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only way we can have law back in this country is only when someone who actually understands that society will crumble without an effective system and not set the precedence for misuse of justice system. Like the baba we know cant say he is fighting corruption when he knows what it did for him or you want him to face his helpers so theyd talk?

immortalcrown:
Someone honoured your invitation and you rewarded him with torture and detention. So, being civil is now a crime? I always say that the makers and the enforcers of law in Nigeria are more unlawful than the rest.

Miscarriage of justice has always been the order of the day by the Nigerian security agencies. They scapegoat innocent and peaceful individuals.

In a sane country, nobody will be arrested unless the beaten soldier identifies the person to be involved. But in Nigeria, a fight between an officer and one person in a marketplace warrants the arrest and detention of all the people in the marketplace, especially if the market is perceived to be dominated by non-Hausas.

as long as the tape is made anyone could have access to it and why sex tape if you dont plan to show others,bcs this person is literally your gf

michoim:
Having sex videos of all your ex and not uploading them doesn't justify the stupidity of your actions of ever thinking to record nude/sex videos...

what do you expect from a blood sucking Bat

HenryThegreat1:
What this current administration cannot destroy doesn't exist. He really meant bad for Nigerians.
Imagine what we are going through in this man first year of first term. What will happen if this man find himself to second term in office?

because its the woman that tied a towel half naked running down the hallway to stomp, beat and pull him by his hair to the room. its not a curse but ppl like you can never make it in life bcs you think its about bringing ppl down rather than the obvious crime he committed himself against another human

Blitzking:
Seem they are out to bring down every made black artist and its always women that is the joker.

I just cant blv this has gone on for so long especially in a place like Anambra where 70% are indigenes who can easily identify members of their community if they can get the genuine support from state govt but as usual politicians would fuel violence since they get more relief funds to loot

designking:
Tourist IPOB and Biafra supremacist will kill and chase away.... Just dey play

your entire generation are the bitter minds. Im am not a politician and im not a politicians tout like you. Anambra is not safe for its occupants and tourism is what you hv to sell? Better advice your boss

Bestmanfornow:
Bitter minds

He loves you so much but made a mockery of you, your self respect, your family, your values,your empathy and you in your rightful sense believe he loves you A man that wants you to be his side chick after he got married on you?let me tell you if you dont know, he sees you as a complete slowpoke and since you defied your father to be with him he knows he has your complete mumu button. young lady give yourself sense

fubongfoodies:
I (29F) have been dating my boyfriend(37M) for 4 years. We met online shortly before COVID lockdown. We grew a lot closer during the lockdown. I worked in Healthcare, he was teaching then. He stayed in the north because he was going to school then for a second degree in an engineering course while i was in lagos. We were each other's support until after lockdown. I was able to get a job working in a Chinese company where I stayed for 3 months before getting a government job where I am currently. Despite many ups and downs in our relationship. Trouble came when I brought him over on a casual visit to my parents.

They didn't like him, especially my Father, they claimed that I could do better and felt he didn't have the right family values. Also that fact that he was currently unemployed then didn't help matters. I stubbornly continued to date him because I felt that he had good character and we were in love. Time continued to go (i had a pregnancy scare, lost a relative, he had bandit threats in his school and had to leave for a while for his life, travelled to a west african country to make money, i tried to write exams to travel abroad and failed which was devastating because it was out plan to japa together and my course was a little easy to do so).

I felt that my father's attitude would soften up with time, But everytime I brought my boyfriend up, my dad would become antagonistic. Saying that my boyfriend was slowing my life down, that I stopped going oit and that I wasn't progressing in life especially career wise since I met him(my father believes in late marriage, especially career first before marriage). A lot Things happened in our relationship. We had our issues but it was mostly about me not calling him frequently because I would be at work. I have just never been much of a calling type and he is a very clingy guy. He could go as far as calling my mom or sisters when he can't get across to me.

Things got to a point when my boyfriend wanted to come over for Christmas, but I wanted to time it to when my father left to avoid confrontation, my boyfriend got wind of it and canceled visiting. [/b]My father also told me then that if I brought my boyfriend home, he would never bless the union. The relationship took a bad turn and communication became worse. It got so bad that I didn't know that he had traveled to his hometown until a few days after he got there from lagos. Our conversation was awkward. The next day. [b]He sent me a long breakup message via email. I was quite shocked and replied with an OK and thank you. We didn't speak for a long time after that.

He tried to get in touch with me last week but my phone screen was bad so he called my younger sister who ended up giving me her Phone. I talked to him and told him what was up with my phone. He offered to give me one of his phones and said we should go to computer village to make repairs so I brought my spoilt laptop too. I was with his phone in the repair shop while he went out to get some things, while browsing, I saw his Google search history which read ; list of things for traditional wedding, groom's outfit for traditional, wedding, groom shoes for traditional wedding. I started to snoop into his phone.

I confirmed my fears and found evidence. I even got the lady's number too. He did court marriage with a girl from his hometown and I found pictures of two of them holding the marriage certificate. I was angry, and exhausted at the same time. I finally confronted him and he confirm that it was true and he married a few weeks ago. He claims it was a sham marriage to travel abroad since she got admission into a school and when she gets there she could file to bring him ove[b]r. I also found out that he planned to continue to hide it from me and he didn't expect me to find out [/b]. I was so angry about that, that he offered to escort me home. I fell ill that day and have been ill since. I don't know how to feel. I am not crying, just angry without knowing why. The more I thought about it, the angrier I became. I have been avoiding him but he has been diligent with his phone calls. I feel dead inside. He says that he can have it canceled since I am reacting this way, that I stopped fighting for our relationship which influencedhis choices. That he didn't mean to betray me.

I tried to go to his place today to pick up my fixed devices, I tried once and when back, then tried again, when I saw that the traffic was too much I changed my mind and went back home and told him. He asked if I would still hang out with him and reply that I can't fvck a married man. He says that the marriage is not real that he hasn't done traditional. I told him he was legally binded to the lady. While he continued to beg he got a call from the lady that her visa has been approved. I told him that I was done and wished him well since he has gotten what he wanted. He then told me that he didn't want this at the expense of loosing me. That he will fight for me.

What am I to do? I know I have to move on but don't know how? How do I heal? I am almost 30, he was my first real love. Am I just stupid? I get it, he is not getting any younger and needs to settle down. He also wants to settle with some so that they leave the country together and it seemed that I was taking too much time.

I know that I am not an emotionally expressive person, but I feel that the breakup is my fault. Am I wrong? Why is he still clinging to me when he is married?

he has an image to uphold na he doesnt even want someone judging you to mistakenly look towards him too

KingLennon:
He doesn't like guys bringing girls to the compound but I don jam am for ashawo quarters thrice

ppl with washing machine?

2Radii:
same with my house and its understandable..

But why would you?? U want to fill the soakaway before its due??

even the one tht sent the 1m instead of 100k go still find another place put head

Namaster:
Scammers on the altar.

"Divine Provision" but he needs it from another man's account.

The fact that the guy has been exposed as a CRIMINAL is not even the worst part. No siree!

The worst part is that after this is settled, his church would still have some SHEEPLES coming there.

bcs you didnt read he has been sick and therefore homeless wht will he come back with? like you dont know hw Nigerians shame ppl who return with nothing

Kaiser20:
He came to the UK in 1986 and has not visited Nigeria in 38 years
This man is Just a wasted Japa

Exactly how did he think of tourism before security, like even the indigenes are not safe talk more of expecting ppl to travel to a place where its either your kidnapped or killed straight. What sort of tourism will survive there when business are also suffering from insecurity .To even think states with 70% indigenes should be easy to secure since ppl in most communities can identify outsiders if he seeks the help of community leaders but no he wants to secure his own loot from these projects while communities are burning

12345baba:
Haaa. When e never tackle kidnapping for there he is expecting tourists, that place go rotten if he no do the needful

like the way they bundled him like a murderer for a civil case not even like he stole

mmadu5:
Lawyer is on point . Nigeria is a stupid country

May you be in a condition where someone will help your girl child by helping to marry her off #animal looking at daylight trafficking and calling it help.

Hadone:
Atleast he cared for this girls more than the dubious minister. Many innocent young girls are into prostitution, did the minister wrote IGP about it? Had it been this girls are also into prostitution, the dubious minister will not raise alarm. We're now in a society and situation where some people value prostitution beyond marriage. Nobody will marry them off due to orphanage situation they found themselves. The Speaker now took a bold step to shoulder the responsibility of their deceased parents, but some one who don't even care for them is now trying to frustrate his efforts

Ewu he has experienced Eve like he wasnt the serpent

tubolancer:
She has enjoyed everything she wanted from you, she couldn't risk going to another level with you, she had it all but you...... I pity you, have a deep breath and move on, you have experienced Eve.

"someone i have loved and respected" yet disgracing and disrespecting her,both of you deserve each other, if you didnt use your father to blackmail her everyone would hv had peace

Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

but you clearly advised dont invest in any woman, if you're telling someone to go into a relationship with such a mindset then you are telling them to only play mind games. These men you claim their girls don't invest in them, hv you asked them wht their girl does for a living?they'd clearly see a girl who has no source of income or a student woo them and then cry abt her not doing anything for you, like were you blind to the fact tht you chased after a jobless girl. I don't sub to going into a relationship with mind games...do hookup if you want even Fwb but dont deceive ppl's feelings because your creating another broken person

Mcslize:
This is not mind game. Any relationship that is one sided won't last. If you love your man, you will definitely spend on him as much as he spends on you. Both of you will be open to each other about your finances. You will put in much efforts as much as he put in efforts. This helps to balance things up and prevents selfishness and self centeredness. It's for the good of any relationship or marriage.

Better ignore this person. Tell your sis you will support her to get to the life she wants for herself and her future family. Help her hv her own wallet to provide for her family if need be and not be a liability to anyone in life. thats the best you can do for her bcs you dont know wht life would be in 10yrs, you may not even be there to protect her

Princewill1:
Western Education is the breeding ground of Feminism. Some percentage of women dont need to be educated.

Tell her to desist from Woke Mentality if she want to succeed in life as an african. That there is something called 'gender role' in the family.

The masculine male role in the family is to provide and protect while the feminine female role is in homemaking, caregiving and in nurturing. And that a girl embracing her natural Godgiven role of homemaking is not domestication or slavery.

Tell her that world reknown African Woman like Ngozi Okonjo Iwuala is excelling in life, she is not a feminist and she is happily married with kids.

Ask her the reasons why NOI with all her exposures, experience and accomplishments is not interested in feminism and the socalled liberation of women... because there is nothing there to liberate.

She should flee from wokeness else she will turn to a bitter and frustrated single broke mother in years to come.

exactly these NL Redpillers has flooded them with misinformation about feminism and preach hate for women all day probably because of the hand life has dealt them but the damage is ignorant ones like this OP swallow everything without actually fact checking and seeing through their hatred for women

tommy589:
A good one

Tell her stories of African women that flourished with no man holding them back,even before western education. Queen Amina,Efunroye Tinubu,Efunsetan and many more achieved greatness
Life is not fair,but let her look up women that fought side by side with men to achieve our independence

his brain has been rotted with what NL Redpillers define as feminist

Tallesty1:
What exactly is the problem here?

what do you guys even think a feminist is? that at the mention of it ,it seems like they've stolen your mandate. So a young girl who knows from an early age no to accept less than she deserves is worrying? and you say she just wrote jamb, so you want her to get to uni and fall into the trap of these small boys sweet talks instead of focusing on why she went to school and make something of her future which would attract the right crowd? I advice you to draw your sister closer and help her achieve her ambition since she still confides in you.You should be happy you have a focused young girl who wouldn't play with her future

joemag:
I recently went home to check on my parents. It happens that our lastborn who is in a boarding school also was around for a week break they were given at school.

On one of the evenings as I was talking to her and her dreams and aspirations this 16 old girl told me she wanted to become a Feminist. I was shocked but remained calm and gently asked her what she meant by being a Feminist.
She told me that by that she aims to become an advocate of women's right. She started narrating how men are domesticating women and whole lots.
I was marvelled at her passion and zeal and how convincing she was .
Deep down I knew that I have a problem to solve and I needs pragmatic steps in order not to cause more harms.

This girl has written her JAMB with nice scores and will soon be in the varsity.

Please, is there anyone with concrete approach on how I will go about this?

so in essence your advising them not to start a relationship but a competition of who plays the better mind game

Mcslize:
Men that fall for such manipulations are those that haven't really had fair share with women. They easily get blackmailed emotionally. Some haven't really spent time with women when growing up. Guys like that do suffer in the hands of women.

Imagine a girl will cheat on a guy, the guy will still be the one begging, as the girl decides to terminate the relationship.

Those are the guys that have invested so much in their women. That's why we always sound it, don't invest in a woman if she is not investing in you. Cuz when things go sour, it's the one that invested the most that will find it hard to cut things off, even if he is being cheated on.

That's why some ladies find it so easy to walk away because they invested nothing in their relationship, so they lose nothing, which makes it easy for them to start misbehaving.

When a girl invests so much in a relationship with a guy, they will do everything to please the guy to keep the relationship. They will be so scared to lose such a guy. Thus, they will always be in their best behaviours and will try as much as possible not to cheat. Cuz they know the day the guy catches them, it's over and based on they have invested in the relationship, it will be a big lose to them.

I implore all guys to always make their girlfriends and spouse to invest in any relationship they are in. Make your spouse invest in you. This is to keep her on her toes. Nobody wants to lose what he or she has invested in. This is the only way to keep a relationship running. Allow your girlfriend to spend on you. Borrow money from her and never pay back all. Bill her. All these things help to keep them on their toes cus they wouldn't want to lose their investments.

Mr. adviser yet after all this, dem carry another man pikin give you

Odewaleadesoye:
Controversial media personality and actor, Chinedu Ani Emmanuel, aka Nedu, says any man who allows his partner to have a male “bestie” isn’t a “real man.”

According to him, a real man wouldn’t tolerate that.

He warned men not to tolerate their girlfriends or spouses having male friends.

Speaking in a video message shared via his Instagram account, Nedu said:

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where is Seun that said he is doing a massive crack down on accounts like this

Sharpsharp00123:
u Igbos n self deciet

Let’s see how long u can lie to yourself once again

If SA is so good what are you doing lurking on a forum for "japageria" at least here we face ourselves equally over there you cant even move freely in your own country.so keep bragging about how much of a slave you are. leave the ppl oppressing your generation and face a black man tht was equally looted and is still getting looted to date angry always wagging their tail for their master hoping crumbs fall from the table

WannaHowzit:
Sit down. Even at it's worst SA will always be 1000 times better than the Japageria you're all fleeing.

If SA is so good what are you doing lurking on a forum for "japageria" at least here we face ourselves equally over there you cant even move freely in your own country.so keep bragging about how much of a slave you are. leave the ppl oppressing your generation and face a black man tht was equally looted and is still getting looted to date always wagging their tail for their master hoping crumbs fall from the table[quote author=WannaHowzit post=129923983][/quote]

You are a complete idiot, how can that be a solution? do you even have sense to know most business in this country are run by individuals sometimes without loan and somehow they've managed to stay afloat then you want to personally push them out of business rendering their employees jobless adding to the multitude your oga is already breeding

HellVictorinho6:
so cutting power supply /water supply is the solution?

id rather my daughter is fatherless than introduce her to a father that may abandon her tomorrow again

GboyegaD:
Is that enough to deny her of her father? She is not been fair to the daughter. I understand her pains but she needs look past that for the sake of her daughter.

i dare you to sue her okuko, youd pay damages and still not get access, you provided funds for the abortion and ran and think you hv a case?im sure its her fathers name she put on tht childs birth cert and if is just go back to where youre coming from

Bongadu:
I impregnated my ex girlfriend when I was young and relocated because at time I was young and stupid, I gave her money for abortion but she disagreed on removing it , so I had no choice but to flee as I was irresponsible and poor
My ex girlfriend put to bed months after I left and raised the child living with her parents
I relocated back last year December , I'm trying to get back with my daughter but my ex won't let me be near me even I want to take responsibility and care for my daughter
She's getting me frustrated, I'm thinking of suing her for not letting me be a presence in my daughter's life

yet youre here on a platform for Nigerians because you must always follow us

Swanzi:
Use that same grace to get better leaders and better electricity supply…

alright let me know

ALABACONNECT:
Good evening. I don't have any set on that budget. I can be a little flexible if you are.

Hopefully you'd get your turn to be a parent better work hard so they dont call you yahoo father or olosho mother, you think its easy to train kids in this internet age. Just pray

VinnyBaba:
No, Blame your GENDER.

We have WEAK mothers currently. Many of them are Ex Oloshos.

Hence they can't bring up Their Young Daughters well.

That's why you see many 12,13 years old wearing Skimpy and Revealing clothes for Outing,
Which they bought when they followed their Mothers to the market and she didn't see anything wrong with them