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 Romance › Re: What Can Make A Healthy Relationship Go Sour? by StephenP(m): 5:52am On Nov 11, 2008 |
sexyLeamon:*dead* LMAO!! myndofgold:Ok coool. @JamaicaOT, did you bailout on me already? |
| Romance › Re: What Can Make A Healthy Relationship Go Sour? by StephenP(m): 5:42am On Nov 11, 2008 |
sexyLeamon:I appreciate it. myndofgold:Hmm. . . what part of Nigeria are you from? @JamaicanQT, where you at? |
| Romance › Re: What Can Make A Healthy Relationship Go Sour? by StephenP(m): 5:30am On Nov 11, 2008 |
@JamaicanQT, Where in Jamaica are you from? @myndofgold, how's Cali? |
| Romance › Re: What Can Make A Healthy Relationship Go Sour? by StephenP(m): 5:27am On Nov 11, 2008 |
JamaicanQT:Thanks. |
| Romance › Re: What Can Make A Healthy Relationship Go Sour? by StephenP(m): 5:16am On Nov 11, 2008 |
myndofgold:Thanks. |
| Romance › Re: What Can Make A Healthy Relationship Go Sour? by StephenP(m): 5:03am On Nov 11, 2008 |
So many reasons and no reason at all. |
| Romance › Re: My Akata Girl Just 'jilted' Me by StephenP(m): 4:51am On Nov 11, 2008 |
KarmaMod:Obviously lying. Apparently it is an achievement to date an African American. In that case, I better go receive my multiple awards too lol. |
| Romance › Re: My Akata Girl Just 'jilted' Me by StephenP(m): 4:49am On Nov 11, 2008 |
FirstKing:I'm sorry, what? She is African American, you're Nigerian. . . both of you are black. What kinda racial excuse did she use? |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 11:00pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
Cristalz:Well then if it's that important, trust your feelings. |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 10:41pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
LadyT:You should see how hard I'm cheeseing with now. I know you should play and heck I love the game but please gently and cautiously. If I'm too far behind, slow down. LadyT:Sweetie dare I say that that is every man's fantasy? lol Even Beyonce knows what the deal is Still play my part and let you take the lead role Believe me I'll follow this could be easy I'll be the help whenever you need me I see you hustle with my hustle I can keep you Focused on yo focus I can feed you |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 10:27pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
It sucks even more because some of those independent ladies also decide to play a tough game of hard-to-get and feel like they deserve the imaginary perfect man. Well ladies if you feel like you need to show your worth or something to him please I beg you, don't do too much. I don't want any of you to be like Sauron said, single in your 60's. |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 10:17pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
Cristalz:Surely whatever you're trying to buy cannot be that pressing that you cannot wait for some hours. HR.hotness:Sure thing. omoge:Like your? omoge:Not submissive in the dictionary context, just know when to chill and trust me when I say I got it. |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 9:54pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
LadyT:I definitely see your point of view. LMAO@ last sentence. HR.hotness:Oh really? You gotta tell me the other ways sometime. Cristalz:Cellphones, email and all the other new age technology things we have. |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 9:44pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
omoge:LOL!!! and you won't complain that he is "not man enough" ?ugh I hate that phrase |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 9:25pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
It is funny that some of those Ms Independents don't know when to turn their dependence on or off. You ask to take them out for dinner and they are like no they'll get some food somewhere else, the moment you're busy at work, they're buzzing your phone asking you to take them out and once their request is denied, they go round complaining how you can't take care of them. doncaster:Assuming all relationships are prefect, which they definitely are not. |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 9:17pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
HR.hotness:Well tell that to the Ms. Independent extremists. HR.hotness:True but it depends on what is being bought. If it is something expensive that I want to buy it and give it to her on a special day because it will be more treasured and will have some sentimental value to her/us, wouldn't it be worth the wait? |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 9:03pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
HR.hotness:It has nothing to do with ego. Like I said, I'm cool with her buying stuff for herself but I'll be pissed if I tell her that I got it and she is still trying to pay for it herself. As much as I hate to admit it, it is a societal norm; the man is the main provider. |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 8:53pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
~Sauron~:True and other times she doesn't have to wait for me . . . go ahead, use your initiative and handle it.It takes a lot of understanding and the big word, communication between the couple to know when or when not to handle it. |
| Jokes Etc › Spiders On Drugs by StephenP(op): 7:47pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
[flash=425,344] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sHzdsFiBbFc&hl=en&fs=1[/flash] |
| Poems For Review › Re: Poem: I See by StephenP(op): 6:37pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
Exstar:Thanks. Exstar:Hey, this is really good. Did you write this? |
| Romance › Re: Miss Independent by StephenP(m): 4:35pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
I do not mind a little Miss Independent myself but the problem is some of them get too carried away with it. I think it is disrespectful, if we have been dating for a while and I take you out and pay for your meal and you feel like you have to reimburse me or something like that. I can understand if you want to pay your bills and spend money on yourself and things like that but you should know when to let me show my appreciation for you. In the same vein, if she wanted to buy me a gift, it will be messed up if I say "Never mind I can just buy it for myself". . . see what I'm saying? |
| Culture › Re: I Cried When I Saw This by StephenP(m): 3:32pm On Nov 10, 2008 |
JamaicanQT: Sisi Jinx:Thanks. Appreciate it. |
| Literature › Re: My Random Thoughts by StephenP(op): 5:07am On Nov 09, 2008 |
Oh yes! Be sincere. No B.S. |
| Poems For Review › Re: No More Goodbyes by StephenP(op): 5:06am On Nov 09, 2008 |
stillwater: Cayon: bluespice:Merci beaucoup mademoiselles. |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Who Is The Hottest Girl On Nairaland? by StephenP(m): 1:30am On Nov 09, 2008 |
Permit me to ask what has gained from this thread? Extra beauty points for the winner? |
| Crime › Re: Why Do Girls Get Raped? by StephenP(m): 1:27am On Nov 09, 2008 |
So many reasons. Though, I think it's because many men have a higher sex drive and the women are generally viewed as the weaker sex and so the rapists know that they can easily overpower the women and probably get away with it. I bet if all women had a weapon or something they could use to protect themselves all the time, the rape incidents will drop to its lowest. |
| Culture › Re: I Cried When I Saw This by StephenP(m): 12:04am On Nov 09, 2008 |
So when is the actual documentary coming out? Not that I'm interested in it. . . just curious. |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: The People Of California Have Banned Gay Marriage by StephenP(m): 3:06am On Nov 07, 2008 |
I'm pretty indifferent. Homosexuals don't affect me negatively or positively. However, from a religious point of view, I should be happy about it but then I feel everyone should have equal rights to marry whoever they choose and not be judged because of it. Anyway, like I said, I'm indifferent. |
| Culture › Re: I Cried When I Saw This by StephenP(m): 3:02am On Nov 07, 2008 |
@poster, Sorry??  I can't even begin to imagine what you'll do when you see the actual documentary. |
| Poems For Review › No More Goodbyes by StephenP(op): 5:32pm On Nov 05, 2008 |
I pocketed the realities that we were not meant to be, Waved the white flag of inevitable defeat because dreams of us seemed to retreat, Drowned in my unshed tears, Lost in a wasteland of fears and adversities. You were once the compass that guided me when I couldn’t find my way, And now I lay Misplaced in a wonderland of nocturnal behavior. Eyes staring into empty walls, Delusions of who we were plays tricks with my senses, Hence, this is my unavoidable fall into a love story of you and I. I can still hear your laughter, Faint visions of your smile cloud my thoughts, The taste of your lips have become pleasure shots that keep me sedated. I’m addicted. You tickle my imagination with memoirs of “what ifs” As if rewriting history mentally will bring about physical relief, Instead I strangle in disbelief, How did we get here? Get to a place where it hurts too much to care, Where your burden wasn’t ours to bear? Where discourse was lost in translation Because you felt it unclear when I said I am a gigavolt of passion I’ll keep you satisfied 360 degrees of love Unending and un-denied Seventy-seven times full of forgiveness I am geared up to endure Ready to take a front seat to life with you and explore Let’s throw away our goodbyes and replace them with sweet dreams Nothing is better than making up, you bring the strawberries and I’ll bring the cream Instead of reminisce apart about what could have been Let’s write a new chapter together A fairytale filled with heartfelt things I don’t want a goodbye I much rather prefer a happily, realistically non-fiction, ever after [img]http://pro.corbis.com/images/AXR001736.jpg?size=67&uid={c51637bf-b432-4b3b-a3b2-1ac30fa4fd6b}[/img] |
| Literature › Re: My Random Thoughts by StephenP(op): 8:53pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
As much as some people believe that they can create and equate rules on love, there is no formula for love. There is honestly no need for a juggling act, or flip personalities, or “be nice but not too nice” or “be mean but not too mean” etc. In the end, love is or it isn’t, either you have it or you don’t, either the two of you are a match or next! I was talking to my cousin about his sometimes-crude behavior. His straightforward explanation was that women like assholes. He continued to explain that only after he became rude did he begin to get more attention from the ladies and the numbers came flowing in. As much as I wanted to argue with him about it, I couldn’t because even the girl who was with me said she found it “sexy”. However, it’s a known fact that women are infatuated with bad boys but in the end they fall in love and marry the good men. But why do bad boys catch a woman’s attention quicker?? I think when a guy is rude to a woman, it makes her wonder why is he rude? And how can she change it? This usually results in talking to the guy more and spending more time with him. It seems like they are either consciously or subconsciously trying to prove their worth to him like “I am worth your attention, worth your time, worth your energy…etc”. [img]http://pro.corbis.com/images/42-15805195.jpg?size=67&uid={3ec468d5-991d-4ae3-bb96-239d8ed966a3}[/img] The flaw with the bad boy theory is that, what begins as a method of creating curiosity and attraction can also in that same process produce frustration. When a woman is frustrated, she easily makes irrational decisions. The more passionate she is about the man, the more irrational she thinks. She reaches a point where she feels like it’s become a game to him. Frustration of that sort can make a woman feel like she has no control, and when ladies feel like they don’t have any kind of control, they set out to prove they still have “it”. They scroll through their little black book, go shopping for that to-die-for outfit or lingerie, put on strong their flirty behavior, and pretty much polish their ego. It’s left for the guy to realize that his competitors are on the prowl therefore he can either choose to drop the act, or be stubborn and in the end miss out on a good relationship. Either way, it disproves the idea that being an asshole gets you the girl. They might take down your number, call you up a couple of times, go out of a few dates, and if you’re lucky enough you could even convince them to be with you, but once you have pushed a woman into the realms of frustration (which many guys with the asshole mentality do in the end) all that work has ultimately been wasted effort. The solution: Just be yourself; no acts, and no hidden meanings to anything. Never purposely hurt a woman you care about. Let her see you for you at all times because if you are an inconsiderate douchebag one day and Prince Charming the next, she never really gets to see who you really are and that just isn’t fair to you or her. Lastly, communicate! Lack of communication is one of the greatest downfalls of man. When you understand your woman and her needs, she is less inclined to get frustrated in the situations that have been previously explained. |
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