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budaatum:
Did she infect him, is what I wonder!

And what's the status of his children?

The man will likely be infected
But the children will not be cos of PMTCT program.

Tenses:
Just for a second imagined that it was the man that hid his hiv status from his wife.

Everywhere for don scattter

Siren go dey blow 'waawuu waawuu'

Efcc, ndlea, nafdac, nta, ait, olopa, prison warders, feminist and SIMPle men no go let his spirit rest.

But since she's a woman everywhere quiet even some SIMPle men dey even blame am.

From my experience, men hardly hide their HIV status from their partners.. Women are better at that. Some turn their tablets into plain bottles and hide them in the kitchen where the husbands hardly get to.They turn the baby's medications into multivitamin containers such that even when they give the child in front of the husband,he will think it's just baby's multivitamin syrup/drops.

If a man has tested positive to HIV, and he is counselled to disclose his status to his wife, the likelihood that he will do so is almost 100% .If he cannot bring himself to tell her, he usually will ask for assistance to help him break the news to his wife.
But women would rather take the secret to their grave.
Why? Because a woman will not leave a marriage and abandon a man because he has HIV ..
But men? Immediate divorce and abandonment.
Many women will even behave as if HIV doesn't exist just to live in denial and continue with their husbands until the she also gets infected.


A woman will even agree to marry a man who is sick but men do not marry sick women.
Men are very reasonable people.
Women marry men with diabetes, hypertension, Sickle cell anaemia, HIV, cancer, etc but men? They will immediately end the relationship and look for a healthy woman to marry.

ezedora:
Na why things no fit dey better be this. You should be able to take whatever you're dissing out. If you're willing to be celibate, then do it all round. Thanks and God bless.

Lol.
You dey mind them?
They want to eat their cake and have it.
All round celibacy is perfect
No sex, no spending.

Parizz:
so because he didn't spend, you refused to give him sex, that shows you don't love him

We were not married, hence he was not entitled to sex.
Same as I was not entitled to his money.

Which one is love now?
Logic over emotions!

Adexvivacity:
There was this friend of mine that lost his job and things were somehow for him....I would give him tfare back home anytime i called him out for hanging out....Its only when ladies or anybody wanna manipulate me that i wont give....Me I give tfare o except the lady is rude....Even some urgent 2k aint sin cos it could be me as well.

Well, for me, no free gift from men.
My mum warned me at 15, not to collect things from a man if I know I will not sleep with him.
And she was right.
Men feel entitled to sex once they begin spending ..if the woman rejects his advances,he will get angry and remind her she has been collecting from him

Lucifyre:
What was your perspective on it at the time, especially compared to prev relationships. Did you guys discuss it to come to that point or was it just an unspoken rule? Don't mind my many questions, just curious.

It came out of me not wanting physical intimacy .. so he flipped to not spending..Maybe thinking I will flinch and change my mind.But I didn't .I was working , comfortable and not greedy.
So if you don't spend,e no concern me.
After about 8 months, he proposed and we got married.

Adexvivacity:
Not spending at all? That one dey some how o.....Even someone am not dating, i give little i have. You visit me, i give you tfare even though without sex....I spend but moderately.

Well, because I didn't agree to sleep with him. he brought the "no spending" and it was so.
I only visited him twice. First time in the company of a couple who were mutual friends.
Second time , was alone after our introduction

Adexvivacity:
I dont think a man can date without spending, you just have to spend within your capacity..... Except from the angle of broke guys or underage.....I once frawn at spending as well....If you have money, you gonna spend, you just have to spend moderately.

My husband did not spend on me while we were dating.
It's possible to date without spending.
It depends on the type of lady you are dating.

The problem is men want to use relationship to have sex hence the women bill them and they use money /gifts to impress them.
No spending.. No sex..
Best relationship

Auspiman:
At what point do you think the celibacy should stop? When she agree to marry you or after marriage?

So that persons wouldn't take it to far.

My husband didn't give me a dime until our wedding date was fixed.
No money/gifts on my birthday or festive season.
Whenever we went on outings, we both picked our bills.

WatchYourSix:
Welldone…
Is it not the wickedness of ur gender that made govt made law u can claim rape even after spreading legs and reaching orgasm…

If they spread legs and you don't put your preek, will you die?

foleskay:
Its gotta be an IVF, cos the lady has been silent on social media for many months now.

And besides there's no baby shower photos anywhere which I trust her to have done if she was pregnant. Nevertheless, congratulations to them

IVF surrogacy, most likely.

WatchYourSix:
The definition of rape has since been modified…. 90% of those in jail for rape in the Uk ddnt walk up to random pple, tear their clothes and force them.. there are many pple in uk jail convicted for raping their wife

You do not have sex with people without their consent.
That's the point.

Dshocker:
I thought you were reported to have passed on, how come you are in the still active?

Posted it in 2018
Passed on 2021

danvon:
I think its much better for a girl to reject you than for a girl to friendzone you.

She did you a favour she saved you time, money and energy you should be grateful not resentful.

He is pained that the girl was smarter than him.
She didn't disrespect herself by giving him chance to sleep with her.
He never had any good intentions for her .
I'm glad she rejected him else he would created a thread about a girl in his workplace who guys are passing around and he also got his turn to hit..

Guestmale:
I'm not surprised about Lagos data, how will a woman be fertile when she is already on the road before 5 in the morning and enter house 11 in the night, spending the day jumping from one vehicle to the other or be under sun through out just to make money.

I'm even surprised Lagos reached 3.2 for people who spend few hours at home.

Yorubastardz:
It was 2022 I was a lower rank in my job.
Tho I maintain myself. I sumon courage and ask this babe out.
She is my co worker.
She refuse to give me her number
Saying sorry No, I don't give out number

I come see the way she dey smile dey happy say she don use me boost her ego.

2026 I was promoted and given my own department. Now I'm making so much cash and we work together but different department
I stop looking her side and started talking to other women. Become leader of my department and made company more profit.

Fellas if I was busy chasing validation from her. I wouldn't have worked hard to the point of getting promoted.

Now I see the regret in her eyes daily
It's tormenting her it's sweeting me

You wan pepper woman wey you no knack.
You need to grow up!she did well by rejecting you.
Imagine if you had succeeded in sleeping with her and later broke up..

Jman06:
Una go wait tire!

We no go wait tire.
There is no good woman in Nigeria.
And make sure you do DNA test .
You fit disvirgin her today, another man climb her tomorrow.
Women are evil .
The pregnancy doesn't belong to you.

Smartguyboy:
I got a message today from the management in charge of the apartment I am living they increased the rent from #1,250,000 to #2,000,000 and my rent will expire this September . Please lawyers in the house what can I do ?

If you cannot pay the rent, find a cheaper apartment or buy land and build your house.

Cut your coat according to the size of your material.

The guy did very well.
I hope the senseless girl has learnt her lesson.

No insults.
She is married with children.

AfahaAbia:
Although it sounds funny but you're right oo. I was driving yesterday and I saw a woman with her baby under the rain, I was so sad I wished I could help her. Seriously having a car is very very important especially if you're a family man

I used to wonder oh.. how a woman will be pregnant or carrying a baby under the rain,sun ,trekking long distances and hopping on/struggling for public vehicles.
They are really trying.

I said it when they reconciled.. that Churchill will soon start shifting Tonto panties ... I won't be surprised Tonto is pregnant already.

Rosy is a clown.
There is a reason men avoid marrying single mothers especially when their baby daddies are still alive but women don't have sense.

When you marry someone who already has a child/children with another person, the chances that they will still be sleeping with that father/mother of their children is 100% .
This is what people do in the name of co-parenting.

My first child MUST be your first child.

Take it or leave it

essentialone:
Because they have alternatives on the side.

Thanks for commenting but you missed the point.

Men do also have alternatives.

We have read on this platform of men saying they are dating A, B or C at the very SAME TIME. And seeking advice on who to marry.

essentialone:
single ladies, must every relationship be about marriage?

Definitely not.. that's why some ladies reject marriage proposal. They do not want that particular relationship to lead to marriage.

teepain:
Unfortunately, it seems like there was no court marriage in this case. Because, I have only read about their traditional marriage.

Men don't like court marriage so that their wives does not have a share of their properties , if the marriage goes south.

So men are still kneeling to propose..
This one even got rejected and embarrassed in public.
He wants to marry a woman,a Nigerian woman for that matter mMarriage that men have nothing to benefit from but the gender who benefit everything from marriage turned him down.
See painment.

Elvis2kay:
Why are Nigerians men falling for all this nonsense..

Because Nigerian men lack self control when it comes to sex.
Use sex as a trap, 99 % of Nigerian men will fall for it including religious leaders that are held in high esteem.
They always see sex as a trophy,a sign of masculinity, something to brag about irrespective of who they sleep with including those who patronise prostitutes, those who are unfaithful to their wives, etc.
They brag that they are polygamous in nature.
They celebrate having multiple sexual partners.

Unfortunately,in the UK,there is no hunger.A man who is used to getting women over some few naira notes or a plate of food or even a simple favour in Nigeria will find it difficult to find willing adult females in UK.
Hence, a lot of them try with underaged girls who are just out there to satisfy their curiosity.

Another guy will immediately end all communication with that girl on hearing she is 13 but not a Nigerian man...Baba even said it's not possible.
In his mind,he will sleep with a 13 year old child..His Trophy!

Ehya..
Baba thought he was in Nigeria where hd could sleep with a child and be given a pat on the back, even brag about it on social media while the child gets blamed and shamed.
Here, it's different.
You cannot have sexual relations with a minor and go scot free.

Sonnobax15:
. Na lie . The truth is that she couldn't handle the different sizes of ships and vessels that were passing through her strait of Hormuz

Btw,let's come to think of it,So if not for the fact that she later discovered the high cost of feeding and rent,she wouldn't have returned abi?

Well,it's left for the man to be man enough to send her back to where she went to . If not,such thing is bound to happen again, definitely when things become cheaper and affordable at the other end,where she'll be heading to

Fear women

He will not be man enough to send her back.
There are so many weak men out there in real life.
Most men only exhibit toxic masculinity on social media.
Offline, they are weak!

Yes..
50 years is still very young
It's never too late for a man

Ikennaford:
Wachu mean,,, is he more than that? Niqqa this guy looks 35 not even 39,,wish him good and oluwa will bless and open doors for you

How does Mikel look 35?
He looks early to mid 40s

For the same sex that men want everyday, this one seee sex , run.. now crying.
.this life no balance.
Such a simp