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I was really expecting him to name projects... oh, peace project. How did he feel writing a robust reply like an orphan?

Ekene161829:
Thank you for you advise. I never done anything like it before and I taught I could never do such a thing thing to her and I regret everything. Normally we argue like any other couples, she will be screaming and get really heated , I will leave the house for some hours and comes back later , and I keep myself under control. I know that if I don’t , she won’t stop either and things will get nasty. But on that night it didn’t go down that way , I was trying to keep controlled and explain to her the reason why I came late was 2 of my friends were drunk to the point where they couldn’t walk . I have to drive them home. She just wouldn’t stop yelling and throwing hands at me , I was so tired to leave the house again that was why I left our room to go to the living room. She kept on going and I yelled at her to ship up and leave me alone as she was laying into me, she screamed back that she wouldn’t that made me angry and I hit her.the pain of knowing I did that especially when it wasn’t my intentions is killing me and I want to show her that it was a mistake and I had no reason or thought behind hitting her

You are a good Man. You have erred, accepted your fault(s) and made peace. More importantly, dialogue before she comes back. what are the factors that led to the issue? How would she understand that pushing matters too far isn't the best? Stay woke and build up your family. Subtly reduce interference by your in-laws and control your home

Biglittlelois:
No correlation at all, Op hit her and she bled, totally different.

Certain incidences aren't planned. No sane man would want to beat his wife. Though there are two sides to a coin, there are outbursts/ reactions that are totally regrettable. Do we know what she had said in anger? Not justifying the slapping, but third party evacuation isn't one of the best actions.

LilMissFavvy:
How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.

You are still single abi? Okay. Imagine your in-laws throwing you out because your ex-boyfriend called you on phone. let's not even get into poorly executed cooking session or a gaffe about his tribe

Hmmm. this is tough
Thing is more of an altercation, a wrangle, a one-off loss of decorum. It can happen, perhaps under the influence of alcohol and pent-up anger. Your wife should know better. Again, more disturbing is the speed at making decision, a decision to exit the house with your child.
Have you made a mistake, Yes. Did you show remorse? is this error habitual? How can your in-laws invade your home and just take decisions?
Be a man, show love and support, but their daughter should be with them for a while, till everyone learn their place

Good Day House. I wish to learn from everyone/anyone here. Nice work

Sportwin:
Shey u serious ?

That's it. Confirm from anyone in these areas. I don't know of others, except Abj

Joiceee:
well you see it as being smart, but I see it as being foolish and stingy. I would be done with school in weeks time, and am ending all communication this time around. How do you even call someone who can't be there for someone he claims to love when she really needs it but would only show up when things are rosy smart He wants to reap where he has not sown!

You guys think everything is all about money........the truth is most times its not!!!

Yeah. most time it isn't, everytime it is.
Even caring without money is now irritating, chewing-gumming experience

Very wonderful thread on simple English comprehension.

Well, here in Makurdi and also Lafia, Nasarawa, it's within 24 hours folks got theirs, most recent was last week.
paid 24k, tip, 3k. Got it less than 24 hours n traveled back.
Maybe these and other places could be checked out, especially if urgent.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

Chai, this got to me. Its high time I got a wife.
Thanks for sharing this thought

JayCynic:
I need some advice from the pros in the section, I'm a reserved guy(not shy though) and I've been having difficulty trying to move to girls, startup convos on the go. It's always very difficult especially in Akwa Ibom State where Uyo girls are always carrying up their noses in the air and acting irritated for no reason. I've had cases where I grew the balls and said "Hi excuse me, can I talk for a second?" And they just walk past, it's crazy. I hate SM relationships as they are phony and fake. I'd really appreciate y'all advices even from the ladies (if any) and share your own methods and experiences

Place and time varies. Self confidence is key. No secret formula. Some would like you for who you are

damble:
HOW DO I CONNECT WITH YOU BRO?

081. ... 355**** 73*"""166. WhatsApp

Bezed:
Searched for a thread like this, cos I travelled to a part of bauchi state that shares common boundary with Plateau state and i Saw a ditch like your first pics, and I was moved to ask, and I was told they were mining for Tin and Zircon..my first time of hearing of Zircon though....Never seen a mining process before

Yeah. Zircon sand occurs as composite with tin/columbite.

Hello great people, it's nice reading about African countries here. I would need to buy gold. which African country can I possibly get good deals?

modelmike7:
Good one from them This is the way it is supposed to be.
We hope the spare parts sellers can advice Ikpeazu, the kerosene governor the bolded advice above the cattle sellers adviced Bello.

Seriously, no offense, how do you sleep, knowing the value you place on commonsense and well-being of humans?
Well, I am not in your shoes

TITOPE:
http://www.titopeblog.com/2019/11/kogi-guber-forgive-yahaya-bello-aisha.html


The wife of the President of Nigeria, Aisha Buhari, has appealed to Kogi residents to forgive all that governor Yahaya Bello has done to them in the past four years.

Buhari made the appeal on Thursday during the All Progressives Congress (APC) rally held in the state, ahead of the governorship election slated to hold on November 16, 2019.

She assured the residents that salaries will be paid in the state following the President’s intervention

Aisha urged the citizens to forget Bello’s wrongdoings in the state, adding that they will not be disappointed if they vote for him.

“My husband used to emphasise on salaries, it took a while for the Kogi salary payment to get settled after a long time of verification.

“But this time vote for him for continuity of payment of salary on time.

“Bello has pledged to assure Kogi residents and civil servants of early payment of salary.

“I also commend the state for having the less number of out of school children in the country, according to the survey of UNICEF,“ she said.

The end of shame, the day of heightened mediocrity.
So unimaginative

first group have nothing to write. second group came for serious business

Hello Great people,
Since I upgraded the software of my Infinix hot6, it takes forever to get charged
what might be the issue?

midolian:
Sowore actually needs help..

This man contested election and lost like his party didn't appear on the ballot paper. After elections, he was accused by party members of massive looting of hard-earned campaign funds. This is the same person who wants to lead revolution.

The m0r0n even wants to set himself ablaze out of frustration...As we all know, suicide is a crime in the Nigerian constitution, so his arrest is in order. You never can tell how many m0r0ns like him would want to roast their skin for few days fame(which of course will come after death)...as the most common kind of followership we have in this country is blind followership.

I don't have a problem with his so called revolution but with the supporters of this revolution. Majority of his supporters are from the condemned end of the country and we all know whatever they support fails in the end..If you are really interested in a positive change, start from your various local governments and states. your local government chairmen and governors are busy shaping their present and future with what is meant to shape your present and future..and all you lots can do is to leave your states to settle in other people's states wherein you complain as if you were sold to them as slaves ...

...And when the government of the day tries to prosecute them, you guys flood social media with jargons as if the country belongs to the criminals you worship...it doesn't even stop there,..you guys even troop out in numbers chanting bunkums like "Our son is being witch-hunted", "Nigeria will burn if our son is not released and bla bla bla"...

Lastly to my misguided brothers from the condemned end, if you really care about this country, you would have thought about revolution when the drunk hat-man was in power, when he and his shapeless wife ran this country like it was a beer parlour...but No, you guys won't! because you benefitted from the rot in the system the most. Now that things are going back to normal, you are thinking revolution...

let's see how far you can go!

May the way Nigeria is been managed be perfectly replicated in your life. Amen

Sexy poxty FC , Finland

This is very sad. Mongolia of all places. Some persons have a great job destroying the country's image. From bad leadership and those that have a knack for making it at all costs. It is well. Travellers, if you can have another citizenship, it would save the embarrassment.

Do not make her angry again. If you do? ...

Well, perhaps someone else took over correspondence of op's narrative. Maybe from Delta, thing is op is torn between "formalizing* the marriage or escaping a bad wife. My take, use the opportunity to talk to your in-laws of your wife's behavior. Let them know you are all for doing the right thing but if she doesn't turn a new leaf, you are ready to go the length of sending her back and keep your kids

Gaspardd:
Ill rather be comfortable and happy with my choices at the risk of being stupid than to feel sad and inconvenient myself cuz i want to appear mature.

Good day.
I understand you are a gentleman and have an acceptable level of self awareness and education. With this in mind, were you truly comfortable borrowing a shirt from your neighbor for a date? After the date, why were you disturbed, worried about your "reputation"
Would it not be self denial not to tell yourself a simple fact? Or, "creased" clothes? Perhaps what you made up for in frugality you had so lost in tact and wit? We aren't perfect, it's not about who is right but what is right .. enjoy your sojourn

xprimate:
Thanks for the invaluable insight. I am working on trading four major minerals.
One of the major issue plaguing the industry is integrity, Nigerian starting mixing and padding the mineral ore with stone and rubbish.
Keep up the good work, will sure be getting in torch in time.

Nice to have like minded persons. To buy minerals, first you have to know the mineral. Basics includes sorting, which is pouring everything into a platform, and sort. Keep extra to pay for the labour, then get random samples off it to test. Any dealer that won't allow you do sorting is almost a mad man. Keep your money and flee

p3kdudu:
Tnks

With this energy and resources, just farm Egusi first and later on same land, do sesame (benniseed) with all your might, time and everything. You still in Makurdi? ask of this model though
Thank you.

WaffenSS:
What about Plateau, Mr Hypocrite

There's a large number of Muslims in the state. Yet they don't practice what you preach. Is that fair?

You can't pick and choose where christians get to be deputies.

Giving southern Kaduna the DG is a social service, not a birthright. Muslims are the majority, and since Plateau claims christian majority to deny a Muslim DG, same thing should apply in KD.

If the southern Kaduna ingrates think it's their right, they should elect the governor from their evil stock. If they can

So much bile and hate. How do you sleep?

VICTORY ALL THE WAY. write down 3 things the present government has done in 3 years, then you can have an opinion.

Hello house,
My team just got CBN/ NIRSAL anchor program for dry season rice, cos it came late for the rainy season. I had previously done 7hectares dry season, using channelling and pumping machines (close to water body). Any ideas on irrigation approach for over 200 hectares? I have penned down boreholes and creating channels with bunds and would welcome more ideas to tackle water supply. land is close to a river though.
thank you

Fribery:
can you pray for me too. i need a miracle.. i tried everything.. im really sick

Matthew 28:18
Then Jesus came to them and said, "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me.
Phil 2 : 9-10
9 Therefore God
exalted Him to the highest place, and
gave Him the name above all names,
10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth,…

My brother, am a man of like weakness, challenges and otherwise. Call that situ ation and subdue it In The Name Of JESUS, with this understanding, pray thereof. Be strong. We can pray together if its your conviction, but know that He alone have the answer

At all point, we should appreciate God. Sometimes in 2009, I went for evangelism. I approached a young lady in her shop to minister to her, but she had reddened eyes. When I inquired, she had so much tears dripping down and was itching her badly with severe pains. I held her hand and we prayed together, then admonished her. Next day, close to her shop was a bus-stop, as I made to board a bike, she called out and ran down. She said immediately I left her shop, everything ceased, without taking anything .
For the unbelievers here, you aint our enemies, but enemies to yourselves. We don't need to provide proof to you, but this is to encourage brethrens. Rationalizing issues has its limit. At some points, Faith is the currency that you need.
Thank you.