₦airaland Forum

Feldie:
no, I will never expect a woman to cover up for a husband who is abusing children. You people just want to demonize and rope men into women's crimes. Men just aren't violent to children, that's women's forte and the talk of the men being complicit is just insane cope because if that were the case the children will say so when the matter gets to the authority but they never do, it's just the women who maltreat children and the men are mostly never around and aren't aware because the child dares not report "madam"

You are not telling yourself the truth.
Men and women are fully aware of the other person abusing a child in their home.
While the men abuse these children sexually and sometimes, physically.. their wives are fully physically abusing the children.

They both cover up for each other .
They are both complacent

dominique:
It's the way you want the husband look like a helpless victim in all these. What makes you think he's also not partaking in the abuse. A man can beat up his wife, his kids but not the help? Puhleeese! In fact, not only is he beating up the child help, he's tampering with her down below too. That's why such men would never want their wives to return the little girls.

You get it
The sexual abuse from the man is even the first thing that happens.
The man is busying digging the child down there while the wife is causing her physical harm..
That's the case all the time.

Feldie:
Should women, whose husbands assault helps also be arrested? I'm not responsible for what an adult human being does. Of course if I noticed she's maltreating a help I will definitely deal with her but it's her crimes, she should be the one who faces the consequences

Yes.. Arrest her! Wives of men who assault helps are usually aware but keep quiet or even encourage it because of obvious reasons.

I have seen and heard women keep quiet and pamper their husbands who sexually abuse their own biological daughters.

It is almost impossible for a man to abuse a child once and his wife is not aware. They usually are,but do not report to the authorities because people like you will still blame the woman for not covering up her husband and saving her marriage,you will accuse her of denying the man sex hence pushing him to abuse little girls.

Husbands are sexually abusing these little girls they use as maids while their wives physically abuse them.

That's why the men turn deaf ears and blind eyes.

Mexyz:
Where in Owerri please?
My current girlfriend is from Owerri, Mbaise to be precise and I heard their bride price no be here o

Are you considering marrying (her)?

Just get a baby mama and you are good to go.

Remember,Men don't have anything to benefit from getting married

So men are still getting married?
I don't want to believe that anyway.

andrealallor:
This is the dumbest comment in this thread.
The person who invites is a host and should be the one paying for dining.

As a person, having money for emergencies is important.

That is what it is logically but times have changed.

Men are saying women owe them sex and they have a right to demand for sex when they pay for their food and drink.

Pay for your bill or decline the invitation and stay at home..

Call it dumb if you like,them go embarrass you tire.

Paying for your food is the honourable thing to do.
A man cannot buy you food without expecting to sleep with you.
It is what it is.
Pay for your food or stay in your house..you will not die.

I paid my bills in every outing with my then fiance,now husband.
Whenever I was low on funds,I decline dates or suggested places I could afford. .

Nothing is free..even your father that's feeding you today expects that you become responsible for him tomorrow.

frankson1:
At 25 years, she should have been old enough to know that a guy who's not ready to father a child should take precautions if he must have sex.

Also, at 25 years, she should have taken precautions since she wasn't ready to have a child. Was she in love, naive or just plain stvpid 🤔🤔


Besides, the way most of you put all the blame on one gender is surprising.

There are ladies who can't stay without or accept celibacy or abstinence before marriage. This is not a gender thing.

How is the blame on one gender? Women have the responsibility of protecting themselves against things like this.
Let them continue sleeping around and without protection,for that matter since sex is food and oxygen.
We are seeing the result in some of them.Who bears the consequences?
Nothing concern man than to cum and face front.

Samking987:
Even with their sexual compability testing how many of their marriage last long?

Don't mind them.
They hide behind sexual compatibility to satisfy their lust.
Few weeks to months into the marriage, they will realise that there is so much more that keeps a marriage than sex.
Besides, as long as the couple involved aree biologically healthy, sexual compatibility is a gradual process and not by premarital sex.

bluefilm:
So unless I marry the girl, I cannot have sexx?

That's total bullcrap

Why not? You can.
There are a lot of wayward ladies around

socoharley:
wisdom!!
I like your reasoning...Are you single and ready to mingle with the right man?
socoharley@gmail.com

I'm sorry.. I'm married with 3 children

If as a single lady, you are allowing a man who is not your husband to sleep with you, you will bear the consequences of all your waywardness alone.
The smart ones will insist on condoms.
The ones with little sense left will end the relationship after one abortion.
But fools will stay back and continue getting pregnant and aborting until nothing is left in their self esteem.
Of course, the guy man will dump them.

When some of us frown at premarital sex,they will say we are pretenders,we are old school..we don't have sex skills,we are not testing sexual compatibility,etc
All are lies that people manufacture just to justify immorality.
Men will mess you up wetin no good if you don't learn to close your legs and stop rubbishing yourself.

baconline:
NDLEA done get more work

You Gerrit.

Be specific.
We know the group of people who do this thing.
They are usually uneducated but want their women to be educated.

TechCapon:
but even these ones that they sponsored through school are not easy to control nah

To an extent, they are better to control.
A man who sponsored you through school can make you stop working easily than the one who didn't .
He can use "I sent you to school" as leverage to maltreat you....

And you will have nothing to say.

You owe him and you will be forced to be loyal.

My dad sponsored my mum halfway through nursing school.
At some point, he didn't want her to work.
He forced her to resign from federal government job she was doing.. After a while, she got tired of staying at home and being at his mercy for the smallest thing money could buy, coupled with the fact that he was physically abusing her.. She got a job in a private hospital but my dad won't have it.
One day, he seized her nursing licence and certificates and set them ablaze, claiming she was almost dropping out when he took over sponsoring her.
My mum and her parents couldn't do anything.
He continued abusing her until she lost one eye and sustained a fracture on one arm.
They separated for a while as she had to seek medical attention.. when she recovered, she returned to her husband's house😀

He still abuses her and she has become used to it.

pocohantas:
By now we should know that is reverse psychology. If they say it loud enough, women would believe it and enter forests to pray for husband. Then do anything to keep him.

Men desire marriage as much as women. They are only more clandestine.

The whole thing is funny..Online,men are not getting married,men have nothing to benefit from marriage.Offline,a lot of men are looking for wives.
I have brothers and male cousins who are desperately seeking marriage .
They keep asking me to matchmake but all my friends are married.
Whenever I post a friend or colleague,I get "Connect me na,Is she married?" ,etc.

pocohantas:
See his strong shiny head.

How do you kill someone because she doesn't want to marry you?

For the same marriage that his gender claim does not benefit them.. and they have nothing to gain from marriage.
Instead of celebrating that the lady refused to marry him, he killed her

TechCapon:
heard the man toiled under the sun and rain to train the girl in school only for her to refuse to marry him in the end. I wonder why men still go through this mumu nonsense of traing a girl through school. What happened to all the girls that already graduated?

Those ones will not be easy to control.
Nothing to use and hold them to ransom

Nigerian men have this mentality that nurses/nursing students are easy lay so it comes as a shock to them when they are denied sex.

It's unfortunate.
RIP to the deceased

femi4:
Where are these women learning to be this wicked

When they suffer wickedness from men, they transfer the aggression to children who are vulnerable.
That's the cycle

kiddaz:

Lol

You will still shame the ones with sex skills and call them names.

Who sex skills epp?

Men just looking for wayward women to cum..

Later, they look for virgins or ladies with the least body counts to marry.

Which sex skill did I have when I got married?

I have 3 children with poor sex skill.
Anything wey pass back for ground, open legs.. count me out.

Nonsense and sex skills

GloriousGbola:
The words you are looking for are gang rape not knack nonsense comot

Nairaland censored it

ARISHEM:
What shocked me was the part they say Qudus only touched her twice when she was tipsy.
Just touch with hand o and not a touch with his preeq. And everything about his life crashed

You don't touch people without their consent.
You need to see how careful people here are, to make sure they do not touch you even when having friendly conversation with you.

If na Naija ehn, food is ready!
confam Group Intimacy immediately.

The guys will pounce on her, take turns to knack nonsense commot from her towtow,brag about it and shame her everywhere including social media.

"See we knacked a female staff at a party"
"After this,who will marry her?"

She no go even fit show face for work again.

Much ado about a phone.
Never liked iPhone.
I don't understand the obsession Nigerians have over iPhone that people spend hundreds of thousands on used phones.
My friends thought I will change my mind when I japa but here I am,still using Samsung Android phone.

Thundafireseun:
The saddest part of the whole thing is that the brightest brains among the doctors have all fled the country....

What we have left are those ones carrying expo in exam Hall that know they can't survive outside the country 😭😭😭

Not true.
Many doctors still practising in Nigeria are struggling with the financial implications of japa.

Additionally, there are many doctors who have gotten licence to practice overseas but yet to secure jobs.. The best graduating student in my class is a resident in orthopaedic surgery and has gotten UK licence.She didn't carry expo in exam hall and can survive anywhere in the world.

uyams:
I understand, just that I feel like she doesnt have a reason for being this mean to me, she is generous to me and do thing's for me cheerfully

How is she being mean to you?
A woman who is not your wife doesn't want you to have sex with her and you call her mean?
Same you that will judge her harshly and shame her with her body count after you succeed in penetrating her.