superCleanworks:
22 whole years. Some people will come here to shout IVF but they forget that it doesn't work for everybody.
I Thank God for them

It's IVF,no matter how you want to look at it.
Male factor infertility, actually.
Nigerian men only stay in a childless marriage for long when the cause of the infertility is from their side.

With a donor egg and donor sperm,IVF works.
Besides,you don't know how many times they tried .

22 years is a very long time for natural conception to have occurred.

So calm down.

beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

Lol..
Women can marry anything.

They marry sick men and later start complaining.

You saw a man with some mental challenges..Instead of running for your life,you married him.
That was how one of my friends married a man who had SS genotype.
They spent a greater part of their marriage in the hospital before he eventually died within 2 years of marriage,living her with nothing

Felimax:
I love my wife so much, she was just one in a billion.

The way we started and the dreams and projects ahead of us will not allow us to get deterred by our same genotype.

We are both AS and right now we are blessed with an angel and three handsome princes.

My sister rejected her AS genotype husband to be and ran after an AA genotype man who she later married bad as it is they have been married for like six years now but no child.

My marriage of seven years is blessed with four kids already.

Bottom line - go to your God and talk to Him about it.
PLEASE DON'T SHOUT, DON'T SHOUT when you are talking to your God. If you shout you will hardly hear Him talking to you..

He will tell you your next line of action. Marriage is of God not man.

Throw the NON away and keep the SENSE.

If what you are saying is true.
If you and your partner did not take any precaution to avoid having an SS child..
It only means that 2 or more of your children are not biologically yours.
A DNA paternity test will send you to an early grave.

Don't attempt it.
Live in your ignorance.
Your wife is way smarter than you are.

edoman2016:
I never knew being AS genotype can be a hindrance when it is time for me to get married. I am 35 years. All the ladies that I love and have good emotional connections with them are all AS genotype too. So it means having a relationship that can.lead to marriage has no prospect.

Are the AA ladies getting scarce or what? I just don't understand. I am beginning to get worried of my AS genotype as it is affecting my plans of settling down.

Why are you worried about marriage (at only 35 and as a man)?
Marriage is for women.
Men don't need to marry.
Men have nothing to gain in marriage
Rest!

cutecommend:
I support No-Sex till marriage, but there are concerns about this ideology in this present dispensation..
What No-Sex in Marriage means especially in this generation..

(1) It means No-Sex with my partner because I want to marry him or her, but I will be having sex with other people or my EX.

(2) It may mean No-Sex with you, so that I can benefit certain nice things from you, and because if you sleep with me, you may stop doing the nice stuffs..

(3) It may mean No-Sex with you because I don't like you nor see a future with you, and will dump you when the right person comes.

(4) It may mean no-sex with you, and no sex with anyone else because I don't want sex with anyone at all; whether I love them or not.

(5) It means, no sex with you and no sex with anyone else, because I love you, and I want to make the relationship clean before I marry you.

It was number 4,for me.
I did it to ensure nobody messes me up.
Nothing like chop and clean mouth.
Had such experience in my first relationship and vowed never to have sex with any one except my husband..and so it was.
No regrets

haybhi1:
Way to go. Tinubu isn't considering us. These flagrant policies aren't what I voted for when I voted him.

This is the beginning of thunder that will fire you and your generation unborn.

You haven't seen anything yet

It still amazes me why anyone would spend so much studying overseas,only to return to Nigeria to hustle for a licence to practice.

Penny wise,pound foolish venture

Alwayshungry:
MAY OUR PARENTS NEVER BURY US.. 😭😭.

Read the painful tribute of a heartbroken mother on the death of her twin sons.

May their soul find rest in the bosom of Abba.
Ameen.
😭😭😭

The pity I felt for her died immediately I saw that they were uniformed men.

Heartless people.
Dem no die well

Morbeta11:


https://dailytrust.com/spotted-akeredolu-in-hospital-with-wife/

After everything,when they are old and sick,it's their wives who stay with them.
Not side chics

Wealthoptulent:


She hear name, but milli no allow am reason, obviously 'renewal went wrong'.. na ritual e do wey claim say him win BET

Many of these so called punters for twitter,their hands no clean.

One day,we go know wetin dey give Ekitipikin that money he is flaunting.
It's definitely not betting

Stingy man...I have my own money.
If he doesn't provide,I and my children will be fine.

But womaniser? Hell No! He will infect me with (incurable) STDs

Beremx:
A doctor attending to over 80 patients? With the level of migration of our doctors, patients will be the one treating one another

It is well o!

When I worked in a govt hospital in Rivers state..If I attend to less than 60 patients a day,it means I didn't do anything that day

I was always worn out.
Glad I relocated abroad ooh.

I honestly feel bad for sick people in Nigeria

KingintheNorth:
Guys I'm asking for a friend , if you are based abroad and earn 2.5 million naira after tax, what would you invest in Nigeria??

Nothing..
I will save the money and invest in whatever I like abroad.

LegallyBlunt:
Good day everyone. For a couple of weeks now, there has been issues where I worship.

Mostly between the Pastor and his assistant (presently former assistant). They had a falling out, which escalated to a point where the assistant stopped his duties.

Now, I managed to ask questions about the issue and the Pastor gave his version. I also got to know about the assistant's version.

However, here's the issue - they're not in speaking terms! Isn't that malice? Isn't that dangerous, and a deviation from what Christians ought to do? Are they not in danger of hell and manipulation from the devil and agents of sin?

What's even more painful is that the church just continues like there's no issue on ground. It's sad, really.

Stay away from church and have peace of mind.

Your so called pastor and his (former) assistant are definitely quarrelling over the pu.si of a chorister,usher or a married female member

jubrilELsudan:
WON'T BE SURPRISED IF THEY WERE BOTH LOVERS

I swear..my thoughts exactly

I know this man and his wife(an arrogant and very saucy consultant paediatrician)...Life has humbled her,indeed.

Maybe the dead church member was his girlfriend.
He couldn't bear the loss of kitten..and had to die to continue knacking her .

All these so called paparazzi god of men

I had an accident ,my car was terribly damaged.
I overheard her tell another colleague at work that she is happy I sold off my car as scrap.
At least,I will trek and jump public transport.
This is someone I called a friend.
I used to drive to her place and she would join me to work ,some days.

To her disappointment,I bought a new car within a month.
She feigned happiness and came around.
I shocked her .

Shame catch her.
I ended the friendship

Nemere2020:


https://community.thenationonlineng.net/forum/opm-s-apostle-chibuzor-chinyere-is-hospitalized-after-being-accus?xg_source=twitter

The man who deceives his members to use coconut and pray for cure to their illnesses is in hospital..okay oh

Ronaldo723:
I find it so extremely difficult to keep friends before you say Jack we have gotten issues don't know what's wrong with me


I can stay in the house for a week without my neighbors knowing I'm around


Please I need help my social lifestyle is dead

This is me..
I don't have any friends...
Nobody visits me at home.
I have always been like that.
And I see no problems with it
Instead,it has helped me a lot.
I don't depend on people
Nobody can take me for granted.
I can stay indoors all day,just me and my mobile gadgets..and now,my children

Nigerian policemen...very useless people

Not surprised.
They are cursed.

CartelKenneth:



your own situation is even very good. Some people get married with less than 15 K salary per month.
. Can you do that be honest?

Depends on social class.
15k salary is not my social class.
The least salary I earned :120k and that was during my NYSC.

Goalnaldo:
eyaa. I wish i'm there right now to give you a hug. So sorry for what you went through. May your marriage give you succour.

Thank you.
My husband is a good man.
But I still have the problem of bonding with him.
I am comfortable going all day without talking to him on phone or seeing him .
I don't feel his absence,when he is away.
I am trying my best to get used to being this close to someone.
I will keep trying.

Goalnaldo:
Spiceadole are your brothers employed now? The last one went too far seriously. Grown ass men waiting to be spoonfed. Graduates for that matter.

He copied it from my mom.
That was how she used to insult me.
At 26,she was already labeling me a les.bian & pro.sti.tute because I was not married.
Forced me to leave home and live away from them.
But I was the one paying their bills including the rent.

My brothers are employed now..but the last born is a complete nuisance.

Evestar200:
Dear Firstborn Daughters,

Have you ever felt you had more responsibilities than your siblings? Are you expected to serve as a role model? And what have been your greatest challenges or achievements as a firstborn daughter in the African household?

It has not been easy for me, I almost fall into depression one time because of too many expenses.

People will be seeing me as a big girl because of my salary but in reality that money will only be in my account within 10 days of payment and I will have to manage the little one that remains till the next payment.

One day I sit myself down, talk sense into myself and removed two of my brothers from my budget.

As for now, the only people am responsible for are my Mom and our last born.

My neighbours in School then and friends will be saying I want to be like you, I will always warn them not to wish for that because of the money I received, they can't manage what I am passing through.

I can totally relate..You have to take it easy,my sister.
As a first child,first and only daughter.. the responsibility no be here.

People used to envy me because I earned well but I was suffering.
Would send money home for virtually everything..The worst of it..my jobless brothers would complain it was not enough and my mom would take sides with them.
All of us ..graduates..trained with family funds and some scholarships but it was me who was expected to bear family responsibilities.

I was at some point,almost resorting to loan apps,in order to satisfy them.

I started having palpitations and insomnia.
Whenever my phone rang and it's a call from home,my heart would skip a beat .
I know what I will hear is " Send money for this and that".

I was with some colleagues one day,my brother called to say I should send money for tissue paper and also to refill gas...
That mom was cooking and gas finished.

I was angry and flared up..
After,I sent them a token,The last born called and requested I send money for DSTV subscription..
I told him I didn't have.
There was no insult this boy didn't reign on me..he even went as far as sending me SMS to insult,calling me barren and ugly...afterall,I wasn't married(as at then),so what was I doing with ALL my money?


I received sense...stopped bankrolling them.
Saved up my money,got married soon after and relocated overseas.

Since then,I only send money to mom, occasionally.
The rest are sorting themselves out.

CuriousStudent:


Exactly. But the person that will marry this struggling guys doesn't have to be me or females in my life I hold dearly

Definitely...there are women who still marry and will marry them.
They are usually also struggling and even in worse circumstances..so they can manage

smalldivk111:
I'm so depressed right now and wish I could die
Have just been diagnosed with an incurable infection herpes

I wish I could just die

You have started reaping the reward of sex.

Congratulations

CuriousStudent:
the question is that why should a poor man be thinking of marriage?
Why should that be his priority rather than becoming rich?

Everybody will not be rich.

Some people will be poor now,later comfortable/rich
Others will remain poor forever.
Such is the reality of life

CartelKenneth:




That one concerns them
Do you want to be married with 50k?
Try it Na and see how SWEET life is

Just saying the bitter truth.
Are you saying that poor men do not ,should not or will not marry?

I was earning 300K + when I got married about 5 years ago.
My hubby earned a little higher.

Edizzy:
Hello people here's a quick question

Considering the importance of finance in marriage, what should a man be making monthly before considering marriage in Nigeria, someone said 50k but based on the economic reality in the country, 50,000 is too small to sustain a home.

I believe a minimum of 100k per month is a enough to take care of a matrimonial home with just one child and this also depends on your location.

I might be wrong or right, so over to you what's your opinion on this topic!

Depends on your social class and the woman you are marrying.

Nothing is fixed.

Many men in Nigeria earn less than 50k and are married with children

MaryAye:
Happy fathers Day to all Nairalander's fathers and upcoming fathers.

What are you going to get for your dad as a present today? It is not only our mothers we should celebrate. Our real heroes should get something too.

I don't like my father.
We haven't seen or talked in years .
So I'm not getting him anything.

But I sent a token to my father -in-law and called him .
Good man!

He advised married women to be careful...


And married men can be carefree

Lol

He asked me for money.

I stopped seeing him immediately.