Will not stop Nigerian nurses and doctors with proper qualifications who have passed the necessary exams and registration with the UK council from migrating.

Also,singles using the school route will always be welcomed.


Japa continues

But men will never cease to be funny.

Same people who claim marriage doesn't benefit them are getting married.
Instead of being happy that he is free ,he is feeling traumatized.lol

Despite 7 women rushing after them,they still feel bad and emotional if one woman dumps

Just crazy

But the baby is a carbon copy of OBJ.
Very ugly

Jewessgratitud3:
I just thought to share and again it's no bodys business what I share about myself here. I chose to do it and don't care if it sits well with anyone or not. My life, my share .

I'm sharing this just to let some ladies know that being a widower doesn't break a man and will not stop him from being an unrepentant cheat if he wants to. I used to think a widower will be more responsible and loyal to one woman considering the fact that he's now a second hand value bachelor and the death of his former wife will make him get closer and more committed to his spouse, home and family at large but I was wrong cos after my experience with one, I realized men will always be cheat men.

This happened in 2013 after staying away from relationships for a long time. So I joined Badoo ( it was the rave then, though I joined in 2012). A young man ( in his 40s then) chatted me up and I checked his profile. There he stated that he was looking for a lady for serious relationship and added he was a Christian. He was also looking very handsome and tall. We chatted and exchanged numbers.

When we got talking he told me he was a widower. It was hard to believe because he looked very young. He now told me he married very early. He went ahead and told me he has 6 children 👀👀👀. I didn't believe until he showed me their pics. 4 girls and two boys. He said the wife kept having children because she wanted a male child and died after giving birth to the last child, a male. She got home from the hospital after childbirth and started bleeding immediately and was rushed back to the hospital but never made it back. Meanwhile he was not in the country when this happened.

This made me have compassion and developed feelings for him. After a few months of inviting me over, I finally agreed to visit after he assured me the elder sister is staying with him to look after the baby ( he was already a year then but was not walking). He never liked the boy because he was always saying the boy caused his wifes death and each time the baby boy sees him, he'll be screaming due to the way he looks at the baby and I'll be telling him to stop, teasing him that it's him the boy resembles. So when I visited for the first time, I was shocked at what I saw. He actually owns the house he was living in in Sango. He built it when the going was good but after the wife's death, he came back and stayed for a whole year without a job. He just got the job he was doing as a hotel manager when I met him and his take home was not good at all. So to maintain the big house was a challenge. He could barely feed his kids. Even the two older ones were not with him. They were living with his brother just to ease him of the burden. when the sister saw me, she got angry and told him that he has not finished taking care of his children he's bringing in another lady. He told me to ignore the sister and face him. If I go there, I'll cook and serve everybody because he was always complaining of not having money but sometimes he'll give me part of the money I used.

Initially the children didn't like me and he said I should be buying them snacks. So then if I close from work, I'll go and meet him at his office and we'll go home together. I bought snacks and the children reluctantly collected the snacks. He went to work on that Saturday and I gathered the children and started telling them stories. They began to come close. When he got back he drove all of us to a football viewing center and bought me pepper soup. I thought I had found the right man. I was even saying I don't need to birth any children since he already has six. We'll just stay with his own children ( lol . small girl sense). He would tell me no, that he wants me to give him a beautiful daughter like me.

Six months into the relationship, I noticed something in his room while he was away at work. I saw a foreign prison card in his jacket I now began to connect the dots. I remembered him saying he was away when the wife died and while she was pregnant, he had problem abroad. So she developed BP. He even told me he wasn't around when his house was built that the wife supervised the whole thing before he now had a problem but be never told me what the problem was. I then discovered with the prison card, he was prolly in jail all that time. I didn't ask him anything.

Later he started telling me there's this single mother that has been begging him to marry her and she buys him stuff. I was like marry her now afterall two of una na second hand value. He'll laugh and say God forbid. That he wants chassis. The lady buys him and his children stuff. At a point I told him to stop collecting the gift or risk our relationship. He promised to stop.

One day he was sleeping and i was just going through his phone ( I never used to do that) and saw "my love". My head sparked. I woke him up with a heavy slap and showed him, he started saying its you I love. I said no! Tell me who this Is.. then I began to cry because I just knew it was over. He started begging and called his Aunty into the room. The aunty said the person is a family. I said call her. He now called the number and an elderly woman picked and he started telling her that I'm crying my eyes out here because I saw a message he sent to her. The woman spoke with me but I wasn't convinced. Throughout that night, he played "please forgive me' Brian Adams. hmm.. feeling nostalgic now. I calmed down and we continued.


After some months my chairman sacked me because I refused to go out with him and told him I'm in a relationship. After I lost my job I reduced my visits because bus fare from mainland to Sango was quite expensive and he too could not sponsor my visits regularly due to so much financial responsibilities and since I had been the one doing it when I was working. It became a once in a while thing.

Then one day, he told me to come to his office let's go home that he has missed me. I asked him, do you have money he said we'll manage. This man did not tell me we were going by train ( chai things we do for love) from his office we set out to oshodi. This man put head for train lane. I said waaaat t... I almost went back but it was already getting dark. I entered train for the first time. See me shaking. He had to hold me before one man now stood up for me to sit. Because it's been a while I've been to the house, when we got home, the aunty said you'll not stay in one place. Today you carry this, tomorrow you carry another one. I told him what the sister said and he told me not to mind her. In my mind i was like... see this second wen I dey manage too wan dey play ... I kept asking until he now confessed that the Aunt was referring to the other single mother that the lady has been forcing herself on him but it's me he wants. There and then I zeroed my mind.

After that visit, as we were going that morning, we quarreled on the way because the vehicle we borded got spoilt plus I wasn't happy after hearing what the sister said. So I was just edgy that morning and blasted the driver and some of the passengers. He got angry and left after trying to get me off the bus and I refused, saying I should run after him cos he's running late for work. I was just looking at him. I didn't get down. I waited for him to go far, I now got down and took another route to my house.

I didn't call for a week and refused to pick his calls because whats the point killing myself over a widower with six children who has refused to stick with one woman. When I eventually picked, it was my guy ( now ex) who told me to pick in the bus that day we were going to camp and he was chyking me. Oga kept calling and as usual I ignored him but the sound was disturbing our conversation so my gy told me to pick and hear him out. I picked and he was crying and put all his children on the phone to beg me. He said they are missing me and one of them is sick. I said ok, I'll call you later. That was it. I blocked him. Went to Badoo and blocked him there in fact I deleted my Badoo account. Deleted his number and ended the whole thing..

Men will always be men

Modified

When I said all men are the same what I'm simply implying is, whether they are poor, rich, widower or handicapped they will still cheat or have that tendency to cheat. Take it or get lost!

A man's vulnerability doesn't stop him from exhibiting those bad habits (cheating and deception). They'll will always do that thing that make us call them meennnn... If you know what I mean and if you don't Gerrit, forget abourit. .

You wanted to get married to a widower with 6 children? And even thought of not having a child yourself?

Some of you ladies are unbelievable!

SAMBARRY:
Smh

Are prostitutes on strike or are their services no longer available?

Why will you leave willing women and go forcefully have carnal knowledge with someone not Interested in you.a teenager for that matter?

As nigeria worst reach,as moral decadence don sky rocket with pretentious church/mosque going people,you will still see some mothers pimping their teenage daughters for runs/prostitution even with Mary Amaka gown and big hijabs

It's not about having se .X

It's about humiliation and boost of male ego

There is nothing else men in this part of the world can use to humiliate women except having sex with them,even if forcefully

folake4u:


Lol.

They don't ever listen. In their silly minds "Na Oyibo dey rush Nigerian men" yada yada.

I'm for many of them cooling off in jail, so that we fit dey differentiate men from MEN.

You mean...Most desirable men on earth? Lol

Not for everyone, though.

I don't like craft....

I rather work ,make money and pay people to do all that for me.

My side hustle is additional 20 hours a week part time job.
T for tenks

1Sharon:
Well well well. Fresh off the boat.

I'm sure before moving to the UK, he had fantasises about white women that would rush him, only to end up as a rapist.

Exactly!

Team "White women love Black men"

He was believing stuff he read on nairaland,only to approach a white lady and she ignored him.
He thought he was in Nigeria where they easily forcefully have sex with women and get patted on the back while the victims are blamed

Hungerbadoo:
This is not good at all. May her soul rest in peace. I pity for the children wey she left behind. Poor kids

Their father's new wife will show them shege banza

The woman is not ready to leave.

He beats you but you born 5 children.

Mumu ...
You really deserve to be beaten

Anambra?
Their fathers have used them for money rituals

Free2Fly:


This is where you guys always get it wrong

Well,you can't blame me

I married a kind man.
My husband is very simple,soft spoken and humble man.
He may not rich but he is not poor.
We are just doing fine.

Even though,I still find it very difficult to be completely into him,for fear that he will start taking advantage of me and maltreating me.

She no die well.

Zero pity.

As usual,she had 4 children.
Women in abusive marriages are often very fertile.
The least number of children they have is 3

maxiuc:


Beat up my sister we go come your house give you serious flogging

If you are tired of the marriage send her home

Your sister will even join her husband to fight you
Or report you to elders that you want to kill her husband.

There is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
Women love their abusers.
Women love to remain married,no matter what . especially those who are churchy
Best thing is to advice her..Let her make her choice.

KingOfTheDamned:
Nigeria should be number one but most divorces happen out of courts with the husband and wife living in the same house like strangers

Or the man unofficially abandons the wife with the children and takes off with another woman

fullclub:


and i have 12 months to complete a programme. i have over 9000 pounds to pay as school fees.

the 3000 dollars i came with is almost exhausted. on expenses trying to settle in

school on my neck

i have a friend in Middlesbrough whose school wants to throw out this month end if he didn't pay some percentage of fees by month end

No need to complain and rant..Return to Nigeria ..the land with so many job opportunities

Unseen:


So you believed someone can have HIV for a whole year without severe symptoms

I don't want to go into the brainwashing WHO has been dishing out about this illness

Yes..As a matter of fact,many HIV positive people don't have symptoms and are diagnosed incidentally during routine medical checks,antenatal visits or attempts to donate blood.

At the initial stage,they may some flu like symptoms which in Nigeria is usually assumed to be malaria.
(This is the seroconversion stage)

Later on,they can be asymptomatic (dormancy stage) for years especially for people who do not have underlying conditions such as diabetes, malnutrition that can suppress their immunity.

Some may have intermittent on and off febrile illness ,feeling of unwellness,tiredness which they will keep taking antimalarials for.

When the virus continues to replicate and overwhelm the immune system,they start to develop subtle symptoms that are suspicious of immunosuppression..This can take many years.

And gradually,the person develops AIDS.

My knowledge and experience as a medical doctor.

honour7:
Let her go with the baby and marry a new wife, there is an 85 percent chance you have lost her

His problem is gone.
He should be happy.
Why marry a new wife when marriage doesn't benefit men?

macphilip:
HIV is overhyped and overrated.
Innocent people with cancer, will pray to switch diseases if possible.

Be a man!!!

HIV,itself,is a major risk factor for cancers.
Immunosuppression...Opens door for every other type of disease

drimzsmoke:


So ask yourself, if you should do it and it turned out positive, would she still marry you... Tell her you're not doing it and that's final!!!

With proper counselling and education,they can still get married if the Op is positive.
HIV is not a death sentence.
There are many scenarios where one partner is positive,the other is negative.
They are called Sero discordant partners.

Let him get tested.
Early diagnosis is always the key to managing chronic diseases.
Ignorance is not an excuse.
NOBODY should get married without HIV test.
Every pregnant woman at antenatal MUST be screened for HIV

Unseen:
Have you ever wonder about the possibility of having HIV for a whole year without symptoms but ordinary malaria will take you down in days...

I don't believe one can have hiv for a whole year without symptoms.

Op just relax... Nothing do you

Some malaria symptoms are seroconversion stage of HIV or sign of immunosuppression.m due to HIV.

Let him get tested

The woman is funny.

When you marry a man who has been married before,you should know that the ex-wife is never completely out of his mind,even if she was a "bad" woman.

If this man's first wife was alive,he would still be knacking her codedly.
She died,yet he can't let go completely.

As for me,men that I cancelled out of my life ..
Previously married and single father

I must be your first wife
My first child must be your first child
I can't deal with baggages from your previous relationships

KillIgbohoN0W:
Since when did it become illegal to have sex?

It's illegal to have sexual relations with your patients

Daystar7:


I don't really care about you or husband but what Iearnt from this ur statement is that men are nothing but problem bearers to you people, the same Man 'll be somewhere killing himself to make you happy and this is what he gets? So asides the whack fairly used tilapia smelling pussy you give him what else is his gain? Men make una shine una eyes ooo, na we dey make this idiots use us shine cos tell me what we really gain from this gender?

You are so pained.
The only option you have left is suicide.
You don't gain anything from women but you can't live without them.
Who is the idiot? Fool.ish boy

Jennyclay:
Rip to the departed soul

Over my dead body would I give my money to a man in the name of Love! God forbid it !! .

Take it or leave it, A man should do the spending. If he can’t spend on me let him go to hell for all I care.

Biko, the scammer should be caught and sentenced to life imprisonment or death ASAP!!

My sister..this is 5 years of marriage..I still find it very difficult to give my husband money.

But the man looks younger and fresher than her.

She looks 60+ and too skinny

MissSlimbody:


They don't give certificate of death, if the person wasn't on admission in the hospital up to 24hrs before the death.


I didn't know this until last year, when I lost my brother.

They will give a note to allow deposition of the body in the mortuary,even if the person was brought in dead and was never a patient in the hospital

Segzy19:
This is naija o.
All these grammar wey you dey type no dey follow o

It follows,that's the normal thing.
I certified many brought in dead cases while working in Nigeria..
It's not a big deal

iswallker:


Because he died in his house - not the hospital...

Even if someone dies outside the hospital,the body can be taken to the hospital, especially a govt facility.
It will be reported as a case of BID

Police report for what exactly?

When someone dies, the hospital where the person died or was taken to already dead ,issues a notification/certificate of death,for the body to be deposited in a mortuary.

What did Baba need police report for?