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I have an uncle who was a lot older than that when he married…it took almost a decade of prayers to sort it out.

With genuine family support your uncle will be all right OP.

Hmm. Well, hopefully the kids won’t be yours so you can just forget about her.

Stevenbright:
If you gat the story, the girl didn't tell him her father is occultic (ROF) but that he is traditional. So, she was being crafty if not deceitful with the hope of manipulating the guy to submission by saying "I told you before".

Being traditional doesn't mean you are an herbalist or an occult. Most traditionalist simply believe there is God but don't believe in accessing Him through any of the well known imported religions but through ancestral worshipping where they mostly use local drinks, colanut etc to do their thing.

Thank you, she didn’t go into detail cos she knew he’d be scared…how will your dad be a whole ogboni and you won’t mention it. Lying by omission.

I understand her reasons but it’s quite wrong. And the guy is even feeling guilty not realising that he was purposely manipulated.

NoToPile:
But first one has to have the understanding of patterns, foundations and how the spiritual controls the physical, how your bloodline can affect you which obviously lots of chirstains don't even understand.

Yeah. It struck me when you said that just 3 or 4 generations back, all of our families must have been traditional worshippers. I think we collectively as a society are avoiding facts like this.

Courz:
For your info, the spiritual wickedness ruling Africa is part of the reason Africa is plagued with extreme poverty. The powers that be use Spiritual laws to hold Africa down and as long as politicians are part of these powers, Africa will remain where it is. I don't expect you to understand a single thing of what I'm saying. So, upgrade your knowledge in how the world really works in the Spirit realm in conjunction with African leaders. Don't joke with the Spirit realm for it controls the physical.

I read that Africa is plagued with poverty because of the climate and due to huge numbers of healthy young people being captured as slaves…

Traditional worship is not the same as cult o.

Addictive personality. Like that guy who ate himself to death yesterday.

He needs therapy else he will just do it again.

jamesversion:
You are always wondering. You cant live here cos you're a sissy. Insteadof you to face the subject matter, you're typing rubbish. Stvpid Yoruba man.

But it’s not rubbish…yall south south dudes are fuckingggg crazy

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Since the former CEO demise, their bank app has been having network problems

Another angle. I wonder how they’re coping since the sudden loss of their boss.

Kennyfancy:
How come he grew so fat when he wasn't like that when he was young

His father died when he was a teen and he began overeating to soothe the pain of his loss.

adabaraabdul:
so are u saying if the lifestyle was managed better from the onset, perhaps he wouldn't have gone to a helpless state?

I think so. Just look at the size of one of his legs, for crying out loud! How much could you possibly eat to deposit this kind of adipose tissue?

Even if he has an unhealthy diet he clearly has some sort of genetic deficit that’s making his body go overboard. Dude should have been given some gene therapy or something when he was a teenager. It’s not normal at all.

pansophist:
Food addiction caused it,

its the opposite of Anorexia, where a person (mostly girls) who is already slim sees themselves as very fat in the mirror. Then starve themselves so badly, that you can see their ribs through their skin.

Have you ever witnessed a case of such in Nigeria? It was a real problem in the West some years back. That’s where this whole “body positivity” movement started from.

Oyibo place a serious premium on being very slim. It’s their equivalent of fair skin in blacks.

pweeryambre:
I recently cut one off from my life... Blocked her from all my social media. A friend that never hesitate to use every single opportunity to insult or embarrass you.
Very jealous for no reason, meanwhile the husband is reach oh, they have a very big house, cars kids and everything yet very jealous I cannot understand.

Same, I had to slowly cut her off by giving some dull responses to messages until I eventually blocked her. Somebody id known since secondary school o, she has everything but as soon as you make your own small progress she’d start acting somehow or even try to spoil it. Messed up souls everywhere, Tueh

ONNYX:
That's the very firsts thing that struck me when I first read the post.......but the girl is the more foolish person here. I don't know her....I had to use Google to discover her. In her mind let them do what they want she will not sacrifice anything for this event.....emphasis being on the wedding ceremonies ...... She will deal with the consequences later. She is obviously desperate and there is nothing wrong with that......it's the handling that matters. All she needed to do was to in all humility cultivate a tight relationship with some other members of the family especially the boys mother. It would take time but then it would work......and if it doesn't work you move on. This option is like living your life walking sometimes on thorns and nails and then other times on eggs.

Don't underestimate the successes of private detectives in Nigeria. I am still amazed at what they can achieve. And the family is supposedly a well known and well to do one.

I don't envy her at all.

Well, maybe that’s what she had been doing and the family were frustrating her. Cos this is a very drastic action by Nigerian standards.

dudes mom and sister were actually in attendance…seems like the father wants to use the wedding to flex muscle…whatever the investigators may have found, the guy obviously doesn’t mind.

I wish them the best sha…even wedding wey the whole umunna don bless still fit crash…what do we know 🤷🏾‍♀️

So tall and slender…they were jealous of her.

When you notice people acting funny towards you, try not to ignore it. Cos the thing hardly resolves itself,…the person must try some weird sh*t in the near future…

ONNYX:
You are very correct here. But if you have a child and have bonded with him enough and are willing to protect him as much as you can then you will understand that parents do not have anything against any particular girl or boy introduced into the family.

I think this is the bone of contention…how many parents bother to bond with and understand their kids?

The way you are approaching it is from a nice angle but just know that majority of African parents are not as enlightened as you. They merely see their relationship with their child as a means of control and subjugation rather than an expression of love.

If we even look closely it seems that this guy is even lashing out after a lifetime of being misunderstood!

So what does the guy do, aside from being from a wealthy home? Has anybody mentioned that one?

Thoughty2:
Happy birthday to her. Only miserable people will say she looks miserable so they can feel a little sense of happiness laughing at people's problems.

Because she is not married nor have a child does not mean that she is not genuinely happier than many of you.

She has a child o. I don’t know whether it’s her fame that insulates her from the usual Nigerian insults. Cos anyone else would have travelled out several years ago

SAMBARRY:
If you are a man or woman and you have attained a certain social, intellectual or financial state, avoid the financially Challenged the way women avoid broke men because they'll always see you as the cause of their problems even when you have your own problems that you're dealing with and whenever they see you they'll be looking at you with the eyes of anger and hatred and one day they can murder you.

I suspect this is one of the reasons this prof was murdered.


N.b: if you want to enter my mention make sure you are intelligent,if you enter my mention to insult me,I will drag you.today is Saturday ejo ejeki oriwa jope kamo iru Oro tamama sosirawa

You are 300% correct on this…even those American rappers can’t go home after making it…their childhood friends will just want to finish them

Seunpapa65:
In our culture it's believed that woman wey the play away match and use the same hands to Cook for the man can lead to death of the man

Bini?

Has she done her DNA test? Maybe she’s secretly Urhobo.

Until our institutions can be insulated against strike action, this discussion is unnecessary.

You can’t peg an age for university admission when the course duration itself has not been pegged!

Barrywilly:
I seriously doubt if the accused persons killed the policewoman directly as being alleged. There is no sign of violence on the body of the woman. The woman may have had an underlying delibitating illness now triggered by the scuffle which led to her untimely death. I have no doubt in my mind that the police merely wants to frame these people with murder out of bitterness. But I have confidence in CP Tunji Disu of Rivers St. He will gets to the root of the matter.

That’s why it’s best to keep your hands off others lest your destiny be truncated. Many people are walking timebombs. You can just touch somebody now and an aneurysm in his brain that has has been waiting to explode since the person was born, now decides to wake up and wreak havoc.

4tomandchi:
Do people really eat monkeys?

They haven’t learnt from our bushmeat-eating friends in Asia; They want to start COVID-24 so that Nigerians worldwide will be deported.

bukatyne:
Perhaps it is a common occurrence in their families.

Maybe! And they’ve been getting away with it!

1Sharon:
If he had slept with his patient will any of this happen?

There are many successful black British doctors in the UK and they're successful because they know how to maintain professional boundaries.

Are we talking about those ones? Why the different standard?

It’s mostly black doctors and nurses who have their licenses revoked and even face jail time. While whites do worse and get away with it.

That is racist.

1Sharon:
It doesn't matter what she sent back to him. He's a doctor and he's supposed to know better. You don't have relations with your patient. They teach him that in medical school.

It’s abusing a position of trust, the law hates people that take advantage of a position of power, that's why the consequences is so harsh.

Of course I’m aware of all that, but the fact remains that if he were white he would have faced suspension or some other penalties. This is an overkill.

You think it suits their agenda to have a black man who is a fully-qualified doctor giving advice on the television in queens English? And he even owns his own private practice making millions.

They simply wanted to make an example of him, just like that Hausa paediatrician whose license was removed until anti-racism campaigners fought to have her reinstated.

LiveWire85:
I only saw the text the man sent to the women, I am still waiting for the text the woman sent also to the man.

Thank you, they are just racist. The guy is an id!ot sha, but these people are biased. Was the conversation one-sided?! Ha!

I don’t support him but this story is too convenient.

I feel the woman was sent to set him up by a competitor. How did the woman carry herself to the clinic after receiving those messages, then turn around and report him? Hmm yeye dey smell.

Somebody had their evil eye on him and used this woman to remove him.

Macphenson:
Whats with all these pretty young female US teachers and small boys. Is it that they cant get good gbola from matured men around them?

Why the constant hunt for small boys when matured men with good gbola abound. Can somebody help me explain?

I read somewhere that these ladies were unattractive during their teenage years and it had a profound effect on their self-image since boys never used to approach them.

Then when they get old enough to take care of themselves and improve their looks, they still seek after that same age group of boys that spurned them when they were teens.

Hillarie:
Wow. Be like na only white women dey sexually abuse male teens sha. This kind news rare for our continent. Wait, does this mean that black women have better self control?

Forget, many of our men have been abused by nannies and househelps at a tender age. Just that they don’t report

most of them don’t even recognised that they have been abused until they notice aberrant s*xual behaviours in adulthood and trace it back to what happened to them.

Hmm. Children need to go on a nationwide phone-fast to cleanse their dopamine pathway. They can no longer read anything again due to short attention span.