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buygala:
When I read the topic which said they built their careers from the banking hall, I was expecting to read that they started from the ground up, being bank tellers and stuff

Nothing of that was mentioned in the body of the thread, neither was anything mentioned about which other part of the Banking Hall they started their careers from

Dear op, if you have nothing to write sensible to write about, write about Tinubu so we can abuse him to our heart's comtent

No thought or craftsmanship, just a hurried, so-called article that doesn't do any justice to what could have been an interesting topic.

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

.you are showings signs of higher than average intelligence for your environment. However you need to have an edge too. One easy way is to start physical training...go to gym, take up boxing or do a lot of push ups. Boxing in particular can bring at this urge to fight so if that's what you want, try it.

Dreal1247:
The way and manner in which Kenneth Okonkwo changed because of alliance with Atiku has raised questions concerning the integrity of political players in Nigeria. All these while, one would have thought that he has personal integrity, Obi's defection to NDC has revealed the true personality of Kenneth Okonkwo. By so doing, he has made it clear that he is on the same page with the likes of Reno Omokri and Femi Fani Kayode.
I want to believe that Aisha Yusuf won't be compromised as well.

Is there any difference between Okonkwo leaving Obi and Obi leaving Labour? They are all drifters without genuine ideaology.

gassbee:
you mean your adult biological daughter wil insult you right to your face and you would just allow her walk way , sorry bro, not all parents can entertain such insults, they need to be properly disciplined to deter future insults

Such parents need to develop the maturity not to respond to everything with violence. Once your child is an adult you have no right to assault them.

donkarly:
I don't know what she did but I know that whatever it was,was big enough to warrant such. You can't love a child more than the parent

Parents have killed their children. Silly argument.

dheolexaone:
Made for life means he should condemn the average Nigerians.
Just dey play.
Moniepoint pays less than minimum wage for some roles. 50k monthly salary.

Before you defend the founder talking nonsense, think about that.

1. That's an obvious lie. Moniepoint as an employer above the minimum threshold of 70 persons is also subject to minimum wage requirements. They cannot possibly pay below minimum wage even if they wanted to. Why lie?!

2. I never said he should condemn average Nigerians and he never condemned average Nigerians either. Actually he called for action to be taken to help you lot but with the average thinking ability being what it is, of course you felt that was condemnation.

donkarly:
The question remains, what's her offence? Someone asked,if you found a hookup app on your daughter's phone,would you pet and pamper her? Female children often receive stricter discipline than male children to better prepare them for marriage

Is there any offence that justifies that level of assault? To make matters worse, you don't even know what she supposedly did - you are instead imagining all sorts of scenarios to justify your acceptance of the violence. How does this make sense to you if you're not just innately violent?

gassbee:
d degree of insults wil determine d extent of beating

That's animalistic thinking. If the insult is too much, you can let her leave your house after all she is an adult.

bionixs:
if she hates corrections, let her get her own home.

For an Adult child to be beaten like this shows a terrible level of indiscipline from her side.

She brought it to the social media, red flag to all prospective husbands

But in the video she's clearly begging to be allowed to leave isn't she? Why was she restrained against her will?

donkarly:
If my daughter does something that deserves a beating, I'll give it to her,not to harm her but to correct her. The question should be, what's her offence?

You will beat your daughter to the extent of her face being swollen? An adult daughter?

dheolexaone:
Tosin Eniolorunda thinks others are talentless because he innovated a day to day app that meets global standard. This has so much entered his head that makes him feels he is on top of the world and can talk less of the average Nigerians that support and patronise his biz where in it's real sense he underpays his staff.
This stewpid attitude is not only common to Tosin but to other Nigerians in the diaspora who they can pay millions to expatriates and offer worker living in Nigeria peanut because they have seen the country finish.

Let him thread gently. His biz needs Nigerian ppl and the moment they back out from him... Let's see who blabs.

You are only deceiving yourself. Tosin is made for life. Before Moniepoint he was already a senior tech bro. As of today, he has already made generational wealth and even if moniepoint disappears today he will take less than 30 minutes to get a top job anywhere in the world. Your threats mean nothing...think!

callmeDDD:
He should have kept quiet instead of running his tap water mouth. He should not use his mouth to kill his business because if Nigerian youths reason his business, his losses won't be redeemable, i mean forever.

Yet you have not reasoned bad government as powerful as you are? I want to laugh but sincerely I'm so saddened at the depth of myopia.

Afonjacoward:
APC data boys searching for what does not exist just to spite PO yet they clean he is not relevant.
I've gone through this X screenshot and one can tell they are merely referring to the Dubai Landlord

Is the Dubai landlord in NDC? Does the Dubai landlord rely on young people as his support base?

I don't know what the general issue is with those from this particular camp is but I cannot count up to five times that I've seen an Obidient make a sensible comment on this forum.

Kalulu44:
I almost had a quarrel with some Chelsea bros in my area ystday when I told him that Arsenal has easier fixtures than City.
If not that I am matured and know how to keep distance from people that always claim too know, we would have had a fisticuffs.
As I am typing this now, both of them are sitting right in front of me and wondering what's going on.
It's bcus of people like them and other Chelsea fans worldwide who doesn't wants Arsenal to win anything I am supporting Arsenal to go all the way both in the league and the ucl. Especially the ucl, to shut Chelsea fans once and for all.
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Me and them also argue ystday that Arsenal will win the ucl. They say nothing on Earth Arsenal can do to beat either PSG or Bayern if they get to the final.
And I was like, do you guys watch football at all. There's no certainty in a football match, especially in a one all final.
I also gave them example of how Chelsea won the ucl over Bayern against all odds.
Then lastly, they were yabbing my Man Utd that it's bcus of we are not in any competition we are doing well.
I told them, playing once every week has its advantages and disadvantages.
If you see the way they sneak in to come watch this match. I greeted them, they just answer mumbling. They thought I will tell them how their Chelsea was disgrace today.

I can't understand how grown men take this football thing so seriously.

LagosOrigin:
Who wrote this loads of thrash and handed it over to to you to post on nairaland ?

It is Peter Obi that hands party ticket to new members or The party chairman?

And where in the picture above was Peter Obi even holding any ticket?

Nigerians especially the sane Nigerians must be on the watch out because there will be many fake news flying up and down this time that Peter Obi and kwankwaso has dribbled tinubu to join NDC. The tinubu laptop boys aren't happy .

Lol. You people are just frightening.

Well let me help you read the article since you can't. What it says is that Seriacke Dickson was about to hand the card to Obi then Kwankwaso dragged it.

Is that understood?

brain54:
You obviously know nothing about what you are saying...

Okay sir.

brain54:
Where is the obviously in the videos...


Can you point it out?

His appearance, comportment and carriage obviously suggest someone who is not suffering. His age appears to be around 30 which would make it likely that he is a captain. You have the ability to make inferences from obvious information even when it is not spelled out clearly. Don't you?

brain54:
On salary of 105k...

That's obviously an officer, probably a captain. His salary will be around 300k with some allowances.

Bukola94:
I totally agreed with you and you are so right Sir. I should be able to manage 300k and be saving 30k to 50k. Sometimes I will skip maybe lunch and eat something of not more #500

Your reasoning invalidates your conclusion. If the way you are able to manage 300k is by skipping meals, then 300k is not enough for you.

timidapsin:
There’s a question trending online right now, and at first glance it looks simple… but the more you think about it, the more uncomfortable it gets.

Imagine this:


Blue Button:
If more than 50% of people press the blue button, everyone survives..

Red Button:
If less than 50% of people press the blue button, only people who pressed the red button survive.

Which will you pick?

Third world countries will largely choose red, while advanced countries will largely choose blue.

It's so simple and logical: the only incentive here is survival. Choosing blue guarantees that for everyone. Why would anyone choose red? Only if their concept of survival is rooted in competition.

Those higher priced plans are a terrible scam. To begin with, once you buy anything above the 10k plan, forget about stable network. Things that should ordinarily stream smoothly start buffering as if one is back in the days of dial up internet. Rubbish.

Nawteemaxie:
Who is Usman Nuhu? The rogue police officer didn't look like a northerner.

Could be Edo. There is a part where they bear such names.

Harrison4adam:
This PPRO must be a daft man...when does public execution of uncovicted criminal become a case of spirituality

Are you sure you comprehended what he said?

Babangidapikin:
Another way to increase party revenue nothing more ...I doubt he is known in his ward let alone his state ...

That's obviously the point. The electoral act forbids donations over a certain amount so they circumvent this buy buying forms as though they wish to contest which they obviously don't.

holumuiwa:
Trader dey buy form for president

Is that what you read up there?? Basic literacy is at an all time low in this country!

theoneJabulani:

Computer village is for the extra smart, if you aren't, bad boys will remove your boxers without touching your trousers

Exaggeration. If you behave like a normal person, not too greedy, not trying to be too smart, staying alert as usual, nothing will happen.

I've done enough business there without any issues.

happney65:
"That is why people like you, who probably have been secret tribal bigots all these years can't understand any other reason why Obi is so popular"

Lobatan!

That's all!

Most of them are they themselves secret tribal Bigots all these years and can't fathom why Obi is that popular and most especially among the youths that is why the campaign of culumy is highest against him

They are surprised how can someone have that much organic support. A support politicians pay billions of money for and they still don't get but Obi has it from a very organic base and that is what gets them angry every now and then

Voila, the beloved word, "bigot" is back to dominate the national discourse once more.

Predictable herd!

Of course, the bigots are never from their side by the way.

Haydens:
Ask yourself if the hostel will be built, even if built, to which standard ?

Will the students live there for free, even if not for free, will the hostel feee be affordable that even the poor students can afford it ?

The other places Dangote has donated to, were the structures not built? If you were a billionaire donor would you give away that much money without safeguards?

Won't you ask for proof of work? Won't you stipulate the contractors you want to handle the project? Won't you release the funds in phases following agreed timelines and milestones?


Or you believe the money will be dumped in the VC's account and that's the end of the story?

Lol.

Dominzyloaded:
550 million dollars is nothing to him. Check out his net worth.
This is Africa's richest man we are talking about here.
Una dey mention ordinary 550million naira... Kai

Do you even know what you are saying? Do you know what it would mean to give away 2% of your net worth to a single institution in a single day?

Haydens:
Money wey go enter them ogas bank akant like this.

Kpatakpata dem go erect half baked buildings then the other money to go woom to their pockets.

Fattening the pockets of already doning well people while the poor masses are languishing in hunger......

Why can't he use the money and pay for some brilliant students ? At least in each level their must be top 10 most performing students that need the money seriously...

Someone is talking about building hostels that will serve tens of thousands over several generations, this one is talking about spending it all on fees for ten students per department. This is the kind of thinking that ruins African nations.

dalongjnr:
I understand the substances in bello's case against Natasha.
I'm waiting for the CTC of the judgement to respond to you appropriately.
I can assure you that based on what I know, his case can't stand a chance in the high court of justice.

You are just mixing terms trying to prove something here. High Court of Justice refers to the state high court, which is where this judgement emanates from so what do you mean his case can't stand a chance in the high court of justice? Do you mean the court of appeal?

And if you are referring to Bello's corruption trial, that one is before the federal high court so again, what could you possibly be referring to??

dalongjnr:
She stated the obvious facts.
A criminal of bello's caliper should not be given much of leverage to continue to use courts to settle political scores. This is someone that's supposed to be in prison now shopping for free courts judgement.
This doesn't speaks well of the judiciary.

What kind of talk is this... The court is a court of law not your neighborhood beer parkour where you cast judgment flippantly.

It deals with legal issues not random issues that have no bearing on the case before it.

Can you imagine that you are suggesting that a court should not attend to a case properly because one of the parties has another case which has not even been fully heard?

What kind of reasoning is that?