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kiddaz:
20 whaaatt!!! Lol real definition of wickedness. Instead of giving it to him you prefer solo trips. Well, make I believe say na cruise you dey for this NL

I don't have to lie.
It's what I enjoy that I indulge in.
I prefer using my fingers.
I don't use intimacy gadgets

I'm a lady and i have been masturbating for almost 20 years.. No regrets

Basicend:
Take it easy o. Life and marriage is not all about sex and child bearing.

A woman at 29 may be getting quite old, but she can still bear 1, 2 or even 3 children.
And age refines character, hence some of them have better quality character than the younger ones.

Reaaaaallllly? Hahahaha.
It's still your gender that say women at 30+ are already too old for marriage and to be single at that age means they have bad character.Now you are saying something else.
Na wa oooh

Mrexcell:
You are just talking as if u are God that decides the fate of anyone by calling a human being created by God an evening newspaper women above 50yrs are still marrying and giving birth today so don't talk authoritatively like someone that knows it all.

Joke on you.
Your gender say that women at 30+ are old and tag them as evening newspaper on this forum.

For Nigerian men , especially on social media and worse on nairaland, women at 30+ are not good for marriage.

If op finds out one of his girls has another boyfriend, he will lament and accuse her kf cheating.
Men!

EmekaBlue:
So better remain in the kitchen and stop coming outside okay?!

I left since.. to the UK.
It's not perfect but it's safer here.
I can travel all over the UK day and night ,by any means without fear of kidnapping, bandits, ritualists or even accidents.

Another victim of Nigerian men brutality.

Comments above are already blaming her for hook up ..
Same thing they would have said of the nursing student if the incident didn't happen in her hostel or the culprits were not arrested.

It's well with women in Nigeria.. Very endangered species

Lol.
Tiktok clout chaser.
Content creation don finish her

Toneyo:
I changed my mind in 2015. Some family circumstances made me changed my. How I wish I didn’t. I still regret that decision I made in 2015. It still haunts me to this day.


Things have really gone bad with this country. Wish I have the fund like I did then. APC is a business and growth killer, I swear!

Kai.. Imagine you had left Nigeria in 2015.
Well, never too late.
When there is life, there is hope

Another handiwork of a disgruntled man : either a "toaster" or an ex boyfriend.

Toneyo:
I can fit in immediately. I like cool weather, though I will have to cope with the cold weather in my first few months. I don’t like crowd or noise. I’m balanced (introverted and extroverted), that’s being ambivert.

I can easily fit in the system or in any situation I find myself, provided I have a job and enough food.

You will be very alright.
The cold weather is lovely.
Even during summer, the heat is mild and friendly compared to "hellfire" heat in Nigeria.

We wear thick clothings and there is 247 electricity to use heater unlike in Nigeria, crazy heat , no electricity to use AC.

While in Nigeria, I had very few friends and rarely had visitors over or visited people... After work, I stay home with my family. That's enough.

If you can travel,please do.
Just make sure you are working..
I relocated on a skilled worker visa after 4 years of planning.

Equal2DeTask:
So make we no travel again?



Are you guys regretting your traveling to UK.....?

I have no regrets relocating to the UK.
My only regret is not leaving earlier than I did.

Evergreen4:
Such beast who perpetuate this kind of dastard act should be castrated alive and left to bleed to death. They should watch themselves die. Why take a life you didn't create.

I don't support jungle justice but sometimes it is needed to serve as a warning for those who intend to carry similar act.

Nothing will happen.
He will be released soon.
Na who die, lose... Unfortunately

When this news first broke, I said it : The culprit is a man;a man who couldn't handle rejection.Either a man she outrightly refused to sleep with OR a boyfriend she broke up with.It just had to be a man!

And people including some women were dragging me.

But the truth has come out and I was right.
All of them are now quiet.


Sex is cheap.
Women are cheap.
Men are the prize.
1 million women are rushing 1 man until a woman rejects a man's advances.

I remember telling my classmate in university NO and he wanted to recruit cult boys to lay ambush for me on my way back from night class.Fortunately for me,one of the boys was from my town and said I answered same name as his mother.That was my saving grace.

May the soul of this young beautiful promising girl rest in peace.
As for her killers,lucky them.Before you know it,they are free men again.

Dzzzz:
Why the beef?

Beefing who?

oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

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All these long epistles because of a woman.
Woman oooh.
What happened to patronising OS? That way you don't have to bother about the condition of her house

Dzzzz:
I prefer a lady of 29yrs to all you GenZ girls..

Issalie.
29 years is an OLD woman, by 30 she is already past menopause and most likely not a virgin.

Besides, I'm not GenZ and I'm not a girl.
I was born in the 80s(the last sane generation) and I'm a very old woman.

MarkNsukkaBread:
You're trying to marry a 57year old lady?

How old are you?

You sef.
You wan commot food from his mouth?
57 year old woman , probably a grandmother , is his sugar mummy but she is indecisive in putting him in her will and he is not happy about it.

Tenrack:
This one and her funny takes sef. Lol.

Nairaland taught me

MarkNsukkaBread:
Epic sarcasm

Where is the sarcasm? 😜
Is 29 years old woman not almost an evening newspaper?
Are men no longer the prize?
Can a 70 year old man not marry a 20 year old lady and still have children?

My brother who is 35 years old is still crying over a 33 year old woman.She broke up with him because he was fond of hitting her..So if this OLD woman didn't walk away,he would have considered marrying someone who is already post menopausal instead of going for 18 -20 years old girls.

Imagine ending a relationship at 33 ..She will die single and lonely.

Seyzi:
There is a lady, a friend of mine had been in relationship with for 2yrs now, planning settling down next year, which all of a sudden the lady came up with the issue her mum aren't approving the union later her dad and sisters on the ground of Christianity spirituality and before my friend can gets a hold of it he has been blocked and restricted

My question is how will 29yrs old woman can't decide for herself but My guy really loved the lady, he has invested emotionally from what have seen in the union, if anybody has been in this type of situation before how do you guys manage it

Issalie.
How can your guy love a woman of 29 years that is almost an evening newspaper?
And if her mother says she should find another man, your guy should be happy because men are the prize. At 70,your guy can still marry 20 year old girl but this woman at 29 is already old and wrinkled. No man will want her at this age. Na she go lose.

L1TTLE:
Tell her what again? She don already place me in besty position which i vehemently refused, no time to waste again, we're not in the 20s, and I'm not one of these guys who'd rather be your friend than loose you entirely, make she dey go, i no want any bestie.

If you are the bestie, you can still have sex with her na
.so why the annoyance ? Or are women no longer sleeping with their besties?

Btruth:
Seconded & full supported. Men had suffered enough from some evil women. Imagine a woman had 4 kids for her husband. 3 was for her Pastor while the last one for her husband driver. What do you say to that?

Pastor is a man.
Husband driver is a man.
Man do man

pocohantas:
I doubt there is any country in the world where the govt enforces such. Not even conservative Asian countries.

A child's paternity is a family problem and men, including the ones here can always call for one in their birth and nuclear families. Also start a DNA foundation. Donate to it and use the funds to sponsor men who cannot afford DNA testing.

Govt won't leave healthcare, education, security and other serious issues to fund this at all healthcare levels. Especially when y'all are the ones sleeping with each other's wives. If Nigerian men wanted this _they make up 90% of our lawmakers, they would have gotten it done since 1960.

Well scripted.
Lawmakers will not make DNA paternity test compulsory.
It's a man that impregnates another man's wife.
Nigerian men are proud of being polygamous in nature as if the women they are sleeping around with are not other men's girlfriends and wives.
What goes around also comes around.

papiSNEH:
That's why we want it to end now, so next generation won't experience it.

That's fine.
Men should not think it started with their wives.
Their mothers and grandmothers also played the game.

Godfullsam:
No wahala

This is not a big deal at all.
Any reasonable man should be willing and eager to submit for any kind of test that will justify his pertanity same goes with women.

People born in the 70s and 80s should not have anything to worry about as far as pertanity stuff is concerned.

Are you joking?
Paternity fraud has been on, as long as forever.
Your forefathers saw it and overlooked it.
For some people born in the 70s and 80s,the person they call father is not their biological father.Men didn't bother about it because of tradition(any child born in a marriage where the man paid bride price of the woman automatically belongs to the man), polygamy and also to save face.
Stop playing.
(Great) grandmothers were guilty of paternity fraud.
Social media and civilization only amplified it and created more awareness

buygala:
Yes, only if the new father will submit himself for a DNA test to check if he is truly a son of the man he calls "father"

You can't be a baskad and demanding that your kid shouldn't be a baskad

If a man seeks to question anyone's paternity, it's only sensible that his own paternity be investigated...

Aura for Aura

Lol.. Men don't know that paternity fraud started with their mothers and grandmothers.
They think it's their wives that started it.

jaxxy:
I don't subscribe to toxicity but even if u do for any trauma or experience u faced u shouldn't let it stop u from thinking logically.

if u say women will die single because u won't date them then who will u date? its either u date a man like u or u will also die single too

Team "Men are the prize " don't think like this.

I feel sorry for them... Alpha males online. SIMPson offline.
After bragging and displaying toxicity towards women online, he will be running after a "small" girl offline who may even make a mess of him and he will beg.. lol

jaxxy:
And u too will not die single? What are u bragging about? After all this u will still look for a woman somewhere to marry or bear u kids so?

Either you are not a man or you are new to this platform .. else you won't be surprised with such level of bragging aand toxicity.
And after all of this, men still look for women to marry or bear them kids.
You are right.
One would expect that no man will ever marry a a woman.. lol

Sonofgod1990:
There is no remedy when you cheat
You cheat on me you go your pop c house

And If I cheat on you::
You have to stay with me because na me marry you with my money 💰💰

Stay with you with resentment and bitterness.

There were more widows than widowers in the time past even when men were sole providers.

New generation women are now getting education, working, into businesses and making money like their male counterparts.

Wish you good luck cheating on wife, rubbing it on her face, still sleeping beside her and eating her food.