simplypj:


You see that UK,
that UK,
that UK.
How many times I repeat am....
Marriage over their for a man is more than castration

It modern day slavery.
You have all the responsibility but no authority.
And the women have all the power without the responsibility.

Apart from UK...in a civilised world,adults with mental capacity can give consent, irrespective of their gender or marital status.

Thundafireseun:


Mstheeeeeew

You have a long way to go oga

Have you asked yourself the reason why the rate of divorce is the highest in the western world??

There is nothing wrong with divorce..
If it's not working,go your separate ways.
Better than live in bitterness and hatred....OR kill each other ,in the name of marriage.

Thundafireseun:


Mstheeeeeew

You have a long way to go oga

Have you asked yourself the reason why the rate of divorce is the highest in the western world??

There is nothing wrong with divorce..
If it's not working,go your separate ways.
Better than live in bitterness and hatred....OR kill each other ,in the name of marriage.

Have sense!

Thundafireseun:
lol
Family planning without your consent??

Are you sure she is not the head of your family

Lol...in the UK where I practise,a woman doesn't need the consent of her husband to do family planning.as long as she has mental capacity,she can give consent.
African women really have a long way to go

Jewessgratitud3:
Soft life to hard life.

I guess when he got there and saw the pile of bills staring him in the face he had no choice but to grab the next available job.

If you are gainfully employed in naija, you don't need to japa. Japa is for someone who has no hope of ever getting a job in Nigeria. He'll appreciate any kind of job he finds there.

Yes.. People like medical doctors.
My life became meaningful after I left Nigeria.
Started residency programme without paying or knowing anybody.

Useless cursed people especially the women among them.
Tueh

Hahahahahaha....

The gender that brags online that they don't fight over women,instead 7 women are rushing them...
That after 33+,a woman is not good for marriage.
That a single mother is not good for marriage.
That they don't marry older women..
The gender that insults women on a daily on social media ....


Wow! Fighting over a "double" single mother.
Married twice and now on the third.

With 7 children already from 2 marriages,a young handsome man..much younger than her,still married her.
Imagine...Snatching evening newspaper..Kai
See as the woman fresh na.

Nigerian men are clowns.


Social media and reality are two different worlds.

This is very funny!

Absolute wickedness!

Barbaric behaviour!!

Bullying simply because the child is young ,dependent and helpless

Check his sugar mummy's house.
He has gone to sample toetoe ..
Will be back when he is done

nwakibe:
Most of the times we think Drs are incompetent are not true. I can remember when my brother's wife was diagnosed of hormonal imbalance. The Dr gave her contraceptive drug among other hormonal drugs. When I saw the drug, I was mad. How can you give contraceptive drug to a woman that is struggling with conception. I took her back to the Dr., I was ashamed of myself after the Dr's explanation. To the glory of God, she has 3 smart kids now. Let the Dr's breath...

Hahahahaha...I am a doctor..your conclusion made me laugh.
Happy for your brother's wife..Cheers

Lol..foo.lish little girl

Just 100 L in university,you are carrying relationship on your head

victorazyvictor:


Wisest man on this planet

Woman, actually

okerekingsley90:


This your comment bros

Not Bros..
Sis,rather

Banbanna:
Omo, see the angle you're thrashing this matter from😊. Seems you've done this before or already doing it. Doesn't all these you're saying makes you a control freak?

You made a very good point sha. But the love and respect that you'd get from this is always a forced one because the moment that you begin to lack resources, her attitude towards you wouldn't be the same, it will likely beome hostile.

I'm a woman.
Not a man.
Just saying it as it is

Hungry girls are the best to wife.

Because you can easily control anyone you feed.

They are always at your mercy..You get that submissiveness that you crave and that keeps you in charge.

When you don't drop money for food,she begs

When you don't buy water,she begs

When you lock the kitchen after a misunderstanding,she begs.

adaperry25:
Is it a Nigerian thing or something? Met 2 ladies already and its same old stuff.

I initiate all chats and calls. If I don't call..no communication..if I don't chat..no communication.

While chatting..you have to ask all the questions and bring up gists.

They can't call u randomly to ask after you.

I don tire o

Trying foreign ladies might not be a bad idea.

If you meet a lady who calls and checks up on you,it's still you who will tag her desperate and take her for granted

Zonefree:
Like, of all species to fight for, you chose a Nigerian girl?

Same girl you died for, will come to your burial with another gbola and there's nothing you can do from the grave.

Social media and reality are different.

Rexymania:
See as "graduate" spell 'rejoice' lol him say na "rejoys" LoL 😆

And he is a teacher..
I'm sorry for the children he teaches
Sad

youngsum:
Hello nairalanders rejoys with me


Today the 5th of December I received my first salary in life as a fresh graduate which I was employed as a school teacher last month.


Do you think I will be able to get marry with this salary by next December?

Men and marriage sef.

Yet they claim they have nothing to benefit from getting married.

22k salary a month..less than minimum wage...and he is already considering getting married.

Tueh!

Antoeni:
Give Up One

Would give up sex comfortably

Caseless:
You heard him saying his parents are old - no one does that genotype test in those days. We were just lucky.

I'm referring to management of the case.
Or has the Op never followed the patient to the hospital?

Yemike:
I need people with experience on how to manage SS Crisis.
Both my parent are AS and we the kids are 5. I'm the first child and I'm lucky to be AA, the 2nd born AS, 3rd, 4th, 5th - SS.
I have 3 SS siblings and right now most of their responsibility and wellbeing is on me as the first born cuz my P-man is old already.
Just last week I have to rush down to my brother's school to bring him home cuz he called me in the middle of the night weeping cuz the pain is just too much and his roommate isn't around.
My question now is how can it be managed? cuz it's really affecting everybody cuz It's affecting their studies, I'm exhausted right now cuz anytime it happens it's ends with me borrowing funds to send to them and lastly it's sucks happiness out of the atmosphere as hearing a teenager weeping and knowing you can't do anything about it is saddening.

I've seen some people asking if they as AS can also marry AS please and please don't try it as you'll just be bringing innocent kids here just to suffer. The trauma of you seeing your kids in pain sef no be here.

How can SS Crisis be avoided/managed?

I'd have loved my write up to be well detailed but the little I wrote up there took up to an hour cuz my phone is bad.

You experience and advice will be well appreciated. Thanks.

Medical doctors will counsel and advise you people but No..you won't listen because that's not what you want to hear.
Instead,you will come to social media to ask laypeople in order to hear what you want..
Goodluck

Lee99:

You must be a clown to quote me for my personal preference, anyway if you must know I don't intend to raise kids in my old age hence my reason for having a personal deadline

Yeah..I agree I'm clown.
But then,you can have baby mama since your interest is in kids.
Marriage doesn't benefit men.
Marriage is for women.
Only women should give themselves deadline for marriage to avoid becoming evening newspapers.

Lee99:
In my late 20s but I'd really love to get married before I turn 30 or latest when I'm 30, don't wanna be 31 and unmarried

Hahahahaha...The same marriage that doesn't benefit men.
The same man who doesn't reach menopause is giving himself deadline.

Smile4mee01:
I have been abroad for a while now and i am curious to know why some of our ladies decline dating or marrying fellow Nigerians in the diaspora. I have tried to date a few any they are often quick to assume i am after them for their papers while i just prefer my own, someone who understands my culture and where i have come from. Even when i try to date the ones that don't have paper, regular work visa holders like me. They seem to want to be with the guys that have papers.

Also, when i am old, i would like to return to Nigeria. Marrying outside would make that transition very difficult.

I study other races, Immigrant groups from India and Asia. they work together well, and don't have these difficulty.

Should i give up on being with a Nigerian or keep trying ?

Regards.

Nigerian ladies are the most undesirable on earth.
Nigerian ladies are everything bad
Marriage doesn't benefit men

...according to you people on this space.

Why are you looking for the same Nigerian ladies,if you must even marry at all.

What happened to #TeamForeignGirls?

If I were single when I relocated,I would have absolutely nothing to do with Nigerian men.

Jeon:


And we are also dating down the chain whenever a Nigerian lady is with a citizen of another nation .


😂 😂

My sister,it's just funny.
From what I'm seeing,if I had relocated abroad as a single lady..I wouldn't have married a Nigerian man.

DKM123:
Hahahaha! Oyibo people no dey ever sabi dance!

The way young Oyibo men dey marry our women nowadays ehn! Wetin dey play na?

How? I thought Nigerian women were the most undesirable on earth..

Will not stop Nigerian nurses and doctors with proper qualifications who have passed the necessary exams and registration with the UK council from migrating.

Also,singles using the school route will always be welcomed.


Japa continues

But men will never cease to be funny.

Same people who claim marriage doesn't benefit them are getting married.
Instead of being happy that he is free ,he is feeling traumatized.lol

Despite 7 women rushing after them,they still feel bad and emotional if one woman dumps

Just crazy

But the baby is a carbon copy of OBJ.
Very ugly

Jewessgratitud3:
I just thought to share and again it's no bodys business what I share about myself here. I chose to do it and don't care if it sits well with anyone or not. My life, my share .

I'm sharing this just to let some ladies know that being a widower doesn't break a man and will not stop him from being an unrepentant cheat if he wants to. I used to think a widower will be more responsible and loyal to one woman considering the fact that he's now a second hand value bachelor and the death of his former wife will make him get closer and more committed to his spouse, home and family at large but I was wrong cos after my experience with one, I realized men will always be cheat men.

This happened in 2013 after staying away from relationships for a long time. So I joined Badoo ( it was the rave then, though I joined in 2012). A young man ( in his 40s then) chatted me up and I checked his profile. There he stated that he was looking for a lady for serious relationship and added he was a Christian. He was also looking very handsome and tall. We chatted and exchanged numbers.

When we got talking he told me he was a widower. It was hard to believe because he looked very young. He now told me he married very early. He went ahead and told me he has 6 children 👀👀👀. I didn't believe until he showed me their pics. 4 girls and two boys. He said the wife kept having children because she wanted a male child and died after giving birth to the last child, a male. She got home from the hospital after childbirth and started bleeding immediately and was rushed back to the hospital but never made it back. Meanwhile he was not in the country when this happened.

This made me have compassion and developed feelings for him. After a few months of inviting me over, I finally agreed to visit after he assured me the elder sister is staying with him to look after the baby ( he was already a year then but was not walking). He never liked the boy because he was always saying the boy caused his wifes death and each time the baby boy sees him, he'll be screaming due to the way he looks at the baby and I'll be telling him to stop, teasing him that it's him the boy resembles. So when I visited for the first time, I was shocked at what I saw. He actually owns the house he was living in in Sango. He built it when the going was good but after the wife's death, he came back and stayed for a whole year without a job. He just got the job he was doing as a hotel manager when I met him and his take home was not good at all. So to maintain the big house was a challenge. He could barely feed his kids. Even the two older ones were not with him. They were living with his brother just to ease him of the burden. when the sister saw me, she got angry and told him that he has not finished taking care of his children he's bringing in another lady. He told me to ignore the sister and face him. If I go there, I'll cook and serve everybody because he was always complaining of not having money but sometimes he'll give me part of the money I used.

Initially the children didn't like me and he said I should be buying them snacks. So then if I close from work, I'll go and meet him at his office and we'll go home together. I bought snacks and the children reluctantly collected the snacks. He went to work on that Saturday and I gathered the children and started telling them stories. They began to come close. When he got back he drove all of us to a football viewing center and bought me pepper soup. I thought I had found the right man. I was even saying I don't need to birth any children since he already has six. We'll just stay with his own children ( lol . small girl sense). He would tell me no, that he wants me to give him a beautiful daughter like me.

Six months into the relationship, I noticed something in his room while he was away at work. I saw a foreign prison card in his jacket I now began to connect the dots. I remembered him saying he was away when the wife died and while she was pregnant, he had problem abroad. So she developed BP. He even told me he wasn't around when his house was built that the wife supervised the whole thing before he now had a problem but be never told me what the problem was. I then discovered with the prison card, he was prolly in jail all that time. I didn't ask him anything.

Later he started telling me there's this single mother that has been begging him to marry her and she buys him stuff. I was like marry her now afterall two of una na second hand value. He'll laugh and say God forbid. That he wants chassis. The lady buys him and his children stuff. At a point I told him to stop collecting the gift or risk our relationship. He promised to stop.

One day he was sleeping and i was just going through his phone ( I never used to do that) and saw "my love". My head sparked. I woke him up with a heavy slap and showed him, he started saying its you I love. I said no! Tell me who this Is.. then I began to cry because I just knew it was over. He started begging and called his Aunty into the room. The aunty said the person is a family. I said call her. He now called the number and an elderly woman picked and he started telling her that I'm crying my eyes out here because I saw a message he sent to her. The woman spoke with me but I wasn't convinced. Throughout that night, he played "please forgive me' Brian Adams. hmm.. feeling nostalgic now. I calmed down and we continued.


After some months my chairman sacked me because I refused to go out with him and told him I'm in a relationship. After I lost my job I reduced my visits because bus fare from mainland to Sango was quite expensive and he too could not sponsor my visits regularly due to so much financial responsibilities and since I had been the one doing it when I was working. It became a once in a while thing.

Then one day, he told me to come to his office let's go home that he has missed me. I asked him, do you have money he said we'll manage. This man did not tell me we were going by train ( chai things we do for love) from his office we set out to oshodi. This man put head for train lane. I said waaaat t... I almost went back but it was already getting dark. I entered train for the first time. See me shaking. He had to hold me before one man now stood up for me to sit. Because it's been a while I've been to the house, when we got home, the aunty said you'll not stay in one place. Today you carry this, tomorrow you carry another one. I told him what the sister said and he told me not to mind her. In my mind i was like... see this second wen I dey manage too wan dey play ... I kept asking until he now confessed that the Aunt was referring to the other single mother that the lady has been forcing herself on him but it's me he wants. There and then I zeroed my mind.

After that visit, as we were going that morning, we quarreled on the way because the vehicle we borded got spoilt plus I wasn't happy after hearing what the sister said. So I was just edgy that morning and blasted the driver and some of the passengers. He got angry and left after trying to get me off the bus and I refused, saying I should run after him cos he's running late for work. I was just looking at him. I didn't get down. I waited for him to go far, I now got down and took another route to my house.

I didn't call for a week and refused to pick his calls because whats the point killing myself over a widower with six children who has refused to stick with one woman. When I eventually picked, it was my guy ( now ex) who told me to pick in the bus that day we were going to camp and he was chyking me. Oga kept calling and as usual I ignored him but the sound was disturbing our conversation so my gy told me to pick and hear him out. I picked and he was crying and put all his children on the phone to beg me. He said they are missing me and one of them is sick. I said ok, I'll call you later. That was it. I blocked him. Went to Badoo and blocked him there in fact I deleted my Badoo account. Deleted his number and ended the whole thing..

Men will always be men

Modified

When I said all men are the same what I'm simply implying is, whether they are poor, rich, widower or handicapped they will still cheat or have that tendency to cheat. Take it or get lost!

A man's vulnerability doesn't stop him from exhibiting those bad habits (cheating and deception). They'll will always do that thing that make us call them meennnn... If you know what I mean and if you don't Gerrit, forget abourit. .

You wanted to get married to a widower with 6 children? And even thought of not having a child yourself?

Some of you ladies are unbelievable!

SAMBARRY:
Smh

Are prostitutes on strike or are their services no longer available?

Why will you leave willing women and go forcefully have carnal knowledge with someone not Interested in you.a teenager for that matter?

As nigeria worst reach,as moral decadence don sky rocket with pretentious church/mosque going people,you will still see some mothers pimping their teenage daughters for runs/prostitution even with Mary Amaka gown and big hijabs

It's not about having se .X

It's about humiliation and boost of male ego

There is nothing else men in this part of the world can use to humiliate women except having sex with them,even if forcefully