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Zzor:
there's no scam here, I already know so much about the family,guilt has taken all of me

Introduce him to someone who will be ready to love and marry him.

Don't

TOMwizzi:
The job pays 65k

Must the person currently reside in Ado Ekiti?

NoHoper:
34 and I have never really been happy for a prolonged period of time. Transient happy times here and there, though.

I'm under immense pressure from family members and even distant relatives to basically be responsible for their upkeep. Pretty much everyone around me expects that I place them on some sort of monthly salary. Yes like every month I should send stipends to like 7 people from my paltry 200k salary. Dad lost his job in the mid 90s and has since never bothered to get another. His unemployment status didn't stop him from bringing into the world three more souls. Mum's got some health issues so hadn't been working. She was very hardworking before the health problems started, to be fair to her.

So now I'm basically responsible for my parents' and siblings' upkeep and have been at it since I graduated 10 years ago. Haven't done anything with my life, I don't have any savings, not married. Just stagnant. I'm not saying is wrong to help others but I just feel like the pressure on me is a little too much and it's not fair. I deserve to be happy but I don't see that happening. I fear I'll labor all my life just to make my family happy while I live in perpetual sadness and pressure.

No Hope.

Set a target of saving #60,000 every month and don't touch it for any reason. Not even for your own needs. To do this, discuss with your banker to create this automatic savings account for your such that once your salary is paid, that amount is automatically debited and then credit into your savings account. Do this for 18 months and then start a side hustle with it to grow your streams of income.

From the remaining one, you can spend half for yourself and the rest for your dependents.

You should not ever live for any one because none will do that for you.

Repeat the above saving to business/investment processes until you have at least three side hustles and then set up a provision shop for your mum too as this will as well reduce their dependence on you. Cheers!

Shortyy:
Which injustice? I'm just telling you how the place works. The amount I mentioned there are monthly salaries. Abi you don't know what monthly salary is again? It is what they're paid monthly. Like their monthly allowance.

What he meant is thus:

Is it after tax (net salary) or before tax (gross salary).