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13. Don’t play the blame game.
Though it’s easy to blame yourself or your ex for a failed relationship, remember that it takes two to tango, and in the end there were faults and mistakes on both sides. Don’t blameyourself entirely and don’t blame your ex either.

12. Make new friends.
Since most people have mutual friends, after abreakup, it may be best to make new friends so that there isn’t any stress or tension with your existing friends.

11. Keep the future in mind.
Though your mind and heart may be stuck in the past, remember that a future lies ahead and you will eventually find a relationship thatis much better than the one that failed.

10. Avoid the sad songs.
There’s nothing worse than listening to sad songs or songs that remind you of your ex after splitting up.e.g Adele- someone like you.. Listen to music that keeps you positive and is uplifting; otherwise, coping will be impossible.

9. Don’t consider getting back together.
Though you may still love your ex and care about him/her greatly, the relationship ended for a reason. It’s never a good idea to consider getting back with your ex.

8. Express yourself.
Since breakups bring about all sorts of emotions, it’s important to let them out. Cry, write a blog, write in a journal, or simply talk about your feelings with a friend. Getting it all out truly helps.

7. Stay busy.
Aside from socializing, staying busy will also help to keep your mind focused and off of the recent break-up. Read, watch movies, exercise, or go shopping.

6. Focus on your strengths.
Breakups can leave you down and out, and after calling it quits, now is a good time to focus on your personal strengths. Know that you have plenty of attributes and strengths, and focus on them to keep a positive attitude.

5. Don’t go looking for a new partner right away.
One of the worst things to do after a breakup is to console in someone new. Rebounding is never the way to go as they also tend to end up going nowhere.

4. Socialize.
Spending time with friends and family is a good way to keep your mind occupied. There is never any thing better than being able to spend time with those who you are close with, especially after a break up.

3. Don’t dwell.
While you’ll want to learn from past relationships, you don’t want to dwell on them.Dwelling only makes the anger, denial, and sadness that much worse.

2. Learn from the past.
One of the best things to come out of a failed relationship is the ability to look back, determine what went wrong, and ensure that history doesn’t repeat itself.

15 ways to recover from a failed relationship

We all experience failed relationships until we find that one special person, and while some of us only have to deal with the hardship of a breakup a few times, others have it much harder. If you’ve had bad relationship after bad relationship, or if a recent breakup has just been awful, here are 15 tips to help you recover and keep a positive outlook towards dating.

1. Give yourself time.

When a relationship ends, it’s likely that you’ll be sad, angry, upset, and confused. Always give yourself time to grieve and to adjust.

spice4j: Hmmmmm ...am single ..nd...av not found him

Just go to dating and meet-up zone!

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eforce: just lost my mum.

Eeyah, its not easy 2 loose sm1 u love, but may d Almighty God comfort you, and see you tru dis difficult period. All is well, jst hold on!

How David Mark Will Take Over From Jonathan


The social contract between the governors and the governed is on tenterhooks. Is it not scandalous that barely over two years into the administration of President Goodluck Ebelewane Jonathan that the nation has come to a near grinding halt!



Workers have been threatening (and are still threatening) to go on strike; mainly as a result of the governors reneging on their agreement of the N18,000 minimum wage.

The workers threat was a wake-up call and out of the blues the governors decided to swim to the safety of "strike avoidance" by agreeing to pay the minimum wage.

Translation= the minimum wage for a Nigerian worker equates to just over a $100 a month and shamelessly this was a topic for discussion and disagreement by state governors who receive billions of naira per month in security votes alone.

To add insult upon injury most of them brazenly proceed to loot the treasury. The emphasis is on "most", because we must exonerate the few good ones that have the fear of God as their mantra.

Having made that point, you are obviously still assiduously wondering how on Earth Senator David Mark will unseat President Jonathan: Easy!

Firstly, the Legislature is in the firm grip of the Senate President, David Mark. Due to his inability to test the political temperature, it is on record that not one of President Jonathan's candidates for any legislative position scaled through. A school of thought posits that this is a political embarrassment for the executive arm of government.

For instance, the day the Speaker of the House of Representatives was being elected, President Jonathan was away in America! (Whatever the official assignment, couldn't the choice have been between a rock and a hard place? Perhaps a slight delay of the Presidential jet for a few more hours would have changed the course of Nigeria's political history.

After all, it is not as if His Excellency had to take the route of lesser mortals; buy his tickets, queue up, take off his shoes, get thoroughly searched, suffer flight delays and then miss his flight! ) No.President Jonathan has his own fleet of presidential jets. It would, therefore, not have amounted to rocket science for the advisers to have garnered the wisdom in his waiting a few more hours to have an inkling as to the sort of legislature that would emerge.

That, however, was not the case. Unfortunately, his candidates were left directionless like foot soldiers without a General. Or more aptly, like soldiers without shoes.

As it turned out, President Jonathan lost grip of the House of Representatives. Was this a conspiracy? The senatorial scenario had earlier played out in such a manner that the self-made candidates were elected "unopposed". The question is, Who's in control?

As a political scientist, I know about the doctrine of separation of powers and all its appurtances; however, it resonates as a political fiction. Ask Harold Laswell. Indeed, it is a Freudian fragmentation.

As democratic as America seemingly is, President Barack Obama still has his preferred candidates and deploys all available democratic ploys, including moral persuasion, to ensure that his candidates scale through. This inspires confidence and loyalty in those who are for you and inspires fear in those who are against you.

Did not Niccolo Machiavelli state that for every great leader, "it is better to be feared than to be loved…?"

Secondly, the selection of Ministers and Special Advisers was influenced and determined mainly by one man- Senate President David Mark. Even his campaign Director-General was asked to "take a bow and go immediately" to become a Minister (of Interior). Nigerians were thereby denied the opportunity of listening to the eloquence and incredible political sagacity of the man who led the Senate President to victory.

Before our very eyes, he, like so many others, was asked to "take a bow and go" because come to think of it Nigerians are wallowing in an unfathomable mesmerisation by senatorial pronouncements and senatorial debacles, but that is one of the concentric circles surrounding the subject matter of this topic.

The only ministerial nominee that President Jonathan stood by was stood down by the Senate. Nigerians will not be in a hurry to forget "those in favour say aye…against say nay".

In the case of President Jonathan's Nominee, the "nays" were so resounding that it was crystal clear who was in control. Gentleman Jonathan, he knew when to put the sword back in the scabbard and scamper. To put it mildly, it was a slap on the face of the executive by the legislature.

The Senate in Rome does not err and when it errs does not want to be seen as having erred. After all vox populi Supreme lei and vox populi vox Dei.

Lets leave the Judiciary out, for the simple reason that we have to believe in the independence of the Judiciary even if jurisprudence must be as long as the "Chancellor's foot"! The Judiciary itself may become overwhelmed by the manifest belief of the entire National Assembly in the leadership of one man - their beloved Senate President David Mark.

By: Prof. I.DUKE , an expert in international conflict resolution, wrote from The Vatican.

JSS 3 Student Emerges Winner Of National Competition, Gets Car, N.56m Cash, Scholarship

Aminu Kassim, a JSS 3 student who represented the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) at the just concluded National Quranic Competition, today, received a car, N560,000 cash, scholarship to University level, a Quran and a laptop for emerging as the winner of the competition.

The gifts were handed over to Kassim by the FCT Minister, Bala Mohammed expressed delight over the feat achieved by the FCT Contingent at the competition.

The Minister therefore, directed the FCT Education Secretariat to award full scholarship from Primary School to the University level to Aminu Kassim, the winner of the competition.

While announcing an additional N500,000 gift, he also directed the FCT Permanent Secretary to officially write Master Aminu Kassim for the Scholarship award instituted to ensure that subsequent FCT Administrations abide by the pronouncement.

The Minister, who noted that parents/guardians have vital roles to play in the development of their children, urged them not to abdicate such important responsibilities.

He emphasized that children are assets to the parents and the society at large; stressing that everything must be done to inculcate in them sound morals and best societal values.

The Minister challenged the FCT Quranic Competition Committee to ensure that FCT wins the subsequent edition of the Quranic competition back to back in order to set pace for the 36 States of the federation to follow.

In a related development, 26 States and the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) today converged in Abuja to compete for medals at the 10th edition of the Annual National Table Tennis Competition.

Olajumoke Akinjide, FCT Minister of State who flagged off the event, noted that the 2013 edition of the competition has recorded tremendous improvement as participants of the Annual National Table Tennis competition are drawn from the 36 States of the Federation and the FCT".

Akinjide who was represented by Alimi Musa, FCT Director of Sport noted that 189 players from 10 States and FCT participated in the 9th Edition held in May 2012 while 26 States and FCT are represented in this year's edition.

While stressing the need for the development of other sporting activities in the country, Akinjide reiterated the FCT Administration's commitment towards ensuring the "development and promotion of sports in the territory. Practical example is our approval for the Aso Table Tennis Club to host the 10th edition of this competition here in Patience Jonathan Youth Support Centre. This competition is the first event to be held in this Centre since it was commissioned".

She urged the organizers to keep up the good work as they look forward to the 11th Edition which should have participants from all the 36 States of the Federation and FCT as well as participants from other countries of the world.

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and what is princeparix waiting for, now is the perfect time, wont you strike? lol!

sweet-tease:
A very painful one dat isn't funny

lol, na by force for a guy ask 2 ask you out? so if peson no ask una out for a year, will you commit suicide?

ZACHIE: They are all jet set.
Abi, P Square don dash person dem own jet?

you must be kiddin @ psquare dash dem jet, dem fit buy psquare 10 jets.

P-Square Hangout With The Richest Man And Woman In Africa, Dangote And Mrs Folorunsho Alakija


Paul and Peter Okoye and Chinedu Ikedieze were part of the presidential delegation to the Nigeria-South Africa Business Forum that took place in Cape Town, South Africa today.

The twins are pictured below with Nigeria's richest man and woman, billionaires Aliko Dangote and Mrs Folorunsho Alakija

Haba, its enuf now. Both of you av derailed enuf.
Seriously both of you will make a Ǧ☺☺ϑ couple, u av loads of common interest, lolz, jst p.m each oda, you neva can tell. Ma 2cents

Assembly Ratifies Adelabu As Ekiti Deputy Gov


The Ekiti State House of Assembly Tuesday ratified the nomination of Prof. Modupe Adelabu as the new deputy governor of the state.

Governor Kayode Fayemi had on Friday sent the name of the professor of education to the assembly for consideration and ratification, following the death of the former deputy governor, Mrs Funmilayo Olayinka, after a long battle with cancer.

It is reported that the screening was conducted in a closed session of the assembly. In an interview with the deputy governor designate, she expressed happiness with her appointment, and appealed to politicians to cooperate with the government in developing the state.

She added, "Irrespective of our political differences, this state belongs to all of us. We should all come together and forget our political differences to build a solid state because whatever happens now, either good or bad, it will be for all of us. We are already in a new dawn in Ekiti under Governor KayodeFayemi. We should cooperate and work together for the state to move forward. I never expected this position because there was no vacancy until the unfortunate demise of our late deputy governor".

Also speaking, Speaker of the Assembly, Adewale Omirin, said the nominee was drilled for thirty minutes by the lawmakers, and that her performance convinced them that she is the best candidate for the job.

"She did not let us down, she answered us intelligently and we didn't expect anything less," he said.

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[quote
author=sweet-tease]Word of advice, try not to settle for less cos after you get hookd up,
dats wen they wil start showing their heads and it makes you wonder
where the heck were they wen you were searching. Its so freaking
annoying and its more painful wen you actually settled for less[/quote]Someone talking from xperience

Logicboy03: See how God destroys everything? The rules without God are great but the ones with God......


Numbers 2-5, epic!

Number 8- great!

I think you need to change your mentality, what will make you think dat dia is no God? And what is your belief? Do you know dat dia is lyf afta death? If you don't know when d time comes you will.
Moreover, bro its not too late, he is a merciful God, seek him and you will find him.

As for me; One of us thinks we are in a relationship!

Imprida: Single and searching

dont worry dear, jst pm sexlilz, am pretty sure he'll hook you up wif sm1, we av lotta handsome guyz on NL. lol

eze moses: others : i am in a relationship but searching

Trying to use a stone to kill 2 birds, I hope she is also searching

Like seriously, the Madness wey dey go on for Facebook and other social networks suppose stop sharpaly.
I don talk am before, why be say some Admins of Some Page go dey force us to comment for their posts......abi e get any financial gain wey dey follow our comments?

Like seriously, all these threats no funny at all sam sam. Dem go say make you type Amen to claim Prayers wey you ma know say e no fit happen suddenly. Walahi, e get some kind prayers wey even if your Faith dey like Mount Kilimanjaro, you no go fit actualize am sharp sharp.
One Page this afternoon, say make will type "Amen" and before 6pm today, we go receive call wey go jolly our belle. Chai, e pain me because I remember wen I type "Amen" to similar prayer last year, and I receive call wey spoil my mind till december last year.

Some go say if you no type "R.I.P", that means you no get heart and you be devil pikin. And the funny thing be say most of these stories and pictures, wey these Pages dey by-force us to comment on, dey very very fake.

The one wey dey scatter my head na wen person send you message, and the message come carry very wicked threat......like "Send this message to 6people, and if you fail to do so, you will be broke this week"......make una come see threat eh.
Some na, " if you don't send this message to 9people, that means you hate God"......na wa ooo, na by-force, haba!
E get some kind threat wey you no fit bone......and person like me wey too dey fear, wetin I go do na?

Finally, e get some Page wey go post porn Video, come tell you say if you type "ZT" or "PLAY"....dey video go begin play or dem go send the video into your inbox. Fa fa fa fowl!!! Heavy lie!
Chai, and some of my friends been fall mugu ooo. I believe say these Pages wey dey do dis kind thing, dey hammer for our head.......and if dem wan make money for our head, no be by deceiving us na....e no make sense na.

And abeg, na beg I dey so oooo....make person no send me message wey go by-force me or threaten me oooo....Abeg

No be today wey some Nigerian Ladies don dey lie, e don tey well well. Their lies dey turn belle, but e get one particular system of lying wey dey make my head scatter.
Person go update her status, like "I Love You"....wen you ask her who she dey love, she go say na Jesus Christ she dey Love. Okay, no wahala.
Another girl go update her status like, "I miss my baby so much".....if you ask am who be her baby, she go say na Jesus. Hmmmmm, una don see how some girls dey call Jesus baby ba?
Some go write "I can't breathe without you".....and dem go say na Jesus dem dey talk about. Even wen people wey no believe in Jesus dey breathe well well everyday, people like Brad Pitt. Fat fat lies.

The one wey dey pain me na when some ladies update their status like "I miss you baby, I wanna be in your arms".....and them go say na Jesus dem dey miss. Haba, wich kind thing be dis fa. So na Jesus arms dey hungry you shey Make una stop dis tin abeg.
Hmmmm, the drama no stop there oooo, their boyfriends and assistant boyfriends go go their inbox to find out weda na dem she dey talk about. Come see lies na, she go twist their heads and use reverse psychology take finish them. Come see wetin she go yarn; "so Michael you don't believe me, it is you am referring to in that status and I must not put your name to prove my love for you. If you don't believe me, fine, I won't kill myself" O boy, with dis line, the girl go kill their moral and na the boys go come begin dey beg her. The girl go come dey form vexing tins and in order to cool her down, some of the jonzing boys go wire some money enter her account or buy her big recharge cards....see hammer na...Chai, fear some 9ja girls, walahi.

So any time una see some 9ja girls dey update their status like dat, make una bone dem. They are still learning.....lolz

Kai, 9ja girls, I hail oooo......I dey feel una die. :


For Girls only
nw quikly rush dis prayer points too

Prayer pont 1 my fada my fada any guy dat wants to chop me nd klin mouth God make him begin den gum gum me!

Prayer point 2.oh lord my God any guy dat haz bin formin 4 me all bcus he drives his oga suv,make he batch d kar on our date just 2 expose him!

Prayer point 3. God any guy dat has slept wit titi,shayo,bose,ireti,tolu nd wants 2 use me 2 cap it all oh lord d nite he plans 2 call me divert his number to glo customer care !

Prayer Point 4. Dis one just kum nw nw pray am o! Oh lord God if d intention of my bf is 2 be sleepin wit as many gurls as posibu baba God let him find himself in bauchi (the land of the bokoharams) i guez he kan sleep wit as many bombs as posibu!lol

Do I hear an Amen?

*prayer mode activated* BOYS ONLY.
Prayer point 1 My father my Father! Anywhere any girl is planning
to use me as a MUGU, God destroy her plans!

Prayer point 2 Oh God! Any girl that is using her breast to confuse
my destiny, Holy Ghost fire!

Prayer point 3 Any girl that has vowed that she would never date
me, God make her to see me taking her shopping in
her dream. .IJN!

Prayer point 4 Any girl that has slept with 5 different men
including me and wants to tie me down with
pregnancy that is not mine, God make her forget
my name!

Prayer point 5 any girl that is trying my number because her BIS
has expired, father God divert my number to
kidnappers line!
OYA START PRAYING!

THIS IS MY ADVISE FOR ALL THE INNOCENT GUYS OUT THERE....

"If you don't
want to trek back to the village,
follow this advice...

1. When she
says "lets meet",make sure you
meet her where they don't sell
food or drinks may be a Post
Office, Church or even the
Round About..

2. If you are broke
& its X-mas time or her
Birthday, just start some beef &
make up after the Event!..

3. If she asks you for airtime coz she
wants to send you sweet texts
and stuff!.....just send her 100MB
data bundle & tell her it's for the
whole week on FB. If she asks U
to take her out on Sunday, just
carry a Bible & take her to the
nearest Church!

5. If She says she wants to see a Movie,go home with her & give her a CD bag to choose her Movie..

6. She wants
another phone?Coz she wants
to have 2 lines Go n get her a
Chinese Double Sim or better still a
Tripple Sim...

HE PROPOSED. AND SHE GAVE HIM A
STINGING
SLAP!

Man: Baby, I love you, would you
please marry me?
... Woman: (stands up and lands a
stinging slap on his face) I have
waited more than 9yrs, I have
prayed, fasted, sowed seeds, bought books and
listened to tapes,
even
went out of my way to be nice
to every male specie
of marriageable age! I took up new hobbies, watching football
and play
station. I went to Daystar, from
Daystar, I went to House
on the Rock, from House on the
rock I went to Guiding Light Assembly, Phronesis
christian centre int'l, MFM,christ
embassy,Redeemed, from there i
went to This Present
Winners looking every where for
you l went from a size 14 to asize
10, so that when you see me
you’d love what you see.
I left Lagos, went to Abuja, from
Abuja I went to
Port- Harcourt, then I went all the way to Kano I joined hi-five,
from hi-five to faceboook,
then I
went to twitter, I even had a
blog on which I ranted,
hoping ♈ōϋ would show up! for where? I uploaded only my best
pictures on Facebook,
infact I took photo sessions to
look my best, all for
you o! I attended all the
weddings, whether the invitation was direct or indirect!
The next place I was hoping to
check was the moon,
before you crawled out, crawled
out from the house directly
next to mine! So it was you all this while? The
neighbour I said hello to every
morning?
Were you trying to destroy my
faith?
You almost rendered my prayer life useless?
What were you waiting for?
What sign where you looking
for? Do you want to kill me
before you reveal yourself?!!!
Now be a gentleman, get down on
your knees and
put that ring on my finger!!