₦airaland Forum

First I do not approve of sex before marriage. I am a protagonist of "Total Abstinence". Apart from the testosterone and high libido stuff which pushes sexual drive in males there are some intrinsic reasons that are often neglected.
Teens generally are experimental, so trying new things and wanting to be the alpha male constitutes a very large percentage of the reasons why teens engaged in sexual relationships.
My focus is on Matured adults. I have had a couple of sexual relationships in the past (though not proud of it ) and then I try to evaluate my experiences based on the need for sex. I will like you to understand that in most Marriages, the male ask for sex quite often same as other sex permitted relationships. Some people may antagonise and say females feel just the same as male only that they are not bold enough to speak.
I will like to trash the antagonism. We have seen scenarios where the wife controls the husband. Do you want to say that in such cases the woman will be too shy to demand for sex? Of course not but in that same scenario the frail man will still demand for sex more than the domineering female.
The reason is simply emotion. Females have lots of ways of showing nd releasing their emotions and are even encouraged to do so. For instance I knew of an Ex who prefers cuddling to every other form of intimacy. But a guy cannot tell you cuddle him even if he is longing for it. A guy cannot cry publicly it is a taboo instead he prefers to pay a hooker and then vent all his frustration on her during sex. Guys cannot express how they feel because it is a form of weakness. Guys who are laconic are tagged "Matured". But talking is a way of letting out emotions. Those things that keeps ladies emotionally stable are taboos for male so the best way he let's out his emotions is Via sex......I do not encourage a guy who is emotionally down to seek for sex. What am advocating is for the ladies to try to make ur guy loosen up, that way he can share his emotions with you without opting for sex. That way you can have a sex free relationship...It is not by saying No Sex at the nascent stage of the relationship but my meticulously taking steps to manage his emotions. Am talking about a cool headed guy nd not you seeing a player who wants to kill and then you flaunt abstinence sign or you thinking you can manage his emotions....some of us are too damaged only God can heal those type not you.......

Mznaett:
A woman can wield a gun,have same muscle tissue and raw power,be as smart and manage money as good as man can. But man can't birth a child not to talk about children..If it wer'nt for women this world would die..apart from God who else gives life? Woman!
Can a man carry 3pound baby in his stomach for 9 good months? This shows that women take more pains than men

Women may not have built anything but they're more smarter

Men are weak. Emotionally,they ar'nt very deep. Physically,when they get ill you never hear the end of it. Mentally,they get plain angry whenever they don't get what they want. Most of d time,they are full of testosterone and have no will to do house work because they think women should do it for them all.

auntie you are lying basic biology informed me that the ist three month is blood nd no foetus formed yet perhaps the woman only carries a baby at that weight for less than two months....ahhh auntie mnza...easy o..God is watching ooo...

Cadamlk:
Do we have black mamba in Nigeria?Am reading this for the first time

Seriously?....

rummmy:
Have anybody applied successfully?the error masages are numerious,kindly advice asap

I have just follow the link, register then they will send you a confirmation mail...just contd that way

...Good for them. these yoruba's are cowards let the herdsmen deal with them brutally so that their senses will be configured.......

MarvellousGod:
Everybody understands you. . But the reality is that Nigeria is hard and unemployment is on the high side..
You passed out of NYSC in July, have a job and you're frustrated?
What about those that passed out years ago but still unemployed?
Were you expecting to have a job that pays you millions immediately after NYSC?
You have a 2-1, millions of other people have 2-1s and first class, some with foreign masters and PHD.. so your 2-1 isn't a yardstick that you should have a mega job immediately after NYSC...

I like your aspirations but you should learn to face reality please, what's the unemployment rate in Nigeria? You also know the state of our economy now... You don't have any oga at the top or years of experience and you were expecting to land a mega job immediately after nysc. . Yea, some people landed a good job immediately after nysc but it shouldn't be something that should keep you frustrated if you don't... You're even lucky to have gotten a job immediately after service, then even changing jobs...

Also, had it been you had a good business of your own, it would have been better. . You're building your dreams around people and expecting to have a car at 25, marry at 28, have your house @30 etc.. it's good to aspire when you've your own game going for you and not when you're hoping on people (employers)... You're even lucky you're still a bit young. .. You don't have dependents also..

Just manage what you're being paid for now while still working hard and improving yourself.. Then keep applying for your dream jobs, you'll conquer someday. .
It will be nice if you can hv other source(s) of income, you mustn't wait for employers because it isn't compulsory they'll give you jobs. .. if you have a lofty dream, you should have a lofty plan too

All the best.....

well said...let me analyse a bit. After tax I get 62k, I spend 17percent on transport, aprrox 31percent on lunch, 11percent on toiletries/laundry, 11.5percent church activities,10percent random/ miscellaneous / unaccounted for....savings plus or minus 13000..with this baby when I fit think of asking for your hand in marriage.........smh....

GodnGold:
Guy,when next you get that 60k job,pm me abeg.my younger brother has a B.tech in industrial chemistry.Pls pm me.He needs it baddestly. Thanks in advance. ;DGuy,when next you get that 60k job,pm me abeg.my younger brother has a B.tech in industrial chemistry.Pls pm me.He needs it baddestly. Thanks in advance.

if you know anyone that studied architecture, made 2.1, proficient with the use of the latest version of AutoCAD 2D, Revit 3D, sktech up, 3D max, has at least 1year in site supervision, can draft project schedule, work programme and good knowledge in architectural detailing,certified in project management and wants a 60k job pls PM me ASAP cos I may soon leave my present place of work (Lagos Island)

Mindfulness:
The thing is everyone understands you because you have the sort of mentality people have when they are 17. Sorry for being so harsh but your attitude is a bit annoying.

...I understand you perfectly, your opinion. But let me ask you, what is the mentality of people when they are 30?

yomi007k:
2 points I need to clarify.



1. You shud have taken that 60k job.
I know I wud n I wud still be balling.


2. Money is still usefull after the age of 50.
My dad is 71 and he look 60, guess wat makes him younger?
He spends a lot on health care.


Wish u d best mate

I guess our world is different...so is our path

The thing is, seemingly no nobody understands me...

yomi007k:
2 points I need to clarify.



1. You shud have taken that 60k job.
I know I wud n I wud still be balling.


2. Money is still usefull after the age of 50.
My dad is 71 and he look 60, guess wat makes him younger?
He spends a lot on health care.


Wish u d best mate

bros I get work ooo of around that same figure naawww, u didn't read my post very well.....is not like I don't have a job...Infact I have an interview on monday

OKUCHI11:
Are u planning to die at 35 or what u want to build ur own Rome within 2 years ...... Well ...before u keep wasting more opportunities just know that UR PREDICAMENT IS SOMEBODY'S PRAYER POINT...... what of those people whom have been at home for longer years than you...... If u want to know what patience is just GO AND VISIT A POLICE BARRACKS THERE U WILL FIND THOSE WHOM ARE ABOUT TO RETIRE YET THEY HAVE NOT COMPLETED THEIR OWN HOUSE......YOU ARE STILL YOUNG 4 DEVIL'S AND GOD'S SAKE......

my dad retired as a police officer....i saw more than that...I actually grew up @ Alausa police barracks

ifyalways:
What are we to do for you Sir?

In this yagayogo Lagos, u got a job offer of 60 K and u walked away , meanwhile u have no uncle/aunty in big places nor concrete job experience . You are a good dreamer too! How many executives built their own houses at age 30 ?

Well, enjoy your dreams and poems on NLD. When reality sets in, ogoro must jump.

when you have a job that pays almost the same thing to what use...I told you I have jumped three places...babe u no go understand...I get work..ooo...

Mindfulness:
Instead of jumping from one company to another, stay in one where you have chances of advancement and prove yourself to be worthy of promotion. Yes, you need work experience. This is how things works in most countries.

and when you look at ppl who have worked with the firm for years, nd weigh their achievements, you will intensify your job search

ladygudhead:
Life sometimes do its own planning for us guy.






all the same never give up.keep aspiring, u don't knw the next minute.Your Status can change by next week n ur dreams actualized.

yeah....you sound just like my mum

Everyone has high hopes, big dreams and a big picture about his/herself. But as every second ticks it seems the dream diminishes nd every minute, the big dream fades away.
I could remember back in high school after topping the community grammar school, my friends nd I thought the world was ours. Because students seldom make 3 credits in the school but my clique broke the jinx I even had a B in maths ..nd the principal bought gifts for those that made 5 credits nd above. Just four students made 5 credits nd above.
My friends nd I all made it to different top ranking federal universities nd when ever I visit V/island I will feed my eyes with the architecture nd say to myself I will love to to live around here. I studied well made a 2.1 in a professional course nd believed the future is bright. During SIWES I had several firms to pick from nd was paid by several firms...future still looking bright
During NYSC I was posted to teach nd since then, things has been moving southwards. I passed out in july nd have worked in three different firms, that is three firms in three months...the problem is the pay is not the kind of pay that will make you happy. If you earn 100k, you may never make a family trip abroad when you marry. It will be just struggle, struggle nd struggle.
The 100k job is not easy to get. The last time a lady called me from global profilers to negotiate I told her I wanted 150k nd she said you have just B.tech with less than 6months experience? I said yes ma, she said 60k or forget it I said forget it ma.
Every morning I walk sad to work I search all job sites so that I can get a better pay yet ntn to show for it. My dream just keep fading. I had planned to get a car before 25, get married at 28 nd have my own house @ 30 but right now am watching from a distance. I can't even believe I still in ma mama's house after 24....
The truth is I believe things changes with time nd when you get all the experience u get a good pay. Mind you what is the use of money after you are 50? U only enjoy money in your youthful days after that money will only be used to cater for responsibilities. Money is sweet when you are young @ 70 life is no longer amusing....
Now when I pass through V/Island I keep my head low face down carry my little bag nd whistle down the road...It just doesn't make sense anymore

amosade30:
rid ma post well dude, I aint askin abt practice test. Yes, I ws sent practice test. I'm asking abt d real test frm wu eva has written it b4, do u fink dey r dumb to set d practice test questns ?

the practice test is similar to the real test. Oftentimes you have a case study nd questions are adapted from the case study

amosade30:
Who has idea about their test? Writing it this week

but guy I hope say u no dey lie cos if Mckinsey send you invite them go give u practice test...make you study before then....you can't get PST's online for free unless u buy....

PapaNnamdi:
drop address lemme gatecrash

you think say na indomie test...gate crash na....lol

amosade30:
Who has idea about their test? Writing it this week

Boy good luck...that was the most difficult Test I ever wrote...just pray you know its PST nd so the test is a factual problem requires grace...time is good no calculators...If I be u I go visit baba mukaila wash my head with cele water....lol....but is tough any way I guess you must have had a good grade to get their invite....lol...e no funny na mckinsey I see say first class too get class...

benswagtt:
like i said in my post, am 95% confident buh i might be wrong. Time will tell if wah said it true or false... And as for your assumption, am a regular cadet of the Nigeria Police Academy.

lol...my old man come be wetin?....guy go look bush joor

benswagtt:
am 95% confident... Buh i might be wrong... U can also ask senior police officers for better knowlegde

No dey talk non sense joor a subject that you have little knowledge about you just sit and talk trash....the military have N.D.A yet they recruit graduates....the police have several depts....let me tell you the academy is currently not running all courses utilized in the force. dentitry, medicine, engineering etc...they will definitely accept graduates...guy to talk nonsense...mind you the percentage is often lower and that is how it has always.....N/B the first graduates from the academy will be in 2018 so they will contd to retire commissioned officers and not replace till 2018? ....guy I sure say u never enter barracks let alone know shit about NPF....if you wan join police dust ur certs pray...God bless u

DanielJones:
There's nothing funny yet. Am I the only one thinking this way?

ntn fit cure your sorrow bro...I understand

Yoruba how market una don start baby laundry....hahahahaha I think say una say na only yeebos they manufacture babies?.....hahahaah...now una dey do baby transfer wire wire....its better to produce than engage in the act of wire wire

ruffneck:
I also got the same msg....I thnk its insurance marketing

hello did u attend the test/briefing?

Looooooooooooooooooolllllllllllll .....buossssss uuuu baddddtttt gan

My present job na marketing now this bros wey deyy up say na marketing ...na which kind nonsense be this sef.....

On Tuesday, September 22, 2015 4:57 AM, Dotun Adefioye <dotunadefioye@yahoo.com> wrote:



you are hareby invited for test and interview at MUTUAL RETAIL,     mba Plc 1B Opebi Rd by Toyin roundabout Ikeji Lagos on Sept 23 by 10am (tomorrow) for enquiries call 08060142083

...........i think I sent my cv via jobberman...I googled but didn't find anything relevant....pls who has anything on them

Yorubas very lazy people imagine herdsmen....lazy weaklings

Saraki...1.....Tinubu......1.......good equaliser from tinubu....what a great shot...(but the fans are ranting that the goal was offside I guess the refree saw it but decided to look away...refree bubu must be very mean with the home team today)....lets have a commercial...brb

ekemini606:
Quit being too strong, its not a woman quality.
Moreover no one talks about career when they are 50
You simply just look at your friends kid and wish you had given it more go.

You are giving work/career more meaning and importance than they where originally intended to have

bro u are so on point..

Valentinooo:
I've replied u Bro. Are u with me

Val please try again I didn't get your message...plss