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ifyalways:
I ro ,big lie
This !!!

very true o , she is the one. *winks*.

ifyalways:
I ro ,big lie
This !!!

very true o , she is the one. *winks*.

tearoses:
Great Nairalanders please I am appealing for your help to assist a permanently blind little kid in Lagos.

It’s a bit of a long story, but I will try and cut it down to make it easy to read

The little boy is 5 years old only child and his parents attend my mums church in Lagos.

He wasn’t born blind, but when he was a few months old developed an eye problem which unfortunately due to lack of funds; Father is hustling as a washerman (came to Lagos as a house help) and other odd jobs that he can find & mother is a housewife and also due to ignorance, they didn’t take the child to hospital until it was too late.

LUTH attempted surgery (A good Samaritan who they don’t know paid for the surgery) but unfortunately it was unsuccessful and the little boy is now blind. The parents no longer take the child to hospital due to funds, plus the fact that they have been told that nothing more can be done.

I have his pictures and his parents information/contact details which I am happy to give out as required for verification.

Currently his parents no longer take him to church/out because people laugh at them, which is really sad for this poor innocent boy.

Please whatever anyone can do for this little boy, no matter what it is, I am appealing to you to please assist.
His parents need empowering and the little boy needs to be schooled so that he is able to fend for himself and become useful to himself and the society in spite of his disabilities.

Please I am appealing for your assistance. Please lets help give this boy some hope.

Thank you all & God bless

cc Ifyalways
Tehn
caracta
Tayour
Mynd

Noted sis, am in. The boy will recover and it will all end in praises IJN AMEN

ConfessionsNgr:
I’m a 27-year-old lady and my husband is 31 years. We got married four months ago, we attend the same church, we even met in the church and we are both active. He is in the ushering department while am in the choir and we are both born again. Am telling you all this for you to know we are not babies in the spirit. Our courtship was sex free, as you know now, no touching, kissing nor romancing. We seldom visit each other at home due to our church strict restriction on that. And when I do I never went beyond his sitting room maybe if I had done otherwise, I would have known about this before now. Our wedding ceremony was great and we settled down to marital life. Two months after, my husband has a cause to travel out of town, it was on a Saturday and I decided to clean the room as I was re-arranging the clothes in the wardrobe, a parcel fell on my leg, at first I ignored it but on a second thought I picked it up to check what was inside, I received the greatest shock of my life, my husband has been watching pornography! The parcel actually contained different porn movies. I felt sad and dejected. I tried to check his laptop if he has such things there but it has been pass-worded. I didn’t confront when he returned and I pretended as if nothing happened. That night I took his phone when he was fast asleep and searched through it, behold he has porn movies on his phone too! But I still kept my cool. I had to let the cat out of the bag when one month later he asked if I like MouthAction and he want us to it give a trial. He said watched porn movies so that he will be able to satisfy me in bed. To say that I was shocked is an understatement. I told him I can’t indulge in MouthAction. He has been pestering me for this. How can I engage the same mouth I use to pray, to speak in tongues in MouthAction? Since then he has been behaving funny. He keeps to himself; he is not even interested in making love with me and I’m yet to get pregnant. Is this right? Doesn't feel right to me.


Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/140/i-cant-believe-my-husband-is-asking-me-for-this

Get ready to loose your husband woman!!! Its no biggie at all. Lots of ladies will help you out in satisfying him. By the time you get to the 3rd husband on your list then your brain would reset then. Good luck

ifyalways:
@Taryour, the "haters" have arrived ooo.

EfemenaXY with her big healthy living textbook while Edwife is sharing the handouts.

that picture lmao....

terrymason:
Food rejection tends to happen in a home were the woman and man are not in good term, but what I don't get is, most men refuse food just to show how angry they are or to increase their Ego! For me! I dey Eat o..

my husband is quite the opposite of this. He eats either he is angry or not. He doesn't joke with his food oo. Lol. na correct MAN.

zeb04:
I have always known kids love their dad more.

the first pic,no mum will even put you on her neck like that,she will first tell you the history of neck pain and how it runs in the family.........oh well,what do I even know.

very very wrong. I have 2 big boys and I carry them on my neck in turns when we play. We play alot and even more than they play with thier friends and others. and boys are are closer to their mothers than thier dad. FACT !!!!!!.

WombRaiders:
Inbreeding is destroying Yoruba gene pool

Shoro niyen....

delishpot:
Yes o. God help us. Its not easy.
Just tonight I noticed some bruise on my daughters leg, she just turned 4 I asked her what happened, she said her brother pushed her. Their mom said be calm, let me talk to him. She went and talked to him.
When he came into the room, I asked him what happened. He saw the dissapointment in my face and wanted to cry. I said dont cry just tell me how she got hurt. He said you wont yell and get angry? I said no, I promise. I just want to know what happened so I can know how to care for her,
He said if I tell you we fought wressling, will you be mad at me?
I said no, I promised you already.
He said ok, I was wrestling with her anf she fell.
I said see? This is why you must not wrestle with your sister. She is too small for that.
He hugged her and said sorry. Now, if I was a yeller, he will never tell me the truth unless I flog him.
I told them anytime you spoil something or hurt yourselves, you must tell me immediately so that I can try to fix it. I wont yell at you.

You are MALE? Dint know o. All the same thanks for the point sir.

EfemenaXY:


Life is beautiful. Your cakes are beautiful. But if she eats them, her waistline won't be beautiful oh!

Hmmmm....

Thanks sis. But no worry she go drink green tea follow the cake and head to the gym to remove all fats *winks*

EfemenaXY:
Lol!

Temptation comes in different shapes and forms dear. As you be wan chop those little pink devils, make you dey remember:

~ Overstretched, big belle
~ Christian Mother Arms
~ Double / Triple chin
~ Unable to bend forward to buckle / unbuckle your own shoes without help...

Make I continue?

Chai. EfemenaXY this your list wicked oo, whoever wants to have to deal with such Lol @ Christian Mother Arms * lmao *

edwife:


Those cup cakes are not healthy o but yummy...

Ify,Ify,Ify how may times did I call you?

Lol... If I hear. Abed leave ify oo let her enjoy are cake oo.

I guess its just my body type cause I don't add to much weight or fat, I eat a lot of junks o, in fact I feed more on junks than food. My hubby done complain tire, I tend to loose appetite easily or get too occupied to eat.

delishpot:
Seperate them.
When my kids play rough, I split them up. I ask them to read, draw, paint or I play some edicational video for them.
Look no one is saying yelling is bad, just dont make yelling a rule or way of life.
My kids know I hardly yell at them so when I yell, they get shocked and know I am not joking and they sit up. most times, they cry cos to them, I have "quarreled" them.
See how you handle them.
When they wake up, tell them you want change in your home. You dont want to yell at them again, you want them to listen to you and you want them to express freely how they feel to you. When they are messing up and you say stop, tbey should listen and stop and you all put your hands together and agree. Eh, NEW ERA.
So anytime they dont listen to you, remind them of tge pact and show your dissapointment by sepperating them and giving them things to keep tgem busy.
With my kids I have drawing books, color pencils, water color etc. So i make them do art work and make sure each child faces his own. If anyone disturbs I send that one to bed.

To be very sincere I haven't tried the last paragraph, will sure fix out time to do this. thanks a lot ma and God bless you.

greatgod2012:
Direct answer= YES!

What do you do in such a scenario? If they are still young, like between 3 and 4. Go bring one or both of with with laughter, first of all, withdraw the object of the rough play, like ball, toy, etc, and give then a task, like sit down and count 1-50 for me, wrrite your abc, etc. Or ask them to go and sleep for one hour.....all with a calm voice.
May God help us!

Thanks sis noted. This days my younger even laughs it off when I yell. And it can be so annoying especially when you can't do anything about it.

Another scenario is in the car. I belt them up and even lock the belt while I get behind the wheels and before you say *jack* they are both out of their belts and the play begins, they even come to the front sit and try to play with mummy while driving, pull my hair, rough play.

Several times have had to stop on the road to calm them but no once we back on track it continues till we et to our destination or they sleep off.

Imagine you just made your hair like a day or 2 ago and your child pulls hard on your pain, that sudden jolt and pain you feel. I try so hard not to spank.

delishpot:
Self control my dear. I used to be like that with my kids.
You have to remver that a child is not a perfect being, are prone to mistakes, they have their own desires, wants and ideas, they people, alive and with free will.
You should talk to yourself, anytime you freak out at him, you must call him and hug him and in soft tone tell him you shouldnt have yelled and you will try to stop being angry at him.
You must work on yourself too. First thing in the morning tell yourself today you want to be calm and collected esp with the child. Before you scold him, close your eyes and ask if the action or deed is worth you yelling. Kids must do what kids do, ie break a cup, spill water or juice, pour sabd in their hair etc. Such things should not be made to look like disasters. Just caution the child to make him see your dissapointment and handle the situation calmly.
From time to time you may forget yourself and overreact, when that happens, just take a breath, caln down, sit and call your child. Hug him abd say mommy had a hard day today, how do you feel? Based on his response, talk confdence back into him. With time he and you will trust each other.
The bottom line is to be calm and handle situations with wisdom.

Very good point. Am so going to work with this. Thanks for this post madam.

greatgod2012:
thanks!



And you're very right!
I used to scream before, especially when i'm stressed, but i had to stop when i started seeing the adverse effect on my son. Thank God it didn't take me long before i realised. I was having only my first born then.

Hmmmm I scream oo, and I still scream but what can one do?? When you have very very active kids. The thing is they are just simply awesome and a blessing.

greatgod2012:
Parenting is a very tasking and rewarding job, provided we do it as it's supposed to be done, i believe.I saw this post on another forum and i think it's worth sharing to our amiable and hardworking parents. As a parent, you may not agree with all, but I believe every parent will have one or more point to agree with just like myself.
The purpose of sharing is to see where we're guilty and make necessary and appropriate adjustment/correction.
May God help us all parents.




It goes thus........



YOU NEED WISDOM TO TRAIN AND TEACH YOUR CHILDREN VERY WELL.
1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate
behaviour.


2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you have lost them.


3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.


4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined
them regularly in public.


5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want.


6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.


7. If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child,
you order and command them.


8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.


9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.


10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not
physically affectionate enough.


11. If your child is openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow
through.


12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don't trust that you won't blow things out of proportion.


13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.


14. If your child doesn't listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to make decisions.


15. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right.




Source:www.familypaliament.com

Nice one egbon. Does yelling/shouting equal to over reacting/ being oo harsh

And instance is when you have kids playing rough, running around and jumping , struggling for items, rough plays which could lead to falling and injuries. And after trying to calm them down with the best possible calm voice and still go ahead to play rough. What do we do in such instance

ifyalways:
Big Aunty taryour. We are fine by his grace. Thank you.
Cake dey hungry me but EfemenaXY and co said " healthy eating". Those ladies eeeh, God will " polish" them for putting guilt in me anytime I want balance demolish my eba, sweet cake and other orishi rishi.

Madam Tayo, I will chop your cake soon.

Oluwaseun, glad to hear that ma. May God grace never depart us IJN.

Lol. Abeg no mind EfemenaXY oo, I know Edwife too is among, dem no wan make you chop ni. Lol. Life is beautiful o eat your cake and stay healthy *winks*

ifyalways:
Dear Lawwwwd

This calls for serious concern by family, friends and everyone. God please have mercy. please Lord!

Hmmmm madam ify it is well oo. How you doing and all yours?

Busybody2:
As for those of you who repeatedly keeps throwing my children under the bus and are like now chatting shit about 'em being used to collect some non-existent British Passport...Remember the Bible says children are a heritage of the Lord, a fruit of the womb...the Bible also says only children's Angels can behold the face of God...the Bible also says it is better to tie an heavy stone round your neck and go drown yourself rather than disrespect innocent children...I can't help but wonder why you can't wait till you cradle your own in your hand "first" before trashing my God-given children to score cheap points and laughs because only God knows whom He has destined to be parents...


God is watching all of you in 4D, so keep mocking and dragging my children through the mud to spite me, Kabiyesi Oba Adajedajo lojo ija, their Creator, is taking notes...

BB abeg, na God i take beg you please calm down madam. you seem so angry. have been following this all this while and still I can't get to wrap my head round what's really going on, or maybe I dint pay much attention to tiny details. abeg relax please.

Following.

OAM4J:
No amount of explanation can make you understand how Jaybee3 feels except you wear the same shoes he wore.

When you put in your time, energy, money and other resources into charity of people you are not related to or known from Adam for no reward, and someone begins to term you a waster, a fraud and a killer all because her opinion was not strictly followed by a group of 10 heads, only then you can understand if you will be the same or not. Especially when you are not as anonymous as others.

GBAM! !!!!! EOD.
God bless the TeHN crew. its not an easy task at all. I personally no fit do wetin dem dey do, truth be told and being very realistic.

RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] Annoy her back!!!!





On more serious note, how did you two meet?

If she is stubborn as you claimed she didn't start being stubborn over night.....something must have brought that out....or you haven't been observant enough before marrying her.


Sit her down and talk to her like a husband should. Communication is key in marriage.

Cheers
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Haha oga RR na your face be this? Longest time. Trust you doing fine,family and business.

@op wetin your wife do you?

Woged2005:
Some Nigerian women abroad are practical disgrace to our country and to motherhood. I was in a mall few hours ago watching a very shameful display of public disgrace by a Nigerian woman (in her late 30s or so) arguing with her husband right in the line at the register..screaming and calling him unprintable degrading names. The woman obviously looks like she is the bread-winner (but I don't know) I wished I didn't greet them earlier so people wouldn't know we came from the same county. I must say the man is a cultured gentleman who stopped talking once his wife's voice went up. He even left the line and walked back and the lady kept screaming and calling her husband names, narrating to thin air things people don't need to know... and at some point screamed "..you will force me to divorce your azzzz..." wo! wo!! wo!! The most appalling is that their little kids are their watching. Can't this type of argument wait till you get home? I walked away in shame.

Please my sistas we are not the only ones that came to America and met 'Freedom' and 'rights' but the way some of us misuse it is shocking. Indians, and Chinese saw the same freedom too but use it to build 'empires'. Let's start showing some family values. You men, please be careful the type of women you marry and bring abroad. All this una one month Facebook friendship and arrangee hookup without proper dating and courtship is your undoing. Look beyond physical looks and appearances.

Hi-Fives tor all those naija sistas out there doing us proud, and representing good family values we are known for. God bless ya sistas!!!

it Is well. Good luck to her. She has only ended up adding more award to her shameless attitude. no wahala she will pass It on to her kids.

SAMBARRY:
in that case you have come to the right place. Oya make ya choose

the one in the middle go fir perfectly nice. just as I like them. lol

SAMBARRY:
Taryour


look at the lace I bought as
Your birthday gift

You this babe u be winch oo, like you say I wan go idumota nextweek go buy lace. No kidding o. I get party to attend

Oya sharpaly send that lace to my house biko. God don butter my bread be that *winks* ose omo iya mi.

edwife:
^^^ the story is from China , you should know by now....

Like seriously. Lol. So it applies to them children too Lobatan. Omo chinko in the making. Laff wan tear my aSs.