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osazsky:
ignore him..from what he typed the guy is 100000 percent irresponsible...he didn't marry her for 10 years and was waiting for her parent to die so that he can dodge marraige expenses now he is looking for respect cuz he paid 10 thousand naira to sign oredo local govt papers

Lol

One4me:
You did not say anything about the demon, Spirit husband bitting his Pr!ck, what is your advice for that one?
What about the inlaws that conspire against him, wetin im go do about those scoundrels?

Make he go deposit e prick for prick bank Incase he late divorce her cos na the instrument he go use with d next wife be dat . As for d in laws, make he buy puff puff add rat poisoning give them

bigcasava1:
I disagree with you. Religion did not support sex deprivation infact the Bible warned couple not to deny their body to each other.

Beeni

femmoy:
i suggest u check my sigi u little fool. You better focus more on ur education and pray for understanding cos it seems u are so daft to comprehend my write up.

Blood of Jesus

AreaFada2:
At times it's not about compatibility.

People can be compatible when dating and make effort to satisfy bf/gf. But that change when they become "shairman/shairwoman" after wedding.

Childbirth can also change the dynamics. Lots of women shift attention to the baby or kids. Even men do it. All the spontaneous "things" of before disappear. People's libido might just reduce over time.


Let's also face it, people do fall out of love. Marriage is no panacea to being in love perpetually.

In many cases, love was never really there but marriage was done to tick one of the "must do" boxes of life. The initial excitement might initially keeps sex going but later wears off.

The biggest obstacle is a partner not knowing or accepting that something is wrong. That way seeking professional therapy becomes difficult.

We are Africans trying to live as Europeans. No polygamy, no elders stepping in to advise, etc. Your pastor is now more trusted to intervene because he says God anointed him. Often without the expertise or understanding of social or cultural background of the couple.

It's a time of flux for Africans. Challenging days are ahead in virtually all facets of life.

In this 21st century, any couple wey Dey involve their pastors for their matter no get sense at all. Like say dem men of God no Dey have fun tooo

steveekeoma:
the woman should give her husband sex and stop being silly. Without sex she can't keeps her home safe

So na SEX women Dey use keep their home n marriage abi

lefulefu:
abi ..many young guys in Abuja make a living by sleeping with older women and these women pay them money for sex .they say women sex drive reduces yet there are guys who sleep with married older women and get payed and these guys are living well on such proceeds.if many women who are married tend to have low sex drive after having kids how come the sugar mummy industry in nigeria is booming .thats a question those guys who argue that married women with kids tend to have low sex drive cant answer .the truth of the matter is when u wife starts refusing u sex withouth any medical issue then it means she detests you,she is not attracted to you or one of her ex has resumed having sex with her.it h :Ds nothing to do with her sex drive reducing.Sex drive reducing and yet the sugar mummy industry is booing well in nigeria

Not all sugar mummies have sex with their so called bfsss everyday, moreso they don’t even last in bed. Some sugar mummy have bfsss cos of peer group competition. They want to show off. Do u think they have sex every non n then with those guys? It’s a big lie . Plus most of them, their husbands r no more or divorced.

luminouz:
You are a bad counselor and you will end up not only breaking up marriages with your lopsided advice but you might die early yourself practising your own counsel

Haaaaaa
Why did you say that?

steveekeoma:
it seems i concur with u. For a woman to deprives her husband sex upto 3months without having medical issues, that woman has alternative sexual pleasure.

Not all women

prekumohtim:
I don't think I can even bear 1 month without, like, I must be lashing my wife like thrice a week to say the least. I am much more scared that since my life is like this now, maybe cheating would be inevitable for m

So the reason you came to this world is just to have sex

No be their fault joooo. Let them have it

If men r saying sex is food. Let them eat it when they r hungry. But know say na something Dey kill man tooooooooooooooo

Agp19:
I can boldly tell you that the sex most men get from there wife when they were dating was much more than what they get during marriage. I stand to be corrected thou!

In most case self some boyfriends don Bleep the babe pass the husband self..wetin I sabi

Haaaaaa!!!!!!
Funke

4ckz:

So if you are hot and she's not interested, you are expected to drink water and sleep?

Read the word of God

Emmanuelcann:
Sex as a weapon and bargaining chip, it's inevitable! Do you expect that things will always be smooth and rosy in a marriage? No? So do you expect that a woman will be happy to engage in love making with a husband who has offended her one way or another?
Marriage for a man is a time to learn that you can't always have what you want - unless you are a polygamist. Learn self control!

I second you

lefulefu:
99 percent of women who deprive their husbands of sex are actually having active sex with other men.its because of the guilty concience they refuse having sex with their husbands

How sure r u?

4ckz:
Some people had this mindset, got married yet faced the same problem.
Don't you know that most women do not deprive their guys of sex during courtship, yet the same women change after marriage.

Why do women change after marriage?

[quote author=Clinghton post=91126055]Social media has made every private discussion public [/quote ]
Beeni

You can chat me up once in a while to kill your boredom . Plus am a very lively human being

SweetCunt97:
My dear forget, diabolical things exist o.

no be e fault , those wey senior am Neva sample am before na why e get this confidence

E don happen, yahoo bois don jam am

rawpadgin:
I honestly can't comprehend why some men will be using their wives as punching bags.

See ehn, I am a very tough & stubborn man but my stubbornness end with my fellow men. Wen a fellow man wan show say him strong, 2 second I don change am for am but wen it comes to woman, I will just mellow cuz I feel they are way too fragile for me to lay my hand on.


Guys abeg, if she EFF up & u need to treat her EFF up, do that on top ur bed. Fvck her aggressively until her womb shift, then waka go outside go step down with a cold bottle of Heineken

I second the motion

TheRealProphet:
Very true mate.

Why is this done?

zedegit:
That shows dishonesty. Then what were they discussing during courtship?

No wonder some people marry today and divorce tomorrow over 'irreconcilable differences'.
Don't get me wrong. I am trying to be insensitive to your plight but being honest ab initio would enable me think it through and decide if I'm ready to still commit despite that challenge.

Maybe you didn't get me. By telling the partner that you, yourself like sex and asking if they, themselves can cope should ordinarily bring out such confessions but if it doesn't that means dishonesty and is a 'veritable ground' in the eyes of the societal laws for divorce.

Let’s take for instance a brother n a sister who are both from Deeper life church or all this chronic Churches, you knw there is always an intermediary btw them . They really don’t talk at length or visit each other. I believe you understand what am saying. In a situation like that, they won’t open up to themselves.

Something must kill man

zedegit:
Thats why communication is important in relationship. No need pretending. Babe, I like sex, can you cope?
She will answer even if you guys dont get intimate before marriage.

Assumption is bad.

The issue on ground is not about communication or you asking your partner if he or she likes sex. The issue of ground is me not telling your that am suffering from genital mutilation.

saucecode:
1Corinthians 7:3-5
3. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.
4. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.
5. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.


It's only a matter of time before satan will tempt a bishop or rev whose wife is denying sex,and when dat time comes ,he should visit a strip club and ask for forgiveness after.

You are not getting my point.
Female genital mutilation affects a Woman with attenuation of sexual desire , maintain chastity and virginity before marriage and fidelity during marriage. A lady who is not sexually arouse, who doesn’t have d urge for sex tell me how does she wants to satisfy her husband. Maybe you have not come across any lady suffering from that, the feel pain during sex. They even run away from it.

saucecode:
Visiting a strip club is not cheating.

What if the man happens to be a man of God? Like a Bishop or Rev.

OriOko88:
Don't tell me you're a lady?

No. Am a Girl

saucecode:
Yes the writeup is fiction,but husbands being starved of sex by their wives is very real.

But let me give you an instance , what about a wife suffering from genital mutilation? During their courtship , she n her husband never had sex. It was after the marriage the husband discovered about it.
Would you advise the husband who has high libido to start cheating?

Heavensent01:
the day a lady try this nonsense with me is the day she will returned to her father's house I swear to God.

Kilode?
On top wetn?

rowland545:
Lols...would have loved to share mine...but while we were dating I introduced her to nairaland...so I won't....b4 someone calls me now and starts to abuse me...but if she is reading this...u are a very nice girl and u need Patience in your life....


Breaking up with u was the best thing I did for myself...the pressure was too much...and lemme advice u...I don't think u will get married any time soon with that attitude.


I feel relieve a bit saying all this...because I don't think I can say it to her face...peace out

Hope say u no Dey refer to me sha?
Lol
Very funny