₦airaland Forum

If as a single lady, you are allowing a man who is not your husband to sleep with you, you will bear the consequences of all your waywardness alone.
The smart ones will insist on condoms.
The ones with little sense left will end the relationship after one abortion.
But fools will stay back and continue getting pregnant and aborting until nothing is left in their self esteem.
Of course, the guy man will dump them.

When some of us frown at premarital sex,they will say we are pretenders,we are old school..we don't have sex skills,we are not testing sexual compatibility,etc
All are lies that people manufacture just to justify immorality.
Men will mess you up wetin no good if you don't learn to close your legs and stop rubbishing yourself.

baconline:
NDLEA done get more work

You Gerrit.

Be specific.
We know the group of people who do this thing.
They are usually uneducated but want their women to be educated.

TechCapon:
but even these ones that they sponsored through school are not easy to control nah

To an extent, they are better to control.
A man who sponsored you through school can make you stop working easily than the one who didn't .
He can use "I sent you to school" as leverage to maltreat you....

And you will have nothing to say.

You owe him and you will be forced to be loyal.

My dad sponsored my mum halfway through nursing school.
At some point, he didn't want her to work.
He forced her to resign from federal government job she was doing.. After a while, she got tired of staying at home and being at his mercy for the smallest thing money could buy, coupled with the fact that he was physically abusing her.. She got a job in a private hospital but my dad won't have it.
One day, he seized her nursing licence and certificates and set them ablaze, claiming she was almost dropping out when he took over sponsoring her.
My mum and her parents couldn't do anything.
He continued abusing her until she lost one eye and sustained a fracture on one arm.
They separated for a while as she had to seek medical attention.. when she recovered, she returned to her husband's house😀

He still abuses her and she has become used to it.

pocohantas:
By now we should know that is reverse psychology. If they say it loud enough, women would believe it and enter forests to pray for husband. Then do anything to keep him.

Men desire marriage as much as women. They are only more clandestine.

The whole thing is funny..Online,men are not getting married,men have nothing to benefit from marriage.Offline,a lot of men are looking for wives.
I have brothers and male cousins who are desperately seeking marriage .
They keep asking me to matchmake but all my friends are married.
Whenever I post a friend or colleague,I get "Connect me na,Is she married?" ,etc.

pocohantas:
See his strong shiny head.

How do you kill someone because she doesn't want to marry you?

For the same marriage that his gender claim does not benefit them.. and they have nothing to gain from marriage.
Instead of celebrating that the lady refused to marry him, he killed her

TechCapon:
heard the man toiled under the sun and rain to train the girl in school only for her to refuse to marry him in the end. I wonder why men still go through this mumu nonsense of traing a girl through school. What happened to all the girls that already graduated?

Those ones will not be easy to control.
Nothing to use and hold them to ransom

Nigerian men have this mentality that nurses/nursing students are easy lay so it comes as a shock to them when they are denied sex.

It's unfortunate.
RIP to the deceased

femi4:
Where are these women learning to be this wicked

When they suffer wickedness from men, they transfer the aggression to children who are vulnerable.
That's the cycle

kiddaz:

Lol

You will still shame the ones with sex skills and call them names.

Who sex skills epp?

Men just looking for wayward women to cum..

Later, they look for virgins or ladies with the least body counts to marry.

Which sex skill did I have when I got married?

I have 3 children with poor sex skill.
Anything wey pass back for ground, open legs.. count me out.

Nonsense and sex skills

GloriousGbola:
The words you are looking for are gang rape not knack nonsense comot

Nairaland censored it

ARISHEM:
What shocked me was the part they say Qudus only touched her twice when she was tipsy.
Just touch with hand o and not a touch with his preeq. And everything about his life crashed

You don't touch people without their consent.
You need to see how careful people here are, to make sure they do not touch you even when having friendly conversation with you.

If na Naija ehn, food is ready!
confam Group Intimacy immediately.

The guys will pounce on her, take turns to knack nonsense commot from her towtow,brag about it and shame her everywhere including social media.

"See we knacked a female staff at a party"
"After this,who will marry her?"

She no go even fit show face for work again.

Much ado about a phone.
Never liked iPhone.
I don't understand the obsession Nigerians have over iPhone that people spend hundreds of thousands on used phones.
My friends thought I will change my mind when I japa but here I am,still using Samsung Android phone.

Thundafireseun:
The saddest part of the whole thing is that the brightest brains among the doctors have all fled the country....

What we have left are those ones carrying expo in exam Hall that know they can't survive outside the country 😭😭😭

Not true.
Many doctors still practising in Nigeria are struggling with the financial implications of japa.

Additionally, there are many doctors who have gotten licence to practice overseas but yet to secure jobs.. The best graduating student in my class is a resident in orthopaedic surgery and has gotten UK licence.She didn't carry expo in exam hall and can survive anywhere in the world.

uyams:
I understand, just that I feel like she doesnt have a reason for being this mean to me, she is generous to me and do thing's for me cheerfully

How is she being mean to you?
A woman who is not your wife doesn't want you to have sex with her and you call her mean?
Same you that will judge her harshly and shame her with her body count after you succeed in penetrating her.

Toolegit123:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Of late,my fiancee and I broke up and I've been considering about going into a new relationship. I must really say all the time I was with my ex,I was so commitment to her to the extent that I didn't even have time for any other woman. She knew that and Peru that must be one of my weaknesses she saw.

But the truth is that it's been over a month we ended the relationship and I really long to go into another's relationship as an escape route for me to stop thinking about my ex.

So,my questions to you my fellow Nairalanders,how long should a man wait before going into another relationship after a break up? Is it right to find love as soon as possible considering the fact that the it was my ex who ended the relationship for reasons only known to her?

Chai.. evening newspaper don dump "the Prize".
How come? When 7 women should be rushing you.

Oga, you are just hor..ny
Na Phurck dey hungry you
Once you release, you will get back to your senses.

nairalanda1:
Before you call that girl evil...remember she eventually says that she had an ex, that she was loyal to, and the ex was playing away game and giving her infection after infection.

Hence her bitterness

I still think she should calm down though, and not let bitterness dictate how she behaves, because people who give can also be people who recieve.

Remember, playing around, whether you be man or woman, is not a harmless exercise.

Abstinence remains key.
If not for greed for material things, why are you having sex with a man who is not your husband? If not for stupidity, why even engage in unprotected sex?

As a married woman, I was so scared of unprotected sex..Immediately I took in for my last baby, I started insisting on condoms or no sex.

I don't pity single ladies messing themselves up..
There is no reason to engage in unprotected sex when you are not married.

They will be playing with their lives and looking for who to blame.

EmmyMaestro:
Only you Staphylococcus, HIV, syphilis. I pity any man wey no go wear jersey when they wan play match with this one

How is staphylococcus an STI? 🤣
Innocent friendly normal flora

Samantha125:
You can love someone of the opposite sex without any sexual attraction, it's called FRIENDSHIP!!!

True but not in Nigeria.
Men want to sleep with every person of the opposite sex under the disguise of relationship.

deebrain:
In other words, if it's a prostitute you want to take out on a date, do your due diligence and go for quality. There are many available in Allen.

Stop the idea of taking someone's daughter on a date with intention of converting her into a prostitute for goodness sake.

Not every flexing must end up in bed.

Then start shaming women with their body counts.
Imagine a woman has to sleep with every man she had a date with.. Damn!

This is one of the reasons I always picked my bills whenever I went out with my then boyfriend, now husband.

When I wasn't buoyant enough for such outings,I declined and stayed away...and he never pushed because intention was clear from the start.

Imagine being insulted and embarrassed over food and entertainment that I could afford or avoid simply because a man paid.

Women are really going through a lot.

He is right.
Don't visit people unannounced.
Relationship no be marriage

Lucky girl.
He wasn't killed after marrying you, leaving you to cater for a child or children alone , bear the tag of being labelled a single mother.

I wonder wetin women dey find for military men

Ayomisure:
I went to a teaching hospital to see a doctor today for a case of internal haemorrhoid, to cut long story short, this man say he wan do rectal examination, say mah face wall off trouser, I no first understand 😂💔
Omo, I no get choice o, if you see wetin this man dey chook me like say I say I offend am, worst thing be say, no be only him dey there, Omo I just bow my head, I no fit talk anything 😂💔

We don too see yansh and all that..
What if the doctor was a young woman?
That time for Urology posting as a houseofficer, I choke finger for yansh of middle aged and older men tire.
At some point, I begin use fork chop eba..

Now, it means nothing to me.
I am even tired of seeing and touching people's intimate areas.

Meanwhile, there are only 2 reasons not to do a rectal examination in a case like yours:
1. Patient does not have anus
2. Doctor does not have a finger.

Lol

thrillionaire:
Must you be nekkid to show you just graduated? Abi na oloshoism you go study for that school?

Senseless gyal

Sex sells. She knows.
I can imagine the number of wealthy men in her DM already.
The girl don make am.

GOFRONT:
Everything sexualized........power used to be located in the head...But now power has been relocated to the middlebelt region.....Thats why they display the region as they throw morality into the Air.......

Adverts on billboards, you see a touch of sex
Radio adverts too, you see touch of sexuality
Real estate marketers in the traffic of Abuja, you see touch of sesuality.

After oil and gas bizness, Kitty is the next best selling money generating commodity. Just know this and know peace!!

Their clients are men.
Where there's no buyer, there is no market.