₦airaland Forum

Mrkc:
How long did you date your spouse before getting married

8 months

stan4b:
YES, we are polygamous in nature.

DEAL WITH IT!!!!!

Yes.. Polygamous men are impregnating other men's girlfriends and wives.

Oluwa Burna will win
No less!

mysticwarrior:
By the time she is out she would already be approaching menopause and attracting few or no toasters.

She can still have a baby.. Naturally or through ART... That's the main thing.
And if she looks good for her age, she can still married.
The man is damaged for life.

There was a time I had to travel for work and my husband stayed with our 2 year old sick child for 3 days in the hospital. She was discharged home before I returned from my trip.
It was not an issue.
Maybe the couple have series of disagreement and marital conflicts before now.

Anyway, their problem.

40+ Nigerian bachelors in tears right now.

This life no balance

Mindlog:
Only one Anesthesiologist on duty in a whole university teaching hospital?😳

Life is so cheap in Nigeria.

You people don't know what iss happening in Nigerian health sector.
I'm even surprised there was one on duty.

The way my consultants have japa to start afresh ehn.

The younger doctors are not interested in specialization. They are busy writing foreign exams to also relocate

I pity ladies that allow men to impregnate them without commitment of marriage.
Single mothers have really seen shege on Nigerian social media space.

saasala:
40+ single men without kids or girlfriend will come here and spew their nonsense out of jealousy.

People are saying the marriage wont last.

Older people get married and get divorced so as young people. If you like marry at 50 years, your marriage fit no reach 6 months. There is no manual to life. Make all of us sha dey live as we like, at the end na kpai all of us go kpai

If the marriage doesnt last, it is just another failed marriage, they can learn and move on.

And he go even surprise una say na this kind marriage dey last.

I wish them well.

Why should 40+ men get married? Marriage is not for men... Just have a side chic to bear you children.
Hehehehehe..
Their disappointment go long.
Congratulations to the young couple

Oevrfamiliarity breeds contempt.
You don't value what you have until you lose it

DickenClarq:
All those promoting Japa and making Nigeria look like Afghanistan, Iraq or Libya because of exchange rate have forced many people to travel to useless countries. So many have fallen into depression, untimely death, huge debts, mental illness etc.

HOW THE HELL WILL I LEAVE NIGERIA TO GO AND DO PROSTITUTION IN BENIN REPUBLIC, TOGO, GHANA, GAMBIA, IVORY COAST etc This type of stupidity should be studied in Harvard University.

Majority of the people promoting japa have never visited a passport office before in their life, talk less of having an international passport.

Their only argument is 24 hour electricity, Dollar to Naira exchange rate, health care etc.

NOW LOOK AT WHAT THEY HAVE CAUSED?

Many people are doing very well in Nigeria even in this bad economy, but the so called Japa gang will deceive them and they will sale all their property and run to another country were they end up becoming call girls, drug dealers, criminal, fraudsters in a working country.

Some work three jobs and two shift in some countries, things that they will never try in Nigeria.

I pray for this young ladies life may God mercy be upon her. This is so sad


May God help us

Actually, the contrary for me.

When I was in Nigeria, I worked two to three jobs at a time. My days started in one hospital, continued in another, and often ended with a night shift somewhere else.
Sleep became a luxury. Many times, the only rest I got was putting my head on a table for a few minutes before seeing the next patient. I pushed my body far beyond its limits, taking every locum shift I could find just to make ends meet.
I took a break after I had my daughter, but eventually returned to the same cycle. Despite all the long hours and sacrifices, life was still financially challenging.
Relocating abroad changed everything.
Today, I work a regulated 40-hour/ week compared to compared to Nigeria where I worked 18-20 hours a day.Sometimes,I would away from home for 3-5 days running from one facility to the other.
Here,work no longer consumes every part of my life.
I now have peace of mind. I have more time for myself and family. Ironically, I work fewer hours, experience less stress, and enjoy better financial stability and a much higher quality of life.
Nigeria was tough. I have great respect for the doctors who continue to give their all under such demanding conditions.
I sincerely pray that every doctor who desires the opportunity to relocate abroad is able to do so.
May the soul of the departed rest in peace.

Hungrychicken:
I'm also certain you will not be comfortable with strange women touching your sons

The sons will be happy strange women are touching them.. and will even brag about it.
Sex is always a flex for the male gender.
They can't say NO

He didn't just marry..
He married an older woman.
Mehnnnnnnn!

Men will always say one thing online while doing another in real life.

AbbassDare:
Hello Ladies. I'm 40 years old and single, male. I ve never been married , no children. A Christian .

I'm Seeking a doctor or nurse for a purposeful relationship leading to marriage hopefully early next year.

Was UK resident and will like to return to somewhere abroad.

Please check my signature to message me.

I have a nurse friend based in the UK but she doesn't want a Yoruba man.
She is igbo

Babysho:
Hello, lovely Nairalanders. This topic has two questions in it and as you listen may you be blessed

As a man in his late 20s, I grew up in the post touch-grass era and the epoque of Facebook. What this means is I was mad social as a teenager; playing football in strangers’ compounds, talking to random girls on the street and having girlfriendsss but still tech savvy enough to use MTN cheat to browse lol

Now it’s 2026, and today will make it 6 years that I’ve been single and there’s nothing wrong with me physically, a little mental health damage, yes but don’t we all have skoi skoi? lol

Therefore, how do you find love? I noticed girls hardly walk on the streets these days and it is so difficult to keep the attention of girls (even young girls aged 19-24) especially if money is not involved and as a struggling 9-5er money is not exactly water. The girls are always so cold too, some even dislike phone calls. Have you experienced this?

Also, as a 9-5er or maybe a business owner, how do you blend work life with love life? Over the years, I did have potential girls especially from work but I’m always too tired to do the follow up and they don’t make it easy either. How do you cope?

What do you want to do with girls or women?
Especially Nigerian ladies?

1Alex:
The nearly fat white guy in black shirt is Chris, he is an American travel Vlogger. the black lady is his wife. She is a Yoruba lady. They met in Lagos after being Chris' tour guide. The other slim white guy is a random travel Vlogger.

Meanwhile Chris and his Yoruba wife live in Nigeria. She has not been able to get US visa due to Trump's travel policies bottlenecks. She now travels with Chris all the world.

How did he end up marrying a Nigerian woman,worse of ,the one living in Nigeria?
I thought white men don't marry Nigerian women as Nigerian women are the worst in the whole world.
Surprising.

Dzzzz:
How do you expect him to talk when he’s trying to sleep with her?..Try Dey get sense for once..

I have seen you that has sense.
Well done.

Dzzzz:
Make I forge HIV certificate for her..Tell her to call my number anytime she with the lecturer so I can tell her,she has been confirmed HIV infected so she can cause a tantrum and cry uncontrollably so the man go jakpa..

You are a joke.
Obvious, you don't have much knowledge about HIV .
The man wil just end up broadcasting to all and sundry that she is HIV positive making she will suffer stigmatization.
Lecturers only go after girls who are not academically sound.
If you no Sabi book, go and learn trade

Kdon2:
All the best.

Thank you.

Kdon2:
Story. It's not as simple as that. I guess you are yet to marry that's why you have this mindset

Lol .. you wish
10 years married by November.

Kdon2:
One will suffer more consequences

Highest , the marriage ends.. and the woman leaves with her child(ren).

Life goes on!

Una go lament and cry tire.
Women are playing the same game you men play and even worse, bringing back souvenir in the name of "another man's child" .

Cheating is bad for both gender.
Nothing beats self control and faithfulness to one's partner.

stampo:
You only postponed your own
It's still waiting for you ahead.

You will look more older then

At what age do you want to start training children ?

At 42, u never marry,
So at 50, you still have kids in daycare school.

Continue to deceive yourself that you look younger o.

Old papa youngy

Marriage is not for men.
As for having children, only women can have children late or never.
Men can have children at any age.
A 70 year old man is younger than a 20 year old woman.
Man is the prize!

Team foreign women

I have no more words

missyblissy:
Really? I was stooling thick clotted blood and it'd not an infection. Smh

Go to hospital and see a doctor. A lot of conditions can cause your symptoms.
Nothing concerns staphylococcus aureus

Akalia:
Bro next time marry a lady properly. A woman you married to be your wife would be more useful to you than a baby mama. Your lawfully married wife would be reserved due to her respect for the culture, tradition, and legal law that is binding the union.

Marriage that men have nothing to benefit from?
Let them keep having baby mamas.

Their old age will be very "interesting"

Dregs:
We should be careful with whom we choose to have a child with, get married to, and spend our lives with in this period.

To be honest, I don’t buy into the idea of growing distance between me and my child, nor with her mother, who has been the worst-case scenario in my life. I do my best to provide for my daughter’s needs, but recently she got sick and her mother has been dealing with the situation alone—caring for the child—while I provide the finances. It hasn’t been easy on my end either.

With all this happening, she is disrespecting me and building resentment, as if I’m happy with our current situation. I’m working hard to bring my child closer to me, but her mom being in the picture makes it a long and difficult process. I didn’t get it right with this one, and I feel like I shot myself in the foot by going with the “baby mama” approach as a way to have a child.

Man, it’s one of my biggest mistakes. I’d rather wait a long time and be well settled in life than follow that path for raising a child.

Sometimes I don’t blame men who choose that lifestyle, because women these days often don’t honor their men or respect the sacrifices we make to keep the family happy. I love my child, and I hate to see her upbringing go this way.

Why are you lamenting after taking the baby mama route as advised and celebrated by your gender?

"Don't get married.Men have nothing to benefit from marriage.Just get a woman to have children for you.. and your life will be rosy"

You never see anything.

A lot of you young men will have very painful experiences filled with regrets in old age.

A weak man spotted.

I can swear his wife would never write a line for him on his birthday.

NaijaLandGuy:
Flee fornication
You have a second chance
Please don't waste it
You are of age. You can have a good wife and build a peaceful home.
Frolicking with all these runsgirls will take you no where

Bad advice.
He should not marry.
There is no good wife anywhere and men have nothing to benefit from getting married.

Leepeak:

Don't bring your wife abroad ooo
I nor talk anything ooo
I was talking to a lady today about it
80% of women divorce their husbands if Dem get money I nor need to hear the man part
Forget

Opportunity for 80% of men to marry new wife.
Men should be happy with such opportunity.
New wife wey them dey use threaten their wives at the slightest provocation