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The boy looks too smooth and round for a footballer.
Reminds me of Eden Hazard.

Engineerfavour:
She did not make it,but the baby did.
I don't think any woman can replace her in my heart forever

Wife is not your family member .
Wife is very replaceable and can be duplicated.
The most important thing is your baby.
So rest and stop sounding emotional.
Makes you a weak man

Engineerfavour:
My condolences to her husband and family,what I went through because of my wife I will never wish my enemy
She was in coma for 1 month,I spent more than 10 million naira,but I thank God for everything today 🤲🤲

What's husband's loss in this? Wife is not family.
Her demise is a loss to herself , her parents , siblings and most importantly, the innocent babies who have entered this wicked world without a mother.

Husband will remarry ASAP and move on.

A doctor undergoing specialist training in obstetrics dying from obstetrics complications.. in her own very field, in her work place surrounded by her seniors.
Such irony!
She had saved many ,e reach her turn--Disaster!

Why vaginal delivery for triplets?

Immediately I found out I was pregnant with twins, I knew I was going to have an elective CS.
This is so sad , honestly

Wotowotoman:
If you are not hit on by men, it means you are not attractive. Not just unattractive but below average, because even average women get hit on everyday. This is sad but the simple truth

Yes, I am not attractive.
Let me not be attractive.
I enjoy(ed) not being sexually harassed by men and I do not dress or give men the opportunity to hit on me even when I was single,how much more as a married woman?

My husband is the second man I ever dated and he married me within 8 months.
When we met(he was a senior colleague),he asked some of my male classmates about me..and he was told "If you want to sleep with her,she won't agree.It won't work but if you want to marry her,go ahead."

Let attractive women continue to be hit by men.

That's their business.They have strength.

After my first baby, I visited the gym for about 3 months. I joined a group of women who exercised mostly by dancing.
No man approached me ,I didn't approach any man.
I'm very surprised to read that the married women go to gym to bleep.
I have ALWAYS been of the school of thought that men cannot make advances at a woman or flirt with her except she gives them the chance to.Only the thing you allow and tolerate happen.

The only time I remember a man tried such nonsense with me was a patient's relative who sent me his nude picture one night.The idiot wasn't even smart enough to cover his face.
By the time I was done dragging him,he saw his life flash before his eyes like a movie.

Even if they swear for him,he will avoid married women for long ,if not for the rest of his life.

For me, infidelity only occurs in marriage.
And why should anyone date for 8 years?

Bahamas95:
I don't agree with you at all!

Society also label and call men all sort of names when they get to certain age and still unmarried.


* If he's struggling they would mock him that he isn't capable of taking care of himself and he's talking about marriage.


* If he's doing well financially and decides to stay unmarried they'll say he's a ritualist.




Etc

Which society mocks men for not getting married and at what age?

IntelLord:
Social media is vastly different from reality. I have observed that the loud opinions of those "braggers on social media" don't tend to reflect the opinions of the vast majority.

A lot of men don't appear to hold that belief of "nothing to benefit" from marriage. Just some misinformed noisemakers who are not or have never been married. That they shout it daily doesn't mean that the tens of millions of men in real life share the same line of thought.

Surprises me when I see/hear men getting married despite all the bragging on social media.
I have a cousin who is 44 this year, never been married, no children. I honestly thought it was his choice , maybe he was upholding the belief that men have nothing to benefit from marriage. I was surprised when he opened up to me, on how women have disappointed him and right now, he is literally begging a single mother of 2 to marry him but the lady isn't even taking him serious.

onuman:
The no birthday gift to you is the most heartbreaking of the story.
Talk to her and tell her your feelings and see how she responds. Then you know what is good for you.

When I was dating my husband, he never gave me any gift even on my birthday or spent money directly or indirectly on me even when we hang out.. and vice versa.
Everything depends on individuals and understanding.

Flesh10:
Some times are like that. I don't know about others but I had a similar situation with my then girlfriend who is now my wife.

We dated for 8yrs and in the first 6yrs of the relationship I didn't receive anything whether gift or money from her. It was on the 6th year that I received a clothe gift from her which I couldn't even wear because it looked somehow and I told her I wasn't going to wear it because I didn't like it and it was those cheap common shirt they spread everywhere for 3k. So she gave it to her brother.

The following year she got me boxers of 5k which I found funny but accepted.

But the thing there is that she was a good girl, a good manager from a good home who just didn't know how to buy gift or spend money. I even saw that to herself she didn't buy expensive stuffs, she was just ok so long as she looks good, she doesn't mind the cost or quality and she is terrible at surprises.

I looked beyond that and also the fact that whatever you give her she is contented, manages and doesn't even make demands.

On our wedding I spent over 4m all from my pocket without any direct support from her or her people. Even my people didn't even support me but I did it anyways and didn't complain. I looked at where I was coming from sef and where she is coming from, e no really dey and she wasn't working so it's unrealistic to ask her to support anything.

After we got married and she secured a job, the same lady has changed, not drastically but in a good noticeable way. I notice sometimes things finish in the house and she replaces them before I notice.

Yesterday I saw that she bought some foodstuffs in the house without asking me. Sometimes she cooks from her pocket and buys clothes for the kids.

I pay the bills and provide everything we need without asking for support, her salary I don't even look at it. Let her save and have money for herself but she goes the extra mile to ease alot of my burdens when things are needed in the house and I haven't noticed.

The only time she asks is when maybe she is broke but so long as she still has money, she may not even make requests and will just quietly do it or manages whatever I have to provide.


That's why I said, some people are like that. Just look at the family your woman is coming from sometimes how the mother is and also check her overall behaviour if they complement the one that scares you. You cannot have 100/100 sometimes 80 is enough

Very matured take.
But in this case, the op doesn't want to marry the girl.
He is using this as excuse to dump her now.

osuofia2:
44 as how na, Make nna de take this football age of a thing jeje biko

She actually looks good for 44.
A lot of young ladies under 30 already look worn out and older than her

correctguy101:
True.

It's just that most victims allow themselves to be discouraged in pushing for trials.

There's one case my elder sister once spoke about. Where she does business, there's one animal that molests younger boys. According to her, when the animal was taken to the police station, the police men recognized him and simply exclaimed... "You again? "

That was all, he was billed 500k, and after haggling paid a bit less and released again.

People will criticize me for recommending capital punishment later.

Typical.
The police will just collect money and close the case.

CYBERWEAVER:
I am currently planning to get married. I’ve been with my babe for about a year now.

After several consultations, we agreed on a wedding budget of about 3 million Naira.

But I keep asking myself one very honest question: how do I commit that kind of money to someone who hasn’t really shown the same level of effort back, even in something as small as 5k, despite earning a little?


Asin, I never smell her 5k since we started dating.


At this point, it’s not even about the money anymore. It’s about intention, balance, and simple acts of kindness.

Even on my birthday, I didn’t receive a gift from her, and that stayed with me more than I expected.

I’ve never had to deliberately test her money, because genuine care and small acts of giving usually show themselves naturally over time.

To be clear, I’ve been carrying most of the financial weight in this relationship, and there’s hardly anything tangible she has ever done for herself without at least my 50% contribution since we met.

I don’t complain, but I also don’t want to ignore what I’m seeing.

As a responsible man, I’m trying to be honest with myself before I take a step I can’t easily undo.

So I want to ask people who are married or have real experience: if I go ahead and marry in a relationship where this is the current dynamic, what should I realistically expect in marriage?

I’m not trying to assume the worst, but I also believe experience speaks louder than hope.

So despite all the bragging on social media, men are still planning on getting married.
This one wants to spend 3 million naira for the same marriage that they claim they do not have anything to benefit from.
Unbelievable!

I won't bother to get married.

Will do IVF with donor sperm and have 2 daughters.. Face front!

Akerele44:
If man or woman love sex a lot he or she would look old

It's about size.
Anyone with big size will look older than they really are while those with smaller frames will look younger than their real ages.

Funny how it is the opposite for me

In Nigeria, my sleep was poor. I hardly rested.
My husband and I worked multiple jobs. We could go 2-3 weeks without seeing each other.
Morning job, afternoon job, night duty back to back. We suffered sha.

We relocated to UK and things improved.
I work 9-5 Monday to Friday . No weekends. No holidays.
He works on some weekends but there is enough time to rest and sleep.

Na for UK we started adding weight,eating better, looking fresh and younger.

Everybody's story cannot be the same.
UK over Nigeria everytime.

Gerrard59:
Most Nigerian women believe their pastors over their male relatives and even husbands. If I were a dishonest and crafty person, I will easily become a pastor and target women. I will make so much money and enjoy myself sexually. It's so easy to deceive our women by being an acclaimed man of god🙄

When women like me don't go to church or tolerate any pastor around, people say we are de.mons.. agreed.
None of my 3 children have I taken to any church for a pastor to pray for in the name of child dedication. They are alive in good health and doing very well.
I and my family do not and will not attend any church home and abroad.
99% of Pastors in Nigeria and even overseas would take advantage of women,given the opportunity.

correctguy101:
I trust the NPF, dem don rush give am "eye glasses"... Dem for give am "sweet lick" too ... So that the mouth go dey bloated.


Òní yéyé ..

They won't do anything.
The police is somewhat lenient to rap.ists in Nigeria

Angelfrost:
Well, over 50% of them won't be in the UK for starters, if we developed this nation in all aspects.

A doctor in the UK doesn't fear for his life everyday he goes out to work... Nor does he get harassed regularly by law enforcement or the military.

I know Japarians that relocated solely for the sake of safety.

The fact that I can travel all over UK at anytime of the day or night by any means without fear of being kidnapped or attacked by bandits is enough.

And Yes, I am happy to be a doctor in the UK.

I am HAPPY and PROUD to be one of the doctors in the UK.

laivwire:
Really. Please know what you talk about before you talk. My grandparents had to separate when over 8 kids were lost to SS. My mum was the only survivor with AS.

Leave him.
His type believe in ogbanje or abiku.

Edi4real87:
Please flush that advise. I only pity the poor child and the mother. From experience, only mothers sleep with their SS children in the hospital when in crisis.
Do the needful please. AS + AS is a wrong combo.

Very true.
You will hardly see the fathers.
They become overwhelmed and run away leaving the women to suffer

grandstar:
God hates abortion.

But God doesn't hate premarital sex

fixzycode:
Hello Nairalanders, my friend got a lady pregnant and later discovered that both he and the lady's genotype are AS. Now he is confused because the lady is suggesting abortion but he is not In support of that.

He is confused because he don't know if the child will turn out SS but he wants to give luck a chance. Those with experience please advise.
Thank you for your attention to this matter.

If that lady knows what is good for her, she better aborts the pregnancy and move on.
If that child turns out to be SS, this your friend abi na you sef will run.
We have seen so many men who have disappeared leaving the sick children to be cared for by their mothers.
As a medical doctor, I will not advise my enemies to take this risk.
Wicked adults bringing innocent children to suffer and die in pain

I shared this link to white woman who keeps asking me why Nigerians are still producing SS children.

Nigeria has the highest burden of SS worldwide and it's not ending soon.

Better to say "He left me because I refused to have sex with him" than "after having sex with me, he left me".

The only thing a man can use to "rubbish" a lady is the fact that he fvcked her.

Nothing else.

You are proud to admit that you patronise hook up girls but condemning single mothers.
There is no difference between you and them.
Even your fellow men don't support your promiscuity

Olufemiolaolu:
I was 33 plus she was 32 plus

Husband of evening newspaper

mankan2k7:
I have been married for 15 years and still enjoying it. My wife is a senior Lecturer while I work with a reputable public hospital. I am really enjoying my relationship cause I have achieved alot? If u married wrong, it is not my fault deal with it.

Nyen yen yen yen...
I thought you men say you don't enjoy marriage, you don't benefit anything from it. How come you have been married for 15 years and enjoying it.
You are a liar.

capetownboyz:
how do you feel having four kids with different women and not still feel like you are married ? Cause I feel what makes a marriage is being responsible to yourself,your wife and kids and with this instance you got 4kids in picture .so in some kind way if you are married but act single ..

He should be feeling good.. real G.
"Have baby mamas, don't get married", that's what is advised on social media especially this platform