosing signals (Green Light) from women are manipulative. Only a few, are genuine.

Like I said in some of my past comments on this thread, nothing bad in making your money or improving your status to attract women to you (though, there is a large segment of men who encourage minimalism/less flashiness or show off, when it comes to the red pill and it helps in sieving out manipulative gold diggers from "seriously-interested" women) but it is WISDOM to get what you want from her (especially if she is there to Gold Dig or giving Manipulative Green Lights) spending little or nothing. If you have to spend so much (Expensive Pusssy), you are in a transactional relationship/marriage (Packaged Prostitution) "overpaying" a pusssy that some other guy is getting for less or nothing. You might be better off wanking, going to a brothel or ordering for pusssy on tinder or instamessage in a more "realistic" deal. Not encouraging picking prostitutes or masturbation, though they serve a purpose. Nothing beats sexual control and discipline for a man.

Niggas, make una dey use una head above una dicks. #Focus

I have gotten to a stage where I've come to realize "Most" men not "Some" just want to be used.
They just want to live and serve the feminine imperative.
No matter what you tell them, even when the handwriting is clearly stated on the wall, they'll still simp.

It's deeply ingrained in them to simp.

I guess that's just part of the triangle of life.

The Man -->The Simp --> The Woman

There must exist a balance,so naturally the scale must be balance.

But as it's stands there's no balance, Simping is the order of the day.

Well,not all can or will be saved.

Who needs saving will most likely find salvation.

Then again women are always around to ultimately reboot their mode of thinking.

Ericmaestrooffi:
I accommodated my male friend last year and he stayed with me for a while so I understand the crap you’re spitting.

As I said before I don’t have any intention to sleep with her or anything like that, I just wanted to help her that’s all.

Personally I have helped most of my guys in different and till date they still appreciate, I’m not one of those simps who put women on pedestals. I actually prefer helping men to women, the only reason I’m considering dating her is because I’ve known her over 5 years and we are very cool.

From our last discussion she said she wants to stay with me for two years but for now I haven’t given her a feedback yet.

The nature of man is not chaotic.
You can have a guy stay with you and not give you headache.
Can't say the same for females.

Anyways

jayAjoku:
If you do they’ll start catching feelings for you and if you are not willing to be serious with them you may not like the outcome.

This.

Women live for the approval.

Their lives are centered around validation they get from mostly simps.

If a woman develops feelings for you and you don't like her in return, just know that you got yourself one very negatively obsessed lady.

If she's around you, she'll do everything in her power to make sure you have no Peace of mind.
She'll manufacture drama out of no where in a bid to chase any competition coming to you.

Watch yourselves out there.

Don't form friendliness with just about any woman. Many are looking for who to leech on,if you don't reciprocate their advances, you've got yourself an automatic enemy.

Observe whoever is coming to you,watch out for the red flags. Don't give them face or smile at them if they turn out to be bad news.

Just move on as if they didn't exist in the first place. Your peace of mind is non-negotiable.

It's a war zone out there. Even those ones you can never want are still capable of causing great harm.

Learn or perish!

heartofcity12:
It’s funny how they think every man is interested in them..

Very delusional gender.

Their narcissistic nature doesn't allow them see their own shortcomings.

A guy that can never and will never be interested in you, you're there hyping yourself

Uptheante:
This seems entirely true on paper, but in reality, women also Bleep those considered to be below them in status.
For example, a rich man's wife bleeping her gateman or driver, without her husband's notice.
Meanwhile, the rich husband with high status may be denied sex by her or he gets it from her reluctantly

I don't know if this picture I've painted

invalidates or makes your assertion not to be entirely true.

Can you pls explain why this scenario happen?

Bro the game is way deeper than that.

Women want both security and fun.

They always want to eat their cake and have it.

Not many men fall into the niche of having both the good and bad characteristics.
It's mostly either one or the other.

So women being women will always crave that bad guy once she's settled down.

Understand that most married women are bored and miserable. That's why they cheat alot.

You don't hear news about married women as much as men cuz they're supposed to be responsible in marriage else they lose their security/comfort.

She might secretly crave that bad young broke guy for fun because she already has security.

She doesn't need security from the broke guy just fun.

No man wants a slut for a wife,no man ever wants to share the Pvssy,hence why women hide and do their shit codedly else it's back to square one.

There's nothing a woman does that's not beneficial to her.

heartofcity12:
One of their “hustles” in acquiring iPhones..

Someone's serious girlfriend 🤣.

Nigerian girls hypergamy is maximally charged 🤣

heartofcity12:
Wonderful

Marriage is scam in this century.

Learn or get burned.

Most men sacrifice just end up in the trash can.

Chai, life's not balanced at all.

heartofcity12:
💯

I guess it's safe to say simps are not mentally stable🤣

Guess that's why they literally kill their long term investment when it backfires against them.

heartofcity12:
Another finished man. 🤦‍♂️. Sometimes you can’t really blame these females so much, these are the enablers..

Money attracts slvts

Just like flies to a fine shit.


Girls aka retired hoes, single mothers, women past their prime or approaching the dreadful deadline for a desirable mate will sign up for this.

Women with proper/well guarded upbringing still within their prime and holding the power in chosing their best mate for life long commitment won't settle for hogwash like this.

It's quite funny how the circle is always repeating itself.
Women wasting their best years just to settle for someone they never truly desire

Why won't we be No 2 in paternity fraud.

Imagine a religious country coming up 2nd in such profane measures.

We keep crying GOD should help Nigeria but the people in it are at least 80% corrupt.

Don't even get me started on this simps. I feel like throwing up everytime I come across one.

Simps have complicated this world to a stretch.

Ericmaestrooffi:
I’ve no intention to smash even though she’s very attractive, I just want to help her.

And yes I’m in a relationship but long distance (my gf is working in another state).

Living with a very attractive lady when you don't have your girlfriend around.

Of course nothing can go wrong

My little experience in this life has taught me that a man shouldn't engage/bring a woman (not family related) into his space he has no interest in.

You should appreciate the value of peace of mind when you still have it.

You just want to automatically take up husband role.
Well whatever you decide to do it's gonna be your headache.

Stay safe out there.

These girls are hunting.
They ain't smiling at all.

The condition of the country has turned most of them into something else.

Be mindful of who you bring into your space.

Ericmaestrooffi:
Good morning house

I’ve been following this thread for a long time but I’ve not commented before. I want to ask your opinion on cohabitating with a lady that’s not your gf or wife.

A female friend of mine who recently graduated reached out to me that she wants to come stay with me and use that opportunity to look for a job, she didn’t tell me how long she intends to stay but from our conversation it seems she will be staying for a long time.

I’m currently a banker and not doing bad for myself, I don’t have any issue housing or feeding her but I don’t know if it’s right for a guy and lady not dating to live together.

N.b: we are only friends and nothing more, although I once dated her sister.

Please I need your opinion on this before I take a final decision on this.

You don't need advice, deep down you already know you shouldn't.

You secretly want to smash lol.

You're signing yourself up for bad market.

If you value your peace of mind, avoid this decision you want to take.

Are you in a relationship?
This would shed more light on the matter

Karlifate:
Dear [young] men,

Avoid being in contact, dating, marrying or having any entanglement with a slu+ or an ex-slu+

A slu+ can easily destroy you because she has low sense of self-worth & that also means less capacity for shame, guilt or remorse.

She's already damaged.
So, she has no problem damaging your reputation.

💯

Understand that there's no such thing as a DECENT SLUTT

Their humanity has been fvcked outta them.

Be warned, avoid any association with slvts,ee get why.

They can and they've been destroying men for ages.

If you love peace of mind so much,run when you see them

If you don't,then please indulge them

Men and women don't think or process thoughts the same way.

Don't make the mistake of thinking when a woman gives you mixed signals she wants you.

That's a recipe for disaster.

Once her pussy is tingling for you, she won't be able to rest,she just wants to be around you. No time for unnecessary games.

There's a miseducation of Ubunja that delved deep into this. Check it out

Her heart and her pussy are two different entities.

If her heart wants you,she can still play you.
If her pussy wants you,no time for games.

All roads will eventually lead to sex.

So understand this,if she's thinking with head(heart), she'll likely shit test you to eternity.
https://www.nairaland.com/4949684/ubunjas-miseducation-woman-2-hearts

heartofcity12:
Agreed

If she's on and off,she just wanna play you.

It's as simple as that.

Reel you in ,get you to invest more then go for the kill.

Women are really vicious 😅

heartofcity12:
I don’t think this is a PR stunt, couples reconcile all the time, this dude obviously chose a wrong partner, he could have done better but I guess the ones that could have been alright for him might not be flashy or sophisticated enough, and he’s clearly getting the short end of the stick now, no proper vetting.. He could still reconcile with her again and still get burnt again…

Simps never learn but eventually they'll learn.

There's no escape
There's no easy way out as far as women are concern.

If you don't do the leg work(improve your mindset), there won't be any rewards.

benzics:
Men have more opportunities to have sex than women you say? Spoken like someone who truly knows nothing about what they’re saying.

See, I’m not encouraging men to be promiscuous, I’m just putting into perspective how men and women view each other based on sexuality.

I love analogies 😁

Now imagine you own a company, and you have two salespersons, A and B. A and B are given the same products and quantity to sell to customers. Let’s say the product quantity is 20.

Salesperson A comes back after selling 15 products, he sold them at the right prices and even made his own personal gain along the way.

Salesperson B comes back after selling 15 products, he sold them at prices even less than the cost price, he basically just said yes to whatever offer people were offering just so he could make sales not minding the loss his actions will cause the company.

Now, as the company owner, do you reward A and B the same because they both sold 15 products?

Stop wasting your precious time on trolls

Hoes excess supply

Virgins limited supply

Men limited supply

Simps excess supply.

Nature always find a way to balance itself.
Excess hoes for excess simps.
Just as limited Men for limited virgins.

It takes a man to govern a woman properly not a simp.
A simp indulging with a virgin would only ignite the hoe in her due to her quest for finding an actual Man.
Safe to say,value must match value.

Simps,stick with hoes please 🙏



Weak men create hard times - Hoes excess supply

Hard times create strong men - Men limited supply

Strong men create good times - Virgins limited supply

Good times create weak men - Simps excess supply.

Virginity is not an indicator but the rate of successful marriages have greatly reduced in these present times as compared to when morals were been preached and upholded.

The norm is divorce.
It's worn like a badge of honor.

If you lack at least a Bsc in divorce, you're lame as fvck

A big proponent of this their sacrificial syndrome is Religion. So sad

Simply put, religion has been feminized.
It has been watered down.
If you know you know.

Difference between a man and a gullible simp

A simp will always look to society to tell them what to do,what to believe. How to breathe air. A simp is always guided by a milky wave of emotions.
Remain small,they too would experience menstrual pain.

A man on the other hand has gone through a phase of self reflection, cleansed himself off society mombo jumbos, makes decision born out of internal fortitude,self awareness and the likes.
A man is never guided by emotions.

From my SS, i stop taking that fella seriously when I saw "VIRGINITY IS NOT AN INDICATOR"

HYMEN THAT WAS PUT THERE BY MOTHER NATURE AS AN INDICATOR TO SHOW CHATISTY,PURENESS OF HEART, FAITHFULNESS AND ALL OF THAT GOODY STUFF this oga is saying otherwise.

Seeing is believing and the number one thing you can use to gain some level of rest of mind since you can't read minds you chose to brush aside.

Still on the SS
WHAT MATTERS IS HER VIEW OF MORALITY AND RELATIONSHIP
Of course bro,her view automatically shifts when she rakes up enough body counts for 10 generations.
She then proceeds to become a member of one church where she's certain to see guys with like minded mentality such as yours that'd wife her up.

She ended up eating her cake and having it.

Or so she thinks (next topic)

These kinda guys need to test the bitter sweet nature of women before their faculty can be properly adjusted.

Like I said, simps will always rationalize everything,provided it doesn't benefit them😂.

I rest my case.

Men and women were designed differently,each with their roles and characteristics.

But you'll still see some funny people (simps and women) try to compare and integrate these two mediums.

Can water mix with oil?

Modern belief has white washed their mode of thinking/logic.
They simply exist to serve the feminine imperative.
Zero sense of identity.

I read a funny post were one was simply contradicting themselve.

See simps exist to balance the triangle of life.
If it was just men and women,chaos would ensue especially in this our current age.

Thankfully,simps are always available and in excess supply to save these retired hoes.
Women with no value. Like help me understand this, what kinda value will she instill in her kids(not your kids simps cuz she'll still likely cheat)

These are the type of women that push their children to do Yahoo yahoo rituals and prostitution.

After all, it's nothing to them,they lack value and morals.

Young man,if not for yourself,at least do it for those innocent kids you'll bring into this world. Marry a woman with solid morals,ee get why

A used product has zero guarantee.

It can expire tomorrow despite you handling it with great care.

A new phone you just bought,you know:

How many times that phone has fallen down.
How many times the phone Brain has been flashed.
How many screen guards the phone has used.
How many times the charging port has been changed.
The life span of the phone.
Heck, only your information will be available on that device,no prior user ,zero constriction whatsoever.

Yet some still braggingly go for what has so many dysfunctionality.
When such device crash,they wail and blame the device model instead of their extremely poor choice mentality.

Go for what there's at least some level of assurance.
Have you ever wondered what it would have been like if you had used that tokumbo product you praise so much before it actually became a tokumbo product?

Now you understand

Stop settling for less.

Tunde835:
I'm sure there are dudes that messaged her that she ignored.

There's always a dude.

The circle of life.
Life's not balanced.

That's why what's common has little or no value.

Always strive to be the uncommon man wherever you find yourself.

Because trust me,simps are in excess proportion in the world today.

Pukkalolo: These girls lifestyle is so boring that the majority of them try to create drama just to feel significant. When there's no drama to create, they'll go watch reality TV shows, tiktok or something in order to feel some excitement.

And them creating drama has no restriction.

They can do it anywhere. Be it home,school,church, office...... just mention, they'll display.

Because of their shameless nature,they tend to act erratic, without any form of awareness.

They might be shameless but they still cannot stand being shamed.

The last thing any man should want is a woman that lacks awareness. They're a recipe for disaster.

Funny thing is that guys tend to go easy on girls that lack awareness, that's why we're where we are today.

Zero self reflection should mean zero commitment

Just saying

dreamxhaser:
I don't think I can even trust women again.

You lost the game before you even began.

@bolded, what men that have been used by women say/men that don't understand women.

All I can say to you bro is that oneitis is a bitch,go out and explore in order to cure your ailment .

CaveAdullam:
Try and remove shame from your eyes when dealing with them. Women are shameless. They will go to any extent to get what they want. Assume that same behavior.

You can't shame the shameless.

💯

Men of nobility suffer a lot.

Chivalry is dead in this century.

michigang:
still fanatic as ever. Wonder how they cope in real life. I run with pansophist. He's more refined

He's also pansophist. What's your deal🤷

Only people with deformed legs troll.

Guys ,do well by giving them K-legs with some "K"s .

Thank you

heartofcity12:
LOL 😆

The guy try sef

A simple "K" would have sufficed.

She wasn't worth the long talk.

eclatante:
Good morning kings.

I'm met a new girl. We started talking, she didn't give me the stress typically of Nigerian girls. She responds to text and calls well and also calls to check me up.

Normally, I would have gone for the normal route and get sex and we'll all be cool. But my guy advised I don't do that, that I should make her my woman.

All my life, I've been single. I've never been in a real relationship, so I had took this decision to make things different with her.

She feels me, just like I feel her. But after I started the relationship idea, her response and vibes is that she doesn't wants to hurt me.

Because I'm going to fall so hard for her, and I'll get my heart broken. Personally, I'm this kind of guy that doesn't really give AF about getting my heart broken. The possibility of a woman breaking my heart is almost zero.

We've shared a kiss, I've caressed her, but no sex yet. All I wanted was a woman of my own.. because it isn't normal for a guy of 23, not to have tried a relationship for once.

Highlights: 1. it's almost impossible to get my heart broken.

2. I want her to be my girl (I'm tired of playing a hard guy bullcrap)

3. I wanna smash this babe. Haven't had sex in months. (It almost happened, but she stopped half way, telling me I'm rushing things.

4. After sex, the probability that I'll still have the urge to be in a relationship with her, is almost zero too.

5. I bleeped up bringing the relationship crap. (My friend adviced me to get a woman and stick with her) Which I actually wanted but things isn't going as planned.

6. I've decided not to call and text her for the next 3 days.

7. Please how do I fix this? It's 3 weeks since we started talking and no sex yet.

Rizzputin, pukkalolo

I need advice. Thank you kings.

You don fvck up.

First and foremost,stop taking advice from that your friend,he seems blue pilled.

Sex first , relationship second
This is non negotiable.

If you do relationship before sex you will lose more trust me.

A woman should be the one vying for a relationship,a connection, security because basically that's what relationship is for . It benefits Women more.

No sensible guy should chase after a relationship.
Chasing after a relationship is a feminine drive..

A man that chases is a man that loses.
Men with value and options don't chase,they attract.

Give her less attention,if she comes running afraid she's in a state of losing you,only then will that show a little inclination that she's invested or ready to invest in you.

If you lock up and she lock up too, thank your stars, you just dodged a bullet.

Make sure you hit her as soon as possible to get her invested in you. A woman that you haven't fvcked won't be emotionally invested in you .
Understand this.

But don't be pussy focused just to get her.
Instead use less attention to get her to open up.

If at this point she doesn't open those legs,she was never into you.

Move on with the speed of lightning else you'll sign yourself up for games and manipulation.


2. Better don't get tired. As far as associating with women goes, they'll always play games so better be on guard else you get used. There's no good woman anywhere just woman.
How you associate with them is what brings their different flavors.

3. You were pussy focused. She knows you're hungry for sex. She'll use that against you.
Right now , she's got the upper hand

4. Stop rationalizing simping. Fvck her and find out

5. You acted needy and beta. No woman wants a needy guy. Ever. You've messed this one up really bad. How you start with a woman is how you'll end it.
She already sees you one way. Trying to form the hard guy now will seem almost laughable. She won't take you seriously. It's better to cut your losses and get a new one

6 &7. She doesn't give a fvck if you call her. You failed to attract her. Her pussy isn't tingling for you because you acted needy.
You didn't make her work for your attention.
In her eyes, you're already conquered. She did nothing to deserve a relationship.


I don try for you.
Bye

lajid:
There’s a girl I flirted with for sometime in on WhatsApp. It’s very funny cause with the way I flirted with her she seem to know if she comes to my place I’m gonna make a move.

This girl pestered me to come my place after posting her for 3 months I finally agreed to let her come.

After coming she was asking me some kinda Mumu questions and all. Maybe sizing me up and all.

Anyway at some point l made a move on her for intimacy she rejected and I did again and she rejected. So we had a conversation and she was saying ehnnn, I know she has a boyfriend and all that. That she isn’t down for FWB and that this is her first time coming here so it’s too early.

That I should follow the proper channel first, she will go home and then think. So that she can know if she is coming to my place “she is going to her guys place and anything can happen” bla bla bla.

I was just listening to her talking. In my head, be like this one dey find marriage and something serious. Cause which one is, I should follow proper channel of asking out when you said you have a boyfriend. Even mentioned say her mama no like the guy cause he no get money and bla bla bla.

I just Dey vex inside like be like this girl think I’m a Mumu man that can be hooked. Anyway she went and I ended all conversation with her since then. I’m not stupid

You were pussy focused.

The moment a girl is certain you just want her pussy, she'll begin playing games.

You must act as if her pussy is worthless.
How do you show her pussy is worthless? - The amount of attention you give her will determine that.

If you give her too much attention - Her pussy is gold to you

If you give her less attention - Her pussy is worthless

That's how women think.

If she's into you, she'll use her only weapon (pussy) to try and persuade you.
In so doing, she'll want to use it to prove to you that it's worth something.

A simple reverse psychology trick.

Use it well.

Dannnn:
Anytime I hear 'vet your woman', I keep asking myself; have these people forgotten that All Women Are Like That(AWALT)?

Or are my missing something?

Women go always nack you akpako if you no stand fit, dem no dey follow you play o

Even the most innocent of them all will fall your hand given the slightest chance.

The moment you think "ohh this one's different", she'll show you the sisterhood exist for a reason.

wahaladondey:
Gentlemen of the manosphere, I am about to ask one of the most timeless questions ever, I hope you all don’t mind that this question has been asked and answered countlessly and just try to help me in whatever capacity you can. Lately, I have found myself in one of the most socially packed communities, a school, I am aware that this is one of the few places game works efficiently because of the nature of its build and that is why I want to grasp this opportunity to boost my social life and skills but on every normal day I am a very introverted person, almost bordering on low self-esteem.

How do I start and maintain a conversation with a lady I find attractive? I am not the best conversationalist, I get fidgety and fear I might sound or look stupid whenever I engage in a conversation, externally I seem to exude some form of confidence but internally I’m usually just breaking down.

How do I steer the conversations in a more sexual direction? My hurtful degree of self awareness keeps a tight rope around what I feel I should be socially acceptable to say or not, it makes me not want to come across as offensive or perverted.

I want to build up on whatever advices I can get, make them practical and deliver results to this forum, thanks in anticipation.

I would further edit this post if I have more questions.

Karlifate
luminouz
Rizzputin
Martinez39s
Pukkalolo
Ubunja
and other real gees on this thread in no particular order.

Blessed is the man who understands the fundamentals of human interaction.

It is not all girls you're attracted to you'll get down with.

Attract don't chase.

1)If a woman is doing the chasing,bro sexual talk would be the least of your worries cuz women by default are sexual and earthly above everything else.

2)The burden of performance will be on her. She'll be the one trying to impress you. You're the IDGAF guy, you care less which gives you more power in the interaction/relationship.

You're fidgety because in your end you already have that woman. A very bad way to go about getting women. Depends on your level(status)
Most won't give a shit as they're are mostly caught up with the shiny and monetary aspect of life.

Very few Nigerian girls seek actual connections.

It's even worse now in this present climate.

All the long talk I'll conclude by saying Send who send you

It's gut wrenching putting max effort in a girl that don't give a shit about you and trust me women are the masters of IDGAF . So when they see guys with an IDGAF aura they respect them openly or secretly.

F1re:
Thanks man, thing is I'm busy right now working on something really important so I can't afford to hang out, also it's a new city, I just got to my Whatsapp now and I saw her messages.

could it be an overreaction from my end?

Yeah possibly.

But you know you got oneitis right
Try to limit the interaction from your end to help curb the oneitis a bit.

Let her invest more but don't make it look like you're not trying.

You get the drift.

Unless you want something from her, you should disengage in order to protect your mental state.

Remember,her heart is between her legs. If you truly want to get her hooked and invested ,you gotta do the needful because her emotional state is always in a flux.

This window of her chasing you won't last for too long so capitalize on it while the iron is still hot.

F1re:
What's up guys, trust you're doing fine.

There's this lady(27yo, virgin) in my School, I'm a Teacher by the way(23yo), that became very obsessed with me, we once met at a Tech event where I was part of the Speakers, we didn't talk then, till she came to my School for an assignment, she saw me and reintroduced herself to me, I was like 'oh okay, what's up?' you know trying to be friendly, we got talking about stuffs, she told me she wants to learn how to code and if I can help her out, I said Yes, because I have free time on my hands, so she started coming around and I started teaching her the basics, she collected my Mobile Number and chatted me up, at a point she kind of become obsessed with me, she's always the one to chat me up first, calls me and give me chocolate during our lessons and all, bro i started having feelings for her, but I keep them in check and just flow with her.

She then travelled to Abuja at a point and things slowed down, I wasn't invested in her that much so it didn't bother me much, after she came back we continued our lessons and all, mind you, these lessons are more like 30% lessons and 70% gists(Relationships, Sex, Marriage, Life in general), I'm a good conversationalist so I got her to open up to me and all.

Then something happened last week, which is the main reason I'm writing this, she came to my office and I was sent on errand, I told her to wait for me that I'll be back and all, she said she promised she will, I didn't even ask her to swear lols, but when I came back, I found out that she had left already, it hurt me so bad, I was surprised at myself like why I'm I hurt like this because of this little stuffs.

And from that day till today, she haven't call me, I didn't check my Whatsapp either from that day, because I decide to switch my Whatsapp line due to disturbance of other low value people on my contact list, but the point is, she ghosted me, and she didn't come to work(she's not a Teacher, kind of working with an NGO, so their work isn't obligatory like mine), I didn't call her either because there's no reason to.

Now, the problem is I can't get her out of my mind, I'm a big fan of Stoicism and I've got help from applying some of its concepts in my life, but this time around it's just difficult, my mind will just be wandering towards all the good times we had and the 'Stupid' mental projections I was having in my brain about us, I'll forever not gonna call her or text her though, but I want to forget about all of that and get back to work, like I was before she came into my life.

Also, I've never kissed or touched her, because I've got some principles I live by and I'm currently working on some stuffs that will put me out in public soon, I'm very careful about my reputation, I've also never spend a dime on her, she's even the one that was begging on buying me stuffs when she came back from Abuja the other time, had to decline the offer.

Is it scarcity mindset? I don't know, but I've never been the one to chase girls right out of secondary school, they always come to me, just that right now, I don't have an active social life and I'm all by myself so I don't have any girls around that I talk to.

What do y'all have to say about this.

I'll tag my favorite posters here: Pansophist, Karlifate, luminouz, smartb0y, reminderz, caveadullam, olamoses75, please I could use some of your help, thanks.

Sorry bro,I totally understand how you're feeling.

What she did was a matter of emotional warfare. She got you invested emotionally.

She ghosted you because she wanted to see if you'll take the bait by calling her.

It's a good thing you didn't become possie obsessed.

She'll still contact you,give it time.

But I reckon not to dwell on her matter.

You've got to kill that oneitis syndrome by getting other girls to distract you (mind you,I didn't say a girl)

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