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God is omini-everything! The unchabgeable changer, i-am that i am, balm of Gilead,He that swallowed what swallowed an elephant! Ebube dike n'agha, oka aa omeee, ode jim jim! ukpaka n'eme na udu mmiri! uta gbawara ili, agu n'eche maba,anu ana egbe on ata nri! CONGRATS Oga Inwagobio, i tap into this annointing and pray it gets to everyone one of us on this thread and every woman that desires the fruit of the womb!! Dancing and singing....otu a ka chineke anyi di, agidigbaaaa oooooo eheheheheeeee agidigba ooooo! Sorry folks for breaking into my native language too excited for oyinbo language to handle

Your friend should go to any good government hospital where the condition is treated. You can look up other threads in this section where managmenent of this condition has been holistically discussed. HIV +ve is NOT the end of life!

Ujujoan: Wow Wow Wow . . . Jenny, it's really a miracle!
Thank God for his constant protection . . .
Untimely Death is NOT your portion, you'll live to see your children's children!
God is indeed FAITHFUL!

It is realy a miracleb thank God for your life Jenny! Our God has sworn a convenant of peace with us and this has proved that the name of the Lord is a strong tower hmmm EBUBEDIKE daaa'lu

Hi Epic Wify!
I would like to start by saying that what you are feeling or going through is not strange, however you need to seriously watch it! Coming from another perspective, i think there are more important things to occupy your mind/hands with. First, you have a budding business: why don't focus on it and explore more creative ways of expanding your horizon. Secondly; You are studying:why not giveit your all so that you come out tops. This is more like suggesting ways in which you can maximise your idle time.
Your hubby's job makes it difficult for him to be around to spen quality couple time but this is no excuse for re-establishing contact with ex(s)regardless of the circumstance surrounding the split(s).There is a reason why he is an ex!If you both were meant to be married it would have been but incidently nature(God) did not want it that way! Most times the grass is not greener at the other side.What you are feeling is mere fleeting emotion which should be discarded as it soon it came. Mind you, cheating is not only when you sleep with the another person outside of the marriage, there is also what is called EMOTIONAL CHEATING which atimes can be more dangerous than physical cheating.
There is nothing worth missing about that your ex cos in these days/age that virginity is scarce then a man pops it and does not put a ring on it or make concerted efforts to then you tell me he is worth your attention? Desist from comparing him with your hubby, as you said you cant trade your hubby for the world so keep it that way and FLEE from temptation God will help you and pls start by blocking him again or close your FB account already! My 2kobo submission

mali_gnant: Well, I'm planning to buy Toyota Avalon 2005 model in Cotonou sometime in July with the help of a nairalander. I wouldn't want to risk my money on an anonymous dealer, so I plan to go with him to Cotonou. No time for stuupid trust. I don't want to risk anything. I mean ANYTHING!

Bro I dont blame you for taking this precaution jare! Pls DO NOT carry cash you never can tell. ATM/Online transfer can be used or you pay cash when you arrive Lagos!

@ Poster,
I can imagine your dilema here. Pls if you have the means treat her from her home ,afetr she is cleared of the ailment you can take her back.
All the best!!

@ OP
I would start by saying you pay close attention to X-Solution and Peclints advice as they gave you the best advice so far and i really do not have much to add!
We have a lot of God given powers as women, my hubby then bf was earning far below me when we were starting, i saw this inherent pottential in him as a very smart, hardworking and honest man! I was mobile while he was not.In fact, he realy didnt know he had such qualities until i came into the picture and activated them. Two months after our wedding he got double promotion in his office based on my encouragements, exposing his strengths to him and transforming them into strategic values that turned his career around!

Guess what, even the tiny car i had/have he paid off the auto-loan, building a house for us to live and has promised to upgrade my car to an SUV before end of this year which i did not even request for!
Be wise, that stone that looks dirty might be a diamond in disguise.
Stay focused & blessed

I am also a huge fan of Jenny!!! Happy New Year sis....

I'm screaming all over d place in my office like someone that won lottery! To think there was a program on Inspiration fm yesterday where one guy was critisizing ivf & saying it is an expensive medical trial and error! I hissed a very long hiss mtcheeeeeeew!to think Hubby and I were in d car together listening to dt rubbish ;The host of the show Dan Foster asked how many trials are 2 much b4 one adopts! As for me as many times as possible until your miracle manifests! Abeg back to dancing Azonto for Blenddy twins! I'm hopeful and preparing my body & soul 4 2nd cycle!

advocate666: If I bore a hole in my girlfriend's anus after licking her puccy, what does that make us?

If animals do not have s;ex with same s;ex why are humans doing it?? People call a spade a spade! Same s;ex mating is ABNORMAL, UNCHRISTIAN, UNISLAMIC and negates all rational assumptions & postulations.
Cheers

HAHAHA MTN is the biggest COPY_CAT ever! First they copied ETisalat Talkzone and called theirs MTN Zone, now they are copying ETISALAT Receiver pays and calls theirs call sponsor!! Empty -N shame!! shame!! shame!!!!

N5K i meant was piad into your account, pls confirm by one (Monica ***)

Hi Gideon,
I was the lady that you called you on Friday asking if u could do a contract onground marketing job( sale of GSM network lines which you could do within your school environ and eran extra income/N30k monthly) Please reply via this thread and i will contact you since i have your phone number. Also N5 was paid into your acount by (Monica ***) pls confirm as i'm sending your plight to a network of my friends and i need you to also come back on this thread and confirm when you get the complete money.
ALL THE BEST!!!

@Post;
Being happy is relative! And one thing you must know is that you need to understand that it behoves on you first to make yourself happy than leaving that responsibility to someone. And btw it is not even all the time that you are happy with yourself not to talk of someone else! Yes long term relationship eg marriage is not a gurantee that one must always be happy or expect our spouses to make us happy all the time! It is a collective responsibility of parties involved to ensure that the embers of the relationship is always charged!
You can be content and fullfilled with same person forever but dont expect them to ALWAYS make you happy 24-7-365dys!
My one cent

Hi Peeps,
I need the services of a professional structural engineer/Quality Control Engineer to independently supervise my building project being handled by a builder.
The objective is to ensure that the builder is monitored thereby making sure that quality materials and best practise measures are adopted by the builder. The project is a 4 bedroom duplex with two flats attached.
If you feel you can handle this job, please drop your contact on this thread and you will be reached asap. Also note that project commecement is April 2013.

Inspired I feel u, I am a witness even during her office hours, she's ever willing to share information or just encourage you. There wwas a particular occassion we were talking and the line cut she called me back from her landline!Nice lady n quite an inspiration

@ I quite agree with u Inwagbio and that's why I feel she deserves to win the health section poster of the year award!pls vote if u haven't already as the thread closes midnight today!

I nominate Blendy77 for the great advice and her willingness to share her story on the ivf thread which is a topical issue most Nigerians are averse to!
Besides, she is quite friendly & ever willing to share useful info/advice both on ivf/ttc and family life!
The icing on the cake-she is beautiful inside and outside!
Thanks babes for all the encouragement could'nt find a better platform to sing your praise!

I am thankful for the gift of Life and good health on mine+my family members & inlaws, for the great love,peace& understanding in my marriage, for double promotion in hubby's career, for acquisition of our 1st landed property in just one year of marriage, for the gift of children(twin) in 2013 in anticipation, for my elder sister's marriage, for divine healing on my mum & grannie.

ALL I JUST WANNA SAY IS THANK YOU LORD!!!! 2012 has done me good and i believe 2013 will do me BETTER!!! Amen...

britee: lets also share ideas on herbal supplements,you have tried that you think worked or had positive efect on your body.
i am going to open the floor here, i have been ttcing for 4 yrs, ovaries stopped workinbf i clocked 20yrs. my only option is donor egg {de] i have tried ivf #1 and it failed, am goin too try again soon, in less than two months. i have been on some [tcm] traditional chinese medicine which de want me to take for half a year- with the hope of possibly restoring my ovaries but am not that paitient.
my main problem is my diet i really need to be serious and cut out all unhealthy foods. i like gari sooo much, but thank God so far i have been able to reduce my intake of garri to once in a week, lol. did i hear me say reduce, i need to cut it out like seriously.
please if u guys know any tip you think i should try, my eyes and ears are wide open. baby dust to us all. have a blessed nite.

Hello Britee,
I'm praying and wishing you are already pregnant now! I was about opening a thread on this to encourage ttc/ivf-ers on the need to also use herbal supplements before the ART. Regarding improving egg quality, i've read alot of good testimonies about Royal Jelly and Bee Pollen capsules. You can google them up! I'm trying them out now and praying that i get a natural conception this cycle while ofcourse prepping my mind for another round of IVF cycle.
Babydust all!!

Thought to share , isaw the write up online;

My Turn: What to expect when we're not yet expecting

Don't give advice, but be there to listen.




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By Carrie Friedman, Special to the Los Angeles Times
April 25, 2011


According to Resolve, the National Infertility Assn., one in eight U.S. couples of child-bearing age is diagnosed with infertility. Two long years ago, my husband and I unfortunately found ourselves in this category. It's been a heartbreaking journey ever since.

We still don't have any children to show for our efforts, but we remain hopeful that we'll eventually have the family we've always wanted. I don't talk about it much, because to retell it is to relive it, and this is hard enough to go through once. Also, over the years, I've heard my share of well-meaning but cringe-worthy statements that just made me feel worse.




My Turn: Personal stories by Health section readers

I feel for my friends and family, because they have the best of intentions and want to say something comforting and helpful. But there's almost nothing they can say.

Most people probably know at least one couple enduring infertility. If those couples are anything like me, here are five things they don't want to hear:

• Unless you are a board certified fertility doctor, please refrain from diagnoses. Anyone going through this has gotten second, third and fourth opinions: we don't need any more.

• Please don't tell us to "just" do anything. Examples: "I don't understand why you don't just get a surrogate" or "You should just adopt!" Often these are said with the nonchalance of suggesting we order a pizza. Both paths are unbelievably complicated and expensive (in every sense of the word), and we've probably already considered or are still considering them.

• Please don't tell us to relax or stop trying or "go on vacation and just have sex — surely it'll happen then." This dawned on us. It didn't work. And yet we still try every month, hoping for one of these incredibly wonderful (but unlikely) miracles that people love to mention.

• Don't tell us about your friends for whom it all worked out. We realize you're just trying to give us hope, and that's very nice of you, but unfortunately, it reinforces the feeling that it's happening for everyone but us.

• And finally, while we sincerely appreciate your interest and concern, please don't ask us if we're pregnant. As someone who's had miscarriages during the precarious first trimester, I'm very superstitious. You'll know when we're ready to share.

So, what can you say or do?

First, listen. Or, if you know it will make you uncomfortable to hear about it, let us know that. We'll be A-OK talking about something — anything — else.

Second, say you're sorry for our struggle. Several months ago, a friend of mine wrote me the loveliest, simplest paragraph I didn't even know I so badly needed to hear:

"I am so very sorry. I'm most sorry that there's nothing I can say that will make this better for you. But please know you're in my thoughts and prayers and I am wishing you peace and good news. I'm always here to talk if you want to."

Friedman, who lives in Los Angeles, is the author of the book "Pregnant Pause: My Journey Through Obnoxious Questions, Baby Lust, Meddling Relatives, and Pre-Partum Depression." She has been published in several anthologies and publications, including Newsweek and the Sun. Her website is http://www.carriefriedmania.com.

Hello Fruitful women of Zion! I posted earlier on how my 1st IVF attempt went, well i'm back on the thread to cheer someone up being someone in the boat as you The good news is i'm alive, healthy, have a supportive hubby and above all i have a faithful God! and the stale news is the cycle failed! Surprisingly, i'm naturally a cry-cry baby but i've felt very confident and determined in my spirit that this too shall pass and VICTORY shall be mine soon aint no devil seeing my tears!
@ anyone grieving about a failed cycle, pls dont despair, as the Lord liveth you shall carry your children! When it is toughest is when the victory is about to manifest, remember the story of Narman the lepper who was asked to dip himself in river and his healing happened at the 7th attempt! I'm sure if he gave up at the 6th attempt prolly his healing would'nt have come...
We are more than conquerors and we have also overcome by the blood of the lamb!

There are so many reasons to smile ladies,dont ive up as your miracle is on the way! Watch this space as VERY SOON i shall come back to testify of the goodness of God! Right now, i wanna give my body a break as it seems my whole life is revolving around TTC! Aint gonna let it hold me down again, I have decided to commune with my creator who's got the manual to fix whatever needs fixing in my body1 If he could make the dead womb of Mama- Sarah to conceive ,how much less mine
Love y'all...

@ Mods: Please post this on the front page!

skimpychick: @alwaystrue n waistbead thank you so so much.would call him right away.

@ skimpymum- I have a bottle of fertilaid I bought and only used 1 capsule when i learnt I didn't need it. I want to dash it out instead of it lying fallow. You can maail me on chinedu.pavina@gmail.com I stay aaround slere lagos! Or anybody interested within my axis
All d best peeps!

@ Poster
I would like to start by encouraging you to desist from calling or thinking that you are a frustrated soul! You become what you proffesy about yourself eventually! From today, start telling yourself YOU ARE GOOD and EMPLOYABLE only that the job(right job) has not materialised.Most of us have been in this situation one time in our life or the other. This is not heresay... Philip Oduoza the current UBA MD had a 1st Class Degree from UNN and job hunted for many years. My cousin housed him for many years both in Lag and FCT as they were classmates/friends in and from the same village too. Alas, he threw him out being humans, rshps go awry....Fast forward today, his story has changed! Then my cousin, though trying but way far below Oduoza's league!
From my observation, you have very good diction and seem to have this go-getter spirit which are pre-requisites for surviving in corporate Nigeria of today.You might send your cv to chinedu.pavina@gmail.com ! I'm not promising you a job, but would ensure your cv is submitted in places you can get a fair opportunity for job test+interview purely on merit!
All the best and keep pushing on...

I want to share my story to encourage someone! I've been ttc 1 yr+2months. Had ET Dec 1, produced 4 eggs only 1 fertilized grade 2! I'm on 2ww and waiting on God!
The next time I shall post will be my testimony! Baby dust to all of us!

Pink22: thanks av been googling that earth clinic dats where i got the myomin . U can send me his details if u don't mind. Jemmyfisher52@gmail.com .

Sorry for replying late you can reach the seller on 08029755959 Henrietta, request for Apple Cidar Vinegar with the MOTHER!
The price is about N5k. It is well my sista...

Pink22: This is my uss report
uterus is normal in size and interverted, Indometrial lining is slightly distorted by a solitary submucous fibroid nodule measuring 2.9cm x 2.5cm. No area of tissue degeneration .
Both ovaries are normal in size andstromal echotexture . No cyst.

@ Pink22: Your fibroid is quite small but that does not mean it should be ignored. I learnt there is a natural way to shrink it and improve your general fertility well being. ie By taking Apple Cidar Vinegar(2 table spoon mixed with half glass of water 2ice daily).You can google it and read up testimonies on it. Also learnt it works best when mixed with Black molases all these info are found on the web. I think someone has advertised that on NL before cos i got one for my sis who has fibroid & ovarian cyst.
Also, watch what you eat, cut off milk completely if possible and chocolates, white flour. Food reach in fibre, fruits and vegetable is what you need to be eating.
It is well sis! You are not alone, trust me there are people who have had worse issues than you and today they are joyful mothers of children!
Stay blessed...

@ Post
This reminds me of when i ran to NL to post my complaint during the early part of my marriage! My dear, i totally agree with almost everything Debrief posted!I really may not add much you just copy and paste. I guess your hubby didnt want you to leave the house and continue with the drama!
Also, try as much as possible and learn to resolve issues within yourselves before running to family/friends! I know you would be feeling really hurt now and prolly he has not even apologised Men have this childish ego that even when they know they are wrong they would still somehow want to show their muscle...
In fact if you are beefing him or not talking ,please try to cheer up and possibly carry on like normal then find the right time to discuss the issue and the best approach for conflict resolution in your marriage!
Marriage is tolerance, mutual respect and love. Please do not read so much meaning into what happened since it is a one off! You can look for my post and read for yourself what my own scenario was like too..
May God grant you wisdom you need at this time...hugs

@ Post: Kini big deal? In my own case we take money from each others wallet/handbag etc! It our money and we trust each other to spend every kobo wisely! Some couples really need to stop this over setting of boundries.
Well like someone said, unless the hubby is using the money for some anti-social engagement

@ OYINBOGOJU: They charged soooo much unless you are not Nigerian or one of you not We didnt pay more than N10,000 for ours and this was just last year!

OYINBOGOJU: Regular registration at least 2 weeks interval 35000naira

If you want your wedding to be done in 2 days after registration 55000naira

The requirements are not special

They don't allow customer to take out form, so be ready to get it, fill it and submit it same day in the same office.

The staff will request for some kind of gift,monetary or good wines of different taste, sometimes extra cash during your interview time,if not they will delay you.

Yeah just little i could remember now.

Be-careful of those guys taking pictures, they are selfish and rogue, better you go there with your photographer,if not they will delete all picture taken during wedding if you don't pay them very fast.

What More?

@ Post: You dont need to break the bank for it! You go to the registry and fill the formswith 2 passports of couple, then pay N1k. After filling the forms in court then you submit them same day and wait for 21 working days(display of couple info in notice-board). They would calculate the waiting period and then give you your prefered date to come for oath taking. Oath taking is N6k. Then after that you would then choose your wedding date weekdays cheaper than saturdays which is N2k(weekday)/N5k(weekend ie saturday).
On the wedding day you would be asked to either bring a carton of fruitjuice or pay N4k/N5K as the case might be! Try to sweet mouth them and dont show off too much if you don wana be ripped off . Also, make sure you bring change on wedding day for offering/celebration for court officials N100/N200 notes will do. DO NOT patronize the photographers they charge so much bring your small camera and a friend can assist with the pics as they do not allow professional photographers/video men. No point for all these flambouyance if you will still do a white wedding. Flower/bouquest and pin ups will be brandished for you to rent at exhorbitant rates(irrelevant too).
The above are the basics i can remember!However, if you dont wana wait for 21 working days (notification) then they will charge you for shortcut max-max N15K!! Ask of Oga Mike his office is inside after their small chapel looking-oath taking space! I cant put his phone number here... goodluck