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RonuFools:

Terminate all Islamic terrorists

Jayboi:
10000 in two months on estimated billing is cheap o. U no talk of 50k

blackpanthar:
same thing rats say before being stuff in a glue trap or killed in a stomp trap


there is nothing like JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX.


you are not a 12 years old boy, YOU KNOW YOURSELF, YOUR BODY.

YOU KNOW YOU WILL KEEP HER AROUND FOR NEXT TIME................ YOU ARE A GUY... I AM A GUY....... we know how we think


and I must be honest with you. YOU ARE SHOOTING YOURSELF IN THE LEG IF YOU SEE PIT AND STILL WALK INTO IT

blackpanthar:
why not caution yourself

YOU ARE A MARRIED MAN, you have no reason encouraging any closeness in chat or calls or even in communication with a single lady.

You talk with them or position yourself as if you are available or interesting.... then you now complain when they act on it.


Pls focus on your wife, force yourself to love your wife like when you first met her and build your life with her.

Hart11:
My Wife’s Salary Was a Mystêry Until I discøvered How Much She’s Truly Worth. In 2021 she told me her salary was $9500 and then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only $1500 to my old salary" Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”
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I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never had rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got t!red and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.
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One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.”
I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. $74,734
And this girl has been çrying pov3rty?
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I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was ãngry. I felt let down. I felt chêated. I felt playelêd. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bøther me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.
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All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for.
I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”
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She has only one brother, her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought him a car to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they spl!t the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays pøor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a suppørtive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.
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The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?”
She asked, “What have I done?”
I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?”
She was shocked.
She asked, “Who told you all that?”
I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiêt for a while.
She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about”
I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”
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We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly ãngry.
He asked, almost shøuting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building, Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”
He asked me, “I told you that?”
I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?”
He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware....
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My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”
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Trust was lost. Love was brokên. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blãme his daughter.
I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hãrd to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.”
Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize.
“Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”
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I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.”
From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first.
Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.”
Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”
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I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffêred for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.”
The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a d!vorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to lêave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actiøns...

Note: It's a true life story of an anonymous man

DasaintHope:
How is gaza and open air prison. If you're talking about the fence on Israel side of the border, well you'll be surprised what years of constant terrorists attacks and suicide bombings can do. Besides there is the Egyptian side of the border also blocked due to palestinian affiliation with Muslim brotherhood in Egypt.
Israel pulled out of gaza in '07.
So sir, who is imprisoning them.
Prison yet Iran smuggles arms and munitions to them.
Oboy!!! These Islamists and common sense are parallel lines, they'll never meet.

hurtlery:
I have got an issue I’d like some inputs on from everyone.

I recently reconnected with an ex whom I had the best relationship with while I was still in Nigeria. To put it simply, I was the one who broke up with her at that time, though we still stayed in contact and only messaged from time to time. After moving abroad for a while, our conversations got somewhat serious and we started talking a lot more often.

She’s doing pretty well in Nigeria. She’s a lead engineer in a multinational, earning very well. She earns well into six-figures in naira monthly, so she is comfortable. I am also doing very well for myself in the “diaspora”. I earn well into six-figures annually in dollars. I’m not complaining.

When we saw that things were getting serious between us once again, we decided to take it to the next level. I have visited Nigeria a few times and we’ve gone on vacations together for the past two years. She has a good head on her shoulders. She pays her part of the vacation and I pay mine, though I’d usually take care of some of the extraneous expenses like dinners, exhibition visits, etc.

The thing now is that we have been talking even more seriously and have also talked about getting married this year. She is not getting any younger and I am also not. She is clearly the kind of person I want and I think we are both financially and mentally ready to be together.

The major problem now is that she wants me to visit her parents in Nigeria first before we finalize anything about marriage. That’s where the problem lies.

Her parents live in Ogbomosho which is in the hinterlands of Lagos. Going there will mean going by bus from Lagos, or at least going in part by bus from Ilorin (if one is able to get a flight that goes there from Lagos). Given everything I have read and been reading recently both here on Nairaland and some other news website (I have included links), I absolutely dread traveling by bus in Nigeria. Oh my God! It’s something I greatly fear. I have read so many incidents of encounters with Fulani herdsmen and kidnappers along most of the south-west roads that I cannot imagine myself traveling on those roads at any time.

I can help thinking. What if I’m kidnapped along the way? What if I end up being taken into a closed enclave and they start beating me and pressuring my family to pay a ransom? That’s something that can’t get past my head. All in the name of love?

I have tried to talk to her about this. But merely hinting it at all makes her angry. It makes her feel I don’t care about her at all. She is a Christian, so she believes if one prays before the journey everything will be fine. I know better. Not enough prayer will work if infrastructure is just bad. I don’t think I can mention it to her again. That’s not possible. She will likely just take it the wrong way. On her part, she has travelled many times on the road to see her parents and has never had any issues. So, she doesn’t understand what I’m yapping about.

Are my fears real? I have not been to Nigeria in more than 10 years and have never traveled beyond Lagos, Abuja and Port Harcourt, all areas one can use a plane to go to. The only time I traveled on the road in Nigeria was to Abeokuta several years ago. Have things changed enough for my fears to be unwarranted? How can I convince her that traveling to Ogbomosho is not that important? I have talked to her about the option of paying her parents’ travel expenses to Lagos and we can meet there, but she’s clearly against that because it’s not the traditional way to go about it.

https://www.nairaland.com/8088522/watched-horror-abductors-shot-eight
https://www.barrons.com/news/kidnappers-seize-children-from-nigeria-school-bus-7765e21b
https://www./security-risk-analysis-kidnapping-hotbeds-south-west-nigeria-okereke

UniversalGee:
I can't bro, not my way. The exact reason why I don't want it is "it's better pay and free p*ssy". I want someone of value fr. There's too many girls out there, why fvck the one that everyone else has access to?

UniversalGee:
Thanks bro. The bag has always been my focus. And I have avoided those bannies for years now because I know they likely won't add anything to my life.

PussyGalore:
One

Righteousness2:
You can deceive yourself now you are alive anyway and anyhow you desire.

But When you close your eyes in Death Without JESUS CHRIST your bodi go tell you reality.

You will Cry, Beg, repent, Believe and Surrender to JESUS CHRIST but it will be of no use as it is too late.

Righteousness2:
Without JESUS CHRIST, ALL are Heading to HELL.
Religion cannot save.
Mary cannot save
Peter or paul, James or anyy dead saint cannot Save you.
Mohammed cannot save

JESUS CHRIST is theONLY way to be Saved.
A Genuie relationship with JESUS CHRIST is the ONLY WAY to HEAVEN

ayjay45:
Daughter of a bitch. A gal just confessed a crush to me

Me that's btoke and ugly. No p.

I'm gonna fućk crase shit from her until she ends up in ER or I end up there


Stupid bitch. Harlot!

Raf4:
What has Jesus Christ's coming got to do with you wrapping yourself in an oversized dirty stinking & horrible looking black rag? Something that doesn't comply with civilization or African culture.
Bunch of stone age nuisances!

WarrenP:
I’ll go straight to the point, she has been disturbing me to legalize our relationship since last year. I couldn’t take it anymore so I decided to let her know what I have I Mind.

I told her before I will wed her, we both need to have 10 million as reserve in an account for emergency. She brings 5m while I also bring Mine.

I do want a secured future for the both of us but she no dey reason with me. Always complaining age is not on her side.

She don vex leave my side since morning telling family and friends that i have been wasting her time.

I’m wondering if I did anything wrong

ycat:
Yorubaland is surrounded by people who hate us and want to kill us and take over our land. Our people are maimed and killed for going to farm. Yoruba are the No.1 victims of police and all kind of brutalities in Nigeria, all by design. People can’t walk freely without getting kidnapped. Nigerian has been fighting bokoharam as long as I can remember with no success and the same bokoharam are recruited in the Nigerian army. Nigeria is already at war and we Yoruba are the only ones always depicted as children among Nigerian tribes in drawings because we act like kids and the least prepared for what’s coming. We need a strong arm of the US, though Americans have their own problem but not to the level of the kind of threat Yoruba face in Nigeria where we are slaves. President Tinubu was destroyed outside Nigeria just because he’s a Yoruba man. With their security, Yoruba can now exercise our God-given freedom without fear of Nigerian soldiers descending on us and our Obas can step into their power and get out from under the shadow of the govt. We need help to face what is ahead. This is an opportunity of a lifetime and the greatest crime president Tinubu would commit against Yoruba is not to allow this opportunity. If we are attacked for allowing the US base, it’s a quick way to get to where we are going. A dangerous freedom is better than peaceful slavery.

These are just a few of the countries with US military bases for protection.


United Kingdom
Japan
Germany
Italy
Korea

iyke4dbi:
Foreign exchange and cost of clearing