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my budget is 70k

ALABACONNECT:
Good afternoon. I have one for 90k best price.

If his wages go up with the hourly pay why cant he

MEEVEET:
Hope u can pay your cleaner n driver that too

i need something like this hw much will it cost https://www.nairaland.com/attachments/17889922_img20231121122232419_webp6d3679d1877fbf3fa883e58f130705cc

ITS LITERALLY SO SAD and these are women who do the most for them even ignoring their daughters for them but once they start earning good and marry just forget about it. at the end only the girls get truly cocerned

Jewessgratitud3:
Men don't usually do.

exactly and he should have not been pulled out of seminary, they should have met theperson in charge and explained his problem so they can send him to a remote village with no internet for a year to assist in mass and after that he resumes school because there is no way he wont stop after tht.. but him withdrawing has given him more time to spare and room to get deeply involved in it. if you have a good rapport with the person in charge of the seminary he withdrew from go to them and tell him about this and ask if there is a place they can send him to thats the only way to save him its an addiction so he doesnt need an enabling environment

Hezzyluv:
Discovering he was owing loan sharks 2m (which he used in gambling) and repaying part of the money by u and your dad gave him temerity to borrow more and gamble.

You should have allowed him to sort himself out from the loan people. He actually went to borrow more because he believe you guys would still come to his rescue again.


Addicted gamblers need to learn in hard ways.

do not join, i repeat do not join this is how they recruit ppl and turn them into extremists

Chimarto:
Who is interested let create Telegram channel where we can be sharing news relating to Israel-Gaza conflict.

may your mother be killed by your father

AdamuKD:
Women and money. Even if it's accompanied with death and destruction

Passport go loss tire hell you may even need to pay ransom to get it

TheRareGem1:
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i want

Atllanta:
dodo Rice

but bro says its almost every time and he conveniently did not stay the usual he gives her for tht, no matter hw much im close to my family id always want them to see me as the best all the time its only when thts not possible that i would bare myself and which lady wouldnt want to boast abt her hubby but i guess things are not tht great and the lady's family are also reasonable by starting a biz for her to limit the see finish

GetMeRight:
Whether you always keep money for the rainy day or not, there would be those days when you all just have to manage.


Nothing bad in reaching out but making it a habit is not good enough.


As long as it is not everyday thing, I don't see something unusual about this if it is once in a while. This is everywhere except the home where money is the least of their problems

research b4 you post nonsense, they are as strong as steel with the right quantity

CoronaVirusPro:
And when it collapses, the government will be blamed.

no support is too much for a mother with kids if it was just her and the husband trust me they wouldnt be that worried abt her

scrupulousblog:
The issue here is a LACK OF BALANCE.
I will liken this situation to salt and a pot of soup. Too much salt will condemn the soup and too little or no salt will make the soup tasteless. BUT, BUT, the RIGHT AMOUNT of salt will make for a delicious pot of soup.

The family of a poor girl should not ask for too much and the family of the rich girl should know when their support is becoming excessive. Let's all be SENSITIVE, and the world will become a better place for us all.

no matter short of cash as long he has a family rainy day money should be kept or forget that he should always have foodstuff its when all these are not available that she would seek help. there is no way they hv and she calls her family. bro 3k for soup in this regime is just not possible no matter hw you manage especially in the city

GetMeRight:
My point is that if he could get her a car worth just 2 million naira, giving her money to prepare food shouldn't be that difficult for him. But who is not short of cash once in a while?

he literally said that they are trying to open a business for her yet he is angry that they are not involving him. like bro when they involve you in a business like tht are you not giving them the chance for the see finish yet they are trying to set her up knowing you and youre children will benefit yet you are not satisfied

talented321:
If you love ur sister that much why not open her own business for her so that she'll not depend on u for survival anymore, from their she is not calling anybody for cash again.
If i'm to be her brother, i would do something tangible for her and the family..

he is trying to compete with her family knowing fully well its impossible, because someone who is using 3k for soup of family of 4 definitely scrapped the car money together just to meet up and funny enough i dont think the wife broke shames him or cares about how broke he is but that arrogant pride in brokenness is hs major problem

Chuksy12:
You would have used the money you used in ordering the car and buying the watch to open a business for her.

In that case she will also be earning and supporting the family. She will be responsible by then.

dont forget that this is only his side and do you think a man is more proud than a woman? but you have to know how often they never have to the point of 3k soup that money cant even cook concotion rice complete and there is no woman on this earth that would have a way and let her kids starve the men can say they will survive but those children will only cry to their mother as long as he lives comfortably in the house they gifted them with no problem then he shouldnt be worried about wht her brothers give or dont give her she was their lil sis b4 he ever came into the picture. same as him if he was loaded and saw his sister suffering wouldnt he help her out

talented321:
As a married woman, you don't have any feeling when ur husband is busy calling his family even because of a minor issue..

you have no problem living in the house gifted to you but you have a problem eating food she cooked with money they sent to their sister, so if your own brother gives you money you cant spend it on your family? the problem is not your wife getting help from her family the problem is you have not accepted her family as your because they care abt her and your family thts why they help, imagine being lucky enough to have helpers who you claim have not disrespected you but still be ungrateful instead of working hard so your family doesnt have to rely on support from them you are busy complaining. you are not pying rent yet struggle to bring 3k for soup and have the audacity to be arrogant and proud

marvellous2222:
My wife calls her family for everything, once I'm broke she calls her mother to send her food items, I have begged her to stop, I have gotten angry yet she said she can't be hungry in a man's house when there's excess in her parents house, my wife can't manage 3k to cook for me, a family with just 2 kids, she'll call her elder brothers and tell them I gave her 3k to cook immediately they will send money for her.

Can't a woman water down her taste to keep her marriage? They don't insult me but I feel not man enough, I feel less of myself, my wife is from a rich home and the house we are living is a wedding gift from her brothers, she's an only daughter and they over pamper her, they don't allow her ask twice.

I remember I bought a car for her when she delivered our first child my brother in-law knew about it before the car arrived cause I ordered through his company, he changed the car to something twice the one I could afford without my knowledge, when they brought a car to the house I said this isn't what I ordered my brother in-law said their Ada can't be seen driving such after marriage.

They are planning to open a business for her and they didn't involve me in the plan, my marriage is not what I wanted cause I feel like I'm not man enough.

My wife doesn't appreciate gifts from me like when it's from her family, I got her a 75k watch she said thank you and for months she didn't use it, I had to remind her that there's a watch I gave her, but when one of her brother sent her a watch worth 260k she danced and used it always.

How do I handle this?

Im also sure its not the first time and theyve talked to him but no changes, he probably called their bluff and now he is crying. you know you have a job as a team then you slack putting the workload on others they can only tolerate so much

dominique:
Reported him doing what? Sleeping during working hours, putting unnecessary strain on his colleagues. He expects his co-workers to cover up for his insurbordination because they're compatriots? Nonsense!

Mine 2 days is the most id rather take more soup than swallow because its a healing soup and fast to cook

elinaxy:
My okra soup don't stay up to 3days

they said he shot her and was still beating her it could be heard on the 911 call, he is the only one alive so he ca n spin it how he wants

Kobojunkie:
DV? You mean domestic violence? I have some of the news on it and have yet to find any mention of him assaulting her. I did read that he shot her during a domestic incident.

and it seemed like he was intruding on the space she receives customers which can be very bothersome to ladies having a man they dont know lurking about while they make their hair. Im sure she lost customers hence the decision to find a new house

Kobojunkie:
Ding, dong, ding!

Apart from contributing his "small change" he forgot to tell us what other things he was doing in the home in terms of helping out with the kids at least.

and this in turn stresses the woman and she gradually resents you because its nothing if she cares for the home but a bbig deal if they even make dinner for their own family

cococandy:
The problem is when the women provide, the men usually don’t step in to fill in the gap that’s left open from the women being away hustling to provide.

They call it emasculation. Taking care of their own family

do you know that when an asian man earns all his money is deposited into his wife's account and she gives him the earner pocket money?however a Nigerian man will die b4 even thinking of putting his wifes name with his on a property, enjoys it when she is totally dependent on his money because that gives the false sense of obidience whereby when she starts earning and can take care of her needs without having to ask you for anything jealousy and insecurity sets in because you are very well aware of the reason you have been able to "tame" her is because of how you control her with money or if it gets bad that your biz is not steady while hers is booming it hurts your soul because you start thinking she will do to you what you have been doing to her. Those asians have mutual respect and trust for each other thats why it works but over here a man will tell you he doesnt want his wife to work or else her eyes will open which shows they very well know that they are manipulators who start crying when it doesnt go their way a

oz4real83:
That "African mentality" that says that a man must be the breadwinner of the home has destroyed so many lives and marriages. No woman sees anything wrong when a man provides everything for eternity, but the whole world turns upside down if a woman provides, even for a short time . This is what is turning the modern Nigerian ladies to parasites and liabilities , this mentality needs to change. Asian women who earn more that Nigerian women abroad still respect their husbands and manage their homes when they earn more than their husbands, unlike Nigerian women who suddenly turn to demigoddesses immediately they start earning above their husbands

and thats not even love to him she is his posession and thats why he could never let go not even the suffering his kids would go through

UDUJ:
The boldfaced, this is what every weak man says. If a marriage is not working out and it get's too toxic it's better to leave the marriage for your sanity and also to avoid commiting murder. He is a very weak man. No excuse.

he was still kicking and beating her after shooting her so DV was definitely involved as to why she left. The woman was probably scared for her life, hence buying 2 homes just to leave him because no matter hw much she made she also had 5 kids to care for, yet she preferred to buy a house of her own so that she could probably get the police involved if he got violent

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying!

Where is it indicated in the medical logs or DSM-5 that depression can lead to one having murderous intent? Una go just dey open mouth pla, pla, pla. Having suicidal ideation is not the same as having murderous intentions. This man was clearly bitter and that has nothing to do with depression.

i simply see an I made you who you are syndrome because he never even accused her of cheating she just wanted to leave him which means DV may have been involved

SWATMan:
RIP to the dead. In as much your story looks one sided and said nothing good about the woman makes the story unbelieveable. Where was he getting the money as a soldier to send accross to his wife and children abroad. Was he from a rich family? There is no morals in this story. It's his responsibility to fend for them. The only thing i see here is a miscalculation of his plan for the future. It's called fate or Adonwo.

exactly he never once accused her of cheating nor did he suspect it, yet he couldnt let her go. I made you who you are mentality ruined him

superlanny:
Depression is real, so is betrayal and lack of loyalty, in as much as it hurts to lose what you once had as happiness and love, it's unacceptable to commit murder and lose everything. Mental illness is real and just takes a trigger to make it all worse.

Where did he get a gun from? was the lifestyle that needed him to keep guns as an immigrant what led to the rift between them. to slyly move on from him in such a cruel manner has he always shown that's what he would do to her if she ever left him? he has a job and has 5 kids if he really wanted to re-evaluate his life he could have but he has attached his whole being to her with the "after all i did for her" so he couldnt let it go. The very minute they separated by sharing kids he already made up his mind to kill her if she ever left him. im also sure domestic violence was involved else the children that were watching everything would not be on their mums side 100%.Im sure he was told she would ruin his life which is why when it happened he decided to end her so as not to be the loser however he just made his kids orphans and the children of a murder which will never wash off except they claim that he is dead to maintain any social circle of importance

culidea:
In 1998, a 21 year old Nigerian soldier named Hassan Adeyemo from Ibadan met and fell in love with an 18 year-old beautiful Hausa girl from Bauchi called Sarah. It was love at first sight.

They got married in 1999 and God blessed them with a beautiful daughter in 2000. After her, they had two other daughters and one boy, making 4 kids. Hassan loved his wife so much and told her not to work because of stress. He was providing everything she ever wanted for her and the kids…

In 2014, Hassan wanted a better life for his family, so with his wife’s agreement, he decided to send them to the U.S. Sarah and the kids entered the United States in 2014.
Before they got there, Hassan already arranged a rented house and a car for them. Sarah wasn’t working, Hassan was sending big money to them for upkeep from Nigeria every month. Despite the distance, Hassan bonded with his wife and kids. Everyone was happy.

In 2017, Hassan, who had missed his family so much, decided to relocate to America and stay with them.

Before Hassan got to America, Sarah had started hair braiding just to keep herself busy when the kids were in school. Everyone loved her and the way she braided beautiful styles. Gradually, she became a household name in Orlando, Florida. Ladies flooded her to do their hair.

The unfortunate victims of the tragedy
What she was doing for fun became something big overnight. Hassan entered the US, and things were going smoothly. Hassan who was a big man in Nigeria, left everything and came to America to start all over with menial jobs. He had no papers yet, so he was doing jobs that paid him peanuts.

God blessed them with a baby boy in 2018, making their children a total of 5. Sarah was making at least 1,000 a day with the help of her daughters who she had trained. She was very fast and efficient in braiding. With this income, she was able to support the family with all expenses because Hassan’s income couldn’t meet up with the expenses/bills.

Hassan got his papers and started Uber and delivery jobs. He worked from day to night and started contributing his quota to the family, but his contributions was like change to his wife Sarah, was making. In effect, Sarah became the breadwinner of the house.

Issues started because Sarah was always complaining that Hassan couldn’t afford her lifestyle. She became the children’s favorite because she gave them everything they asked for, while their dad could not meet up. Sarah entered the house whenever she wished. She became the boss, always calling Hassan lazy and useless, while Hassan always appealed to her for peace to reign.

Hassan, a gentleman didn’t like trouble in any form. Sarah and the children formed their own group in the house, and abandoned their dad to always sort himself out. Sarah stopped cooking for him.

Hassan became depressed and was always begging friends and family members to help talk to his wife. Hassan was always crying like a baby, saying Sarah made him feel less of a man in the house. His friends encouraged him to persevere and ignore whatever she did.

In January 2022, Sarah announced to Hassan that she had bought a house. They moved into the new house, and she continued to treat him very badly. She disrespected him so much, “Leave my house if you cannot obey me, you irresponsible man,” she would often say.

She locked him out in the cold so many times and threw his things out. The children were on their mother’s side because she was the provider. Hassan became very depressed, and started having suicidal thoughts. He told his friends how life is unfair, and that he would kill himself. They advised him to leave the marriage because it was obvious that his wife was no longer in love with him, but he kept on asking, “Where will I start from? I love my wife. A woman I have invested all my life in. The only woman I ever loved. What did I do to deserve this from her?”

April 2023, Sarah told him she had bought another house that this particular house is specifically for her and her customers. She told Hassan to hold onto the boys while the girls followed her to the new house. Hassan was like, ” Why do you want to separate the family?” She said, “If everyone followed her to the new house, it will disturb my customers. She then told the husband that he could bring the boys over for weekends, but he can’t come with them, “because I need my privacy.” People tried to talk to Sarah, but she wouldn’t listen. Hassan agreed, hoping that his wife will change her mind.

On August 21, 2023, Sarah informed Hassan that she would like for her sons to move in with her, while Hassan remains in the old house. She instructed Hassan to move all of her remaining property, and that of the children from the old house where Hassan was staying to the new one, where she lives.

She then told Hassan that whenever he wished to see the children, he should let her know, so she can arrange for the visits. So, Hassan told her he would do as she had instructed, and take the remaining property of hers to the house on Friday night, which he did. Sarah didn’t let him enter the house. She took all the belongings he brought and the boys and left Hassan outside. Hassan remained at the door for almost an hour knocking, Sarah refused to open the door for him.

The following day, August 26, was Hassan’s 46th birthday. Early that morning, Sarah sent him a message, “Happy Birthday friend, we are better off as friends than lovers.” “You need to look for where you’ll be staying, because I have to get rid of the old house. I wish you well in life, I have moved on.” A few hours later, the children called their dad to get some groceries, and he told them he would bring them in the evening. At about 6:30 PM, he called the kids, that he was on his way to the house with the groceries. When he got there, he knocked, and the children opened the door for him.

Hassan then asked for their mom, they told him he was in the shower. He entered, and went to the bathroom, brought out a gun, and shot her in the head, in the chest, and in the leg. He then called 911, “Hello, I just killed the bitch.” This is the address, I am waiting for you.” He sat down on the floor beside Sarah’s body.

The cops came, and the first responders rushed Sarah to the hospital, she was still breathing. She died two hours after she got to the hospital. Mr. Adeyemo is now at the Orange County Jail in Florida. He is most likely facing a death sentence or life in prison without parole.

then it depends on the type of ppl you meet but i know most female meet their friends from the guy being intrested but then you tell them it can not happen and your ok discussing abt ppl you're interested in the females always keep to this but when the male has a little issuein his relationship he starts trying again

A40:
I hear this all the time but genuine for who? How many of you do actually play the role of a friend? And I'm just keeping it a buck here. How many of you guys have male friends that you don't keep around just for one way utility.

How many of you don't exploit the few men that stick around and accept the supposed friendship?

Men are logical. If we see benefits in being your friend without the relationship it's not hard.

Some of you have girlfriends who are single how many times do you link them up with your supposed male friends? You rather hoard them because you don't want your supply of attention to dwindle if they hit it off. Or even worse the utterly ridiculous line "he moved to me, why would he move to my friend"

A lot of you supposedly have male bachelor friends. Which of una one blessed weekend don cook soup send dispatch rider to am make e use relax. Instead na one way billing and help me with this, help me with that a lot of una sabi.

Why men no go decline una friendship?

genuine friendship with women is possible but the men always ruin it thinking it could be something more and even get offended when its just the friendship you can really give.

Gamesmart:
A sensible man will not be friends with the average woman anyway except it is FWB.

The average woman is selfish and self-centred. If a man is to be mere friends with a woman, it has to be the few that are logical and sensible to understand wrongdoing and what is fair is fair at most times.

the man should have asked for his money back for him to get her to still come it means she told a sob story or even a true one which he accepted which is why he may hv given her another money. i am most annoyed with the ladies recording and embarrassing her like that she just owes money and did not steal find a mutual ground on how she would pay the money bcs after this video im sure they didnt let her leave without a solution on how the money should be paid

shantti:
If u have a friend that collects tfare from a man but later scammed him by not showing up, will u cut her off too?

if i have a friend who can boast about such cruelty i will quietly cut him off because only heaven knows what he can do to me because the person lacks empathy

matotoide:
This is pettiness at its finest.
The old fool will probably go boasting to his useless friends how he set the poor gullible girl up.