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essentialone:
single ladies, must every relationship be about marriage?

Definitely not.. that's why some ladies reject marriage proposal. They do not want that particular relationship to lead to marriage.

teepain:
Unfortunately, it seems like there was no court marriage in this case. Because, I have only read about their traditional marriage.

Men don't like court marriage so that their wives does not have a share of their properties , if the marriage goes south.

So men are still kneeling to propose..
This one even got rejected and embarrassed in public.
He wants to marry a woman,a Nigerian woman for that matter mMarriage that men have nothing to benefit from but the gender who benefit everything from marriage turned him down.
See painment.

Elvis2kay:
Why are Nigerians men falling for all this nonsense..

Because Nigerian men lack self control when it comes to sex.
Use sex as a trap, 99 % of Nigerian men will fall for it including religious leaders that are held in high esteem.
They always see sex as a trophy,a sign of masculinity, something to brag about irrespective of who they sleep with including those who patronise prostitutes, those who are unfaithful to their wives, etc.
They brag that they are polygamous in nature.
They celebrate having multiple sexual partners.

Unfortunately,in the UK,there is no hunger.A man who is used to getting women over some few naira notes or a plate of food or even a simple favour in Nigeria will find it difficult to find willing adult females in UK.
Hence, a lot of them try with underaged girls who are just out there to satisfy their curiosity.

Another guy will immediately end all communication with that girl on hearing she is 13 but not a Nigerian man...Baba even said it's not possible.
In his mind,he will sleep with a 13 year old child..His Trophy!

Ehya..
Baba thought he was in Nigeria where hd could sleep with a child and be given a pat on the back, even brag about it on social media while the child gets blamed and shamed.
Here, it's different.
You cannot have sexual relations with a minor and go scot free.

Sonnobax15:
. Na lie . The truth is that she couldn't handle the different sizes of ships and vessels that were passing through her strait of Hormuz

Btw,let's come to think of it,So if not for the fact that she later discovered the high cost of feeding and rent,she wouldn't have returned abi?

Well,it's left for the man to be man enough to send her back to where she went to . If not,such thing is bound to happen again, definitely when things become cheaper and affordable at the other end,where she'll be heading to

Fear women

He will not be man enough to send her back.
There are so many weak men out there in real life.
Most men only exhibit toxic masculinity on social media.
Offline, they are weak!

Yes..
50 years is still very young
It's never too late for a man

Ikennaford:
Wachu mean,,, is he more than that? Niqqa this guy looks 35 not even 39,,wish him good and oluwa will bless and open doors for you

How does Mikel look 35?
He looks early to mid 40s

For the same sex that men want everyday, this one seee sex , run.. now crying.
.this life no balance.
Such a simp

Spuggie:
Please , learn to take correction and stop misleading the public.

I am a consultant radiologist and I believe I have earned the right to educate you on my area of specialty. A Radiologist is a medical doctor that have completed his residency training in Radiology while a radiographer is someone who studied a 5 year course of which you obtain or awarded a BSc after completing the course

@FreeStuffsNG continue arguing blindly.
It's one thing to lack knowledge, it's another thing to refuse to be wise

No be you dem dis virgin during your final year in university

And so?

FreeStuffsNG:
I actually thought I can cure your ignorance ni. Smh.

Go and beat them and withdraw their accreditation nah. This is the same ignorance your ilks once peddled about Public Health, Medical microbiology etc.

Please do not derail this tread with your ignorance. There is B.Sc Radiology as single course then Radiology and Imaging as double major.

You can be rude all you want but you cannot study Radiology as a first degree course.
It's Radiography.
A radiologist is a MEDICAL DOCTOR who has a first degree in Medicine & Surgery before proceeding to do residency/specialist training in Radiology.

There is no Bsc Radiology as a single course.
You have to be a medical doctor to even be a radiologist.

Public health is available as a first degree course.
However, Medical Microbiology is not.
You must be a medical doctor first, then go to specialize in Medical Microbiology & Parasitology under Faculty of Pathology.

FreeStuffsNG:
Nursing is his choice. OP stated it, please refer to it so you will not confuse others.

He can write JAMB again or consider changing choice of institution to one with lesser standards of admission criteria for nursing. The issue with that is that we know why he ended up studying nursing in such mediocre schools.





There is B.Sc Radiology.


I wonder why you are ignorant of the information yet type authoritatively with ignorance. Smh.

All these things are basic knowledge nah. You can study Radiology and obtain B.Sc Radiology.

There is no Bsc Radiology in Nigeria.
Radiology is not a first degree basic course.
He can go to India , that's where you got the information on BSc Radiology from.

Again,to study Radiology,you must be a medical doctor first..then go on to do residency in Radiology.

You can insult me all you wish but it is what it is.
That's why some of you end up in wrong institution ls,studying courses without accreditation

MightyThunder:
Radiology is the best choice, please. It is a professional course, and there's a high probability of you being employed after schooling.

The rest are virtually irrelevant in terms of employment.

He has to be a medical doctor first before studying radiology.
Or it's Radiography, you meant?

Radiology is not basic medical course.
Radiography, it is.

You MUST already be a medical doctor before you can SPECIALISE in Radiology. This takes another 5-6 years

MiamiLord:
Soo money just make this twins become enemies.

Na waoo.

God punish APC and it supporters

Money ke? I thought they said it was women (their wives) that made them become enemies

placeofallure:
I get your sarcasm now. Men are the prize

Men are the real prize.
Abi isn't that what they tell us?

chyima:
They have been married for over 3yrs,they joke alot if u follow them on their pages you would be amused with their love.

Love indeed.
The man is on social media now crying like a baby

Offpoint:
she's older than the guy I have proof

She still dumped him and married another guy who is probably also much younger than her

Viralkid:
I pray the marriage don't end this way.

Hahahaha.. it has ended worse

funnyDM:
No sister. I got to settle down soon.

And I hope by that, you don't mean marriage cos marriage is not for men o.
We have agreed on social media esp this site that men have nothing to benefit from getting married

bukiah:
Dey mumu unaself
Men can marry at 70. Then wait till 70 before you marry and see how useless your life will become.
So who will help you take care of those children you give birth to in old age?.

Na Una dey brag say men don't grow old.
Only women age.
A 70 years old man is younger than a 30 year old woman.
A man can marry even in his grave at 100 years and still have children.
He will marry 7 wives under 25 years to take care of the children..
It's always a win for men

Ashirioluwa:
I do believe that I do not know about how she lost her virginity. Additionally, I understand that sex and love do not always correlate. But what I know is that I will not allow anyone to deceive me.

I am not crazy as to whether a girl is a virgin or not because I myself am not a virgin. However, I have decided that if a lady is not a virgin, she cannot ask me to wait until marriage for sex. I am not going to buy that from her, and I would prefer not to hear her elaborate explanations regarding her past and how she lost her virginity.

The solution will be to go our separate ways.

..which is very fine.
A lot of guys I met went their ways.
I didn't feel bad about it. I didn't beg any of them.
Your stand is valid.

Kenobsky:
And the good news was that you are not a virgin.

I didn't need to be a virgin to decide what I wanted to do with MY BODY,who I wanted to share it with,how and when I wanted to.

79733139:
If all what you have written are true, and with the tone of your writings, you aren't really sexually attracted to your husband (I mean the type where you just want to get bûtt nàked and make love spontaneously to your man) and he doesn't really know how to seduce women. You marriage seems to be 100% logical... which is usually the case when women don't have high sexual attraction for their husbands.

The most important thing is that I have children and I'm happy.

YoshihideSuga:
This is fair enough, but to realise that you're the same woman who refuses to have raw sex with her husband and even deny him sex is surreal.

I'm done with child bearing.
I cannot risk being infected with incurable diseases.
Married men, especially,are not faithful.

Negroid001:
Lol. You did not marry as a virgin. You dey give advice. What you gave out for free in your final year, one sharp guy chop you for free, you come dey give standard wey you no match up to.

You're a comedian.

Yes, I didn't not marry as a virgin and I'm proud of it nevertheless ,that the second man who saw my unclothedness was my husband.

You don't know my story, so continue laughing at my comedy.
Clown!

gassbee:
did u sleep over at his place during courtship

No
Visited him twice.
Once in the company of a couple who were mutual friends.
The other time was alone,after our introduction. Spent few hours and went home.
I lived alone, he never visited me in my house.
The few times he visited me was either in my parents' house or at an older cousin's house

Gotocourt:
That Gee really wanted to marry you 😍 but dude was relieving elsewhere 🤷🏿.

As long as he was not using me to relief himself.
Because even if I allowed him to, he would still sleep with others if he wanted to. Then , if I catch him, he will proceed to rub it on my face, boast about it and mock me.
Shame and low self esteem will finish me.
I will begin fighting other ladies .. "Leave my man alone" gang
All that drama,not for me please.

Negroid001:
What if you were not sexually compatible?
Were you a virgin?

In my opinion, there is nothing like sexual incompatibility for adults who have no medical /health issues. Fornication does not confirm sexual compatibility,it's a mindset thing.
Men will say they are testing sexual compatibility by sampling different ladies ,then turn around to shame ladies for having high body count.Lol

Secondly, I wasn't a virgin. Despite, maintaining sexual purity all through my teenage years till early adulthood,I lost my virginity in my final year in university in a painful and heartbreaking manner. It took a great toll on me and I had to see a psychologist.

Thankfully,I was able to overcome the bitter experience and graduated.

I met a lot of guys who didn't agree to "No sex, No spending" and after few weeks of talking / hanging out (which I always paid my bills to avoid them feeling entitled to sleep with me),the friendship will die a natural death...and I will move on quickly...No tears,you no waste my time,you no chop me.

marlow1962:
Is 8 months not too soon to date and get married. I feel a year and half or 2 (max 3 years) is okay.
So many ladies can be on pretence mode for that 8 months or 1 year.

6 months is more than enough to date and marry for someone who wants to marry.

It's different from people who want boyfriends and girlfriends.Those ones can go on with their 5-10 years or more relationship,studying their partners like undergraduate and master's degree combined.

Good luck to them

Julibet:
I'm surprised you were not angry with his clap back because once a man says no spending, ladies immediately blackmail them and say 'if you love someone, you'll want to take care of the person'

Why should I be angry?
I had met guys who didn't agree to "no sex" even when I accepted they should not spend on me.
Finding someone who agreed to my condition was perfect.
I was working and spending on myself.
I didn't just want to be passed around in the name of relationship.