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Politics / Re: An Armed Robber Who Ambushed Abiola Became A Governor - Zainab Duke-Abiola, Wife by smartolala(m): 11:42pm On Jun 14
temitope27 post=102There 714463:
Maybe fayose
There is nothing like may be it is fayose,it is fayose.He has a lite hiace bus that they used then.
Romance / Re: The Words "I Love You". Don't Say It If You Don't Mean It. by smartolala(m): 3:58pm On May 04
The word 'love' does not associated with men,it is divine.
Romance / Re: Pre-wedding Pics Of A Nairalander (simsify) by smartolala(m): 9:31am On Dec 02, 2020
Congratulations it could have been me and one sister here but she messed up at last
TV/Movies / Re: Laycon Rocks Nengi And Rubs Her Butt As Finalists Enjoy The Jacuzzi by smartolala(m): 1:37pm On Sep 26, 2020
CosmicPhoenix:
this life no balance,what another was begging for is what someone else got for free.


Bro life balance one just have to position well to get what he or she want inside life

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Romance / Re: END OF YEAR PICTURE: This Image Was Taken Today 31/12/2019 [Picture] by smartolala(m): 11:05am On Jan 01, 2020
KIA51:
Last working day of 2019
You look stunning and beautiful.
Romance / Re: At 29 I Have No Girl In My Life Due To Lack Of Good Job by smartolala(m): 11:31pm On Dec 21, 2019
Op I don't know if this quote will be of help to you.unsuccessful men run after women,while women run after successful men,why can't men run after success so that women can run after them.

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Politics / Re: Appeal Court affirms Makinde’s election As Oyo Governor by smartolala(m): 2:21pm On Dec 18, 2019
seunmsg:


They should let go after winning the appeal? It’s like some of you don’t even understand the implication of what happened today. Makinde’s seat is now shaking with this decision. Appeal court decided all the issues raised in favour of Adedibu but refused to make any consequential order simply because of time. The decision of the election petition tribunal was declared a miscarriage of justice and then nullified.

What they should have done was to order a retrial but the case is already time bound. Supreme Court will have to make that consequential order except PDP’s appeal succeeds at the apex court.
I hope you have heard the pronouncement of the supreme court,next time listen to the wise saying,whatever is bound here,is also bound above.
Politics / Re: Zainab Ahmed: Dangote Refinery Will Save Nigeria $10bn by smartolala(m): 9:09pm On Dec 15, 2019
This Government will never ceased to amaze Nigerians,the last time I checked,Dangote refinery management said they will get crude oil at international market price and also sell its refined products at international market prices and also they will not engage in crude oil swapping for petroleum products.
Family / Why Are Numerous Decent People Single Nowadays? by smartolala(m): 5:20pm On Dec 13, 2019
Many decent people I know are single.They are well to do and have the resources to sustain healthy marriage,and also not belong to the group who decided not get married for reasons best known to them.

I am of the opinion that it's for one main reason:they are looking for the one.

They want true love.They desire something real,something that takes time to build,but something that will last forever.

They are careful with who they choose to fall and have high expectations for who they will settle down with.

They live by concept of delayed gratification, constantly hoping that amongst all of these people who live to satisfy their temporary pleasure,one will appear that has real and pure intentions.

They are dreamers yet they are observant.They have been hurt in the past but they believe in better.
They strive for better.
And I really hope they find it.

What do you think?

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Nairaland / General / Right And Left Brain Dominance by smartolala(m): 5:24pm On Dec 11, 2019
This simple test has been bringing heated arguments among me and my folks over here.some of them don't see what I see.

Please nairalanders come to our rescue.

If you are right brained you will see a combination of pink and white.

If you are left brained you will see it in grey and green.

So what colour did you see?

Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 9:05am On Dec 11, 2019
Kelvin30286063:

It's stupid to insinuate that she changed because you were nice to her. On the contrary, I think you became your mom at some point. Wicked, mean and insensitive.
Your mom asked your maid to sit on the floor and called it putting her in her place. I lived with maids although my childhood and I've never seen my parents telling any of our maids to sat on the floor. Yes they don't eat with us on the dinning but they have stools in the kitchen where they sit and eat.
It's not the maid that changed op, it's you! You started seeing things the way your mom sees it and that opened your eyes to the things your mom hated in her.
I will not reply you with harsh words like stupid,mean,wicked and insensitive that you stated because of my upbringing and the level of my evolvement in life.The sitting on the floor to eat was her choice,after she was stopped from eating alone in her room,I go to know some years later.she did many things bad later but I don't want to say all,because to err is human to forgive is divine.

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Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 12:35am On Dec 11, 2019
sholay2011:

Oh okay then. Apologies I drew the previous conclusion but I always look at things from all perspectives...or I think I do.
No problem,thanks a bunch
Religion / Re: David Ibiyeomie Built Female Hostel For Ignatius Ajuru University by smartolala(m): 12:31am On Dec 11, 2019
harlee:
PST David said something that has stayed with me ever since, he said before he got to this level, when he was broke(I bet not yet a preacher) even with all negative things happening around him,he always said he was going to attain this level, he always spoke about how things will be well for him,that's the power of speaking it into existence. Always speak positive about you.
You are saying the truth,his former landlord at pot Johnson, street phc,where he was staying during his struggling day told me this also,the man happened to be my friend's inlaw(okrika man too)

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Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 12:09am On Dec 11, 2019
Oblongata:
Great stuff

I currently went through almost same thing, I recently lost my mum, and out of pity I decided that her maid come to work with us as we just sacked our maid due to petty lies and stealing.
My wife decided to treat this ‘new maid’ very well, bought her clothes, even brought 2 of her children to be staying with us. Her kids are similar age to mine...

My wife treated her like a sister which I was overtly against; not that I hate anyone, but I am just a staunch believer of placing people.

Few weeks later her children waged war on mine, I got home seeing new marks on my ‘ajebo’ Children...

The lady goes out at will and comes back anytime, she sometime says she is tired hence no work from her that day, it was like we were working for her... meanwhile I was busy enjoying everything happening because I wanted my wife to learn from it.

I later chased her away before she chased us away grin

Don’t be wicked to your maids but always place them else they will see your spouse, you or your children as threats
I tried to summarized everything without saying all for not be as if I am demonizing my fellow human. Your story is similar to mine because my Dad told me later that he kept many things to his chest because he want my mom to learn some lessons....since the maid was recommended by her trusted friend.
Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 11:51pm On Dec 10, 2019
sholay2011:
Hmm...interesting story. I understand where OP might be heading to with the story (putting people in their place) but why will your mum ask a human being (even if she was a maid) to sit on the floor while you people have dinner? Doesn't the maid have her own room? Why should she eat AFTER you have all eaten? And these questions are just from the little information you provided. It looks dehumanising to me (no matter how much 'shebi other people do it" it is). Whether the maid turned evil or not might be independent of how your mum treated her....or not

And I am in no way defending the maid but calling out the way she was treated. We also had maids growing up and they were treated very well. Some misbehave, some don't.
I tried to summarized the whole thing not to paint her too black because we are all humans no matter what,the choice of eating on floor was hers,i found out some years later.
Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 11:46pm On Dec 10, 2019
cococandy:
I feel like this post is just advocating treating maids like trash.
Sit on the floor to eat while others eat on the table? That’s not normal in any world but you know your world best.

Anyone who’s nasty will sooner than later show you their true colors no matter how well you treat them.
Just be professional in your dealings with employees. No unnecessary boundaries being crossed and you will most likely be fine. If not, terminate the work relationship ASAP.

But don’t use subhuman treatment as a tool to keep employees in check.
I got your opinion, eating on the floor was her choice,after my mom refused to let her eat in her room,to avoid being isolated from everyone.
Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 11:41pm On Dec 10, 2019
Geminita1:
True. That's why i don't give people credit more than they deserve, sooner or later they would try to walk right on top of you.

Be good and keep boundaries and you'll be fine.
You get it,that is the just message I am trying to pass.

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Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 11:40pm On Dec 10, 2019
Dignity5:
Who determines where the 'place' of a maid is? Why does it have to be the floor and why does her life have to be subhuman? Why do you have to mention any 'good' you do her as if she wasn't 'worthy'.

If you want to assist another human being don't 'enslave' them. If your kids matter to you more than your jobs then show it. No one can show your kids the love, attention and care you can. Who has bewitched the nations of the world into a fruitless endless chase of money?...
I was just trying to pass a message without demonizing her,that is why l left many things that happened out.As for the eating on the floor,I later found out she made that option herself
Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 11:35pm On Dec 10, 2019
nlPoster:


The story just feels incomplete somehow. I didn't say I want to know anything else.

But I think there were other factors involved, I could be wrong.

For example, you insinuated to your mum the maid was better than her? And after that the maid was told to sit on the floor? And you also criticized your mum to the maid?
yes I was insinuating that she is better,because we spent most of the time her and she was caring then.As for the eating on the floor,I later found out she made the choice by herself.
Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 11:29pm On Dec 10, 2019
sholay2011:
Hmm...interesting story. I understand where OP might be heading to with the story (putting people in their place) but why will your mum ask a human being (even if she was a maid) to sit on the floor while you people have dinner? Doesn't the maid have her own room? Why should she eat AFTER you have all eaten? And these questions are just from the little information you provided. It looks dehumanising to me (no matter how much 'shebi other people do it" it is). Whether the maid turned evil or not might be independent of how your mum treated her....or not

And I am in no way defending the maid but calling out the way she was treated. We also had maids growing up and they were treated very well. Some misbehave, some don't.
some years later when I was discussing with my father,he told me that in his presence the maid told my mom she will prefer eating alone in her room,but my mom declined,so that she won't feel isolated.when she came to sitting room,she refused to seat on the chair,that food digest easily whenever she sit on the floor while eating.

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Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 8:37pm On Dec 10, 2019
nlPoster:
It seems there's a lot you're not saying. @ op.
what do you what to know again?

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Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 8:36pm On Dec 10, 2019
Fountainofyouth:
I've been thinking of ways one can avoid getting a maid when the time comes, to avoid stories that touch.....
most times it is inevitable, especially if both parents go out often to earn a living
Family / Re: This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 8:30pm On Dec 10, 2019
Yes,she was too comfortable hence she started taking things for granted.Gossips about? Very many,up to the extent of damaging our family reputations,I just summarized everything,I am not a good storyteller@NGR Senate
Family / This Is An Ugly Truth Of Life by smartolala(m): 6:49pm On Dec 10, 2019
My parents hired a maid to look after me and my immediate younger sister when we were 7 and 4 years old respectively.Because both of them were early riser and kind of busy people.

Me and my sister got attached to the maid within some days and fell for her affection toward us.she was great in her job and cooked really good food and provide the nurture teenagers like us deserves.

My mom used to take feedback from me and my sister of her work.I used to praise her a lot .I was even insinuating that she was better than my mother.

One day we were on our dinning table of six sitting capacity. My mom asked the maid to seat on the floor and eat because she normally eat after we finished our dinner.

I asked my mom why can't she sit with us and have her dinner? She is a great maid and take care of me and my sister.

My mom replied son,you don't know the social customs. Eat your food.We will discuss it later.

I started arguing with my mom.

My father said just shut up your mouth and eat.Don't talk while eating.within me I was thinking that my parents are cruel by their actions.

The following day when me and my sister came back from school,during lunch,I asked the maid to come and sit with us on the dinning table and have food.

She refused first,but I insisted because I thought she deserved some respect from me.

After 2 months she started gossip about my mom behind her.

She used to tell me how cruel my mom is to her.Initially I was supporting her because of my attachment to her.

Then,she took it to another level and started gossiping with other maids in the neighborhood.

Not long,she started commanding me and my sister for many things ,Do that,Do this.Her behaviour started changing slowly.

She started cooking bad food during launch time as per her own taste.I don't like spicy food.Still she commanded me to eat like that.

One day my mom came home early from market and met her shouting at us.My mom asked her,Take your salary and get out from my house.I told my mom the whole story,I requested her not to tell my father.

My mom promised not tell my father,but remember son,always keep the person where he/she belongs.

That day I realized that our parents might not be always there for us,but they will never harm us and always protect us.

No body can replace your real mother.Though my mom is late,till now the advice is evergreen.

Thanks for reading.

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Crime / Re: Lady Set On Fire By Her Yahoo Boyfriend Over Infidelity, Dies (Video) by smartolala(m): 4:21pm On Dec 10, 2019
This is the reason I always advice guys not dive into serious relationship with a runs girl when still in active service,because she can hardly be satisfied.she will be salivating to know what other guys has under their boxer shorts and how deep is their pockets,till she is tired,then she can be loyal.But this boy messed up big time,let him face the music.
Family / Re: Advice For Teenagers Going Into Their 20s by smartolala(m): 11:32pm On Nov 28, 2019
[quotie author=ststyreal post=84456235][/quote] I don't agree less.
Family / Advice For Teenagers Going Into Their 20s by smartolala(m): 4:24pm On Nov 28, 2019
1.chasing opposite sex(or same sex) is a waste of time,so don't waste your time
2.Travel a lot if you have the opportunity.It will change your perspective about life.
3.social websites ruin life.so minimize your activities on social websites.
4.career is not everything for life.Learn other skills.
5.Don't compare yourself with other people.
6.Love yourself.If you don't care of yourself,nobody else is going take Care of you.
7.Expectation can destroy your mindfulness.That's why don't expect.
8.Start to save money from your first paycheck from your job or business.
9.Don't do drugs,you will live to regret it.
10.Leave your job and start your own business are easy to say but difficult to do.You must have the guts to take this decision.
11.Don't compare yourself with other people.
12.Run 1km every morning to relieve your stress and anxiety.
You can add yours,thanks for reading.

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Politics / Re: Kogi 2019: Hoodlums Set SDP Secretariat In Lokoja On Fire, Reps Member Furious by smartolala(m): 2:00am On Nov 12, 2019
This does not requires the service of a Babalawo or Dibia,knowingly or unknowingly this is orchestrated by Yahya danger,he is now a nightmare in kogi state,pray for kogites

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Politics / Re: Indimi Slams Reno Omokri Over Comment On Otedola Donating 5bn For Charity by smartolala(m): 1:49am On Nov 12, 2019
I am not a supporter of Reno though,I have been to Maiduguri and some parts of Borno state,with the enormous wealth from our common resources in the custody of indimi..he has not done enough.when he gave an America university &14m,it was all over the media,so they loud their giving.

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Politics / Re: Appeal Court affirms Makinde’s election As Oyo Governor by smartolala(m): 6:37pm On Nov 11, 2019
The APC Oyo state chapter and Bayo Adelabu should just let go of this ,they should congratulate Gov.makinde ,and start early preparation for 2023.The man is Gods ordained and peoples choice for now.

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Travel / Re: Evolution Of The Beautiful City Of Dubai In Pictures by smartolala(m): 5:01pm On Nov 10, 2019
We as Nigerians need to reassess ourselves and think of the best system of governance that will suit us,most third world countries do not developed practicing democracy as it were.

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Education / Re: Oluchi Okala Miracle: ABSU Law Graduate Had First Class In ABSU & Law School by smartolala(m): 6:25pm On Nov 07, 2019
Success gives me joy,congratulations young woman....you will go places ijn.

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