adioolayi:
Hmmm....

Before we start making comments...


How practicable is it to be on duty officially for 72hrs

Are we saying roasters were made to keep any Dr at work for 72hrs non-stop

I am being careful to understand what happens before one can blame the superiors and authorities for allowing a 72hrs duty roaster to stand!!!

I worked for 24 hours X 8 straight days when I started Housemanship....on the 3rd day,I fainted in the ward,was revived and I continued working for another straight 5 days .

He was running to collect 2k bribe..
Thunder fired him.
They didn't crush him well.
He should have been grinded into unrecognisable pulp.
Use .less people

Racoon:
Humn! Though the trauma is too heavy given the situations with the painful death of his parents, I think the board of trustees of the church ought to have nominated someone different away from the Odukoyas. Church leadership should not be as a result of monarchial inheritance.

Church is a business,just like any other business..So it's normal for the son to inherit his father's business empire.


See Pastor wey resemble thug..

Church goers dey try sha

Well,the gunmen only helped him.
Prevented him from getting married..a venture that does not benefit men.

Ololade4:
Good day House.. I am an ardent Nairalander but I am using another identity to cover up..

It's almost over a year now that i started the journey with her, I met her parents 4 months ago, I was told by her day that thier daughter is not free( bride price things) normally... we talked it out and we decided to get marriage.. I am 35, she's 32. She has a 8 years old boy out of wedlock, the boy stays with her parent.. I don't have any problem with that, Single mother is not a disease.. we have being living together since March this year, just like a couple and i decided to tie the knot with her later in the year which we both agreed on.

So we both agreed to go for registry then normal engagement and rest the case.. she later changed her mind, she doesn't want the court registry anymore (i am not move with this anyway, but why? Is she having another secret affairs elsewhere, or maybe she's thinking she may leave if things go south, like she doesn't want to get into a legal marriage that will hinder her from having choice in the nearest future, because I don't understand..).. She only want Engagement, without the court registry for now.
Anytime her parents, especially her mom ask her about it in the wedding plan, she will tell her we will do it later in the future .
As a man in the first place I don't need to worry about this in the first place, because all this court marriage registration only favor the woman and I know most of them crave for it...

But she... What is she up to??

This is actually very funny.
Whenever I hear that man wants to get marry,I laugh.
Same marriage that they claim does not benefit them?

That aside...Men always say women want court marriage while they do not..So that a woman doesn't have any legal backing to share in their wealth after a divorce.


Now,a woman is saying NO...I don't want court marriage...and a man is disturbed about it.

3 gbosaaa for that lady!
I owe her a crate of her favourite brand.
She sure knows how to play this game.

DonBenny77:

It's scary man.
Some of us may not get married

What are you getting married for?
It has been established that men don't have anything to gain in marriage

Whoever is a victim of revenge porn deserves it

Shun sexual immorality but they won't listen.

If you believe that because you are an adult,you have right to be sexually irresponsible..then be ready to pay the price.

jmoore:
This man is a pastor, his daughter got married and relocated to UK.

His wife went for omugo in the UK and have stayed up to 9 months. The daughter has told her mom to return home but she has refused. She got a cleaning job in the neighbourhood. The pastor is contemplating on taking a 2nd wife.

How is this an issue?

Men claim they don't benefit anything from marriage.

Why is it a problem that his wife has refused to return? He should move on..

Lol..even contemplating going for a second wife..

Why is the man running after something that doesn't benefit men?

Na wa oh

FreeStuffsNG:
100 years old Matcheted to death by his 39 year old son? That's a child he had in his old age and probably must have spoilt him and raised him badly. Check my signature for free stuffs!

Age doesn't affect men.
Men can have children at any age.
Nyen,nyen,nyen

100-38= 62.

At 62,a man should have been long done birthing kids.

He should be a grandpa.

But this man had a son at 62 when he lacked strength and vigor to train and bring him up under strict discipline.

Imagine living up to 100 and being killed by your child.

Ladygee12:
As humans we are not 💯 perfect but how do u make a choice of a life partner who is well to do but can't speak good English and is not ready to get an education because he sees it as a waste of time
How about a lady who is a wife material and has all the qualities you want but is not educated and doesn't speak good English but has refused to get educated and seees it as a waste of time due to her business which brings a lot of cash
Can you cope ?

As a man,or even a woman that I am...how did I get entangled to such person to even consider him or her a prospective partner?


Definitely,not for me.

Lol.....
He probably didn't understand the part of the Bible that his mates quote and brag over .

I hope we don't get to find out the REAL SOURCE of his wealth later.

If you know, you know.

Hemorrhagic cerebrovascular event?

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

All these long epistles because of sex.
Men and sex.
They used sex to curse you people?
I can do without sex all my life.
Afterall,I am done with childbirth.
For me,sex is for procreation.
I don't really see the fun in it.

Desperation landed them in that mess.

Why paying to get a job?
Our people are so used to bribing and paying to land jobs.

The instruction was simple but they wanted short cut.

I live in the UK
It took me 4 years of planning to relocate.

My pathway was simple and I followed it.
I didn't pay a dime to anyone.
I only paid official fees for the necessary exams that I took and to register with the medical council.

fyzaila:


WalLahi i too don't have energy for that. I will just observe and not commit

I didn't observe anything
Once I found out,I dump and cut off completely.
Face front

fyzaila:


Another angle, thanks

When I was single,I very consciously and carefully avoided divorced men,widowers and single fathers.

When a man approached me,in the talking stage..I would do my background findings about him, without his knowledge and once he is divorced,widower or already had a child,I ghost him...

Cut off every link of communication and avoid him permanently.
I don't have energy for drama

Mammangaddafi:
very useless test

The private labs and hospitals still request/carry out the test as to make money since Nigerians don't want to listen

fyzaila:
Is it necessary when you meet a divorced man or woman and you want to start a relationship, to start asking what happened? Like starting to dig and dig into the past of the person who is divorced.

In my opinion i don't think it's necessary, just focus on the person and see if you guys can work things out.

My fellow members, what's your opinion?

IMO,avoid divorcees except you are also one.

Those people have too many baggages.

Dafresh:
Yesterday I want to general hospital to see a doctor, he recommended that I should run for test, because it was general hospital so I decided to go and do the test in private laboratory, the test lasted for an hour but going back to see the doctor, the hospital have closed, today being Tuesday I want to see the doctor but the nurses said he doesn't come on Tuesday and I'm seriously sick, doctors in the house please help me. Here is the test result

Only one doctor runs clinic in the hospital?

Meanwhile,the test you did doesn't mean anything.
Widal test is useless.
But Nigerians like typhoid.
If you don't send them to check for malaria and typhoid,they wont agree you have done anything for them

Mammangaddafi:
Labs still do Widal test?

They still do oh.
Nigerians like it.
It's a way of cashing out .widal test is completely useless

omejeb:


we just met and had unprotected sex..i barely know her

Youths and careless irresponsible sexual behaviour.
Tueh

Japa!

If I had not left Nigeria when I did,all my efforts would have been to japa..

So japa ,it will be.

Eric was my classmate and good friend.
Really saddened at his demise.
May his soul RIP

"My ex is not my enemy " gang,how market?

superCleanworks:
22 whole years. Some people will come here to shout IVF but they forget that it doesn't work for everybody.
I Thank God for them

It's IVF,no matter how you want to look at it.
Male factor infertility, actually.
Nigerian men only stay in a childless marriage for long when the cause of the infertility is from their side.

With a donor egg and donor sperm,IVF works.
Besides,you don't know how many times they tried .

22 years is a very long time for natural conception to have occurred.

So calm down.

beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

Lol..
Women can marry anything.

They marry sick men and later start complaining.

You saw a man with some mental challenges..Instead of running for your life,you married him.
That was how one of my friends married a man who had SS genotype.
They spent a greater part of their marriage in the hospital before he eventually died within 2 years of marriage,living her with nothing

Felimax:
I love my wife so much, she was just one in a billion.

The way we started and the dreams and projects ahead of us will not allow us to get deterred by our same genotype.

We are both AS and right now we are blessed with an angel and three handsome princes.

My sister rejected her AS genotype husband to be and ran after an AA genotype man who she later married bad as it is they have been married for like six years now but no child.

My marriage of seven years is blessed with four kids already.

Bottom line - go to your God and talk to Him about it.
PLEASE DON'T SHOUT, DON'T SHOUT when you are talking to your God. If you shout you will hardly hear Him talking to you..

He will tell you your next line of action. Marriage is of God not man.

Throw the NON away and keep the SENSE.

If what you are saying is true.
If you and your partner did not take any precaution to avoid having an SS child..
It only means that 2 or more of your children are not biologically yours.
A DNA paternity test will send you to an early grave.

Don't attempt it.
Live in your ignorance.
Your wife is way smarter than you are.

edoman2016:
I never knew being AS genotype can be a hindrance when it is time for me to get married. I am 35 years. All the ladies that I love and have good emotional connections with them are all AS genotype too. So it means having a relationship that can.lead to marriage has no prospect.

Are the AA ladies getting scarce or what? I just don't understand. I am beginning to get worried of my AS genotype as it is affecting my plans of settling down.

Why are you worried about marriage (at only 35 and as a man)?
Marriage is for women.
Men don't need to marry.
Men have nothing to gain in marriage
Rest!

cutecommend:
I support No-Sex till marriage, but there are concerns about this ideology in this present dispensation..
What No-Sex in Marriage means especially in this generation..

(1) It means No-Sex with my partner because I want to marry him or her, but I will be having sex with other people or my EX.

(2) It may mean No-Sex with you, so that I can benefit certain nice things from you, and because if you sleep with me, you may stop doing the nice stuffs..

(3) It may mean No-Sex with you because I don't like you nor see a future with you, and will dump you when the right person comes.

(4) It may mean no-sex with you, and no sex with anyone else because I don't want sex with anyone at all; whether I love them or not.

(5) It means, no sex with you and no sex with anyone else, because I love you, and I want to make the relationship clean before I marry you.

It was number 4,for me.
I did it to ensure nobody messes me up.
Nothing like chop and clean mouth.
Had such experience in my first relationship and vowed never to have sex with any one except my husband..and so it was.
No regrets

haybhi1:
Way to go. Tinubu isn't considering us. These flagrant policies aren't what I voted for when I voted him.

This is the beginning of thunder that will fire you and your generation unborn.

You haven't seen anything yet