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tohyorsih2:
It's a benin name
It means "i am surrounded by wealth"

Thank you so much for the prompt reply. I can now relax!

Jephz:
both bini and esan do use it.

Phew!!! thank you very much!!!!!!

Hi all,

Please let me know if this name is Bini or Esan. Already registered my child with this name before someone mentioned it may be an Esan name and Im freaking out as my dad is from Benin although I havent been home in years and dont speak the language - I want my child to have that heritage in her name.

Thank you!!!!!!

Sassejoli:
My dear congratulations!! I am almost in the same boat as you as I am trying to plan mines for either November or December and I had a Lagos based wedding planner give me a quote of 800,000 naira and I want to hire her because I love her work but that price! and she said because the wedding is in Benin City, I would have to pay for her and her team's transportation fare and their housing accommodation haaa! so now I am stuck. My intro is in December and I want to try to meet as much wedding planners as I can. Someone suggested Eco trends events. I didn't contact them yet though. I need wedding planner recommendations

My dear, the prices I've been quoted has entered millions! Just to organise o!!! I had to ask, biko, what else does this money include abeg? I had to readjust my brain fast. So, now looking for benin /warri based vendors. All the best ones are in lagos unfortunately . I'll check out the eco trends folks you recommended. Im looking at ruruworldevents (instagram)..shes an event planner and does decor also, Im considering her...Goodluck with your upcoming intro, all the best!!!!!!

Jadeite:
Wow!! Beautiful Write Up! I am having collywobbles already...lol..I sent you a PM as regards souvenir options..Congratulations!

Thanks dear, I cant see your messages, its frustrating as I got an email that you sent me a message...only I cant find it anywhere!!!I'll keep trying but thanks for responding

youngest85:
Joblessness

But, why not waka pass? I wrote this up just before I started work this morning......u? how far?

Oh wow, Thanks for the heads up, I never even considered that. Thats the problem, no one is talking to us! All we have had is an assurance by a church worker that its fine to have the wedding in March but no one is telling us anything!

shollyblingzy:
congratulations dear, happy planning , but are you sure you would able to get an Anglican church that would be willing to join you during that period of march, as it would fall within the lenten period, and as far as I know, no anglican church wed any couple during lenten period, #jst my opinion

So, Im plannning my wedding for March 2017 and finding it quite difficult to find a Nigerian discussion forum where brides to be can liase with each other and discuss wedding plans!
So I decided to open this wedding planning thread so we can do just that!

I guess we can start by introducing ourselves and discussing what stage we are in our wedding plans, asking quations and hopefully getting answers from experts or fellow to be brides!!!!

I'll start....

Brief Introduction

My boo proposed to me on the 16th of July 2016 and we almost immediately stated making wedding plans. Personally, I have always been a planner and prior ro the proposal, drawn up an estimated budget for my wedding. I guess what Im finding is reality is very different from imagination..lol.
As for our introduction, it was done in absentia - his people went to see mine about a month and half after the proposal and it all went swimmingly well. it was a small and intimate affair. I got sent pictures which made me shed a tear or two as it all seemed like its actuially happening!!!!!!!


Wedding Planner
So, as it willbe almost impossible to organise my wedding from the UK, We decided it was only wise to get an event planner to sort out the day for us. I managed to contact a few in Lagos and the prices I was quoted ......I was speechless at times. Also, our wedding will be in Benin city, all the good wedding planners in Lagos will charge out of service area costs so the costs keep rising. I managed to find a wedding planner with a reasonable invoice though but my fiance and I later decided to go with one of his friends who has organised weddings in the past, has very good taste in style and knows Benin quite well so we will stick with her and see and how she does.
I'll also keep in touch with the event planner as they can both work together to hopefully bring my dreams into reality on my big day?

Venue
this has been up in the air and been the singular most tricky issue about this wedding.
For the traditional, that will be in my fathers house as per tradition. For the Church wedding, we are looking for an anglican church in benin that will wed us. We managed to find one, but its been over a month of trying to get someone to contact us and fix a date. Yes, we know the wedding will happen in March, but it has to be between the 1st and 3rd week in March as we have other commintements before and after then.
We just need someone to tell us, OK, we will happily wed you on the 4th, 11th or 18th of March. then we can plan everything else around that time.
The reception venue will again depend on the church venue. We have been advised to have the reception close to the church so attendees can easily commute to the venue. With this in mind, I have had a look at some venues I'd love to have out reception in...Protea Hotel comes up top. I called them up and found them to be quite affordable. However, their venue will only sit 180 guest so that was immediately struck off the lost as we are looing at at least 300 guests.
Alos considered Best Western hotel and the Marquee place. However, these hotels are all based in G.R.A and the church we are in contact with is in Ugbovwo..and I hear its quite a distance between the two venues. I have searched online fruitelessly for nice reception venues in Ugbovwo, if anyone knows of any, please contact me.
Also, my dad has offered a vast peiece of land ghe owns in benin for the wedding reception, he says we could put up a marquee....I was very happy with this idea until I lookied up marquee prices, we might as well get a reception venue. It'll actually cost ius more to hire tyhe marquee, set up and hire charis, tables etc. No need.

I'll stop here for now, lets hear the other brides of 2017!

Big no for me. Yeah, a bit on the legs I can live with but no chest hair, thats a total turn off. I get my boyfriend to shave his chest hair off ever so often.

Standard procedure na.....

Im a Naija girl and have only one man..same thing in my previous relationship so whats your point please?

Im a frequent lurker on nairaland but got so touched by your story I had to reply.

Really sorry about te situation..I can only imagine what went through your mind when you saw that IV. Its such a pity a human can do something so evil to another human. I could relate with you because I am an introvert as well and dont have many friends but I suggest you speak with someone you are remotely close to. Please please speak to people and dont keep lonely cuz its not worth taking your life over some man that not even worth it.

keep your head up. Promise it will be alright.This will pass...

I say this loosely but meaningfully, ID RATHER BE SINGLE FOREVER THAN DATE/MARRY A MAN THAT WILL HAVE OTHER GIRLS. IM JUST TOO JEALOUS AND EMOTIONAL TO DEAL WITH THAT , id rather be the only one than number one, thank you very much.

reading my ex's facebook inbox after he mistakenly left it open and went to sleep led to our break up. of course, i found he was messing around, and after so many warnings from me to him to change ways, i had to let him slide. one of the hardest thiings I did in my life, but I couldnt cope with the BS anymore,

[quote author=deal_ordea link=topic=749831.msg9058802#msg9058802 date=1314911009]My Girl friend uses a variation of this sometimes: "Agh, is sex all you ever think about?"I hate hearing this from woman.

To which I say,[b] "The time you'll need to worry, is when it's NOT the only thing I think about."[/b]We usually end up in bed after this,[/quote]cor, thats deep, lol

I cant ask a guy out, if i like him, ill make it unbelievably obvious that i do, subtle/not so subtle stares, hair flicks, girls, U know the lot. but I cant get to the point of making the first move. if after all my 'signals' , he's not interested , then bye-bye.

i guess the big deal is that its not conventional.

After the first listen, to be honest , i was like, 'was this mean'? and I shook my head, but the second time, am all over the song like a tramp on chips, This is prolly my 150th listen, hehehe,

If you want deep meaningful songs, sorry but D'banj is not ur man, but if u want to move that bootay, he's on point!

seriously, i had to give a whole good laugh at this one, Jesus!, Nigerians!, tufiakwa

love doesnt hurt

When u said, u shes trying to get back at u, what for? because she was the one acting funny the first time. Did you do something wrong to her that made her change? If you did, then its understandable why shes acting cold towards you.

You both need to have those heart to heart chats, u tell her what u want, she tell u wat she want and then u thrash it out from there. Cant see anyway else out of this.

Ideally, would not date a guy younger than me but tht ship has sailed now, he was 7 yrs younger! (never ever ever tot Id do that), But anyway, realistically, at most 5 yrs older, 0 yrs younger.

Personally, I cant! simples. Once I feel and most importantly, know Im not the object of his affection, I know its time to move on!

I wont advice marriage jus because he's going away. Not even an engagement, but this is preferable. If he really loves you and is serious, over time he will facilitate your moving over with him in Canada and then you guys see what happns from there.

Muscular guys dont do it for me unfortunately, I like them toned, but if I had to choose b/w skinny or muscular, id choose skinny,