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Six Types of Friends Essential for Every Woman

The good friends in your life are often overshadowed by the drama the bad ones bring. Sure, you complain about the faux friends in your world - you know, the shady ones, you can't half trust, who are more like acquaintances, and you can't wait to hang up the phone and talk about? - but what about the keepers? The one who calls you back to check on you, even when you rudely told her to leave you be; the one who went with you to that party so you could save face when your date blew you off. If you're blessed enough to have one of these six friend types in your life, hold on tight.

1. The Kindred Soul

She may not always have the answers, but you're kindred souls, so she will understand. She can sense when something's off in your world, and you know just when she needs you most. You're sisters from another mother and you'll want to continue to love and cherish her the way you do your own family.

2. The Motivator

Her friendship challenges you to go places you've never been, do things you swore you couldn't, and reach heights you never imagined you could soar to. She's an inspiration, and she's not afraid to push you when it counts. Put simply: Your relationship is priceless. Remember that.

3. The Confidant

Your private matters are safest with her, and you know it; that's why you tell her everything. She'll guard your secrets with her life, so don't you go giving up any of hers. Continue to be each other's ears to listen. You'll always need a trustworthy friend like this along the road of life.

4. The Teammate

If you have an extra ticket, she's there. When it's raining, and no on else feels like coming out for a drink, she's already on her way. You know her well: She's that friend you can truly count on to be down for whatever and right there by your side. You can't imagine your social life without her, so be willing to put in the work it takes to be sure she sticks around. Remember to be there when she needs a no-fuss buddy.

5. The Fighter

Most-likely the loudest one in your circle, this friend has zero problems telling you what's on her mind. Her no-nonsense attitude is a breath of fresh air when you need someone who's not afraid to keep it real. She'll stand up for you even when you're not prepared to defend yourself and she loves just as hard as she fights. Know this woman? Keep her around!

6. The Rock

When you're at your weakest, she's strong for you. Her words of wisdom and support echo in your heart and soul and lift you back to happy places. She's made room in her heart for you, so make sure you thank her for being your rock, and always show her some love.

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Wishing all Nairalanders both active and inactive members and our guests a Happy New Month!! Welcome to d month of JUNE.

A prayer for all;

Just Like the Eagle,
You’ll fly Like Gold,
You will be Valued Like the Sun,
You shall shine bright Like the river,
You shall flow unlimited Like the Palm Tree,
You shall Flourish and like Money, You shall be Useful

May this new month of june bring many opportunities our way. And May the good Lord who has brought us this far see us through the end of year and grant us all our heart desires with long life and prosperity in Jesus name, amen.

van bonattel: Marriage has no recipe, no formular, no written constitutions and no rigid rules. Two strange people can have nothing in common and still be married happily for life.

Well said, but you can't just travel to a strange land without researching about d place, or go into a particular career path, course of study or field widout avin a clue, d above tips ar preambles, basic tins you must know, sure it doesn't guarantee a successful marriage, but it will sure help many not to make mistakes oda pple made!

Gud nd bad, gud if it is a natural remedy, as in working out, exercise, diet...but if it gets 2 d xtent ☀̤̣̈̇f goin 4 surgery, it is bad, accept urself/ur partner just d way yu ar/dey ar.

Stella obasanjo, died trying 2 modify arself, read d post ☀̤̣̈̇f a lady wu lost ar limbs trying 2 increase ar buttt, u neva can tell, lotta surgeries go bad nd very xpensive, at d end ☀̤̣̈̇f da day u'll end up blaming yaself

iebanehita: Mr.BrownJay and GreatGenius (Hmm!!).. Una matter really long o!.. Lemme contribute my own 2cent in d way i cn...



Ok.. Picture ds:

Mary is in Luv wit Joseph,, both r undergrads.. Hence, dey jt help eachoda out,,wheneva eida is broke!.. Both aint frm wealthy family..

John, an undergrads frm a wealthy family, has bn stalkin Mary all ds yhl,,tellin r 2slp wit him, jt for 1nyt n 15K wld b her's. She wld bluff him n reluctantly says NO,, claiming John is hs First n Last n she wld never slp wit any guy, cz of money.

Her FRIENDS has bn on her neck ,sayin:

''John has never pestered any grl for ds long o!.. Babe,Its jt 1nyt na.. Bsyds, Joseph wld b in town 2spend d wknd wit hs aunt by den. He will never suspect u. You knw he loves n trust u.''

after so much pressure frm frnds,, she succumbs..!!

Is it clearer now?!.

A very gud illustration, but d reason why mary cheated hia is not becos ☀̤̣̈̇f pressure, you only made it sound lyk it is, its because ☀̤̣̈̇f coveteousness for money, her fwends ar not d ones dat will face d consequnce, dey ar only interested in d money 2, cos dey will av dia own share, ar love life is not wat rilly matas 2 her frend, ad d guy not offered money dat would neva hapun, d so calld fwends will be d first to castigate d guy, u myt say she is weak, even dough she may claim she loves d guy, but she cheated cos ☀̤̣̈̇f her love for money, not cos ☀̤̣̈̇f pressure 4rm ar fwends or 4rm d guy.

Hope u ar not d mary in d above illustration, jst kiddin, lool

Princess zoe: Mrbrownjay to God be the glory. This is the first time i saw honesty in your post. God of mercy! Your posts on this thread are decent, moral, upright, true/reality, discipline and above all, godly. But some perverted guys will definitely disagree with you. They will always want to use carnal wisdom to prove their points. If you would stick to my advise, better, stop arguing with them. A mind that is very corrupt and deep rooted in immorality and carnality , takes a lot of physical and spiritual work to fix it. May you be a responsible and wonderful husband and father to your family.

Lool @ d first 3 sentences, guess we already know wu u tlking bout, ur earlier post indicated dat

@Mrbrownjay, well said nd i was in awe of how you broke down ma write-up, but seriously if we shuld go on debating dis, dnt tink both party will cum 2 a compromise. But, i refuse to accept d fact dat pple cheat because dey ar weak as d only reason y pple cheat, i tink dia ar various reasons pple cheat, best known to d peson, nd as a mata of fact sum don't even know why they do cheat, but i totally agree wit d issue of respect, which is smtin u'll hardly find in rlationships nowadays, if couples value one anoda, infidelity will decrease immensely.

badoist: Lovely write-up, front-page material

Thanks, hope d mod will recommend it

MRbrownJAY: any man who cheats on his partner IS MISSING SOMETHING FROM HIS R/SHIP. at the time, men may think they have everything they desire but they don........ get your facts right. if they had everything they desired then that extra woman would have NOTHING to offer a cheating man. a cheating man is in need of something EXTRA that his gf cannot provide for him. men and women are just the same.

whether it is adventure, fresh toto, the right vibe or passion, everyone cheats for a damn reason, and that reason is what they are missing in their r/ship. unless of course, you believe that men cheat for NO damn reason.

Don't agree wit d bolded, sum men cheat yet dey still av everytin, its lyk dey ar cursed or jinxed, aπϑ d ladies ar not helping 2, men ar aro*used by wat dey see, and at dat point in time dey don't care about anytin, dia brain stop functioning, yet he has a good wife wit good morals, but dat won't stop im from cheating. Cheating is in a Man's blood, it only takes God's grace to stand as a Man.

80% of Men who av everytin, as in notin is missn from dia love life are still likely to cheat/fall wen tempted/seduced by d opposite sex, dats a fact, majority of dos wu don't cheat av not been opportuned or in a tyt corner, or dey ar strong blivers, its not easy for a Man, upon seeing booty, booby...dia eyes sense signal 2 d brain wich triggers d action nd b4 you know it d act as bin committed especially wen in a favourable condition, tis lyk dia whole senses stops functioning.

Am not saying all Men ar cheats, neida do i hold d assertion dat all Men ar dsame, am jst saying most men will cheat wen presented wit d opportunity not depending on d fact dat smtin is missn or not. JayZ as evrytin, nd don't tink anytin can be missn in his love life, because beyonce is smokin hawt nd wild in bed as we were tld, but dia was dis tym it was rumoured he cheated on her, nd he had 2 live in a hotel, den i was lyk watelse does a man want, av also read about so many famous American preachers nd men of God round d globe who fell tru adultery

For a man dey derive pleasure, pride , bragging ryts in cheating, u'll hardly seee a man dat feels bad afta committing d act, but 4 a lady most feel ashamed, sum 2 get bak at dia cheating husband, sm cos dey married 4 d wrong reson(money, family pressure)or cos dey aint attracted to dia partner... Even wen a lady av sex wit ar rytful partner, most ☀̤̣̈̇f dem still feel shy, but men sees cheating as a norm, nd d society hardly condemns a Man, infact sm will blame his wyf for his infidelity

OP u can do better nxt time, as for me aint buying dis bullsh*t, you tink illuminati is for evry tom, dick nd harry? U don't know anytin

Atheist:-D:
Cool... cool... are you still in it

Nope! Do you bliv in love?

Atheist:-D:
So... have you been in a difficult relationship?

Sure, most pple av

190: Hooked ooh hooked to the relationship

Beta brk free

Well said

greatgenius: this a a very weak and generic response. be specific. weak as in what?.

I understand women ar weaker vessels, but i tink Men cheat because dey can, yl women cheats because sumtin is missn from dia rlationship or lovelife

I support ur point, buh u shuld av posted dis in d education section

Thanks!

JohnnyPalmer: Took lotta my time to read dis, but its a lovely writeup by toolz, mods frontpage so pple can learn.

I was really inspired by what she said especially on draeam killers, i pray d Mods consider it FP worthy

@tensazangetsu seriously you share ma exact tot bout education, i feel after secondary school d rest IS̶̲̥̅ a waste of time, knowledge is something you can acquire on ur own,apart from dos wu wanna be researchers or historians or scientist goin 2 skul is lyk a waste of time, especially in Nigeria.

In America for example, afta highschool, only few boda to go to college, because in highschool, u must av already discovad urself, ur career path, dats y we av teenagers wu ar millonaires dia, infact at d age ☀̤̣̈̇f 25 wen sum Nigerians ar still struggling for admission nd odas still in skul, dia at dat age most ☀̤̣̈̇f dem av a career already.

Lyk u pointed out, evry wia IS̶̲̥̅ oversaturated, doctors naw find jobs, pple lobbying ƒό̲̣̣̣̥r̶̲̥̅̊ bankjobs wit degrees much irrelevant, lawyers feeding tru affidavits, only few lawyers make sense, we J̶̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊sτ̣̣̥ breed gradustes widout avin a future plan ƒό̲̣̣̣̥r̶̲̥̅̊ dem, seriously if Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ wanna be rich, its eida U̶̲̥̅̊ ar a politician, or I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ d entertainment industry (sports, actors, music, comedy) outside dat ur chances A̶̲̥̅rε̲̣̣̣̥ slim, aπϑ dis areas ar highly competitive. Education IS̶̲̥̅ almost equivqlent τ̅☺ a waste ☀̤̣̈̇f time, wat IS̶̲̥̅ d essense ☀̤̣̈̇f studying a course(biochem, micro bio...) aπϑ working I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ a field entirely different(banking, telecoms) dats if U̶̲̥̅̊ fortunate τ̅☺ get a job dia

Ecobank Sacked 147 Workers; Diamond Bank Fired 2000 Staff

It is sad news again for the bankers workers again in Nigeria, Thousand of banker are now out of jobs

According to news going viral now, two top trouble banks, Ecobank and Diamond bank plc have laid off thousands of their workers.

In early May, over 147 staff were sacked from Ecobank after they’re tagged as non-performing workers.

The laid off employees of the Ecobank find the non-performing label offensive and have vowed to sue the bank.

In another development, Diamond bank have fired 2000 staff over low patronage.

The sacked employees of Diamond bank were not given any notice…They were surprised to hear that the bank no longer needs their service.

The employees stormed the premises of Diamond bank in Abuja on May 15th to protest their lay off.

There is nothing like having a business of your own in any country you find yourself.

Hope those workers can find something to sustain themselves in the main time.

http://www.gistyinka.com/ecobank-sac...ed-2000-staff/

Mod i will be eternally grateful if you can please recommend for front page
https://www.nairaland.com/1306619/10-things-t-learn-classroom

The 10 Things You Can’t Learn In The Classroom

Sometimes I wonder why we bother going to school. To learn, of course. Well… yes, but why is it that we have to go to a building specifically designed for this purpose? Why can we not just sit at home and read books? Whatever it is that is taught in school can be learned out of a book.

In fact, it almost always is taught out of a book. Teachers and college professors alike will assign books that they will teach out of and then later assign to read from. So why not cut out the middleman? Why waste time going to school to learn when we can do it from anywhere else on our own time?

One answer is obviously that most people will choose not to bother with learning and as a result, society will suffer as a whole. Secondly, it is important for people to form mini-societies when growing up in order to learn the importance of social interaction and influence.

Therefore, the chance of the world getting rid of schooling institutions is zero. But don’t think for one minute that what schools have to offer is all the knowledge that one needs in order to live a life of prosperity. In fact, the most important lessons one will learn will be learned outside of the classroom. Here are 10 things you won’t learn in school:

1. People are only looking out for themselves.

School can be rather competitive. Students compete for grades, compete for their teacher’s favor and compete in sports. However, nothing will teach you the importance of competition as when you enter life after school. With technology getting more and more advanced, the world is getting smaller and smaller. This means that the competition is getting bigger and bigger.

While in school, you only had to worry about your fellow classmates. When out in the real world, you have to now not only worry about everyone else in the country you live in, but now often have to compete with the rest of the world. If you think good grades were good motivation, wait until you see how money motivates people. Outside of school you will learn that people will cheat, lie and even kill for money.

2. The importance of being patient and staying positive.

School is set up in a way where we are only made to make short-term goals. Each year is split up into semesters and our only goal is to get good grades by the time that we get our report card. We get assignments, we complete them and then after three months or so, we get assessed on our work and reap the rewards.

Real life does not work this way — nothing worth doing takes only 3 months to conquer. Outside of the classroom, our goals are much more long-term and can take years to transpire. We quickly learn the importance of being patient and keeping a positive mindset in order to survive. If we don’t, then we quickly lose our cool and make dumb, rash decisions.

3. The importance of self-improvement for the sake of self-improvement.

School teaches us that we must improve in order to succeed. Life teaches us that we must improve in order to live. While in school, we learn because we must learn in order to keep up with the curriculum. This in itself is important when entering the workforce; it teaches us that slacking can often at times produce poor results.

However, after we graduate we often find that work is not only what life is about. We learn that we should not just improve the skills that make us better at what we do, but also improve the skills that make us better people.

4. Doing things for the love of doing them.

Doing things because we must do them just doesn’t quite fly in our adulthood. We may need to sometimes do things that we would prefer not to do, but being adults makes us feel as if we have a right to decide for ourselves what it is that we ought to do.

Life teaches us to start doing things not because others tell us to do them, but rather because we want to do them. We learn that the easiest way for us to become successful is to find what we love and to spend as much time and put as much passion into it as possible.

5. Friends aren’t as important as we thought.

Friends are great to have, but people grow in different directions and life often removes those that once were closest to us. Having a handful or less of friends is crucial, but understanding that you can always make new ones is also important. Life teaches us that with friends or without friends, we remain who we are; our friends don’t make us, we make us.

6. The importance of networking.

School can teach us how to make friends, but life teaches us the importance of powerful acquaintances and how to make them. When in school, our possible network is at a minimum — we just aren’t exposed to enough people, not to mention people that hold power in the real world. Once free to roam about in the real world, we quickly learn that getting ahead in life often depends on whom you know and on how good of terms you are on with them.

7. Some things are simply out of our control.

The classroom is a small environment with few variables. If something goes wrong, we can often quickly fix it or avoid it entirely — we have control. After leaving the classroom, the variables multiply exponentially. We no longer have the control we once had and often at times find ourselves at a loss of even figuring out from where the issue is arising. Dealing with such circumstances for long enough teaches us that if we find things to be out of our control, there is no point of getting hung up on them — so we let them go and focus on what we can influence.

8. If we don’t adapt, we don’t survive.

The school system is static, unchanging. Life is everything but. Things, situations and circumstances are changing constantly and more often than not, without any warning. After falling a few times on our asses, we learn that if we want to survive and prosper, we must adapt — and do so quickly.

9. We aren’t Superman or Wonder Woman.

Tackling task after task in school, playing sports and getting involved in extracurricular activities, for many of us comes easy. Doing this for long enough gets us feeling that we can take on the world. But then we meet the world. All of a sudden our superhuman powers disappear and we become overwhelmed.

We come to realize that there is a lot more “maintenance” required than we first thought. Laundry doesn’t do itself. The apartment doesn’t clean itself. Bills pile up and we are the ones that have to pay them. Free time quickly becomes a cherished commodity.

10. Less is more — quality over quantity.

Doing more in order to get ahead may have worked in high school, but getting a real job most often doesn’t allow for the same strategy. Some people may appreciate quantity over quality, but with the changing times, this sort of thinking is becoming extinct. We may find ourselves having to redo the same project several times, cutting out the excess fat, in order to produce something worth selling.

http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/the-10-things-you-cant-learn-in-the-classroom/

7 Steps To Fulfilling Your Dreams

By Toolz

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. When you are seeking to bring big plans to fruition, it is important with whom you regularly associate. Hang out with friends who are like-minded and who are also designing purpose-filled lives. Similarly, be that kind of a friend for your friends.” - Mark Twain.

I love this quote! I stumbled across it a little while ago when I was looking for inspirational quotes, and it absolutely hit the nail on the head.

Can you remember the last time you were telling a friend or family member or even your partner about a dream, a goal you really wanted to achieve? It was probably something you were quite passionate about and talking about it with someone close to you. It got you in high spirits because you could already SEE IT. You could picture yourself opening the door to your new restaurant, salon, clothing store, etc.

The person you are talking to responds to what you’ve said, and your energy changes. You are not so excited any more… the vision you had of opening the door to your brand new establishment seems to fade and disappear. Your spirit now feels low, and that disappointed feeling seeps in and your self esteem drops. If this sounds familiar, know you are not alone. We all have encounters with Dream Killers.

Dream Killers aren’t necessarily bad people; neither are they haters. A Dream Killer could be that good friend/sister/brother/parent who has never really taken a risk on anything because they are terrified of failure. So naturally when you share your thoughts of starting your own business that would obviously involve taking a risk, they are quick to dissuade you with care. They might say things like ‘that will never work in Nigeria‘, ‘I don’t think you can do it‘, etc.

I personally feel it’s important to seek advice from the right kind of people. I’ve been in the Nigerian entertainment industry for just 3 years, and for the first 18 months the rate at which my dreams were being shut-down was stupendous. I’d have an amazing idea, talk to a few people about this amazing idea and before the end of the day, I’d be so depressed because my idea had been stomped on and mortally crushed. It wasn’t like the people I would talk to didn’t want me to do well, far from it…they just couldn’t see my vision.

After a few more months of dream crushing, I decided that I had had enough. I thought about what I wanted to achieve career-wise, and researched people in and out of the industry that I admired. I had role models in and out of Nigeria that I studied and when I got a chance to meet one or two in Nigeria, I must have tired them with my never-ending questions, but hey when it comes to chasing my dreams I’m like a rottweiler!

In my life I have encountered 2 types of Dream Killers – the accidental Dream Killers who care about you, but will unknowingly discourage you from chasing your dreams, and the deliberate Dream Killers who are basically unhappy in their own (most likely) unsuccessful lives, and really don’t want to see you progress.

I’ve learnt that on the journey to achieving your dreams (and greatness) you need to possess the following tools (excuse the pun):

1) Prayer – Pray, pray and don’t stop praying.

2) Self belief – This is not to be confused with cockiness;  just that belief that you deserve to be happy. The belief that you are worthy of success, and that you deserve to accomplish great things IF you put in the work.

3) Have some amazing passengers – Surround yourself with the right kind of people. The kind of people that believe in you and will be honest with you. They will constantly push you to aim for your best. Do not confuse these people with ‘yes-men’ – in fact BEWARE of people that think every single thing you do is amazing. (I may have to write about the dangers of yes-men later)

4) Be prepared to work hard –Nothing in this world worth having comes easy. Don’t expect to achieve anything worthwhile if you are afraid of hard work. My father taught me that. I have never thought I deserved anything just because… If I wanted a new anything I had to work for it; do overtime to earn the extra money or just wait till I could afford it.

5) Be tenacious – You will fail at certain things; accept that. However, knowing how to pick yourself up, figure out where you went wrong, re-group and try again is an amazing skill to possess. Think of the Richard Bransons and Oprahs, how many times do you think they failed before getting it right? As the late Aaliyah famously sang: If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again.

6) Be able to reflect – Take time out to think about and celebrate what you have achieved in your life, and likewise think about where you may have gone wrong or what you could have done better, and make adjustments where necessary.

7) Be happy for the success of others – Honestly this one isn’t always easy. You can choose to be envious of other people’s success or you can learn from their success. You can let their journey inspire you to be more disciplined in your own.

There are probably loads of other steps I could add to this list, but these are the ones that I’m currently doing my best to incorporate into my journey. Please feel free to add any useful ones below, because we’re all here to learn.

Let me end with another amazing quote that inspired me:

‘At first, dreams seem impossible, then improbable, and eventually inevitable’
- Christopher Reeve

Best of luck on your journey to achieving your dreams!

“Let’s say there are prospects for a new Nigeria, but I don’t think we have a new Nigeria yet.” – Wole Soyinka

“The only thing we have learnt from experience is that we learn nothing from experience.” – Chinua Achebe

“Democracy is not something you put away for ten years, and then in the 11th year you wake up and start practicing again. We have to begin to learn to rule ourselves again.” – Chinua Achebe

It is the love of country that has lighted and that keeps glowing the holy fire of patriotism. J. Horace McFarland

“Looking at faces of people, one gets the feeling there’s a lot of work to be done.” – Wole Soyinka

“Nigeria is what it is because its leaders are not what they should be.” – Chinua Achebe

"Democracy is the government of the people, by the people and for the people". -Abraham Lincoln

On May 29, 1999, exactly 14 years ago today, democracy was restored in the country with the swearing in of Chief Segun Obasanjo, as president. The advent of democracy after the nation’s chequered experience under the military was received with much joy and great expectations by the people.


Let every nation know, whether it wishes us well or ill, we shall pay any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe, to assure the survival and success of liberty. John F. Kennedy

Wishing all Nigerians (at home and abroad) and Nairalanders a Happy Democracy Day!!!