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Inosky:
Not completely true. Only few men do this.
I once dated a lady and was entirely committed to marrying her but I wasn't giving her money as she wanted, she became harsh, insultive, and unruly towards me, even said I should stop telling her that I love her if I'm not going to be giving her money, that I should place her on monthly allowance. She knew I loved her to the extent I even spoke with her mum earlier but that statement destroyed my love for her and I left without looking back.

You ladies need mental reset.

I dated my boyfriend,now husband for 8 months.
He didn't give me money/gifts and we didn't have sex.
And I was okay with it

But many men are looking for sexual partners with no strings or commitment attached. They deserve the type of women they meet.

And the men are using relationship as disguise for sex without commitment.

Tit for Tat.

Kingrshd3:
U don't like sex but u got married ?? 😳
Also is it that Ur hormones changes now or u have been like that since u are married or u don't have feelings for your husband?

I got married to have biological children who know their father, not because I like sex.
Also, because at a certain stage in one's life ,be you male or female,it's expected that you should be married. That's what society expects and accords you respect.

I remember how a senior colleague was campaigned against and tagged "irresponsible" because he was a bachelor at 48 while his opponent was supported because he was married with children at 35.

Sex is not food or oxygen.
There is a lot more to marriage and even some long term relationships than sex.
You have to be very dull to be getting married simply because you like sex.
How much sex do married people even have?

Kingrshd3:
So it's now normal for u to cheat on your husband ..

Simple..

I don't like sex.
I struggle to have sex with my husband.
I cannot cheat.its completely out of the bargain.

This was how my cousin,34,a lecturer in the university ,refused to marry a 35 year old Vet doctor because he was not going to church
She ended the relationship and got married to a 47 year old choir master in their church who had no source of income except repairing electronics. His highest level of education was JSCE.

This man stopped schooling in JSS 3 while my cousin was a Master's degree holder.

The man had zero sperm count but my cousin bore the shame of childlessness because of course,she was considered to be too old.
She was advised to try IVF but the husband opposed it and said it was not biblical even though she was going to sponsor it 100% .

He dragged her backwards in everything and eventually made her resign from her university lecturer job to take up the position of a principal in a private school in their neighborhood ,just to message his ego.

The marriage lasted for 6 years .The man passed on due to complications of diabetes which he refused to manage as he believed it was spiritual attack.

My cousin got another job in another university,remarried at 43 to a 46 year old widower who is a Quantity surveyor and gave birth to 2 children in quick succession.
She is 48 now.

Everything is about experience. Some people don't learn from others.
Other will learn from them.

tnerro1:
Then you don’t know what am talking about cause you have not experienced it. 😁

I have 3 children, so rest!
Many women do not achieve orgasm with penile penetration

ufotunang:
..abi..do not mind her she said she has overcome pornography and soapy but still appearing naked and topless in the video..if she has changed she would had appeared decently..well dressed up..but she is advertising her market to her customers

She is now into prostitution

tnerro1:
Yeah , but to be truthful, the orgasm you get from self service is not the same with the actual thing. The actual one reverberates round the body than the one from self service 🤫

It's not true
Self service does it for me

tnerro1:
No wonder I dey hear different sounds from your room by 11pm yesterday 😁😁

There is nothinh wrong with it.
When I was single ,I rather self service than allow men mess me up

Well, I don't watch pornogra.phy
But I prefer masturbation to actual penetrative sex...It's so stressful having an adult man jam me like say we dey fight..Pleasssseee.

Masturbation helped me manage my sexual urge when I was single, hence I was able to stand my ground and say NO to premarital sex . Now, I'm married and I still masturbate.
That's the only way I really get WET

tiswell:
funny enough,men doesn't hate women.
Women tend to naturally lack the capacity to genuinely love men.

That's why you'll see a woman well taken care of by her man,yet she brazenly sabotage his efforts,and cry victim if held accountable

Men lack the capacity to love.. it's a woman's nature to love.
Hence , Bible says "Husbands, love your wives. Wives, respect your husband".
A lot of men can't even express love towards their children and parents.
And LOVE isn't just about spending money.

Lol
Men .. They so hate women but can't live without these same women.
Everytime, threads and topics complaining about women.
After 18-23 years, it's to look for a pregnant woman carrying a female foetus .

tiswell:
Now, that's a proven fact👍

And once African man makes money he thinks on how to improve the lives of his family(wife and children).


Marriage wasn't designed to favor men!

Why are men still getting married?

Something clearly doesn't favour you but you still do it.. Even going as far as spending your life savings, some take loans and enter debts just to get married.

It's a pity

Goo0dHardDick:
Sadly the same girl the Simp of a man is trying to impress and maintain is likely being smashed by another guy

Of course.. there are levels to the "game" .
Preferences matter.

I did not cohabit before getting married.
I only visited my fiancé twice.. once in the company of a couple who were mutual friends and then, alone after our introduction.
The first night we slept under the same roof, we were married.
It's been almost 10 years now with 3 children.

I don't believe cohabitation has any advantage.
I will not advice my daughter to cohabit but my sons can,if they want to.
E get why!

Men's desperation for sex is the reason why they act foolish towards women.

If that guy's mother ask for 20k, he will swear he doesn't have it but for a girlfriend, he wouldn't mind emptying his account to impress her because he wants to sleep with her or is already doing that and intends to maintain her.

It is what it is.

profmallor:
it takes a married woman to open her legs for this sort of things to happen, if some married woman learn to just say no, all this DNA talk up and down wont be necessary.

Yes.. and it takes a man, single or married, to enter.
If a man refuses to enter , even if the married woman is useless enough to open legs, such things will not happen.


The women that men sleep with and use to brag that they are polygamous in nature are in "committed" relationships with other men.

In as much as many women willingly choose to allow men sleep with them,some men even use their position and authority to subdue,coerce,threaten some women into having sex with them.

Eg,lecturer Vs student
Oga Vs housemaid
Boss Vs employee

Even when a woman is vulnerable or in need of help/favour,the only thing a man can use to bring her to her knees is to ask for sex.

If a man buys food or drink(as simple as that) for a hungry woman,she is owing him sex automatically.

I will be glad if DNA test becomes free or easily affordable and accessible.. As Mr A is sending "his child" away ,he will be receiving another child(ren) from outside.

It always takes two to tango.
Both men and women are to blame for this DNA paternity matter.
Always blaming women while exonerating the men who impregnate them is you not being sincere.
Like blaming a married man for cheating but exonerating the lady he is cheating with doesn't make sense. If the man says "give me" and the lady says "NO",the man will not cheat.

Years ago while I was still working in Nigeria,a woman rushed her son to hospital.He was very sick and needed surgery.She couldn't come up with the money,her husband also was broke at that time..A man who also brought his child to hospital saw the situation cornered her and offered to give her the money,but on the condition that he will have sex with her...She even pleaded he should loan her and use her car as collateral but he refused.Out of desperation,she agreed. She got the money and her child had the surgery.When she found out she was pregnant,she came and confided in me ,was convinced the pregnancy wasn't for her husband, requested termination but I couldn't offer her such services because abortion is illegal in Nigeria.I don't know if she eventually terminated it or pinned the pregnancy on her husband.


Sexual immorality and promiscuity have consequences.

Eba50:
at least, 40 percent of women who are married, cheat on their husbands

99.9% of married men cheat on their wives.
And the 40% of married women are cheating on their husbands with men .
It always takes 2 to tango

aswani:
Maybe on this point, you should only speak on behalf of your male relatives. It is a shame that they do this and might be an upbringing issues.

I am proud not to be part of such and know a lot of people that are not. Much more than the one or two that are.

Men will be bragging how polygamous in nature they are and how sleeping around is manly.. but when a woman puts it out to them, they begin to explain and start acting as if it's not true.

Swear that you have never been unfaithful to your partner.
All the men in your family including your father have been unfaithful and a lot are still cheating in their wives.

meobizy:
Children online react to anything. No shock there.

With the name, he should ensure to date another Chioma when time with this one expires. He should continue dating Chiomas then retire into marriage with one. The tattoo no go make sense without another Chioma for him life.

He doesn't need to marry.. marriage is not for men.. he can have a baby mama named Chioma.. it's just to put up an advert and many will apply

Yvngex:
Reality check, your husband dey get enough of it elsewhere but you no fit decode.

That's his business.
He will still go outside no matter how much sex he gets at home, so no need for me to stress myself.
They always step out.

TenQ:
for Then be prepared to receiving visitations of Syphilis, Herpes, Gonorrhea and others at short notices!

I had my 3 children in 4 years.
Since then..no condoms , no sex.
For me,there is no reason to have unprotected sex except for procreation.
I am not a fool.

Women who are having unprotected sex regularly with their husbands are busy treating infections including HIV because these men are still sleeping with other women.

nelsonoba:
That's a bloody lie!! I have been married for 9years and have never cheated! Not even once! And I know several other men like that too. So stop with the lies. If all the men you know are men who always cheat, then something is wrong with the way you choose friends or you may actually be part of the problem. You can't be making male friends from a place like night clubs for example, and then be complaining that all your male friends cheat. Why won't they cheat when you literally got them from questionable places? Now, compare that with a lady who gets her male friends from a genuine church where the pastor and many members practice genuine christianity, even though you will always find a Judas that will still cheat as a supposed-christian, at least 50% or more of the male friends you make from such a circle will NEVER cheat.

Even your pastor is sleeping with the ladies in your church.

LordLicifer:
For you maybe not for me or other people. Sex is food and oxygen

So because you don born finish you no be human again. You can do without it but some of cannot, So rest!

Lol.
I be human being.
If not for pikin, wetin I wan use sex do?
Men and sex sha... You sound so pained.

TenQ:
Except sex is not ALSO a thing for your husband, then he must be
Sex starved
Miserable and
Under punishment till death do you part

He is a man.
They always have options.
They say men are polygamous in nature

[quote author=INTEGRITYA1 post=139836032][/quote]You have a problem with comprehension and that's fine

gassbee:
as u r denying him sex, are you concerned that he is banging someone else

I'm not concerned. I'm more interested in being alive in good health for myself and children and not what an adult man chooses to do with his genitals.
No matter how much sex men have with their wives, they still sleep with other women.
So no need to stress myself.

LordLicifer:
I bet you had sex many times before getting preggas with 3 children. Unless your children were adopted una no dey use sense talk sometimes.

Sex is for childbirth.. yes.
After that, what next? Rest!
Sex is not food or oxygen.
I can do without it.. I don born finish

UnbiasTruth:
My dear, don't you think marriage is not for you? Why do you choose to allow that gentleman man go through all these? It is nothing but wickedness.

The men always go out , no matter how much sex they get from their wives.

So it doesn't matter

GodHimself:
It is, for your husband.

I feel sorry for him.

They always go out.

So it doesn't matter.

Sex is not my thing.
I'm married with 3 children.
Come and beat me .
Everytime sex this, sex that. As if sex is food and oxygen.