₦airaland Forum

fattprince:
You are right, I started thinking about this when my babe start misbehaving somehow, I wanted to take a break but I don't want it to come from me, because I know if we take a break now I'm most likely not going to take her back when I become financially stable. So I've decided to take it one at a time. This might look like oneities. But trust me to start over again with another lady is scary. So I'm just being calm and let things unfold by themselves, but I've told her when she was complaining of me not giving money on a steady, I told her if she needs anything she should tell me, and not waiting for me to be sending her money, and me telling her to ask me doesn't mean i will automatically help, no I will only help if I have. It's been angry with me for not sending her money for hair, she will get angry and end call, I will not even bother to call her even for days until she comes back to her senses and calls me. I will not be the one spending little money inside our relationship and still put the relationship control into your hands. I think she's already getting the memo that no matter what she do, you can't coerce me into doing what I don't want to.

you're doing well bro. If she won stay, make she stay, if she won go, make she go. The exit is wide open. Men need to wake up. Today women no really send us.

Stephen0mozzy:
Lol... Even the life that we have today ends in death. So shouldn't we enjoy life and see the beauty in it until that day comes?

you can't compare the entity that is love to life na lol. They aren't relatable abeg. Make I no enjoy life cause I go die one day. No na. Lol

helinues:
Just admit you have never experienced it before

okay whatever rocks your boat.

JESHAL007:
I relate to this personally. There have been times in my life where I have been severely lonely, hopeless, and broke. I thought: "If there is a woman out there that can genuinely love me, this is the time for her to show up. Not after I gather myself, overcome my depression, improve my finances, etc. If a woman only comes after that, then I will take her for what she is: an opportunist (that is if I take her at all)."

God bless you bro. Me and you dey think alike. If you can't love me when I'm at my lowest, whatever love you show me when I'm at my peak will never count. I'll always see you as a leech. That's why marriage isn't for me. I've made peace with it. I consider it a burden sef.

JESHAL007:
I prefer the red pill reality of never expect anything good from women; always expect everything bad from women to the blue pill scam of
women are weak and sweet creatures; when you treat them nice you will enjoy their company and loyalty like angels
The disappointment and heartbreak that comes from the later can make a simp run mad or commit suicide.
I don see women finish for this life. Nothing about them excites me anymore

word. This is the approach I take now. Once I see a woman, I start to figure out what kinda evil lurks behind all that beauty. Those people no real.

Zonefree:
There is nothing beautiful about love of a Nigerian woman.

no need to tell am. Time unravels all. E go sound foolish to am now.

Stephen0mozzy:
Hehe... When you never found it, its easy to wave it off. But it's a beautiful thing sha.

wait small this man. E dey sweet for you now no mean say the hammer no dey road. Sha make sure you're strong enough when it hits. My honest advice to believers of love.

Babatunjo:
They're looking for how love makes them feel. The attention. The affection. The validation. The comfort of knowing somebody wants them.

But love itself asks for something from you too.

Love is finding someone whose needs can sometimes come before your own desires.

Love is staying when they're down and there's nothing exciting about the moment.

Love is giving without calculating what you'll get back.

Sometimes, love is the humiliated self being exalted. Putting your ego down so something bigger than you can survive.

Plenty people want to be loved.

Far fewer are prepared to love.

There's no such thing as love brother. Only delusional people search for love today.

Solofresh2:
If you understand zodiac signs, you will know what Leo means.

I have noticed something about myself for sometimes now.I have noticed that whenever I change environment or get to a new environment, the ladies who finds me attractive are mostly Leo .
Though I get attracted to some of them but not all of them.

I get to know this when we meet or hangout and we exchange date of births(not necessary the year but date and month)My ex girlfriend is a Leo too😂 the thing dey off me sometimes.

Am a Taurus but I attract fire signs (generally)alot,either on a project etc
I got a transfer to a new branch (am a banker) within two weeks, there is this lady that I have been getting along with very well now.I got to find out she is a Leo when she celebrated her birthday and I was like Leo yi naa ni shaaa😂

What could be the reason for this

you no really get problem.

RightToReject:
Wonders shall never end. The little one, I'm surprised that you that even the supposedly ugly women and women without backside have continuously been rejected offline and some even smashed and broke your heart after collecting the peanut s you were able to gather from your daily labor job - your words not mine - still have the guts to yarn nonsense here. LOL.

Nairaland is truly a leveler

couldn't even read through the pile of dung you just typed. Damn

DrFunmisticGlow:
if it were your daughter, wouldn't you want to know that someone's riffraff son wants to spoil the fruit of your labor?

Please report ASAP!!

her parents are very stupid. They should reap th fruit of their stupidity. Pikin wey you go tell to dey school from home first until she's mature enough to be by herself.

TutorTobi:
You re very irresponsible

See comment for God sake

for your mind you're a good person abi. Typical Nigerian.

SamuraiXXX:
Na you God go punish.

OP please hide your number and call the girl's mother to brief her on what her daughter is doing in school

for your mind na you b good person. I'm the bad one shey?

DrFunmisticGlow:
if it were your daughter, wouldn't you want to know that someone's riffraff son wants to spoil the fruit of your labor?

Please report ASAP!!

my daughter no fit zuzu like that. I no fit spoil pikin reach wey she go dey zuzu. The parents nai stupid.

Wealthyonos:
When e reach your daughter, them go leave her make she spoil kpatakpata

see as Una dey do like say Una be good people. Nigerians.

Wealthyonos:
What if she doesn't survive to learn her lesson??

she will. They always do.

RightToReject:
Let me assume that the axiom "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is foreign to you. More so, it's foreign to you to know that there's more to a woman than her physical built and beauty. You, little people, like capping nonsense.

nai go make you go marry ugly women without backside or front. Rubbish

BigYash:
Invite someone to assist you. And you might not be able to do just breastfeeding alone. Crying on social media won't help you

dey mind am

SmartMaster001:
Op abeg follow wealthyonos advice.. The girl might carry unwanted pregnancy which will jeopardize her education. If not for anything, it's because you felt the pain of being a parent who want the best for their child/children.

Oga let her learn her lesson now that she's still young. She'll be all right.

Jman06:
I liked your comment but you see that part where you alluded to her not knowing what she's doing? I disagree with you because that girl knows exactly what she's doing!

dey mind the captains save a hoe?

Wealthyonos:
When e reach your daughter, them go leave her make she spoil kpatakpata

Oga gerrour from here. Make the girl make her mistakes and learn from it

Hier:
What should the parent do in this instance

allow her learn the hard way. She would still do what's on her mind

Wealthyonos:
Don't mind all those I don't care Nigerian attitudes. That's why the country is this bad.

Bro, use an unknown line to brief the mother what's going on with the daughter. Tell her not to call the daughter to ask o, tell her to pay the daughter an unexpected visit. These are the kind of boys that could cause harm to people's children. What makes you think minding your business will make God not to punish you? God will bless you if you save this girl's life. You think she knows what she is doing? Pls save someone's daughter oo. School fees nor be joke ooo. That girls future is now in your hands.

how is it your business? Oga let live and let live. Na your daughter?

Ogbeni if you dare tell the parents, na God go punish you. Let her live her life and make costly mistakes. The parents sef go get sense las las

DoWhatThouWilt:
He is very lucky he was born in that part of the world. That enabled him have friends, supporters and a social media presence.

Depression, frustration, stigmatization and unnecessary unwarranted wickedness would have killed him a long time ago if he was born in "I better pass my neighbor" country, a country filled with heartless and soulless beings.

well said bro. Most Nigerians are wicked.

Evaress:
i get chasers a lot but i don't like any. This guy was like the only guy i seen and i really really like. No, not in lagos

eyah just free am. He's not into you. You'll find someone better.

Mut4y:
Hello, weldone everyone. Please, I’m in a dilemma and I need honest opinions.

About two years ago, I met a lady at NYSC camp. We fell in love and started dating. Everything was going well, and we genuinely loved each other.

About four months into the relationship, she travelled home for Christmas and came back telling me that her mother wanted her to marry someone who had shown interest in her. She said she had already told the man, his family and even her mother that she wasn’t interested, and assured me that she wouldn’t leave me for anyone.

The pressure from her family continued throughout our relationship. After NYSC, she went back home, and eventually the pressure became too much. She told me she had decided to go ahead with the marriage. At the time, I had just finished NYSC and wasn't financially ready to start a family, while she was approaching 30 and wanted to get married before then. I loved her, but I couldn't provide the financial security she wanted, so I let her go.

Later, I discovered that the man she was marrying was actually her ex. I was disappointed that she had hidden that from me. She also told me that pastors had said she and the man were spiritually compatible, while she and I weren't. I told her that marriage requires more than spiritual compatibility; both people have to be intentional and willing to put in the work. She didn't agree, so I let her make her decision.

Her bride price was eventually paid. She later told me that if I could somehow raise money for her bride price and a proper wedding, she would leave the man. Because I still loved her, I put a lot of pressure on myself and my business trying to make it happen, but I eventually had to admit that I couldn't afford it.

Since then, we've had an on-and-off relationship as friends. Sometimes we wouldn't speak for months, then she would reach out and we'd reconcile. We've only communicated online since the marriage process began.

I know I wasn't financially ready for marriage after NYSC, but I also believe we could have built together. During NYSC, I took care of our feeding and still gave her a monthly allowance from the money I was making from online gigs. I wasn't lazy; I simply wanted to build my life through legitimate means and refused to do fraud just to make money quickly.

So, I don't necessarily blame her for choosing financial security. I was disappointed, but I accepted her decision.

Now, recently, she reached out and told me she's tired of the marriage and wants to leave. She said that if I'm still available when everything is finally over, she'd like us to continue from where we stopped or start afresh.

The problem is that I still love her, but I don't know if I can trust her the way I used to.

There are also things I noticed during our relationship that I was willing to tolerate because I believed tolerance is important in relationships. She gets angry easily, sometimes gives silent treatment for days until there's a lot of begging, and has insulted me when she's upset. I never insulted her or raised my voice at her because I adored her so much.

Now I'm asking myself: if she eventually leaves the marriage and comes back, can I genuinely build a marriage with her again?

I don't have anyone else in my life at the moment, and a part of me still wants her. Another part of me feels that too much has happened and that the trust we once had may never return.

I also worry about the fact that she is currently married. Even if she eventually leaves, would I be making the right decision by going back to someone who once chose another man over me and is now returning because she's unhappy?

I believe love is important, but love alone isn't enough to sustain a marriage. Trust, respect, communication, emotional maturity and willingness to work through problems matter too.

What would you honestly do if you were in my position? Would you consider taking her back and starting over, or would you let the relationship go completely?

Please, I genuinely want honest and mature opinions. Thank you.

go back. You go cry blood. The girl don see you finish. Block her everywhere. She'll be the weapon fashioned against you

Rubbish. The guy go regret. Mumu White knight

Evaress:
sadly you are right but to forget person you really like is kinda hard

well you should prolly make new friends. Are you in Lagos?

Evaress:
I know this is not related to this post but i can't just stop drooling over this man that toasted me last week and the guy was the one who hit on me first, i gave him my number without hestitation. We chatted fine and I told him lets meet on sunday and he agreed, since sunday, i have been calling him and he didn't pick and he hasn't called back since. I have stopped calling him because i don't want to act desperate. I wish he can call me because i really like this guy soo much

I know this might not be what you want to hear. Move on!!!!! The guy no send your papa before you become a baby mama and start saying all men are the same. E no dey hard Una

Caaz:
Dunno which to call it...
Welda na dinner ABI na breakfast
All I know be say...it's 12:38 am.
Pootle
Tenrack
Somnobax
Make Una Cum and eat.

I no cut abeg. I want all. Snacks lips

Omo it's been over a decade. I don't even want anybody to tell me that shit cause they never mean it.