₦airaland Forum

alexleo:
How sad. She has gone to hell just because of a man. By now she will be wishing to come back but no second chance. What people do for so called love.

victorazy:
Welcome to hell baby. What will you tell God?

hbrednic:
you brainwashed NLanders,liberate from yourselves from all those silly so-called men of God in your mists  

macjive01:
sorry guys for my typo or "murder of English" was rushing for my "per hour" if u understand wat i mean. Anyway the point being: why on earth would OBJ beg another man to have access into a gathering? begging, possibly in front of other card(IV) carrying distinguished guests.  he did it becos he is Yoruba, Yrbs don't find it demeaning to beg. Even a Hausa man, we wud say Aboki, mallam, still wud nt beg his fellow man for such worldly lilliputian and triviality. 
apparently it works for them in naija (they beg and get promotions , they beg to get access to every damn interview questions, shell, chevron etc, they even beg to marry)   but outside naija ? guys mehn,

ElRazur:
@Dayokanu

How was the whole "dad apologising" thing feels? I think it was something I would have wanted to get out of my dad. I suppose it must have been a relief?

My brother did manage to get him to see his ways were wrong. After X amount of long reality talk between my father and my brother, my dad didn't sleep for the night, he was just down and thinking all night.

I mean, who are we back then to dare say he was wrong or he did something unacceptable? He towered over us like a giant, and instead of respect I feel it was more about fear.

I can remember him coming home, and I am shitting myself thinking I have done something wrong, even though I've been in my room studying all day. SMH. To me, that is just wrong.

When it comes to discipline, the combination of huge wires as a form of whip and Corporal punishment was borderline abuse I think. It just got to a stage that my skin become naturally resistant to the lash that I just tend to shake them off. But gosh, they beatings do hurt.

I remember one of the most humiliating moment in my life, it was in ilorin and I must have lied to my dad out of the fear of him finding out and beating the Jesus out of me, but anyway he did find I lied and he flogged me right in front of the class I just felt the ground should open up and swallow me.


Apart from my dad, I also lived with my Sister in Lagos and her treatment was just a systematic abuse, and one of the many reasons we just don't get along. I was taken from a science school in Lokoja and thrown into a public school in Lagos, while her own kids attended Federal Government Colleges.  Then there's the subtle mental and physiological abuses like she buys the best of the best for her kids, and I have to make do with something that stands out that I am different.

Take one of these for instance, I was in Morocco Comprehensive High School in Jibowu, and when I finished, I have to trek all the way to Mushin to go and give a helping hand at the shop, there is little or not time to read, and going to her shop after school is mandatory as I am not allowed to go home in shomolu (Which is just about 15 mins walk away) but go all the way to mushin. The had tremendous impact on my ability as a student, but somehow some way I managed to pull it through.  On comparison, when her kids finish from school, they get picked up and dropped at home where they can study etc. Oh and when we close for the day at mushin, I will have to carry all the cooking for the family on my head and walk back to Shomolu, while she takes a bus most times. I know this is hard for most to see as the truth, but I really have nothing to lie about.

There have been times I get fed up with how I am treated at my sister and I do rebel. So what will be the punishment? I am denied food for a week. No joke. I will not go to the shop and she will not give me pocket money either, it was painful back then and still painful right now as I am typing it. But yeah, it is wrong and very wrong.   .      .       .       .  


More to come.

chika98:
You can never relate to people who whooped and did things to you. Children will be children and they ought to be left
alone to do just that disciplined but not overt.  Mischievous ones such as myself got beat more by other people than my own ma. I remember one time
I climbed over the fence to go and "pluck" paw paw at the neighbors house. She caught me red handed. Left the other folks but
gave me the beating of my life! Gave me the broken cane to go and put under my bed so that as to remember when I went to go and
steal. She's our family friend o. My family sure had a word with her afterwards and I loathe her till date.

Freewilly:
I know that was a joke and all, but in real life Yoruba People are just as filthy and nasty. I even heard that Yoruba people would go to the bathroom in the same pot the use for cooking

bk.babe97y:
Damn, looks like most of yall was abused as kids! Well, mines was my folks always warning me to stay away from anyone whose names started with "CHI" or "ADA" or "OBI", cause they was most likely Ibo and more prone to trying to kidnap my fine aszz, barbecue, then eat me for lunch- - - - or wuteva it is Ibo men do with kids they kidnap!

Joking, dont go bring out the Gatlings!

LOOLx i heard that too while grewing up as a kid, it wasn't true at all it was just a tribalistic thingy on the igbo people, a lot is also said about the Yorubas too. gracias tantro x)

sextacy:
Nigeria is like a monkey, you cant rebrand a monkey to look like human. cloth a monkey in the best suit and take it to canada or london, it still remains a monkey. chie!