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bukatyne:
If men are ready to do the inner work required, marriage stats will improve.

Generally, men and women still need companionship, sex without guilt, children, community etc.

However, women have realized that financial provision or the promise of it is not worth the investment of a bad marriage.

So till men change emass, we are where we are.

Re hypergamy: it is not sustainable long term.

As soon as the women in the countries attracting passport bros see what befell their mothers and grandmothers due to lack of personal funds, they will stop hunting 'just a rich man' and start to look for character and compatibility. I also think that men are projecting hypergamy more than it is important for women because it absorbs men of character building. Why do I have to be a likeable man when all I need to have is some form of resources?

I look around my circle and most of us married men we grew with at work (starting out careers with) or as far back as university. In university, two set of couples got married in same level, same unit (in a pool of 80 people; some older ones were married). The 3rd one didn't happen because the guy didn't want an 'ambitious' woman.

The irony is that the kind of atmosphere men want in marriage is possible..... if they are willing to emotionally invest in it.

all this one na grammar. You expect men to adjust. What is the woman doing? Anyway na who carry marriage for head go get HBP. So many rubbish in the dating market these days.

Proserpina:
I really can't get how you made this about me, Genzs or you. I guess you can't hold a conversation without foaming in the mouth.

Have a nice day dude.

lmao. Like I give a hoot about what you think.

Proserpina:
Cunning? Yes
Daft lol I doubt that. It takes a level of intelligence to eat one's cake and still have it.

Some men do believe that too BTW. Do everything with a woman but not the real deal and still maintain no sex slate. Crazy world

so in a way, it's cunning to have another man finger and suck my gfs breast and then gift her. And in her mind she's not tainted, right? Y'all have a funny way of defining what being "chaste" is. If I ever found out that a girl I'm dating is doing that, she's a goner. Even if I find out that another man squeezed her butt through her trousers or shorts and she allowed it.

Y'all Gen Zs must be tripping. Anyway it's fools like OP that'll settle for such nonsense. If I'm not piping you, you ain't getting shit.

Proserpina:
Cunning? Yes
Daft lol I doubt that. It takes a level of intelligence to eat one's cake and still have it.

Some men do believe that too BTW. Do everything with a woman but not the real deal and still maintain no sex slate. Crazy world

so in order words, if your supposed man allows a girl to suck him off without fucking her, it's okay right?

Proserpina:
She's using you to cure konji without necessarily cheating on her obodo oyinbo boyfriend

To her, she's not cheating as long as there's no penetrative sex

with this ideology we can agree that some women are very daft. Just imagine.

MetalJigsaw:
First of all, I have never masturbated in my life. I can't even imagine myself doing that nonsense.

If you believe you can never attract a woman, but only to chase them, then you're either ugly, a simp or even both

As for me, I work on my physique (gyming), my game, personality and grooming which works for me so well that beautiful women crave my attention. You seem like the opposite by the way.

come teach me game. I'm lacking like mad

Sweetsoul2235:
She stays close to my apartment, and even though we’re not officially dating, there’s clearly something between us. She’s a year older than me, she has a boyfriend abroad, and we’ve grown really close by sharing personal issues and spending time together.

The confusing part is that she’s comfortable with intimacy, she lets me kiss her, touch her, suck her breasts, and I’ve even fingered her several times. But anytime i want to have sex with her, like insert my dick inside her. she suddenly stops me. And this has happened over and over again.

I honestly don’t know what to make of it anymore. What could really be the reason behind this?

no worry dem go soon call you rapist. Keep trying

FreeNaijaII:
So my friend proposed to his longtime girlfriend of 3 years this month.

They are already planning to go and see her parents later next month and to also get a date for the wedding sometime in December this year.

They don't always have issues, and anytime they do, they will resolve it within a day or so.

So, my friend saw his fiancée's comment on Instagram validating Frank Edoho's ex-wife opening her legs to Chike (another man) while married to Mr. Edoho.

In her argument, she said that she was right to open her legs to another man because Frank confessed that he keeps malice as a form of punishment.

For the sake of anonymity, I can't share the screenshot here.

He (my guy) has already made up his mind to quit the relationship because he sees her comment as a red flag that should not be ignored.

I tried to talk him out of it, but it seems his mind is made up.

What can I do to help?

God go punish you if you no let that guy do him mind. If you really care about the girl, make you go marry her.

rickpat:
Smallie, your eye go soon clear

na the money wey she dey see dey deceive am.

escortafrik:
Hello guys, I really need your advice because I’ve been turning this over in my head and I don’t want to make a mistake.

So a bit of background… I’m in my final year at the university, just trying to finish with good grades and figure out what’s next for my life.

A close friend of mine introduced me to her cousin a few months ago. He’s doing really well for himself, stable, calm, and very intentional in how he carries himself.

We got along pretty quickly and things moved from just talking to a serious relationship faster than I expected, but it has been good so far.

Now the situation is this… he wants me to move in with him.

At first, I thought maybe it’s just excitement and love growing fast, but he’s been consistent about it and says it’s because he sees a future with me and wants us to start building our life together properly. I do like him a whole lot , and part of me likes the idea of us being together in that way, like a real couple sharing everyday life.

But I spoke to my friends and they are not having it at all. They keep telling me that once I move in, it might reduce the chances of marriage happening, that men can get too comfortable and stop seeing the need to “formalise” things. Even his cousin who introduced us is saying I shouldn’t as well but I’m quite surprised because this guy has been so good to me in every aspect of my life.

Now I’m stuck in the middle. I don’t want to act based on fear, but I also don’t want to ignore advice that could save me from future regret.

So I’m asking honestly… what do you think I should do in this situation?

if this guy wasn't doing as well as he is, would you be having sleepless nights over this? Nonsense

bigpicture001:
Me, i register health insurance every January for me nd my family....

I register that one that covered surgeries...cost me about 280k every February for 4 person's...

Its usually waste of money as ppl dnt get sick often. But it's for the rainy day....

you get money oh. Damn

Hhh4444:
what fvckin legacy are you talking about...wake up to reality, if you don't want the world to forget you better do something extraordinary with your life else you will be forgotten even if you had 100 children. For 2026,Una still get this achaic mindset.

no mind dem. As if giving birth is an achievement.

Dpharmacist:
Sources:
1. "Vanguard News Report" (https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/05/fresh-details-emerge-on-alexx-ekubos-death-as-colleagues-friends-mourn/

2. "TheNiche Report" (https://thenicheng.com/breaking-actor-alexx-ekubo-dies-after-battling-cancer/

Una go just siddon for Una house dey type rubbish. You think Nigerians chose to ignore? How many people can even afford three square meals let alone house rent today? If you have no solution to the problem stop rubbing it in, acting like Nigerians chose to be ignorant. If medical expenses was affordable I guarantee you every Nigerian would go to the hospital at every slight inconvenience.

Make Una getat abeg

pappilo:
Bleep cancer. I am a stage 3 CRC survivor. 19 months post-op and 12 months post adjuvant chemo. I have my next quarterly check up in 2 days.

I feel healthy but mentally you will never be the same. I am ways worried about reoccurrence.

R.i.p Alex

bro can I have a word with you in private please? With regards to that stuff you talked about

Sonofgod1990:
You don't mean it. Dis guy died¿?

Watin dey xup God

I should have be d one to die God



Arsenal 0 vs Burnley 2

everything is a joke to despicable humans like you. Is this the right place to troll?

Babatunjo:
Honestly, I understand life and I understand women. The busier and more focused a man is, the less shege he sees. Your attention should be scarce. You have a life.

Baba na women you dey follow argue so oh. You expected a different response?

spiceadole:
Leave him.
They only make noise and form alpha males online.
Offline, they are mostly weak and seeing shege from women who are not mid

lmao. 😭🤣🤣 I would have called this projecting if it was coming from a man. But nevertheless the comment is funny af.

koladata:
Just because some women want that lifestyle doesn’t mean all women are designed that way. Men and women are biologically and emotionally different.

Most women are naturally more comfortable with one trusted partner.

Many women carry rape trauma for years, sometimes for life. Meanwhile, if news spreads that women are forcefully sleeping with men somewhere, many men would rush there willingly.

A man can sleep with multiple women casually, but most women would not do the same without emotional attachment or benefit.

Men also produce millions of sperm constantly, and research shows men generally have stronger sexual urges.

Even virginity in women can be seen as part of a design that supports bonding with one man.

So stop using a few promiscuous women as the standard for all women. One woman’s opinion does not define female nature

read wetin you write and tell me it's not funny. So the attachment and benefit is why women stand out?

Thelma001:
You made an argument based on your perspective, you view, your ideology, your mentality. And I told you to work on that perspective of yours, that mentality of yours that’s making you think and write what you wrote there, because with this mentality you’re having, you won’t take any lady serious.

why should he? Na person wey he hand never dey burnt by fire go carry himself shook he hand inside fire.

Thelma001:
I pity the woman loving you atm. With this your mentality, dating you will be headache. You really have a long way to go on working on yourself, your perspectives and your mentality. I hope you be better.

Lmao. Una dey love?

essentialone:
The following are some of lies that some vvomen have sold over time and how they keep gaslighting men till date. Unfortunately , so many men have eaten and digested these lies and tried to morph themselves into who they're not, just to please vvomen.

1. You're in$€cure.
2. Spoil your vvoman to the level that she can't be easily enticed by other men
3. Elevate your vvoman because that's the true evidence of your wealth
4. If you make a vvoman happy, she'll submit naturally
5. VVomen are polygamous in nature
6. Since God can forgive her, why can't you, a mere mortal, forgive her too.
7. Elevate your vvoman because her prayers will open doors for you
8. You should not concern yourself with why she's still seeing her ex, your focus should be on proving to her that you're worthy of her leaving her ex for you.
9. You're difficult,rigid,strict, I pity your vvife.
10. Who hurt you ?
11. I respect a man who can heal a heart he didn't break and raise childr€n he didn't make.
12. A father is not necessarily the man responsible for bringing a chīld into the world but the one who stepped up when the real father could not.
13. No real man cares about DNA test only in$€cure men.
14. Are you about to walk out of the life of the çhīldrēŋ that have always known you as their dad just because you find out they're not yours?
15. No vvoman is a gold digger, no vvoman is expensive, just date the one you can afford.
16. VVomen bring good fortune. They are good luck charms.
17. It's your vvife's prayers that are keeping you safe.......for this one I have a question, did she meet you a d€@d man?
18. I don't like answering too much calls
19. A man who knows what he wants will never miss out on a good vvoman simply because she has 3 çhīldrēñ for 3 different men.
20. If she çhēãts on you, it's your fault. If she leaves you for another man, blame yourself. No vvoman leaves where she is loved, adored and taken care of.

I'm yet to see a vvoman describe what a real vvomen do since they're so good at analysing men and determining whether or not he is real, secure or not.

Notice how everything boils down to absorbing vvomen of accountability and making sure that vvomen benefit all round.

If you just take any woman without proper background check and mental assessments, you won’t see the mouth to cry with.

you don Sabi these clowns them wella.

Lovelink1991:
A Nigeria pastor has taken single ladies who are searching for husbands to forest to pray by invoking their names.

Watch via this YouTube link below


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pq6N_0y7lAc

They don't need a husband. Why are they praying please?

Livegamesonly:
That is one reason why i hate the Fibre X, and went for the Airtel ODU. The main reason i hate the fibre x is not because of its network speed, the speed is actually good, but because of the fact that the wires are visible in the street and are prone to cutting. Anytime there is a heavy rain or breeze, it will cut and fixing it can take days. The wires should have been passed underground. I dont blame MTN, i blame lack of physical planning by the govt

please which one is Airtel odu and is it fast and reliable like 5g or starlink

SQLmastar:
Please house, I need mature advice. This matter is tearing me apart.

I met this lady (a doctor)
4 months ago. I'm 35, she is 31.
She told me she was a virgin and I believed her because of how she carried herself. I was very happy and rushed everything – introduction, engagement, and marriage plans (I promised my mum that I would get married before December 2026). We were supposed to do our traditional marriage in one week’s time.

Last week, I received an anonymous WhatsApp message. The person sent pregnancy test results showing that my fiancée was pregnant for her ex-boyfriend during her 1-year residency. She had told me about this ex, but said they never had sex, and that was why they broke up.
I confronted her with the message. At first, she denied it and said it was fake, someone trying to spoil her name. But when I said I would call her best friend to confirm, she broke down and confessed the truth.
She admitted she got pregnant for the ex, aborted it immediately, and promised herself never to have premarital sex again. She said she was ashamed and didn’t want to lose me, so she lied about being a virgin.
Now I’m confused and heartbroken. I love her but the lies are too much.
On the other hand, I have already invited many people – including the chief of my village and my manager at work. Cancelling now will bring serious shame and talk in my village and workplace.

Please Nairalanders, what should I do? Should I go ahead with the marriage or cancel everything? Has anyone been in this kind of situation?

I need honest advice.

if you know what's good for you, you'll drop her like it's hot. Damn all the money you've spent.

freakyavia:
toor even prefucked women have choices issok

e just dey funny. Na cause men no get standard na. No be their fault.

Nice2023:
AS A a WOMAN, HERE ARE 10 MEN YOU MUST NEVER MARRY:

1. A mummy’s boy.

2. A Yahoo boy.

3. A man who is more than 7 years older than you.

4. A man who has been divorced at least twice.

5. A man who demands 50/50 in finances but refuses 50/50 in chores.

6. A man who wants you to get pregnant before he marries you.

7. A man who supports APC, this present government.

8. A man who despises his mother, no matter how evil she is.

9. A man who has no voice of his own and constantly seeks validation from others.

10. A man who has no space of his own and still lives under his parents’ roof.

Above all, love God.

lol. This is funny.