Happy new year NL Family..bigger us I pray this new yr..IJN...Amen!

MhizVee:
weldne o

Chizzy20:
My dear long distance relationship has to do wit luv, understanding , patience nd tolerance bt for a long distance relationship to workout dere must b constant communication cos am into one myself, u guys should discuss nd cum to a compromise. Dere are alot of oda cheaper means of communication lyk texting, whatsaap nd d rst if ur guy isnt able to afford constant callin.

Eeehya...didn't know u where into one already! was actually planning to strike up one with u this new yr! I love ur personality..will say u where my first and secret crush here on NL...all the best I wish u..xpecially in the new year!

The ones i'v seen, are mostly in the phones of pretty girls!

Pasqa:

Hmm

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pretydiva:
So wat do u xpect us 2 do nw

Can't u jst appreciate the girl? U don buy ur boyfriend Nokia touch b4? Not to talk of iPhone 6!

U c ur life? No be ur fellow girl she be? How many head she get? And how many u get too..u de hear de run mouth, I pity ur boyfriend..

OP congrats jareh! And I pray she buy u a car nxt year IJN..Amen.

If you did economics in secondary school, u should know about the law of diminishing returns...equate it to ur present predicament...nd access what the output might look like in the nearest future..rather than spend such amount on a girl who will still break ur h@ tomorrow..i do advice yu to use that money and get ur self some good books...like the 48 laws of power and the act of seduction..this books will educate u more on how to handle any kind of relationship, women and other life events wisely!

Etruth:
You must be their Lecturer .

Lol..God forbid...I admit my mistake!

Baddestguyp:
worst advice ever. if he does that she will deny it and come up with a good lie incase he tells his friend. next, she will find a way to break their friendship

Xactly my thoughts!

safarigirl:
Maybe you should confront the girl first. Her reaction should determine your nect line of action

Dear I actually thought about that but on a second note, this girl can actually make up a lie against me which might cause a face off between me and my friend.

As innocent as she looks, if she can be a runs girl..then she can do anything...she can even go to the xtent of telling my friend that I tried to sleep with her and u know what that means...all this has been runing through my mind.

ifoundmyperfect:


Tough one. I'd say you tell your friend. You owe him that as a friend. Though he'd may not bliv you. 'Coz his mind and reasoning is being clouded by the affection he has for the suppose love of his life. At least you have done your part. It won't be held against you wen the truth eventually resurfaces in the near future. Some girls can be so unblivable! Sometimes I wonder what exactly is the need of a woman. You offer them the world, they demand for filth. You give them filth, dey demand for the world. I'd continue to stroll and love-up along my conscious lane n refuse to be caught in the web of a woman's deception.

Thanks so much bro...uptill now it baffles me, this guy in question..all his brothers stay abroad and he's in charge of all their business here, he rides good cars, and his very ok..financially..the question that am still yet to fathom is what on earth will drive her into such act? To an xtent I was even wondering whether it was really only money that drive most of this girls into this act or they derive some other pleasure from the act.

Thanks all the same for ur advice!

kreamidiva:


What do u mean by the italicized?

She wore a cloth that nearly left her naked.

clemzo101:
If u are really close to d guy pls tell him if not just turn a blind eye, some guys cld be stupid, u cld report the matter to him now and d nxt thing both of dem will gang up against u. Just be careful.

Sure bro...that's jst what I have been wondering, cos I don't have any solid evidence..twas very late in the 9t and I couldn't take pictures..even @ that it would have looked childish for me to do that in public...my friend knows very much that am not a talkative and can't make such kind of jokes buh on a second note..he doesn't joke with the girl...that's jst what's getting me worried...I think I should jst be neutral n my advice to him..mayb ask him to be careful and look well before he take any final decision on the girl...thanks for ur advice still.

IdiAmin1:
You need to let him know what he's up to. Obviously, it may severe your friendship with him if he's foolish but that way, your conscience won't fight you when he finally makes the mistake of marrying the slot

Thanks bro!

ukukaegbu:
If you care for your friend very much, discuss with him.

If not, pretend you didn't see anything.

Thanks bro!

I was in a 9t club on the 24th 9t..I was surprised to meet my friends most valued girlfriend whom he sees as a potential wife on skimpy attire..she was standing along side with other runs girls, I monitored her to really be sure if she was into the act or she jst came clubbing, immediately she got a customer after they bargained..she hopped into his car and they drove off...

I felt very bad, I doubt if my friend would ever believe me if I told him...they have dated for a very long time and to the best of my knowledge he provides virtually everything she demands from him; so I wonder what will still lead her into such act.

Since then I have been wondering whether I should tell my friend? Or I should just allow him to find out himself? What's ur opinion?

M4gunners:
Ewure.

I wish u d same my brother!

M4gunners:
First Lady You Looks Good.

Seems u nd PEJ where thought by d same GST lecturer bah?

I de mad? Na only my mama I fit die for abg!

Fairgodwin:


bros, it is not just about the money and, please disabuse your mind from thinking every lady is a gold digger. If you find your 'happiness' in an older man, please go for it. And guys, if you find true 'happiness' in an older lady, please do well to go for it.

Note: I didn't use the word 'love',, I said 'happiness',, because there is more to marriage than just 'love'..
#happinessiskey#

Story for the gods...if not for poverty that has limited majority of people in this side of the globe which can cos em to even sell their soul jst to be happy! So u will be happy to give out ur sister to this kinda old man...citris parabulz!

Money most times makes almost all impossibilities possible...lovely act!

Girls and money! Is that man not old enough to be her father?

babyosisi:
So you mean this ugliness been follow am since before the amalgamation of north and south?
Hmm

Gangam..

AKMoney1:
Why is everyone blaming the husband? Did you guys read the first part of the story where she clearly stated that she used him to have a good lunch, dinner or whenever she just feel like going to the cinema, that the guy never disappointed her? For good 3 years she played and milked him like wtf? How many guys can stand that? To the ladies if ur brother is in such courtship what will be your reaction?

Still yet the guy didn't give up and went ahead to marry her but only for the girl to start misbehaving on the very night of their wedding. Why won't you wanna bath with/for ur hubby? She even tried to resist the sex on their wedding night, come on we all have blood in our veins na and this guy has spent a fortune up till that moment. And even after the sex he realized she was a virgin and might be hurt, he bought her a car to compensate her. But ordinary kiss she can't give her hubby as a thank you.

Even though abusing her sexually is not the best option but what if he was beating her?

None of you guys here is saint enough to call him a beast except you pray to be treated the way she treated him while courting or you want your brother to be treated thus.

As for the lady in question, my advice for you is to beg him and change to a loving wife he wants you to be. Not always about sex, show him love and affections and if it's sex give him he's your husband.

Bro I so much agree with u. I think this should serve as a big lesson to most of the ladies here...in as much as I do not totally support the husband violent way of getting sex from her buh I think to an xtent that she is actually the architect of her problem.

She had a lot of time to actually know who she truelly married..instead she used those times to have fun with her friends and the guy sorry to say is not all that matured and is actually seeing this now as an opportunity to pay her back.

My advice: where I come from, we do not believe in divorce, we believe in the scriptural definition of marriage; for better for 'worse'...u can actually tame him and bring out the better side of the man u married.

All u need to do is to first acknowledge that u both have wronged each other.

Secondly encourage urself to forgive him.

Thirdly call him out on a date outside ur home, inform him that u have realised how much u hurt him then..and that he shouldn't still bear all that against u cos u where still not matured then...and now...that u are ready to make amends for the betterment and happiness of ur marriage.

Fouthly educate urself more on sex...use google...read sex books and watch adult movies; he will be surprised if u r able to impact all u learned.

And lastly...everything has a diminishing return...he's jst this way cos it's the first time he's getting into u and it's something he has so longed for...don't give attention to all these ppl asking u to divorce ur man..theres no better man out there....they all have got their flaws..its left for u to tame him to ur taste dear..

Again use prayers to back up all ur problems...seek for God's intervention...tell him what u want...he listens and works with ur kind...if u could stay a virgin till u married..then u don't have any reason to suffer in ur marriage..I wish u Gods grace and blessings as u try to make ur marriage work.

englishmart:
don't call it crap my friend. LOL
In nairaland best threads don't make front-page.
The naivety of our mods is abhorrent

I just noticed that..and it's not encouraging @ all..they should stop being biased and give every person an equall opportunity..or is Nairaland also being politicised ni?

espn:
thanks sir..it is 9 not 7

I think it's a standard measure..cos it's d same measure that was used for both Einstein and Bill gate.

cutieberie1:


stop derailin d thread ntn lyk dat wil eva happen 2 me cos am blesses not cursed n jobless lyk u 2 b quotin sum1

U guys are taking this more than cerious oo! No body will die IJN...and those conditions ain't even any of our portions just for most of d ladies here to learn nd stop dreaming..buh it's well with all of us...amen!

I thought all of them where virgins?

Geestarry:
Hmm. That ear

Lol..omo me fear the ear oo!

cutieberie1:


God punish all 9ja gals as if u hv cn & met evry single 1.u are useless and God punish u too.

Cutie u de vex o!