Childish to even mentioned Divorce in a case you guys can talk about and settle, admiring another man does'nt mean she will see the man and knack, we men admired alot of body figured lady 5 to 6 times a day, and even which to sleep with them. so why are you bringing things up as if is that serious
tgmservice: Hello nairaland Fam need you input on this.
I am a married man going to 3 years now. I was scrolling on Facebook when a Saw a video of man exercising in a Gym.
This man wore a short nicker and you could see the shape of his joystick dangling. His thing was really big The issue is that when I scrolled down the comment section I saw a comment from my wife since we are friends on FB and this is exactly what she said in verbatim (guess she is not so smart I would see her comments)
" I love to eat this kind of Food" yea including the smiley face
From her profile pic you can clearly see she is a married woman even other people responded to her comment calling her all sort of names like Olosho and the rest, one even said I pity your Husband.
I saw this when I was in the Office and it clearly spoilt my day I could not concentrate at work anymore. When I got home I challenged her regarding this comment and she said its nothing that its just a joke comment.
I have been angry as she seriously disrespected me and I am considering a divorce from the marriage.
Octopusssy: I feel so too. A situation where EVERYONE in the family doesn't want him close to the woman and the kids says a lot about the op. It is quite alarming that nobody in the family is willing to broker peace or even give him a chance to come close.
There is 2 side to every stories, her family only listening to everything she said and they believed. Though I reached out to some of them during that period and most of them we end up having confrontation.
Hello Everyone, Please I need your help, I have been having been depressed and Hypertensive all because of this issue. Please I will appreciate if I can get help from here before I die in silent .
My Ex wife packed out 2019 when we hard misunderstanding and she took my 2 kids with her, since then have not set my eyes on them. We talked on phone for some time while I kept begging her to give me the opportunity to at least contribute to their upbringing of my children. But to my greatest surprise all her family disagreed and asked her to relocate and change number. All the family that I have their numbers did the same by changing their lines too. I have not been a happy man since then.
Please I will appreciate if anyone can link me up to any organization that can help me. The last family I spoke to did not change line, She only blocked me and she is the one I have been sending money to until I requested to see them. She said if I cant stop asking to see them I should stop sending the money . and i have to stop sending money into her account.
Please Nairalander Help a Brother.my Investigation trace them to IBAFO. The woman owns a school around the area and they attend her school. Please anyone that can help to link me to right Authority should pls help.
Dont say much, pack out from that compund,the Man is using tenants glory, i have same experience but i was delivered by my Parent my dad discovered the first time he came to visit me and he asked me to move out as soon as possible.
Please I will want you all to read this. though I am not a good writer. I rented an apartment somewhere on the Lagos island. We are just 4 in the compound. When I parked into my apartment my wife came with a pregnancy but we lost the baby when she gave birth to the boy. The following year she got pregnant again, The baby also died the day she gave birth. I am not a religious person but my wife is closer to God. She has been telling me about this compound but I just don't have any reason to think or suspect anything.
Lemme tell you in my compound if one of us is working the others will lose there job. I have no reason to be suspecting anything untill I heard that one of the tenants is owning our landlord 2 years rent and our landlord didn't raise voice. In this Lagos that I know landlord don't joke with house rent. Our landlord don't bother us for rent. Sometimes I will be the one sending the house rent to him without him even asking.
I also heard that was the same thing that happened to previous occupants. They lived there without paying for many years and the landlord didnt disturb them.
I won't say our live is better in this house. We are just struggling to survive. Currently I am the only one working while others don't have a job. I am beginning to doubt if our landlord is truly a generous man as we do called him, since he don't bother us for rent.
My wife have lost two pregnancy in this house. I have been jobless many times in this house. I honestly need people opinion on this matter.
Is this house diabolic or the landlord is just a generous man
Settle with her,Dont disscuss anything about what Happened.Go to her place and start new conversation without talking about what happened .. Stand like a man
destiny4luv: Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down?
My guy please and please, make sure you go to her parents house in person if you still love your wife and soñ, do that formally.If they insist on bringing issues leaves without altering any abusive statement, control your self and anger this moment. Everybody will be counting all your behaviour and statement this time. Learn to be calm at this moment don't let your anger over ride you. I'm talking from experience.Be wise pls
Be Sincere with your self, all the guys you post no Handsome?
EmiDon11: Its no longer new that we, especially girls always tag all fair guys as handsome or lightskinned girls as beautiful.
I just dont know the reason why. Whenever they want to refer to a fair guy, they will use THAT HANDSOME DUDE.
Does it mean that all lightskinned guys are handsome? One of my guy's girlfriend left him for a fair guy. That my guy is now using bleaching cream. Lol.
Pls i need answers. Why do girls, especially nigerian girls like fair guys too much?
while you are saving enjoy too, because Not everybody will live to see the old age. Dont work for another man to eat. Let's be wise
Odebayo4010: If you see me hustle here and there without Gucci shoes and dresses,, this is exactly what I want to avoid
If you like flex out the life in you when you are young.. If you like spend all you gather for women and clothes... If you like don't invest now you are still strong and save for the future...
Don't forget this,,old age will surely come when you can't work... Don't soly put your trust and hope on your kids because they may fail most especially when you didn't give them good foundation to stand.
Take the matter to your father's family,everything will settle .
quote author=Greattestman post=118664142]I've noticed the drastic change in my mother's behaviour towards me such as compelling me to rent my own house, shouting at me for any little mistake, not helping me financially and even badmothing me to neighbours.
I took the case to my uncle (her elder brother), he said for not helping me with money, the reason is that my mother is saving money for her upcoming traditional wedding. I was surprised.
When I came back home and asked her, she unleashed anger on me and almost curse me to death. The worst part of it is giving me ultimatum to vacate my own father's house. Who the hell does that? I can't take that!!![/quote]
Every blogs for don carry the story by now,and you go dey Kool off for ELEWE ERAN like this.God really love you Sha
Festus30: I and this girl have been dating over a year. I took her serious, I've sacrifice a lot for her and it made me so heart broken when I noticed she cheated on me reason I almost took her life.
My girlfriend and I live in the same city (Mowe) but I traveled out of the city 2 months ago for work things (ibadan), so around last month she called me that her phone screen (Samsung) is broken, that she's just managing her phone and to fix it is 35k but she already have 15k so she's in need of 20k to complete it. So I sent her 21k.
Fast forward to Friday when I came back to mowe, I went to see her, I saw her holding iphone Xmax. I was like who gave you iPhone? She was just telling me lies upon lies. At first she said she swapped it, then I was like why didn't you tell me you bought iPhone and who gave you money to swap it becus you'll need over 190k to swap. To cut the long story short..
I later found out that a guy bought the phone for her. The 21k I sent to repair her phone, she repaired it and gave it to her younger sis.
I was so heartbroken. For a guy to buy her iphone that means she have been dating and having sex with the guy secretly without me knowing. She has been begging me, calling & texting since Friday but i didn't reply.
She texted me she was coming to my house yesterday. The only word I said to her since on Friday was to meet me in a uncompleted building close to my house yesterday, I have this machanic slege hammer, it's one of my tools I use for working, so I held it while waiting for her.
My plan was the moment she enter the building, just a powerful whiplash on her head and she's dead, I felt so cold inside of me, I was also shaking while holding the hammer and feeling so heartbroken. Then I heard a deep voice inside of me saying "YOU WILL REGRET YOUR ACTIONS" (twice)
Then she called me that she's there, I already sighted her through the window, I came out and I told her to run away and never come back anywhere around me again. She was still begging that she's sorry. And I said if only you know what I'm about to do, you will run.
She left, I just sat on the floor feeling so heartbroken.
If he start sleeping with older women now you will still complain.
iKON11: I'm 31 and my friend is 34 years. Lately we've been having some issues over the above topic. I don't know why but he takes so much pleasure in sleeping with girls he's far older than. Like 18, 19 years old girls (very tender girls).
Anytime I complain about this, it becomes an issue. He even think I'm jealous of him, in fact he told me today to stop been jealous but frankly I feel very embarrassed anytime he brings such girls to our gathering.
We are new in this area but people have already taken notice of this and its even rubbing off on me now.
The funny thing is he doesn't even feel any shame or remorse about this.
I Joined Nairaland 2010 When i was trying to Locate my NYSC post Description ENUGU,though i searched through Google,then i met myself on NAIRALAND.Since then i have been a Silent Member, i hardly Post nor comment but i m enjoying my space lol
juliabobly65: Hello nairalanders, I need your opinions on this matter.
My boyfriend of 3 years who is now my fiancee (we are talking marriage already) is constantly talking to his ex girlfriend (who is now married).
They discuss all manner of things, ranging from how she misses him and wished she had waited for him.
Trouble started when he told her he was planning to settle down (I still wonder why he told her) ever since she's always coming up with pots of lies against me. She claims someone told her so many things about me.
She fabricating lies isn't my major concern because I know once something good is about to happen the devil comes in many ways than one to destroy it.
I've told my man all about my past life and everything in it, recently he accused me of withholding some information of my past. The ex girlfriend had a chat with and told him things I don't even know about.
Nairalanders this lady is married, why is she poke nosing into our affair?? If she loved him that much, why did she marry another man?? Why is my man giving her audience Is he still in love with her I know she's obsessed about me. Her constant chats with him, makes him accuse me of things I've never done in my entire life.
I told him we should suspend the marriage until he's done with his investigation since he doesn't believe me cos he said if he finds out something I did in my past in the future and I didn't tell him it will be a problem.
Admins pls push to front page.
Trace her husband on social media and bombered him with different lies,I m sure,lied that you caught her with your fiance in bed have sexx.all matter go settle
Chige777: Hello everyone. Please bear with me because this might be lengthy. I have being dating a Jehovah witness lady for about two years now.
She is such a wonderful and caring lady. The type that would make sure I am happy at all times.
Around November last year, she found out that I cheat. She even found out that I cheated that same week she came to my house. After much apologies and all, she forgave me and we continued. We kept having issues and reconciling. We finally broke up in February because they don't marry outside their church (I am not even thinking about marriage now) and someone in her church has approached her for marriage.
They are planning the wedding but she still comes to my house and we Bleep each time she comes. Today she came and her husband to be was calling her she refused taking the call. I asked her why is she doing this to the guy, she said even if she gets married tomorrow she will still be fuc...king me. Although I don't know the guy but I feel pity for him
StagethemTVee: A Man loses N20,000 to Fruadsters at Computer Villages as they sold him packaged cassava instead of Iphone 7+. The amazing thing is that people at the scene were blaming and calling him a thief for attempting to buy an Iphone 7+ for 20,000 naira. This is how we get people into depression o , my fellow Nigerians. No single person stepped up to encourage or console him throughout the clip.
Come and see market today o. lockdown never ease finish and men are not taking prisoners
cynosuree: Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.
I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.
But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.
He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.
I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?
The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .
I'd like to know what you think
Ladies get problem sha,is it a most for him to follow trend ladies will never be satisfy
Divine89: Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.
When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.
But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.
Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.
After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.
I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.
I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?
Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
You do your uncle strong thing I swear,my advice is relocate to another country and start a new life ,if the rest family noticed that you are now a new leaf,they will forgive u.Go and sin no more
gessica: Na wa o, hmmm.. what you put your uncle through is just the height of it. I'll advice you forget about your last two kids and also forget about asking for forgiveness from those you've offended. The pain you caused them will only take the grace of God to forgive. Forget the past and everyone in it and start afresh.
You do your uncle strong thing I swear,my advice is relocate to another country and start a new life ,if the rest family noticed that you are now a new leaf,they will forgive u.Go and sin no more
[color=#990000][/color][quote author=NaeChris post=56149432]Abeg go sit down. Who told you married women don't cheat? I know of two married women playing ''champions league'' in my area.[/quote
My advice don't marry her because the other guy will always find his way to her pant don't accept to be option b let her go you are not the real man in her life
I will like to yell you similar story that happened to me August 8 2014.i went to an hotel to sleep with runz babe and the condom burst I finish because I notice .that where the problem started all my friends that knew told me so many guys in that area contacted HIV from the hotel and fear entered me with full force. 3weeks after all I mean all HIV symptoms start appearing from coughing,stooling,rashes,lost of appetite,dizzines and so on then I went to private hospital for treatment on getting to hospital the doctor did not test me at all before she rushed me with 4 injection then I questioned her for not carryout test before treating me,she sat me down and ask me why I requested for test I explain everything that happened to her without adding or subtracting then she test me for HIV i was NEGATIVE but after the treatment the sickness persists so I concluded that they don't know work in that hospital I carried this thought that I have HIV for 2years and 3month until last year October 2016 when my dad was sick and i was told to come and donate blood for him haaaaaa I ran like Husain bolt but my family force me though they don't know the reason why I was running then I set for the test at gbagada general hospital
I waited for 3hours before the test was out I was sweating like eleyi ram lol
Then I was called by a nurse did some counselling for me I asked her if i have the virus she said I should wait then hand over my result to me
GLORY BE TO GOD I WAS FREE OF ALL DISEASES INCLUDING HIV EVERYTHING CAME OUT NEGATIVE
So my advice to you is that don't kill your self before your time go for test everything happening to you is just because of your thinking and if you want to help your self don't Google the symptoms it a fast way to die
Google nearly kill me stay away from searching the symptoms on internet please that my advice
Family › Re: Is This Enough Reason To Divorce My Wife? by sonjohn994: 1:20pm On Jun 25, 2024
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I love to eat this kind of Food" yea including the smiley face
