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The adage that states marriage is an eye opener is real.

I'd say, put on ur specs well b4 getting in but take them off whilst in it.

See it as a business deal.....
You do your due diligence and research properly... once in it, compromise and readjustment will be needed, whilst commiting to the entirety of the time period.

Girls: The false lashes, make-up, designer dresses, "big girl lifestyle"...... will not be present 40-50 years from now, a good character will be.

Guys, the aggressive, "my word is final" attitude only gets u into trouble. Or the let's chop and clean mouth... gets u AIDS whether physical or emotional.


Address it as a biz: aims, goals, objectives... short, mid and longterm.

Aim to develop each other ....
Pray together, whatever faith u allude to.
A sense of humour is needed..

Enjoy not endure!!!

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Continuing from where BodeJohn left off.

If u want a baby so badly, join one of the several online fora where u can get a woman to be ur surrogate. Contract is drawn up from day1... so all parties have a fair idea of what they are getting into.

Depending on this current chicks desperation to settle, she may surprisingly say yes to the idea with the hopes that things may develop from there. In the event of 'no progress", yawa don gas be that !!!! Then it becomes child custody battle just for her to keep a hold on u.

Bro....... u dont want that kind of s....it round u.
And how many of these 'mamas", do u intend to keep. Chances are after 1 or mistakenly 2: no chick worth her salt will want to keep the factory open. Rather look elsewhere for a berra client.

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Really?

In them days, the emissaries n slaves go bring the chick.

Wedding is held at the palace with the bride's family n friend as guests.


Symbol of authority, no bowing to some "subject".

Depending on family taboos, it may be a no-no.

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Fall in love........
More like .... attracted or lusting after

Visual stimulation n
opportunity of having some coochie, I suppose.

....anymore ......

Ask the family.....
Etiquette or culture minister of the family.

It depends on type of royalty......
1st class, 2nd class chief or royalty

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Can assure u these feelings disappear after a couple of years together.

The man needs his space so does she..

It does not indicate lack of nocturnal activity but com'onay...... a bit of space pls.....

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A man needs his space. His bedroom... the den/ study/ praying room... his workshop / garage

Simply need ur space.....
Particularly if one partner has an annoying sleeping habit like ..... snoring!

Ever heard a locomotive come down your lane............
Men, u go bow!!

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Multifaceted...

-The pressures of modern life
-Lack of good quality mentors
-Lack of credible moral institutions
-Lack of commitment, forbearance
-Misinterpretation of financial well-being as a reason for lack of submission on the part of women
-Hazy or poorly defined boundaries esp materialistic attitudes, living off a woman or inadequately providing for her and the family, no moral codes

List goes on......


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Tpia,

I think it's incorrect to state that yoruba chicks don't date outside of their ethnicity.

I would have thought otherwise.

* methinks*

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Jerrod, Mynd said it in a nutshell.

Respect, respect, respect.
Little eye contact with dad.... seen as being disrespectful.
Use of "sir"... pretty much a punctuation mark in every conversation.

Get a summary of their educational achievements.....
Try to similar in your summise regarding self or family.

Nija parents like too much "book"...... educational degrees.
Of course, you have to be able to provide n look after their daughter...
Like a princess.....

Not to worry, you're all good.

Methinks.

In whom are these qualities being adjudged?
The woman or man.

Correct assessment of qualities is dependent on the bias of the beholder.

What does she want to do? Given the present scenario.

Correct my impression:
didn't realise Librans had any particular affiliation to the Arts.

All u can do is connect the intending parties
From Op's accounts, the girls r not particularly interested.
Most girls have realised that gold doesn't line the streets in Diaspora:
Even more so, now: during this recession.

It makes more financial sense to chase after some politician or top civil
servant with access to limitless funds to purchase top-end products.

Rather than appearing grateful for Primark, Asda n Wal-mart products.

A leopard can't change its spots. To the ladies who are aware: caveat emptor!!!

Grass always appears to be greener on the other side. My not being a player
in my youthful days doesn't translate into chasing after anything in skirts as I get older.

@ yung breezy.
Go start ur line. And skip off and stop looking for 18-20 yr old on this thread

32 is her age: if u read her entry clearly.

Congrats my man.
Wish you safe jouuurneey....

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Any email contact N more pictures

Nice exteriors

Feb 29 is long gone.
Need to wait for another leap year.

Need to deal with this from a matured viewpoint.
Yes, the lady is at fault having vocalized what a lot of 9ja women will do.

They are both guilty of the sin of fornication.
Remember y'all, they're workers in a religious body and so are liable to
the in-house rules n laws. So no secular perspectives here.

He's guilty of having her under false pretence..... knowing their history.

Though happy to serve his punishment, letting a matured elder or pastor know his tale
might bring some balance to the scenario which is heavily biased against him.

With this dealt maturedly, in-house guidance may be given to the youth in the organization regarding choice
of life partners and relationship decorum, to hopefully avoid a repeat.

Congrats to them both.
Him for choosing stability, support, friendship and chicito who would hopefully
tell it as it is not
some " arranged, divorce-lawyer enhanced, flighty, media-beautiful biMbo".

9 yrs no be yam.
Cilla stuck throughout, despite shameless biMbos that might have tried to take
her place....... fierce competition, I'm sure!!!!!
She looks firm n hopefully will give him the "grounding in" , particularly in their "world".


She's also a doc...... free medicals hey!!!
Mark's sharp, I got to say!!!!!!



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Definitely Addictive.

Know someone who's being addicted to it from age 6-7yrs. Good thing is she tries to "wean"
herself off,albeit for short periods if time. Can easily go on 3-4 litres daily without needing
to have any proper meals.

Tried other colas......... not as addictive as C-Cola.

Piano, piano.....how many time I call u
Do not let ur lust put u at risk of being boko haramed.

Walai talai,.... this is not " sleeping wt 2 sisters,1 married, the other single oo"
or married man having an affair on the side.

Don't kid ourselves, once eaten the forbidden fruit, your body will " correct itself".

A word is nuf 4 d wise, I'm told.

Nice write-up so far....
Pls paste another scintillating twist in this drama.
Wanna see when Ibro n Simi get together
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What do u bring to the table?


What characteristics do u want in the lady??
Simply helps in narrowing things down.

Thanks

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Seconded..
Why have them move, if already seated and no offer on their part to move particularly
if of the same age or older.

Wonders shall never end...
The women may shed more light.

Shybaba, Booty for who?

Guys u neva settle me na....
Gate dey padlocked o!!!

Let in the girls ke??

Abeg answer question n settle....


Then we flow in....

Man....

Need to decide on 1 chick and face her squarely.

You prefer the 1st, described her as your missing rib.... what u waiting for?
See her parents , juggernautify the situation to your advantage.
If the other guy hold ground, good for am, otherwise ma man wins.

Why are you moping around wt 2nd best
Go for what u want, Man !!!

Don't understand the risky behaviour of no condom use or anal sex of todays youth.
With a lot of support from WHO/ UNICEF in the 90's, HIV/AIDS prevalence was beginning a downward trend
In late 90s n early noughties.

All that undone........
Simply irresponsible

Hopefully with social media involvement and contributions from flourishing entertainment industry
, we may yet address aggressively, this public health menace.


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