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WHAT A PITY, THIS LIFE IS JUST WORD AND OPPOSITE. ME AM SEVEN MONTHS PREGNANT NOW WITH TWINS BUT NOT HAPPY. I HARDLY GET SOMETING TO EAT TWICE IN A DAY. MY HUSBAND LOOSE HIS JOB A YEAR AGO THE DAY I WAS TOLD THAT AM CARRYING TWINS, I NEARLY COMMITE SUCIDE COS I KNOW WE HAV NOTING TO CATER 4 THEM. AM VERY HEAVY NOW WITH #9,000 SALARY AM COLECTING WHICH WE ALMOST BORROW FINISH BEFORE MONTH END. HOW I WISH GOD GIVE U PEOPLE THAT ARE ALSO IN NEED OF IT. BUT I BELIEV DAT GOD TIME WIL SOON COME 4 U. I ALSO PRAY 4 MY HUSBAND THAT IS IN NEED OF JOB. AT LEAST ANY JOB EVEN IF IT IS DRIVER. GOD WHERE IS UR EYES.......WHAT A PITY, THIS LIFE IS JUST WORD AND OPPOSITE. ME AM SEVEN MONTHS PREGNANT NOW WITH TWINS BUT NOT HAPPY. I HARDLY GET SOMETING TO EAT TWICE IN A DAY. MY HUSBAND LOOSE HIS JOB A YEAR AGO THE DAY I WAS TOLD THAT AM CARRYING TWINS, I NEARLY COMMITE SUCIDE COS I KNOW WE HAV NOTING TO CATER 4 THEM. AM VERY HEAVY NOW WITH #9,000 SALARY AM COLECTING WHICH WE ALMOST BORROW FINISH BEFORE MONTH END. HOW I WISH GOD GIVE U PEOPLE THAT ARE ALSO IN NEED OF IT. BUT I BELIEV DAT GOD TIME WIL SOON COME 4 U. I ALSO PRAY 4 MY HUSBAND THAT IS IN NEED OF JOB. AT LEAST ANY JOB EVEN IF IT IS DRIVER. GOD WHERE IS UR EYES.......

DailyNews: Hello OP, I understand how you feel because I have once had female relations who had it all financially and beauty-wise, but were unable to find suitor, and I will tell you some truths here, pls don’t take it as an insult, just use it to liberate your mind.

The truth is that your problem started the very day you landed that job in a blue chip company, which I know already to be an oil firm (NLNG, Chev or Mob). As k me why I said that? As an African woman, you are wired to become- pompous, arrogant, prideful, disrespectful, etc to men who earn lesser than you once you are earning a big income, that’s a proven fact, and all African men crave for respect from their women, reason why most Nigerian guys find it difficult to consider single ladies earning big income for marriage except you guys had been dating before you got the job and you remained loyal and humble, and didn’t turn unruly and wayward like most single ladies in Nigeria that earn high income.

Remember, reasonable men don’t care about how much you have or how many countries you have visited before they consider you to be their wife; all they care for is- humility, respect, homeliness, decency, and generally good character, do you have those qualities or have you thrown them away in the midst of living glossy life and hoping that your fat pocket and widely travelled status would secure you a husband? If so, you need to work on your character and pray fervently to God for the grace of humility and moral uprightness.

From your words (pls forgive me if I sound harsh, just trying to help you see certain truths), you have intentionally blacklisted certain group of guys who are obviously your best bet in this situation. I know that deep down your heart, you want a man that’s earning higher than you, who must also be widely exposed like you, and that maybe your mistake number one because not every lady will marry a very rich guy, and not every lady will have a good-paying job that you already have, so you see God might have given you that good job for you to build your own family, for you to help your husband to be to stand, while you are busy complaining and waiting for Dangote’s younger son to come marry you, pls wake up.

Another painful truth is this: most men earning higher than you wouldn’t want to marry a lady who is earning big income because they wouldn’t want disrespect from their woman and they do want a homely woman who would respect them and have time to take care of their kids (not all, but most, talking from male perspective though), and that’s why you see such men going to marry ladies with peanut job, or those that are still serving in NYSC or unemployed and with no or less exposure like you have.

Real men don’t marry a woman because of where she works, how much she earns, where she lives or family she comes from, they marry for love, good character and person. In order words, if you want to increase your chances of finding a husband, please consider guys who are still working towards becoming financially free and work diligently and prayerfully with them to build your own home, but if you like, ignore this, you might still find your fantasy husband as God permits.

I am not saying you should go and sponsor a man, nope, but there are average guys looking for working class ladies like you, consider them, and stop complaining that they are unsettled, blah, blah, blah, and waiting for those that are earning higher than you cos it may not be God’s plan for you.

Try and be visiting home (village I mean) during Easter and Christmas. One of my friends that was born and brought up here in Nigeria met his wife in the village during Xmas, and guess what? The girl returned from United States to celebrate xmas in the village too, and FYI, her dad happened to be a very wealthy doctor in the states, and yet, she couldn’t find a husband in New York until she came to the village. They are living so happily married in the states right now.

One of my cousins met his wife in the village during xmas, and another of my close friend who wedded last Easter met his wife in the village during xmas and the girl returned from Abuja too. Guys no longer go to churches to search for wife because churches have been infiltrated by bad girls desperate for husband, reason you see guys going back home. School is another good environment, and if you must consider church, then you must be truly committed to not just Sunday activities, but weekly activities, can you?

So don’t just think that you will only meet your husband in the city- UK, Germany, etc….he maybe waiting for you in the village. But most importantly, change your mindset- money is nothing, and when I say nothing, I mean NOTHING, so remove money and status from your search and look for men with vision and creativity, and stop seeing yourself as too big for certain kinds of men cos your God destined husband might be amongst those class of men you had been snaring at, be wise, life doesn’t always work as we wish and plan it to.

Good luck.

debrief08: Old Post, they already got married, it was even shown on TV.
As far as I know they are living haappily and gracefully aging together

sub_zidi: @ Lovemychild: Hi Dear, please take off your email i've sent you a mail already. If you can response immy so i can send someone to the bank or tomorrow morning.
It is well with you!
Bear huggs

Ujujoan: -shoe size - 46
-height - 6' something
-Best sleeping position - Face down
-best colour - Yellow (I hate dat colour)
-first bathing step - Wets body first
-parents/peers pet/guy name - Don't wanna say, someone might know him!
-most used phrase - Igbaaaaa!
- best song - Anything old school . .
-worst habit - Making calls while driving
-ideology of life - Karma's a biatch . . . do NO evil!
Lol!! @ his best color

Ninapha: Whats ur spouse
-shoe size?----45
-height?-----1.89M
-Best sleeping position?-Butterfly spread while facing down
-best colour?--white
-first bathing step?----Wet body
-parents/peers pet/guy name?---Kurry*** he is also addicted to NL dont wanna be caught
-most used phrase?------aaakiko
- best song?----------Jesus take the wheel
-worst habit?-------Picks his nose with bare fingers
-ideology of life?---Live and let live

I am thinking hard to score 10/10

lovemychild: thank u Ma. maybe u can copy my email here then i modify it to remove it. aladianyebe@yahoo.co.uk.

Blendy77: I didn't say his results are not very bright. Those who are getting bfps are still getting it but a lot of nairalanders got bfn this period that was why I adviced SA if u have the time since the price difference is not much. Ivf is not automatic and it requires a special miracle from God to work. I did 3 with Dr Emeka b4 I got a bfp. So if money is an issue and u can afford 1m-1.2 then u can as well go to SA where u're sure u'll get the best if there's phrase like that.. You can also look at Bridge as they are also good. In all, pray to God for direction because the procedure also comes with its own confusion.

adeokunade: My fiance will not allow me to take my favourite cooked aboki indomie nodles again but she enjoys aboki suya a lot infact that is her favourite food. So I wonder if there is any difference between aboki suya and indomie.

sub_zidi: Hello People: I greet all of you ooo! In addition to what one poster said on natural remedies, i really concur cos i've tried some and experiencing the result. There are natural ways of improving egg quality cos producing eggs is not enough as the quality also matters! Some natural supplements that can help improve EWCM, egg quality are royal jelly(capsules), wheatgrass(capsules or powder),maca root(capsules),bee pollen capsules! These supplements are also good for women going for other ART but should be taken over 60-90days for improved result which i'm currently on +pregnacare conception. These supplements are sold in good health pharmacy shops e.g Healthplus,Medplus...
There is also a lot of information and testimonies online about these supplements!
God bless us all and bay dust!!baby dust!!!
Attention Skimychic: I don dey wait for you since to contact me for the Fertilaid as i have since replied your email and even included my phone number but i no hear from you? Should i re-gift it to another person??

MamaTriplets: @Twingirls, like ℓ̊ said earlier there is a thread to that effect. Ɣ☺ΰ can check the front page or Religion Forum. You are very Welcome to join. @All, my Mum called me to tell me of three women that ℓ̊ know that just gave birth to twin Babies within the week, and like a popular saying goes; wen Your neighbours are getting wat Ɣ☺ΰ are praying for, Its means that God is in the Neighbourhood. Hold the Master's Wrapper wella. Some of Us are just like the woman with the issue of Blood who had spent all she had on physicians but there was no head way. Reach out to the Saviour in this Season and let the Resurrection Power that is already at work within Ɣ☺ΰ Quicken Your Mortal Bodies to Conceive and Produce!!! It Will Happen in Ɣ☺ΰr Life!!! AMEN.