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AccidentedCars:
You will find love without money, but only when you're a boy. When you become a man, that grace is taken from you.

There's a level of affection you will NEVER experience, even from good women, if you can't afford a basic, livable income.

I am not even referring to sending money in its monetary form. I mean just the things that make life easier to go through.

My partner had a job interview in another city last year. Not a local thing – a real opportunity, the kind that could shift her career.

The interview was at 9 AM on a Monday.

She told me about it on Thursday evening.

By Friday morning, I had booked her a bus ticket for Sunday, reserved a decent hotel room near the venue so she wouldn't be scrambling on Monday morning, and sent her money for a new blouse because the one she planned to wear had a pulled thread she hadn't noticed.

She did her prep on Saturday. I sat on a video call with her for nearly 3 hours while she practiced her answers. Not because she asked – because I knew she was nervous and wouldn't say it.

Sunday evening she got to the city. She called me from the hotel room.

"Babe, it's clean. There's hot water. I feel like a human being."

That sentence hit me differently.

"I feel like a human being."

The bus ticket, the hotel, the blouse – maybe ₦85,000 total. Not a fortune. But it was the difference between her showing up stressed, underprepared, and exhausted from an overnight bus… and showing up rested, sharp, and confident.

She got the role.

This isn't a one-off. This is just what being present looks like when you can afford to be.

I keep a stocked kitchen whenever she's around. Not fancy things – eggs, bread, rice, the basics. But ALWAYS stocked. Because "there's nothing at home" is a sentence I don't allow in my house.

I handle data and subscriptions without being asked. Netflix, the Wi-Fi router, her Spotify. Small things. Maybe ₦15,000 a month combined. But she never has to think about them. That's the point.

I can't stand the heat. I physically cannot function when it's 35 degrees inside. So if I can't take it, how can I let her sit in it? That's fuel money. Every single day when there's no grid power. 5 to 7 litres. Daily. Especially when she's staying over.

We don't do "let's manage." We don't trek to places. It's always a cab or a keke at minimum.

That's not luxury. That's what I consider basic.

Add it up over a year:

Fuel for the generator. Transport every weekend. Groceries restocked every week. Subscriptions renewed every month. Random needs – a drug she needs at midnight, airtime when her line runs out during something important, data when she's on deadline.

That sums up to well over 2 million naira each year. And I'm not talking about MONEY sent as money. I am just referring to basic convenience.

The things that make a woman feel like she's with someone who has capacity. Not wealth. CAPACITY.

Your best bet as a young man is waiting until you're certain that love is ALREADY present before following through with generosity.

So yes, you can find love without money.

But there's a level of love you cannot preserve without financial stability, not because your partner is a bad girl, but simply because this is the fucking planet, and the nuances that make life beautiful, or at least livable, are expensive.

In summary, you'll find love without money as I did all through the years when I was a boy.

That grace is removed when you become a man.

Upon all these grammar? Omo. I feel sorry for you already. I hope you don't get to regret everything you're doing for her one day.

spiceadole:
If as a single lady, you are allowing a man who is not your husband to sleep with you, you will bear the consequences of all your waywardness alone.
The smart ones will insist on condoms.
The ones with little sense left will end the relationship after one abortion.
But fools will stay back and continue getting pregnant and aborting until nothing is left in their self esteem.
Of course, the guy man will dump them.

When some of us frown at premarital sex,they will say we are pretenders,we are old school..we don't have sex skills,we are not testing sexual compatibility,etc
All are lies that people manufacture just to justify immorality.
Men will mess you up wetin no good if you don't learn to close your legs and stop rubbishing yourself.

will they listen?

OlaOfLagos:
098 WhatsApp

thanks Gee. I go buzz you asap.

OlaOfLagos:
(PAYG) Pay As You Go

Money for hand, back for ground 😎

You gerrittt??

make I get your contact ski

OlaOfLagos:
(PAYG) Pay As You Go

Money for hand, back for ground 😎

You gerrittt??

I get you jare. You dey lag ba. You fit link me with one of your black busty babes?

Rubbish. There's no such thing.

OlaOfLagos:
Relationship nowadays is all about competition and the highest bidder. “May the best man win”

As for me, i don wash my hand comot anything relationship…

my Gee. How you take dey exercise your penis?

Nonsense. Shey make we come fry shit abi wetin?

olioxx:
I will say mine is more of realizations.

To buttress your points:
6. If you are attracted to a lady, give her your contact details(mobile or whatsapp), if she rate you, she will reach out, if she doesn't, you can easily forget about her.
7. Never be attracted to a lady that doesn't work to earn a living, that doesn't understand the value of money, and for the first 90 days of any relationship let her know that you are not freaked by sex, apply all this you have conquered 90% of subtle and frontal manipulation.
8. Never play with your finances when it comes to a lady, they wont remember your financial helps.
9. From the start of every relationship, list out what you expect, what you want, what you like and dislike, all the terms and conditions of the relationship, list it out, that way no one will be unduly invested, if it wont work, you will know from the get go.
10. Every woman that love you will test you, control your mouth and your emotions, master the art of solitude, keep little to no friends, smile a lot but keep your cards to your chest and trust me, every woman that crosses your path, will fear and respect you.

Drops pen




Yeah we can reach out via Session app - my ID is 05e30de07dd2ed9e74ac4b4e3602064d9495688615a41196134c5bd12f2d21d054

thanks man. But I don't know much about the app. Is it one I need to download on playstore? Lemme get to it swiftly.

olioxx:
I will say mine is more of realizations.

To buttress your points:
6. If you are attracted to a lady, give her your contact details(mobile or whatsapp), if she rate you, she will reach out, if she doesn't, you can easily forget about her.
7. Never be attracted to a lady that doesn't work to earn a living, that doesn't understand the value of money, and for the first 90 days of any relationship let her know that you are not freaked by sex, apply all this you have conquered 90% of subtle and frontal manipulation.
8. Never play with your finances when it comes to a lady, they wont remember your financial helps.
9. From the start of every relationship, list out what you expect, what you want, what you like and dislike, all the terms and conditions of the relationship, list it out, that way no one will be unduly invested, if it wont work, you will know from the get go.
10. Every woman that love you will test you, control your mouth and your emotions, master the art of solitude, keep little to no friends, smile a lot but keep your cards to your chest and trust me, every woman that crosses your path, will fear and respect you.

Drops pen

this is beautiful. I would love to engage you in a conversation outside this forum if that's fine by you sir.

Afrah04:
Can't even get annoyed, ur funny and weird, enjoy your self

lmao. I'd take that as a compliment. Enjoy yourself as well

Afrah04:
Never thought about it that way, tnks for the encouragement tho😌

you're welcome.

Smitaro100:
No worry mk bandit hold you, you go understand why you need protect yourself, na person wey never experience the cruelty of bandit or wey e never reach their community dey yarn dis kind thing.. just pray you don't experience it because if you survive am na assault riffle you go find.

no mind the guy. They talk in the rubbish.

Afrah04:
I won't engage you further fool, go and find what to soapy to, not the description of my body...

Well that went well. 😂🤣 you cant blame me for trying though.

Afrah04:
It's complicated, we're caught in the middle, admiring and trying not to look desperate....omor it's a hard state to be in.

I understand but see ehn , most guys don't even care about all of that. We just need the women to show interest, only a douche bag would think a woman is cheap simply because she makes it easy for him.

Do away with that thought. It's 2026. Unless you perceived that the guy is that proud, callous type of person. Ladies should be more assertive.

Women! I have one like that in my compound. She likes me but she would find it hard to greet. Very proud. But I always catch her stealing a glance my way. Why do you women like to make everything complicated?

Afrah04:
We say hello, and he often likes to reach for a handshake; I just act like I don't care most times😌

I just ignore her cause I no get time. I'm looking for money as it is.

ngmgeek:
You're confused, delusional or have a low self esteem 🙃 Self control is highly recommended here 👌

make Una leave the lady to express herself na. Nawa o. It's a breath of fresh air

Afrah04:
No but I have a big ass, what is it?

oh God...okay. Are you dark skinned? Plus do you have tiger stripes on that ass? (Very important)

LOVEGINO:
Airtel smart bundle 1k 6g for 7days.

for where you see that one? Abeg what's the code?

Afrah04:
Who you dey find?

do you have big boobs?

Who be this one again?

Rubbish. >: sjjsjdjdjdjdjdj(

Lionessza6:
😂😂😂

Of course they can't trend that.

You want them to spend their days discussing bandits, kidnappings, terrorism and all the other chaos happening in their backyard?

How will they find time to produce the daily South Africa collapse prophecy?

And let's be honest, if they start focusing too much on local news, they might accidentally expose some uncomfortable realities about Nigerian men that are far less flattering than their favourite "South Africa is finished" storyline. 😭

So it's much safer to spend 24 hours a day monitoring South Africa.

Every crime, every protest, every political statement, every taxi argument, every viral video.

At this point some of them know more about South African politics than their own local councillors. 😂

South Africa trends.

The problems at home get postponed until further notice.

as a Nigerian I am totally in agreement with you. My people are a very selfish, docile and foolish people.

HopeNeverDies:
Lmao… I’m almost 30yo. One thing I’m certain of over the years in relationship scene is that “ Ladies only give Conditions to someone they don’t Love “

Forget bout being unclad together lol… if a girl is giving you conditions in a relationship, she’s most likely doesn’t rate you.

how can I loud the volume?

uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
When we started talking newly, she told me she was a virgin, during the cause of our intimate chat's,she said she has never had sex but was abused by a youth copper attached to her secondary school.I didnt buy the story but I had to play along.

I want to marry her by August/September, .But my problem is she said no sex till after marriage,we involve in deep romance and even go fully unclad but she wont allow penetration, I threatened it would be an issue for us but she doesnt care, who has experienced such? , how do I handle this?
Is she playing a good girl card for me while living another version elsewhere? I dont know anything about her apart from the one she show's me and told me?

I have been exposed to many alpha male teaching online's that I I'm confused weather I should apply here all play along and wait till after our wedding

Note: I have bent many rule's including marrying a Non-virgine and marrying outside my hometown just for her, why can't she reciprocate

OP how much have you spent?

Drsnives:
As them exposure themselves like dea no go militry training at all.. are they no supposed to take cover than exposing themselves in that manner..watin do drone?

it's funny some Nigerians still think we're being protected by these ones. We are at the mercy of hostiles at any moment

chatinent:
The terror ogas in the army would have notified their boys in the bush of this ops. That's how soldiers get ambushed all the time...the terror they are after and the terror within.

aren't there soldiers brave and patriotic enough to assassinate these corrupt men? Wtf. Lily livered sissies we have in the army today. If you want to join the army be ready to die to defend your country. Not for survival.

sleek214:
Bunch of unprofessional soldiers. Use drone to comb the place.... Clowns

Omo even me wey be bloody civilian dey see dem dey see ambush. Why dem foolish like this?

SecuritybriefNg:
Let's Discuss About This

I have no RIP to waste. He should enjoy his 7000 virgins in peace. He's worked hard for it.

geoworldedu:
This must be comedy. It is more than a thousand ways to die.
It's similar to the death of General Abubakar Rabe who was killed by the terrorists he rehabilitated and released into the society few years back.

good for him. In his final moments he must have realized how stupid he was to have done that

....,. Jggfreeryjjjjjjjjhhhhggg try fffff

Hi guys.

So I'm meeting up with this girl tomorrow at Obalende. Could you tell me if you are conversant with the place, affordable guest houses or hotels we could spend a few hours at? say like two to three hours. Nothing fancy, I don't want to bore a hole in my wallet abeg.

The location is within Obalende, not VI or anywhere else. The plan is to spend a few hours. And if you have any idea about the pricing. Let me know. I'm not conversant with how short time pricing works there.