₦airaland Forum

bewla:
Yet people claim it's Muslim thing

Take a look how this thing is going
Be careful who you talk to

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

callmeDDD:
While Volodymyr Zelenskyy and Putin are drinking wines in their houses, but wasting innocent people's lives for something they will still stop and shake hands to, one day. Crazy!.

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qchNl8m7Wtw?si=1B4EmDbprekUnL-3

HacheNoire:
The best time to repent or give your life to Christ is in your death bed.

This life is too sweet to be religious! You will almost lose out on everything if you religious.

Now, she is going to leave the sex, party, drinks, drugs and plays for something that existed 3000 years ago, and not even sure if her own sins were included in what he died for.

BigYash:
Stop all this nonsense please. What about the people she lead astray over the years. People like Yarimo she lead into full time masturbation. She should go an marry Yarimo asap

Racoon:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/07/nigerias-challenge-is-low-revenue-not-high-debt-world-bank/

attackgat:
Governor Francis Ogbonna Nwifuru of Ebonyi State has come a long way. Many people dont know he was once a Bricklayer.

Here he is with 'leveling stick', chilling with his fellow Bricklayers on a building site.

How did he go from being a Bricklayer to becoming a Governor? The story goes that Nwifuru became a loyal aid to an up and coming businessman and aspiring politician called Dave Umahi

Dave Umahi would go on to become deputy Governor and Governor, and took Nwifuru along. Nwifuru became Dave Umahi's annointed political son and handed over to him when his tenure ended

Nwifuru is now Governor of Ebonyi State while Dave Umahi is Minister of works.

motymop:
i have nothing against doctors but this practise of sucking out snake poison have been in existence since ages

but the doctors came and want to change that practise because no one was coming to their door

then they use fear and everyone start running to them, the practise died and the doctor made more money

do doctors really care about their patient or care about the money

Hardeybohwarley:
Hadith

"وَعَنْ اِبْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا; أَنَّ اَلنَّبِيَّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-قَالَ: { مَنْ وَجَدْتُمُوهُ يَعْمَلُ عَمَلَ قَوْمِ لُوطٍ, فَاقْتُلُوا اَلْفَاعِلَ وَالْمَفْعُولَ بِهِ, وَمَنْ وَجَدْتُمُوهُ وَقَعَ عَلَى بَهِيمَةٍ, فَاقْتُلُوهُ وَاقْتُلُوا اَلْبَهِيمَةَ } ".‏ رَوَاهُ أَحْمَدُ وَالْأَرْبَعَةُ, [1]‏ وَرِجَالُهُ مُوَثَّقُونَ, إِلَّا أَنَّ فِيهِ اِخْتِلَافًا [2]‏ .‏"

Ibn 'Abbas (RAA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
"Whoever you find doing as the people of Lot did (i.e. homosexuality), kill the one who does it and the one to whom it is done, and if you find anyone having sexual intercourse with animal, kill him and kill the animal." Related by Ahmad and the four Imams with a trustworthy chain of narrators.



Sunnah.com reference: Book 10, Hadith 12
Arabic/English book reference: Book 10, Hadith 1255

Hardeybohwarley:
Islam doesn't support homosexuality. That's just the injustice done by the Northerners.

Islam is free of their injustice.

Islam prescribes a very harsh punishment for whoever is caught in the act.

Expanse2020:
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You supposed bring your proof here now instead of you to bring the name here ...

We all know jehovah is Baal
Horsea 2:16.
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CharlesCNG:
This is exactly the false choice I have been talking about.

Who said helping a widow selling akara means abandoning unemployed graduates?

Who said a micro-enterprise grant is a substitute for graduate employment?

Nigeria has different categories of vulnerable people, and they require different interventions.

An unemployed graduate needs economic growth, investment, skills development and quality jobs.

A market woman needs affordable working capital.

A roadside food vendor needs inventory.

A farmer may need seedlings and fertilizer.

A transport operator may need cheaper fuel or vehicle finance.

Good governance is not about designing **one programme for everyone**. It is about matching solutions to different problems.

Ironically, your argument reinforces my point. You have focused entirely on graduates while overlooking the millions of Nigerians who are not graduates but are struggling to survive through micro-businesses.

Should government ignore them because they do not have university degrees?

The poor are not a homogeneous group.

The woman frying akara is not competing with the graduate looking for a software engineering job. They have different challenges, and sensible public policy recognises that.

That is why I said Nigeria's economy is layered. Recognising the needs of one group does not amount to neglecting another.

Ironically, your argument reinforces my point. You have focused entirely on graduates while overlooking the millions of Nigerians who are not graduates but are struggling to survive through micro-businesses.

Expanse2020:
Obviously Allah is better than the diety call baal you worship 🤣🤣

~ Source: Destiny Disrupted: A History of the World Through Islamic Eyes by Tamim Ansary

The carnage unleashed by the Christian Crusaders upon the Islamic world they invaded, ostensibly to avenge the mistreatment of Christian pilgrims:

chidiokay:
You get it, Federal police from abuja are escort to sunday igboho, a knoen tout in ibadan that who fedejral govt place the responsibility of security

y9u read book, you burn candle finally you graduate with 1st class nd if you are luck someone reward you with 100k on a big billboard post dated chequed
after Nysc you enter labour market, nd you realize 1st is no longer a big deal, una plenty .. then you start looking for underpaying jobs cos the good pay jobs are reserved for the connected and influencials

Do you know the present unemployment rate admidst companies are folding up or down sizing ... Thank God for the era of mnetize social media, a lot of youth have found solace in these opportunity to feed n hold body together iF not crime ratr eould have hit the roof cos no job

Have we not seen Govt reward this so called olodo even than peanut cash price they give to excellence
did APC not use Portable to sell campaign, chief priest look like person wey fit know book but they are the face of city boy.

We must acknowledge our society craves and reward mediocrity than excellence thats why ekiti vote out Fayemi for a Fayose than year
thats why osun voted Micheal jackson, they prefer dance to better governance.
People must survive nd its better to have olodo uprise making elon musk money than have a high criminal society were people cant sleep at night

Goosethetruth:
Does the Christian God and his religious book encourage and promote self vanity or not? Does the Bible advocate violence and genocide on innocent people? Does the Christian God promote narcissist behaviour? Does this God encourage human sacrifice? Does this God advocate for slavery as an institution? Does this God advocate for misogynistic behaviour towards women? Does this God show elements of tribalism?
I will not use any facts except the passages in the Holy book of this self styled omniscient and omnipotent being.

CharlesCNG:
One of the biggest mistakes in Nigerian politics is assuming that everyone lives in the same economic reality.

They don't.

The debate over Senator Oluremi Tinubu's comments about akara and kuli-kuli exposed something deeper than politics. It exposed a disconnect between many middle-class commentators and the daily realities of millions of Nigerians.

To someone earning a salary every month, ₦50,000 may look insignificant.

To a widow selling akara, roasted yam, boiled corn, kuli-kuli or cashew nuts, ₦50,000 can be working capital. It is the difference between buying today's stock with borrowed money and buying it outright. It is the difference between surviving and expanding.

Years ago, I personally experienced this.

I gave five widows ₦30,000 each to buy cashew nuts. They repackaged them into smaller bottles and sachets for resale. Within three months, every one of them had repaid the money. We then revolved the same capital to another five women.

That small intervention did not create software engineers. It created sustainable micro-businesses.

That is the point many critics miss.

Not every Nigerian needs a laptop before they can be economically productive. Nigeria's economy is layered. A graduate may benefit from digital skills and technology. A market woman may benefit more from affordable working capital. A roadside food vendor may simply need enough money to increase inventory.

As food prices have risen, another trend has emerged. Demand for lower-cost prepared foods such as roasted yam, akara, bread-and-akara ("akara burger"wink, boiled maize and similar street foods has increased in many communities because they remain relatively affordable. That, in turn, has created opportunities for thousands of small traders operating with modest capital.

This is not an argument against technology or digital empowerment.

It is an argument against one-size-fits-all thinking.

Successful social policy recognises that poverty is not uniform. The needs of a graduate seeking employment are different from those of a widow selling vegetables, or a hawker financing her daily stock on credit.

Politics is ultimately about understanding people where they are, not where we wish they were.

If the opposition wants to become electorally competitive, it must spend more time listening in markets than arguing on social media.

The grassroots are not asking politicians to solve every problem overnight. Many are asking for something much simpler: enough capital to take the next step.

Sometimes, the journey out of poverty does not begin with millions of naira.

Sometimes, it begins with one basin of akara.

Goosethetruth:
I would rather condemn the evil act of slavery instead of being vain and egotistically making the first three laws about myself as if I am insecure despite claiming to be omnipotent and omniscient!!!

Goosethetruth:
Are you guys not tired of this silly outdated quote?
Lol....

Goosethetruth:
Interesting.
Don't you find it strange and egotistical that this God spends almost half of these commandments talking about himself and what he wants?
Like I said,I find it interesting that an omnipotent God seems so insecure.

Expanse2020:
Thank god the new Jesus have ended the terrorism in Nigeria, just like they help Palestine, Venezuela, Lebanon and Syrian Christians too, what are government failed to do/did .. the new Jesus has done it.
Congrats to the country/state call Nigeria in some part of America

Antiislam
TenQ
Blackvsiper
Righteousness2

spiceadole:
I had my 3 children in 4 years.
Since then..no condoms , no sex.
For me,there is no reason to have unprotected sex except for procreation.
I am not a fool.

Women who are having unprotected sex regularly with their husbands are busy treating infections including HIV because these men are still sleeping with other women.

Dtruthspeaker:
This case
https://www.nairaland.com/8622429/church-expels-new-bride-refusing/4#139829474

Just gave me this idea.

You see, marriage is a simple thing so divorce too should be simple for both of them are based on the Rights and Consents of the couple, primarily.

So if i. 21 days (if my memory serves me right) a couple can become husband and wife in the marriage registry then it should be that in 21 days the couple can become decoupled and single again.

The marriage registry should also be the divorce registry.

And all it takes is for the couple to go through the same process they used for marrying only this time the notice would be stating "divorce". And in the end they would be given a certificate of divorce. Shikena.

No need for lengthy costly divorce proceedings.

Court cases should be for issues that arose in the marriage.

And with this people trapped into marriage can quickly and easily run out. Marriage should never be by force and the parties should always be free to exit when they need to.

Besides maybe marital domestic violence would reduce and maybe people will be more cautious when they get married.

How una see am?

spiceadole:
He is a man.
They always have options.
They say men are polygamous in nature

spiceadole:
Sex is not my thing.
I'm married with 3 children.
Come and beat me .
Everytime sex this, sex that. As if sex is food and oxygen.

Dtruthspeaker:
This is not right!

I have only one claim which is polygamy is a sin and that God never ever condoned it. That is my claim and every other statement made is made towards proving my claim and that is where all the statements you highlight fall under. So they are not claims only statements made in support of claim.

Same thing applies to you, your claim is that it is not a SIN if a man has more than one wife'. And everything you have been saying is geared towards proving it.

And by the balance of the rules of debate, the burden of proof fell on you to explain how you "admit and agree that cheating is adultery, but you do not think that a married person who now marries another person (polygamy) is guilty of cheating?

And therefore, i gave you the case of this guy below to explain how he is not guilty of cheating (adultery) because he wants to marry his co-adulterer?

Trustedapparel:
i am a married man with 2kids but their is one big lady that I met she loves me very much .... since I Bleep that lady [/b]I can't get my eyes of her ....I have been thinking about her since after the marathon sex we hard last month... [b]honestly I want to make her my second wife ...

Your "follow up question" in bold, in response to my question "how you "admit and agree that cheating is adultery[/b], but you do not think that a married ... Is what is the fallacy of reversing the burden of proof

So, righteousness and the rules of debate dictate that you have to answer my query first and properly discharge the burden of proof on you. And it is from this law that we say you can't answer a question with a question.

All those statements highlighted merely show the trail and paths of the arguments made.

So, the spot that needs resolution is you rightfully and Truthfully answering the question explain how you "admit and agree that cheating is adultery, but you do not think that a married person who now marries another person (polygamy) is guilty of cheating?

And therefore, i gave you the case of this guy below to explain how he is not guilty of cheating (adultery) because he wants to marry his co-adulterer?

Trustedapparel:
i am a married man with 2kids but their is one big lady that I met she loves me very much .... since I Bleep that lady [/b]I can't get my eyes of her ....I have been thinking about her since after the marathon sex we hard last month... [b]honestly I want to make her my second wife...

Dtruthspeaker:
I told you from the beginning that you are committing the fallacy of reversal of the burden of proof is why I have not yet answered your questions.

For you are the one trying to prove that polygamy is not a sin, so the burden is on you to prove beyond reasonable doubt and you have not finished proving beyond reasonable doubt because every time you answer, i always have a new doubt and query to ask.

That is why you are feeling burdened that it is one sided for it actually means that your belief in polygamy is baseless and groundless.

But, if you think that it is grounded, then you have got to answer my queries till we get to its ground of Solid Undisputable Truth That is why it is said "There is no valid argument against the Truth" for there would be no reasonable question to ask nor argument to make.

So, you are going to answer my questions until you hit the Solid Rock of Truth.

Unless you want to give up and throw in the toilet and therefore agree that your doctrine on polygamy is baseless and therefore a lie. Then you can put the burden of proof on me and do the same thing i have done to you.

Dtruthspeaker:
My question is, from Exodus 23:7, we can see that God will never uphold wickedness. And adultery is wickedness to a spouse.

So, how can a person who does not just cheat on his wife (adultery) but even now goes as far as marrying his co-adulterer, be sinless?

Is such a person sinless?i

The Answer
It depends.
If he married a new wife without the knowledge or consent of his Wife, it is ADULTERY
However,
Of he married the new wife with the consent and knowledge of his Wife, it is NOT Adultery.

Dtruthspeaker:
So in other words, you are telling the world that you don't care about the debate being fair, right, just and clean?
And you say that you are a Christian?

Even the Muslim, Antichristian, expanse2020 and atheist obey the law of fair debates but here you are telling me to disregard the fallacy of reversal of burden of proof which placed the burden on you to prove and justify how you "admit and agree that cheating is adultery, but you do not think that a married person who now marries another person (polygamy) is guilty of cheating?

And rather than answer the quer you rather choosing to commit the fallacy of switching the burden of proof. Your doing this already proves that your assertion on polygamy is baseless and indefensible.

And that even antichristian and some atheist are more righteouser than you.

So, you mean you throw away your dignity and honour and righteousness and resort to fallacious antics just to protect your clearly falls belief that polygamy is not a sin?

TenQ:
I will appreciate that you don't cut off my text again.

Exod 23:7:
"Keep far from a false matter, and do not kill the innocent and righteous; for I will not justify the wicked."


From the scriptures below, we can show clearly that Adultery is wickedness Mark 7:21–23, 1 Corinthians 6:9–10 and Galatians 5:19-21


BUT, through your biased INTERPOLATIONS
Suddenly, you moved from CHEATING on one's spouse (which is clearly ADULTERY) and connecting it with POLYGAMY!
How!?
Did Abraham cheat on Sarah?
You wouldn't answer this question!


And you refused to answer my first relevant question

A. If Polygamy is a SIN, do you admit that
1. David died in sin
2. Israel (Jacob) died in sin
3. Abraham died in sin (he even had a concubine)
It is a YES or NO answer!


Your question assume that Polygamy is a Sin of Adultery making your questions presumptuous.
Is such a person sinless?
The Answer
It depends.
If he married a new wife without the knowledge or consent of his Wife, it is ADULTERY
However,
Of he married the new wife with the consent and knowledge of his Wife, it is NOT Adultery.

Again: Did Abraham cheat on Sarah?
You wouldn't answer this question!



So, again, Kindly show me where Polygamy is classed as Adultery anywhere in the Bible?

Dtruthspeaker:
Please, forgive me, i cannot obey it for i have explained that it is of necessity that that area of dispute is always made INDISPUTABLY CLEAR For Truth to shine Bright and for irrelevant arguments to be kept away from it so as not to cause distractions and mixing of unnecessary arguments with the main issue of dispute.

And if you are a Christian you would always want Truth to be made clear for Truth loves light but lies and confusion love darkness.. So as a Christian you don't want confusion in this search/verification of Truth. So please support me. So. This has to be cut off as it is not the area of dispute.

lawani:
You can't stop incarnating because you have to at least come back when your food is almost out and your group will also send you back. You can't be depending on free food permanently. Just the same way it is here on Earth.

There are no malevolent spirits. Only malevolent people on incarnation. All evil emanates from people on incarnation and not from their spirits. The spirits only do everything to help it's source of food