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Itzurboi:
Lol, letz continue our chat offline... Expecting

thats fast

Itzurboi:
Okay, i would love to chat you up... kindly flash/call me on 08147974903, it's safer dropping ma digit

you think so?

Itzurboi:
Thought as much, nice to hear from you again... anyway xmas is coming soon, don't use santa to send me my gift, i want father christmas.

i'll be in uyo for the holidys

been in school..

but i'll be in for the holidays

Itzurboi:
watz up dear, itz been a while, how have you been?

xaggar:
Hello dear.
Don't mind being a pal of urs. You look like my fantasy girl.

hi

danbrowndmf:
Where Have You Been? Out Of The Country? See My Signature.

i love comedies...

well be sure you'd get my ribs cracking then

simeotexy:
awo ambang ade awo uko

anaang

Tamarapetty:
Yasss

my love for GTA five is so so....

xaggar:
Aaaaahhhh! Beauty! Lovely!

hi..

xaggar:
Aaaaahhhh! Beauty! Lovely!

hi

danbrowndmf:
Unemployment Nko? Spaxon Come Let's Go And Eat There.

Are u sure the robots didnt put too much pepper

Tamarapetty:
Time to play G.T.A.

you play GTA too?

XingXhang:
lols

hi

shizzle1:
@Spaxon, that thing keeps banning it's destiny because it feels it's a supermodel. Imagine giving you a 6 month ban, you log in after 6months and realise the thing has extended the ban by another 6months. That thing is a closet tribalist that deserves a merciless smackdown.

You get insulted, when you return the favour, he bans you and leave the other person that insulted you first because the person is it's tribesman

It's their work

SmellingAnus:
been a while I saw this my darling

u were forming for me

enemyofprogress:
that was how you met that guy that impregnated you and ran away

lol

another yaba left candidate........

crazysaint:
Wike itid

haba na, wetin wike do you?

goldcrossxx:
Greetings All,

To all that followed and commented on the thread created by “amaraokafor”, i decided to create a new thread for this as per the advice of a Nairalander. The below is the thread link and also my response.

https://www.nairaland.com/4484675/should-continue-wait-date-another#67236204

I have been following this thread on proxy and never wanted to comment because, i don’t believe in seeking emotional advise from a Public forum due to the fact that many advisers may be underage, inexperienced and would advise you based on what they have read from one party.

The young lady in question comes from a family of 2 girls and 4 boys of which she’s the 1st daughter and the 2nd is as well single. The relationship is also not 3 yrs as she indicated but was suppose to be exactly 2 yrs on the 1st of May.

A new relationship is always very sweet but the challenges that will follow is what matters most because relationship itself is filled with uncertainties just the same way as life. The way a relationship is handled is what justifies what the outcome would be.

The lady in question is nice and as humans, we all have our flaws. Yes, i am a very quiet and reserved person that hardly go out so it’s safe to say that i am an introvert while she’s not that type. I won’t completely analyze everything and what caused it but i will try within my capacity to disclose some so that those that gave their one sided advise can rethink again.

I am not a married man, as a matter of principle and respect to whoever i am involved with, i don’t double date. My problem with the lady in question was bourne out of the fact that she was disrespectful to me several times, domineering, unstable in the relationship and sometimes blackmail me to achieve her desires and a lot more. Those were what caused our problems from the first few months of my involvement with her. Several reasons may have prompted her actions but i don’t see it as being enough for someone you genuinely love.

I told her from the 1st 3 months of knowing her that marriage is what i want and she agreed accordingly. She met with my family, i met with the parents and made my intentions known to them in less than a year of relationship commencement. In fact if not for the financial challenge due to wrong projection of business dealings, marriage would have happened 2 or 3 months after.

Before i met with her family, she ended the relationship twice and threatened that she will proceed with the next man available that love is not a criteria for her in marriage. After i met with her parents, she did same to the extent of giving me a deadline that if i don’t fulfill her rites, i should go my way which she executed her threats. I will be begging for her not to leave, the mother will beg, the father will also talk to calm her down, people from my side sef the same thing. I HAVE NEVER ENDED MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HER even when i had reasons to have done so but she has done so numerous times.

I later spoke with the Dad and told him that immediately finances arrive, i will come in to do the needful. The man told me no problem that he understands the economic situation and once i am ready, i should come in. But my woman was still not stable as it was one issue after another. The same woman that told me when love they sweet that, she would stand by me through thick and thin but when water pass garri, she said NO that it’s only in marriage.

Already people close to me that knew me and her already were concerned about her actions, the way she talks to me, etc and majority told me outrightly to withdraw. I never did but believed she was going to change. As a concerned man, i do sometimes meditate because no responsible man wants to end up with a woman that doesn’t respect her man and can easily be unpredictable in her actions.

I commend her though for her sacrifices. She rejected a guy that had cash, built house and was relatively very comfortable because i knew him. In fact, at a point it was like a competition and my blood pressure was affected when the guy was policing her bumper to bumper since they lived in the same state.

To cut the story short, after several happenings resulting to series of emotional injury, she apologized that she won’t disrespect me again and even knelt down when we finally met to beg and i accepted. Weeks later, she wanted us to meet but i wasn’t chanced to see her and told her i will let her know when i am free. During this time, i was observing her actions but she got upset and told me she doesn’t want the relationship.

I called to resolve the issue but she wasn’t forth coming. Relationship or marriage ooo she said she’s not doing again. I informed the parents and they said it’s not the first time that i should remain calm. I kept calling for resolution in the month of November, December(she only agreed to see me once and her actions weren’t the lady i used to know), January and February but still no show.

Note: Her words to me when she responded was that she can ONLY be my friend that if i don’t want friendship, i should go my way and if i continue to disturb, she will block me. Also note that my finances started picking up late last year and improved early this year to the glory of God.

I continued to beg through the mum till i stopped after realizing that it was stupid of me to have done so. Reason being that i won’t marry the mother and she as a matured lady has the final say to this. I am a principled man and she knows this because Rome wasn’t built in a day. But as a man, i cannot subject myself to all those shenanigans which has always being the problem from the onset. What you beg to enter, you beg to sustain.

So the relationship officially was 1 year and 6 months when she ended it. It was the aspect of reconciliation that kicked off just last month. So my people, even though me i dey sometimes hide inside my shell, i hardly go out at night and i also admit that i can stay for a while without seeing her, but the 4 months is not justified here. Is it not one that you have a relationship with that you can see?

My write up isn’t to castigate her person and it’s also never to praise myself. Seeking emotional advise on Nairaland isn’t my thing but i felt i should throw some light as this will also aid others that wishes to give advise before doing so.

Remain blessed all and excuse my typos.

well said

XingXhang:
lols

waoooow

i thought i'd never chat u up again

shizzle1:

what did mynd44 do to you?

the girl is just so always fake.....

and this is news


all this monitoring spirit bloggers sef.

meanwhile..

Cinderella, the Incredible Hulk and Pinocchio are walking down the street.

They come across a sign that says: Beauty Contest.
Cinderella takes a look at the sign and says she is going to enter the contest.
After 10 minutes she comes out with the 1st prize.

They walk further down the road and come across another sign that reads: "Strongest man contest".
Hulk takes a look at it and says, "Hulk smash!!!" and then enters. Sure enough, within 2 minutes he is out with the 1st prize.

They walk further and then come across yet another sign. This one says: "World's BIGGEST liar".
Pinocchio says, "This one is for me", and he rushes right in. After about 3 straight hours he comes out with tears in his eyes.

Hulk and Cinderella ask, "What happened?"

Pinochio replies "Who on Earth is Lai Mohammed?"

Amaraokafor:
Good morning nairalanders. Forgive my blunders if you find any.

I need a candid advice for a decision in life I'm about to make. I have been dating this guy for three years now and even if we like each other, I'm beginning to realize that I'm getting tired of the relationship.

I come from a family of three girls and four boys. My elder sister is married as well as my younger sister.I'm the one left hanging in the air. I'm not a desperate lady, but recently I'm beginning to realize that feigning ignorance to this particular issue is beginning to take its toll on me.

I'm in a LDR that has seen little or no results for the past three years. Although there's a reasonable online contact, but physical presence is like a war. Sometimes I don't get to see him for months.The thing again is I'm chasing other guys away from me. Kept saying I'm taken but it's like I'm deceiving myself. I'm tired. I've tried to let go several times but couldn't just bring myself to do it.


Recently another guy came into my life and he seems really nice.He asked me out for a lunch date but I've been mute. I don't want to double date and my present relationship is beginning to make me deeply sad. I like my present man but the relationship is so dull. It's too empty. There are no memories. It's like Im not even in a relationship to start with. Apart from the fact we profess love to each other, I think it's the most dull and under performing relationship ever.He is responsible and cool headed, but the way he handles our relationship leaves me completely empty, extremely sad and hopeless.

I want to date again, but it's like I need a push. I have this ugly reputation for overstreching patience. This suffering inside and smiling outside syndrome. So people don't get to know how extremely sad I'm until I open up. I'm extremely sad.


Talk to me.
I will listen.

get him talk.. you guys need to define your relationship.

i'm in a along distance relationship too. we see only when i return from studies, but we chat and video call like everyday..



so babe, get him to define the relationship

justbrains:
ouch. omo you're harsh

really?

XingXhang:
Contesting? I don't have plans yet.

Are you so much into politics?

my parents are

before will she say no

XingXhang:
I was always around, I thought Boko guys kidnapped you TBH

yeah o. my God pass them , how is it going with you dearie, sure you know election is just a few months away. hope you're contesting

joan1678:
Don't say anything.. Let's just find that out

ok then

XingXhang:
Okay. Very ok

my long lost Chinese friend

justbrains:
is it your meet? aunty stop d frontin nd drop digits joor

fronting

i should stop which fronting..

walahi thats me o. i dont let out my private details online

crunchyg:
Then delete it, and send me yours

you know what my response will be