₦airaland Forum

b3llo:
Edo n ugly men be like 5 n 6

Ugly but Educated.....Listen to his command and fluency in english.

hazinibones:
Hello Nairalanders,

I have this decision bothering me. I know it is a personal problem, but I believe everyone need some guidance at every point in life.

Straight to it, I have been considering Japa for over two years now and I think the opportunity might be here but I am having a cold feet.

I recently started working for a foreign company as a software engineer and the pay is decent when converted to Naira. Enough to live an averagely comfortable life. But my challenge now is that, I have been talking to some friends that are outside the country and they keep telling me how life is not easy there and cost of living is super expensive out there.

I currently earn $3000, which I plan to either save and travel or startup a business here in Nigeria. Please, Nairalanders with experience, is it worth japa to live an almost average life for almost the rest of your life or investing here in Nigeria and growing wealth?

The healthcare and quality education benefit is there as an advantage for japa though.

Thanks in advance for your responses!

If you must relocate, consider African countries with very good security, broadband internet network (5G possibly), steady electricity and finally Where your 3k will look like 300million monthly.

And if you decide to stay... Consider Agricultural value Chain.... Alot of raw produce but not much value addition.

ozo13:
Despite the high percentage gotten by bayelsa on monthly basis( got almost 28billion naira Just for the month of Jan 2023), they remain one of the poorest state in the country.something is fundamentally wrong with the state.

Govt of looters

Herkim:
Toyota corolla Fairly Used 2007 model is currently available for sale

All aspects of this car is working perfectly

All documents remain intact

Location Ibadan

Call or Whatsapp

08054664989

08100952574

where in Ibadan?

Pojomojo:
From DM

There is medical solution to blocked tubes na... Hydrotubation is what it is called. Go to a good hospital with gynae services...or if the money dey just do ivf

Pojomojo:
From DM

Go do IVF bro... Stop waiting

Radicalhost:
Stainless steel gas cylinder 12.5kg. Very light and highly effective, going for 26k. Ojo area/environ

your number or how can I reach you

Go and read Proverbs 31... Read the entire chapter and come back enlightened on whether this argument of what a woman is bringing anything or not makes any sense in the first place.

Didijiji:
You said demonic Psalms.

I just hope it is not the psalm chapters in the Bible?

Because I don’t know how a demonic verse can reside in the word of God

go and read Psalm 35... The entire psalm.

LikeAking:
Welcome to reality..

We will end up telling our kids we used to pay 10 naira as uni fees in our days.

Same way our parents told us theirs..

Na so life be, every man need to make money.


Nothing will ever remain cheap forever..

Check the prices of cars, very soon only rich Nigerians will be able to buy card.

By the time our children get to uni, we wi be paying 500k to 1 million naira per semester.

Welcome to reality.

per session.

Love800:
Ok. But i dont want to go into whatsapp. I just want to clarify something. Sorry am disturbing u.

Is the energy both solar nd inverter? Nd wat is the difference btw these two?

Why do i hear people always talking down on solar? They always say that there is no need using solar. Am not sure is abt the money sef. They can afford it but they say is not reliable. Why?

Too many many questions but I will be brief. Solar is reliable if you get it installed properly. I installed solar for customers that carry pumping machines and AC. With good maintenance, the batteries last upto 7years. If you add up what you would have paid for nepa for seven years you'd see that from the 3rd year, you are practically just using free electricity every single day.

Love800:
U pump water too?

And do u use inverter

yes boss.. you pump when sun is high... Most times between 10 am and 12mid day... Check my signature for WhatsApp details

eagleonearth:
how much

was not upto 1m when I did it but when way things are expensive now, It will be well over.

PerfectStranger:
You saw the future my man.

not really, na because we no too dey get light like that.

Love800:
Does this solar power all the appliances in a home?

Yes sir... I currently use mine to power everythinin my house including my freezer (8am to 4pm daily).

PerfectStranger:
Condolences to the poor. They'r really suffocating

Lol... I don install solar tey tey... Thank God o

rickyamos:
What skill is more lucrative in Nigeria between Autobody works and Computer repairs?

Just learn auto repairs... Specialize in Japanese cars. E.g Toyota, honda and Nissan. You should be sorted for life.

KingKO22:
Pandora Obituary should go and withdraw his case against Asiwaju with immediate effect bcs the good news of Asiwaju achievement within short period of time is overwhelming even the international communities that Buhari has visited will start visiting our action Daddy soon




Action Daddy no be thank you Daddy

.😀🤣😂

Na the case be your headache 😜... No worry, Tinubu go lead, then Obi go take over. Las LA's everybody go dey alright.

Etranshub:
Enough space... The world is large enough and records are meant to be broken.

Another man go fncl your wife with this "the world is big enough" slogan.

Sablexxxtoons:
I swear down right now i want to learn welding and metal forging..

There is no end to learning and that mindset in Nigeria that a graduate should not get his hands dirty is what leads to stealing..

Enjoy your new and useful knowledge sir... i think i will do the same sef although I would prefer a more formal metalwork training

Go to YabaTech

Corn247:
Igbo party.

In retrospect, APC is Huasa and Yoruba party?

SultanOfAbia:
My mother is furious that I don't want to come over to the UK.
This month my younger sister left for UK and it's remaining me.
Documents and all papers are right and after couple family intervention I decided to go for interview.
I really didn't want to go to Uk
I love my life here in Nigeria tho things are hard.. it's still my home
I feel more connected to my father's land.
Going to abroad is not my plan. My mother thinks I'm possessed by spirit that want me to not succeed.
My uncles have pleaded with me to go and join my mum and sis in UK.

I was given UK visa last year, refused to join my sister that traveled this May

honestly I don't want to move to Uk.
I know how hard life can be in 9ja but i still love this country.
Mumsi says she is really dissapoinmented in me for staying back.
Did I do anything wrong?

Until you are ill or have an emergency where you don't have to make a down payment before they treat you, you won't know how foolish this your decision is.

This guy deserve beating

swaggerjack:
Peter Obi Has Reached The Highest Ranks Of The Brotherhood Like Tinubu

This is a fight between brothers.

The Photoshop try sha...but if you talk too much I will expose the details of your photoshop

beekind:
Let me explain, he says he is not forcing her but if she does not take the fertility test he will not attend the wedding, and he is very likely to prohibit my mom from also attending the wedding and maybe other family members too.

That puts me in a very difficult spot, very difficult spot.

Perhaps you have had a history of stubborness in the past. ... Do the necessary tests. and own it. Tell her subtly and be gentle about it with her. She may even be eager to do the tests if you ask nicely.

Petalrose:
Wahala.. these Russians are not tired of this fighting

Putin Said the war has not really started.

Esortigress:
And you are so sure she's going to admit it if she's ever done abortion? You are a joker.

well that will be deceit in the future.

poporinwa:
My brother you should understand that you guys were brought up from a different background. Don't tell the barber to give you the same haircut he gave Samuel because your face or head shape may not be like that of Samuel. The way it is working out in Adedeji house if applied in yours might be a disaster. Try and find out your own style,don't use Kalu Nwankwo or Okocha style. If your wife don't like cooking and you can cook nnaa cook,it doesn't make you less of what you are. If she does not respect you despite your age difference, take that way and don't use it to judge her but stylishly make realize that she does not respect you. Find that key to your family happiness and enjoy your family for life is too short to start this complain this early stage.

excuse for bad behaviour. Abeg what type of woman does not like to cook? She smoke weed abi Wetin?

tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
[b]
Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.

Two days without se.x with my wife na wahala she don dey find(except on P). And no matter where she goes to even if na 12midnight she will come and cook that food and we go chop and still funk sef.

You have allowed too many rubbish to stand from the beginning and to be honest you may have no other option than divorce. Na only one life you get, don't waste it. Man up and do your self that favour.

Persone:
Why do these attacks only happen during every Ramadan period?

Why did 34 rockets hit Israel from Lebanon this period. That should be the correct question.

LeoDeKing:
I'm actually sitting in front of a mirror and what I see is a happy face.

Do you know why the face is happy?

Because Nigerians actually escaped a bigot fighting a religious war.

I hope you know this is antisemitism you just displayed here. Stop this stupidity before it land you in big trouble.

DenreleDave:
Lo

Dey play....

NE none
NW maybe kaduna

Go and Check the Irev... no need to argue with you.