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seunmarytemi:
That is how my MIL came all the way from Edo state to Lagos with two years old child for omugo, all she does is to bath my baby that is all, I cook, wash dish,wash my baby clothes myself. for that fact that she knows I delivered through CS. I still take responsibility for the child she brought, I can't wait for ending of this month let her go abeg.
Thanks to my mummy that use two weeks before MIL came, my mummy will be the one to bath my baby, wash dishes, cook food, wash my cloth and baby cloth. MIL will still expect me to cook launch for her and the 2year old boy she brougt. Am so angry


This is a No No Haba!She came with a two year old to do omugwo?Its well o. Just endure like you said.

Surulady:
thank you ma am seriously looking for one just bcus I don’t leave things undone DH is looking at me a super woman I told him am not strong I just can’t look at my children things unkept...I just pray I get one soon am getting weak day by day

ecolime:
From your writeup, it seems your husband has anger issues and you have ego issues as well.

Your marriage is a young one and you guys can still make things work. Do not listen to rubbish advises online. Some are home wreckers while some are frustrated singles. I do not in anyway support emotional abuse in any form though.

I believe some men react this way when they don't get sufficient financial support from their equally working partners. He might be overburdened financially. How well are you supporting him financially?

Surulady:
Good day mummies,how are our LOs doing,pls my senior colleagues,how long does this yellow poo last? My babies pass this poo like 4times daily thou not much but am concerned about it.

Please is there anyone here using this tommee Tippee bottle sterilizer? I see as a waste of money because I felt it won’t work as expected..please anyone that has used it shld enlighten me....

Mamas that had twins pls how did you cope without a nanny .. my review with my Dr has not been pleasant..like am loosing it


Awwww..So sorry for the stress dear. I nearly concluded I was lazy when I had my daughter. My mum stayed for two months and I just concluded I wasn't going to cope without her until I accepted the undeserving reality. You need HELP. Being a first time mum and a mom of twins? Please, you can't face this alone. Get someone as advised by other mommas who will all the chores if possible. You just take care of your children and yourself. You need to rest as much as you can as you are yet to recover. Facing all of this alone at this early stage isn't it please.

Surulady:
Good day mama’s sure we are doing great.am a new Mum of twins.pls I need all the lectures I can get from here..,
Please how good is sebamed baby soap

Khaleell001:
Abeggi.

People should stop using their marriage experience to judge others.
it doesn't mean because you are having a bad relationship, bad spouse or a bad atmosphere I your home means it holds true for everyone else.
As they say, every aboki with his own kettle.

Marriage is beautiful and dutiful you should never come into it thinking you won't face, physical, psychological and emotional challenges.
it will drain you and train you to become a better and sturdier man.
Enjoyment dey marriage, but you gazz to be very responsible.
Dazzol!


God bless you. You are one of the knowledgeable men out there. Guys whose parents knows are headache to them and did all they could to push into marriage because they expect their spouses to turn to God by doing the work of transformation by turning a better person overnight will come here and vomit rubbish. They are so pathetic that, their parents can't marry them if they are to settle down with them despite giving birth to them. You get what you dish out in marriage. Marriage is sweet depending on the cutlery with which you eat and the person you are eating with. It is better to remain single than to marry such men. Awon a ko tun losun okunrin.

BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,

As I type this message, my heart is heavy.

Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.

I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.

Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.

With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?

And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.

I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!

Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.

Now, my questions are:

1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?

2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?

3.) Please, what do I do?

Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.

Matured and very serious advice needed.


Hmmmmm!!! Life happens and this is a phase of Life. I get emotional each time I come across genotype incompatibility because I was once there. Without mincing words, its gonna be so hard on her but I bet you she'll survive it and its a phase that will definitely pass.

My ex handled the news with a high degree of maturity. He informed my bestie and they both planned I go spend the weekend with her. He came over, broke the sad news,drove me to my friend's place where I wasn't myself for days, couldn't eat,was just surviving on lucozade boost. My world crashed before my very eyes.In all of this, he stood firmly by me. I must Reiterate that again and this is the main gist. Her healing process is a determinant of how well you stand by her. Let her know how much you love and care for her, but you can't just go all the way together because of the unpleasant reality steering at you both.

You have to be strong to achieve this. I promise its not gonna be so easy but with determination and love for your yet unborn children, you'll both weather the storm. Sending love to her from a survivor.

Thanks.

unex50:
Hello mama's pls help me.... My baby will begin creche tomorrow.. I'm so scared cuz I'm certain she will cry... How will I focus at work I hope they will take proper care of her... She's only 10months..mamas how did you deal with first day at creche Biko.

irene670:
Thanks ma. We went to hospital, He was given metronidazole, paracetamol, zinc and ors. Thanks for answering. But i wonder if a baby can have infection without running temperarture.

comtem2011:
You are right mama.

irene670:
Greetings mamas! please help. my 4months old baby has been pooing green poo with draw-like mucus. is this normal? i askes google and i saw insufficient or lack of hind milk. i started feeding him well and pump to empty my breast for him to drink. yet his poo is still green. sometimes green, sometimes yellow. he feeds well and he has never run temperature. what could be d cause. mamas who has experienced this should pls come to my aid for solution.

subsonic:
Oh... nice. I was told the same too. It was later I read online about the week 28 shot.

Donald3d:
Hmm being around toxic people is the quickest route to madness and failure in life.(I mean no disrespect by saying this)

A toxic partner can even make someone like Dangote lose his stability physically and psychologically and become poor .

This is why everyone who is not married, most importantly above anything, should pray and physically seek for a partner that would give you peace of mind. Because that is only when other things in your life can fall in place and stay in place.

Having said that, whether or not your case can be resolved is very dicey.Whether male or female, never take a threat lightly, but in this case the threat came with a condition she said she will stab you IF you lay your hands on her. So its as simple as not raising your hands on her, why would you want to do that ?. Would you be happy if she slaps you because you shouted on her ?. Do unto others especially your spouse as you want them to do unto you.

Also, you have to understand how to neutralize toxic people, in this case its a bit difficult because its your wife. One of the most effective resolution is silence, once she starts try not to trade words with her(trading words makes things worse with toxic people, its like feeding a fire with petrol), try to talk things through in a quiet manner, even if she is shouting, modulate the tone in your voice to make sure its soothing and calm, its hard but try.If it does not work, quietly leave the house and go for a walk.

When you come back and she is calm, try to talk things through, calmly.

Its important to note that a lot of people when settling disputes, whether its marital or business related only try to resolve the symptoms of the problems and not the root cause of the problems. As I said in a post some time ago, women tend to mostly lean on the emotional part of their brains than the logical.Dig deep to find out what is going on in your home. Women tend to nag a lot when there are financial difficulties or constraints.

If that is the case, you both should sit down and and map out a plan on how to improve your finances, you never know she might have a road map to help you grow .....We men sometimes underestimate the ability of women to help us grow...

If the root of the recurrent issues isn't financial, you still have to sit down and talk to each other .......Shouting and arguments never yields positive results.

Since its established that she is more on the aggressive and "toxic" side, understand that people like this are like Asthmatic patients(no offense intended to asthma patients), for them to go " off " , something has to trigger them. Avoid the triggers, correct her without raising your voice, without threatening her. When you are upset and you want to vent, learn to calm down and think of all the possible things that could go wrong.

When you can get her in a good mood, tell her how her actions towards you makes you feel, tell her how much you would like for both of you to have an argument free marriage, its very possible, but there has to be efforts from both sides to make it work.

I was reading something one day, 80% of divorces are as a result of issues that could have been resolved if only both parties were willingly to drop their guards, calm down and find a resolution or common ground.Mostly just communicate and help each other correct their flaws.

I wish your home all the best.

God bless you richly sir.May you continue to dwell richly in divine wisdom, knowledge and the spirit of excellence. You type is rear. I sincerely salute you.

miss00000:
We met in school during my pre-degree and dated for 7 years before he proposed to me. Before the proposal, both our parents had been pestering us to get married and start having children.

We started trying 6months prior, and 6 months after proposing I got pregnant. Few months later we did our introduction and got married (registry) march this year.

About two years ago, he met a lady where he was supplying his goods. According to him, the lady has been doing everything in her power to push his business. Every time I suspect there was more to their friendship, he always assured me there was nothing, that she's just a friend. sometimes he would even travel with her to Abuja to sell his goods which I had to allow since it was helping his business.

8 months into my pregnancy I noticed a drastic change like coming home very late, he hardly eats at home, he barely talks to memos he's always on his phone. I knew something was wrong and every time I talk to him, he always assured me that everything was fine.

After the delivery and naming of my baby I expected things to go back to the way it was, but it became worse. he changes his phone password almost everyday and still hides his phones from me.

One day I cried and begged him to tell me what was going on, after hours of begging, the first question he asked me was "where was it written in the bible that marriage has to be between one man and one woman and not with different women", "why can't a man marry two or more wives if he has the resources to take care of them equally"(the lady is a muslim btw).

He confessed that he has been dating this lady for over two years and has no plan of leaving her, and theres a possibility he's going to marry her. I'm just 26yo with a one month old baby, I didn't sign up for this.

While growing up, my mum has always warned us against polygamy. although he's promised to be there for me and still wants our marriage to continue, but the thought of my husband being with someone else is killing me. I've tried to reason with him several times but I end up hurting even more. I've been praying but still no change. He's been trying to compensate with gifts and money but thats not what I want. he doesn't want me to tell anyone and I feel reporting him to his family will even worsen the case. We've always settled our issues ourselves without involving anyone. I've tried everything I can just to take my mind off it. I need someone to talk to, prolly a friend or a counsellor. I've been crying for days now, I've not been eating well and I have to breastfeed my child. I never knew my life would be this complicated. I don't know why he got married to me if he already had this in mind. I hate my life right now.

firstLadyy:
Hello mummies.. pls can I use powder for my 4months old dad's vg area if yes what brand is best.. They forgot to change her diapers Tru out the day and when I came back.. I saw that the place was very red and sore.. she cries when she urinate and touches the sore parts

SuperAngel0709:
Good day mamas, pls my three weeks old daughter doesn't sleep at night, she cries and always wants to suck, even after sucking she still cries. I was forced to give baby food in d night, wen my two breasts has become empty, yet she didn't sleep o, but now as I type she is sleeping, pls sabi mamas and @kaffybill, what do u think is happening or wat can I do?

BULLIONVAN4:
*Spits* this type of man can f¤ck his wife 2days after child birth even in the theatre.

wonyi:
I just saw this message, you spoke my mind.yesterday I went to the market hurriedly but made the beans half done and also prepared the sauce for the beans so when I return, it won't be difficult to prepare when I return and also fry plantain but she called to ask me to buy groundnut to drink garri. We have food but she preferred to wait for me. I was tempted to say something but I applied wisdom bought groundnut for us, drank the garri with her. Prepared the beans and refrigerated it .
I served breakfast today, she said it's too early.

She told me she doesn't eat cow meat only chicken, fish, snail and goat meat. I said ok. Prepared soup with goat meat, the moment she TOUCHED it, she said I told u I don't eat cow meat and my response was I prepared your goat meat separately,, Mumsy that's goat meat.

There's always a next time. I won't have her around next time. I WILL BE PATIENT AND CALM AND KEEP ASKING GOD FOR THE GRACE

wonyi:
My sister I understand everything my mum may be worse but whatever argument we have, can be settled later. Dealing with in-laws could be different. They never let go. Whatever you say will always stand and can never be wiped off.

Who comes for omugwo and doesn't cook? She sits down and I serve her breakfast, lunch and dinner.at least I can talk to my mum, tell her work is pressing me and she should help, here I can't. She controls up to asking, are u driving out? Don't do this and that. Give me the child and continue with your chores.

It's difficult living with an adult, I admit but calmly and respectfully I have made some points known to her. Even if she can't help, at least cook. I prepare baby's bath (infact I do everything). She only holds baby for some time.

I have learnt my lessons (Next time I will get a matured nanny, I won't be deceived (so if I had delivered with cs she would have treated me this way?))
I keep ASKING myself, when her daughter delivers ,will she act this way too?

Jessie21:
Good morning � here.....I noticed that my ds always cross his legs when sitting,my mom noticed it to and said I should I've told her the very day I noticed it so I was like what does it mean, then she said that the leg of a fish and that's the reason why he hasn't walked... She went ahead and advised me to use turning stick to always separate the leg whenever he crosses it... My question is has anybody heard this? What did you do?My baby is a year and 2weeks old.

ladyP30:
Good day to all the divine mothers here. Pls come to my aid my son of 7 months has refused to eat oh, from pap,friso rice,cerelac,nutribom,even our normal food,is only breast he like sucking nd that alone can't hold him.pls what can I do he is sliming down he is not sick oh he is only teething. thanks

blackaxe78:
Oyeku Meji, Oyeku Meji, Oyeku Meji leemeta.
The Averter of Death, the Averter of Death, the Averter of Death, I call you three times.

Mo be yin, bi iku ba sunmo itosi kie bami ye ojo iku fun.
I beg you, if Death is coming, help us to avert it.

Si ehin Ogun tabi ogorun odun, tabi bi iku ba nbo kie bami yee si ehin ogofa.
For all the years that I will be on the Earth, avert my Death until the pre-ordained time of passing.

Odun tiatibi mi sinu aye kie bami ye ojo iku fun ara mi ati awon omo mi ti mo bi.
Avert Death for all my children and avert Death for all those I include in my prayers.

Kiamaku ni kekere, kiamaku iku ina, kiamaku iku oro, kiamaku iku ejo, kiamaku sinu omi, Ase.
May they not die young, may they not die in fire, may they not die in tragedy, may they not die in shame, may they not die in water. May it be so.

Stmema:
Good day mummies... I'm here again... I posted my baby's back about 2/3weeks ago n I was advised to use aveeno... It's been 3 wks now n I don't know if it's improving...what else can I do... I'm tired of applying creams.... Sudocreme or tribotan... Or should u just ignore it... Pls help

2Ballz:
When do you start experiencing this itch?
How long then has it been?
Do you have this itching in your vagina or/and the vulvar region, both?
How many times have you experienced this:
1.as a female?
2. before sexual activeness?
3. being sexually active?
Do you experience this mostly:
1. during your menstruation?
2. after menstruation?
3. before sex?
4. after sex?
5. after shaving around?
6. independent of the vulvar shaving act?

Color of vaginal discharge?
Smell of vaginal discharge?
Does vulvar or/and vaginal feel tender to touch?
Experiencing boils and ulceration on the vulva or vagina?
Does the itching comes with:
1. before anal itching?
2. anal itching?

What have you used or been using on this complaint before now?
Any history of PID/UTI?
Weight or BMI?
Do you shave your vulvar region often?
Do you use any medicine sort of to help on skin application on your vulva:
1. herbs
2. prescribe medication.

Finally, if there is any ulceration or whatever, do you feel comfortable on my viewing it?

Hello Doc,can I have a private chatt with you?

JGracious:
I guessed right.
That putting soap in middle of the sponge na big waste. You are washing off the soap with water at the same time you want it to lather.

Sebamed doesnt work that way even the one used by adults.

The soap gets soft and kinda melts when it is covered up in the soap case so its better to leave the soap case open so it gets dry.

Cheers

Thanks a million darling.

comtem2011:
I don't think its advisable to be bathing babies with soap twice in a day. just morning is okay, then use only water for them @night. my opinion though.

JGracious:
Do you air dry the soap in its case or you cover it up after using?
Just wet your sponge, rub the soap on the sponge so it can lather well, return soap to its case and then bathe baby.
3wks is too short o even if you use it morning and night.
we have been using ours max 3MONTHS.

sunbestie:
Mama pls how much is d soap and cream?