₦airaland Forum

Demonic01:
Go and bomb, oga!

You are living in a dysfunctional system. Cash out and clean your money. Even the people you looked up to did it, so your case will not be different. If you like, dey there dey reason societal judgment including the hypocrites in nairaland, nah you go suffer the depression of being broke.

You think say capital go fall from the sky, if you don't hustle for the capital? Oga, go bomb celeb, celeb boys full your school.

big man can I have a word or two concerning this? Abeg

FatimaAbubakar:
MaziObinnaOkija have you seen this?

abeg who are these two? Are they Tinubu supporters?

FayaBall:
It is because of that lie "not all women are bad" which men unfortunately refuse to believe in their mind of being fair when already the women have shown that the game is not fair.

Omo fr the bros no try.

Kalatium:
All of a sudden men are hiding their stories of how they messed up with women. Now everyone is claiming to be a pro with women as if they never pass through something like this in the hands of some ladies.

I'm not a pro, my ex was a single mother that bleeped me up. I know how much I lost. But I'll be damned if the same ever happens to me again. That's what I'm saying. How you managed to let 8 girls play you is beyond mey understanding

PheelzAlmighty:
You got played 8 f√cking times..

Omo to call am fool just dey hungry me.

Kalatium:
There is one question every man should ask himself before calling any woman the 'love of his life' .

If everything you have worked for disappeared tomorrow, if your job was gone, your business collapsed or your income suddenly stopped, would she still look at you with the same love, respect and admiration? What if she starts Earning more than you, will she remain with you?

For a long time, I believed the answer would be yes because love was supposed to be unconditional.

Life eventually answered that question for me, not once, not twice, but eight different times in a period of 10 years. Every relationship was different, every woman had a different personality, from different ethnic groups but the lesson at the end was painfully similar.

Story One: When I Lost My First Job

We had been together for two years and I genuinely believed we were building a future together. When my former company downsized and I lost my job, the first person I wanted to speak to was the woman I loved because I expected comfort, encouragement and reassurance that we would get through it together.

Instead, the conversation immediately shifted to : What would become of the relationship now that I was unemployed. The warmth gradually disappeared, the phone calls became less frequent, the replies became shorter and within a few weeks she had emotionally checked out. Before long, she had moved on with another man. Two years of commitment disappeared almost as quickly as my monthly salary.

Story Two: "I'll Find Someone Else"

Months later i got into another relationship. As of then i started a business i got introduced to and at it was booming. Then came a point, where the business became slow and money was unusually tight. For the first time since we started dating, I could not spend the way I normally did. I communicated this to her and she said okay but just a few days later she called and asked me to send her money so she could buy a dress and shoe she saw.

I honestly explained that I was struggling financially and simply needed a little time to recover. Instead of asking how I was coping or understand me or encourage me to stay strong, her response was, "It's okay. I'll find someone else." Those six words changed the way I see her because I suddenly realized I had been valued more for what I provided than for who I actually was. This was a major trigger that orchestrated our breakup later.

Story Three: Betrayal After Sacrifice

The lady was very lovely that i thought we will get married. She was from a humble background, looked gentle and portrayed herself like the kind that will be faithful to me (ride or die). I paid bills, solved problems, handled emergencies and constantly made sacrifices because I genuinely loved her and believed we were building something meaningful together.

Unknown to me, another man with a bigger bank account had quietly entered the picture and was doking her. By the time I eventually discovered what had been happening, she had already moved on emotionally while I was still investing my time, energy and resources into a relationship that had quietly expired. I felt betrayed and shattered.

Story Four: I Helped Her But She Left
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This one pained me the most because of extend i went for her. She is in the health profession and graduated without securing an internship placement. She was frustrated about her future because her mates have already started and are already ahead of her. I refused to watch her struggle alone. I reached out to people I knew, made several calls and eventually helped her secure internship in where i did mine previously. While she worked without salary for months, I continued encouraging and supporting her financially because I genuinely wanted to see her succeed.

All of a sudden everything changed. The communication reduced, the effort disappeared and eventually she walked away from the relationship. She gave no solid reasons saying it's not me it's her and she needs to find herself. Later, I got to found out she had already started earning before she broke up with me. Looking back, I sometimes wonder whether she simply felt she no longer needed me as she is now earning or feel i will ask her for money or what . I became an overnight philosopher.

Story Five: She claimed not to have money and later got scammed.

We dated for three years and during that period I never hesitated to support her financially whenever life became difficult. Helping her was almost natural to me because I believed that was what partners were supposed to do for each other. This was the lady i loved the most.

One day I genuinely needed financial help myself and reached out to her after other options failed. She calmly told me she did not have any money. This was my first time of asking her this and since i trusted her, i thought she actually didn't have. Many days later, she was moody and closed off. I asked repeatedly what was wrong only for her to end up crying, saying someone had scammed her with a significant amount of her money. The painful part for me was not that she got scammed. The painful part was realizing she had the money all along but told me she doesn't have anything. She simply chose not to help me when I needed her. I felt betrayed. When i reflected on everything i realized that even when i am in a precarious situation, she won't ever help me. I never took her serious since then.

Story Six: I Was Always the One Giving

This relationship forced me to reflect on something I had ignored for a long time: reciprocation. I was having this mentality that when my woman needs help, I will always show up immediately without thinking twice. Whenever she faced a challenge, I considered it our challenge. However, looking back today, almost every meaningful sacrifice came from my side and i was shooting myself on the foot.

I began to notice that whenever I genuinely needed emotional support, encouragement or even small acts of kindness, there was almost always another excuse, another reason or another delay. I don't like to keep score but i can't help but noticed she has never did anything worthwhile, even when monetary aspect is kept aside. She is always asking and taking but have never giviing and she is 30. Loving someone should never feel like carrying two people on your shoulders while pretending the weight is equal.

Story Seven: The ₦100,000 I Never Saw Again

This relationship was still very new when she called saying she had an emergency and urgently needed ₦100,000. I explained that the money had already been set aside for something very important, but because she was my girlfriend, I agreed to lend it to her after she repeatedly promised to repay me.

The money never came back. Whenever I reminded her, she started making me feel guilty for asking for money i send to her oooo. At one point she even asked why I was behaving as though she were a stranger. That moment taught me that borrowing money should never automatically erase accountability. I ended the relationship out of disgust. This was the shortest relationship i had ever been.

Story Eight: The Experiment That Changed Everything

After everything I had experienced, I recently decided to quietly test one relationship earlier this year after the lady was claiming she is not after a man's money. So I deliberately reduced how much I spent while making sure nothing else changed. I still called regularly, stayed emotionally available and continued showing genuine affection. The only thing I reduced was the money.

The result shocked me. Almost immediately I was accused of no longer caring, no longer trying and no longer loving her like before. Nothing about my character had changed. My attention had not reduced. My commitment remained exactly the same. The only thing that changed was my spending, yet that alone completely changed how I was treated. That experiment taught me one lesson no relationship expert ever could.

My Overall Reflection

Before anyone misunderstands this post, let me make something very clear. I am not saying every woman behaves this way because that would be dishonest and unfair. These are not all the ladies i have been in a relationship with but this is a result of majority of those i have been with. I know there are loyal, supportive and emotionally mature women who genuinely stand beside their partners during difficult seasons.

My concern is that I have personally experienced this pattern repeatedly as well as others, and many men quietly carry similar stories without ever talking about them. Society constantly reminds men that their value lies in what they provide, while very few people ever stop to ask what emotional support men receive in return.

A man is expected to provide, protect, remain emotionally strong, solve problems and carry responsibilities without complaining. The moment he experiences financial difficulty, many people begin questioning his worth instead of asking whether he is mentally exhausted, overwhelmed or silently struggling with responsibilities nobody else can see.

Money is important. Bills are real. Responsibilities cannot be ignored. Every serious relationship requires financial responsibility from both partners.

Genuine love, however, should never disappear simply because someone enters a difficult season. Every human being will eventually experience moments when life does not go according to plan. Character is not revealed during comfort. Character is revealed when circumstances become uncomfortable.

Today I no longer judge relationships by sweet words, romantic promises or social media displays. I pay attention to how people behave when there is nothing material left to gain because hardship exposes intentions that comfort successfully hides.

My biggest lesson is one I will carry for the rest of my life.

Money can attract attention.
Money can attract admiration.
Money can even attract temporary affection.
Money cannot buy genuine loyalty.

If someone's love expires the same day your money stops flowing, then perhaps what you had was never really love.

It was simply a transaction wearing the mask of a relationship.

So let me leave you with one honest question.

If you lost everything tomorrow, would your partner still choose you, or would they quietly begin searching for someone with a healthier bank account?

I swear if to say you be my mate I for say you no wise. How you allow women to burn you up to eight good times. Na man you be oh.

dollytino4real:
wetin i dey see online these days about women maltreating children come dey fear me o

lol it's funny that it's coming from you as a woman Some women wicked pah

liveyourlife007:
Just believe women are vicious creatures, and you will be saved from a lot of troubles.

Their only usefulness is for reproduction. That's all.

They don't know anything about loyalty, Love and commitment,except it's for their own gain.

They will be with you when thing's are sweet and rosy and once it turns sour, they are gone.

You don't pity women. You use them.

this is just it. Cause they have so many men that they are using.

dollytino4real:
Women these days come dey wicked pass satan himself, abi na new demon 👿😈 dey possess dem? Women were compassionate and lovely creatures but na i dey even myself dey fear myself as a woman

oh Una don finally agree say women today are extremely wicked and ruthless shey. Thank God. Una go finally admit the truth one by one.

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Afrah04:
asee, well thanks for contributing your on quota of attention to me 🙏

This girl and attention seeking Sha. I pray you find that which you are desperately yearning for.

Afriifa:
Nigerian women are a reflection of the number of the weak men we have in Nigeria.

Gbam!

Afrah04:
is everything fine at home?!

"Petite with curves" lmmmmmmmmffffffffaaaaaaaaaaaaooooooooooooolllllooooooshhhhhhhhi🤣🤣🤣🤣

"petite with curves" buhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahari ; :

spiceadole:
The first and only day I entered a club was during my housemanship year.. I was 26.

An aspirant won NMA elections and decided to celebrate in a club.

I was reluctant to go but my friends were all going and encouraged me to.

We got to the club .. the place was so full and noisy. I didn't understand how people enjoyed such environment and even spent money there.

While others were dancing and vibing, I sat there watching them sipping energy drink.

One guy came and started talking to me. Happened that he was a lab scientist in the hospital where I was undergoing housemanship.
We exchanged numbers that night.
He called in the morning and I blocked him.
We saw on few occasions in the hospital but I never wanted to speak to him outside work business.

The guy vex tire..
But I was happy I didn't loose guard

wish more women today were like you. Many Women today are losing value as the day passes. They have no principles. Anything goes. It's sad. Na men wey carry marriage for head I pity pass. They'll surely end up with rubbish.

Amovingman:
Did you later meet the girl

nah. She stand her papa up.

SoliBayNG:
If you feel insulted, you must be one of the kids that need rewiring.
Men and boys aren't the same thing, when by the way has very little to do with age. Learn and grow. Selah

all these teething adults sef. Lmao

Stephen0mozzy:
I'm so sorry bro. It's so sad that you've only been able to attract bad eggs. But you know what they say. Like terms attract.

You're most definitely still teething. Lmao.

meobizy:
Everybody na professional for woman affairs for Nairaland. Who then are the men simping for women in the real world?

you dey mind dem. Some go dey do as if dem Sabi everything lol.

Stephen0mozzy:
Oh no no. Girls actually know the kind of guys they "bill" senselessly. For one, if you have hungry girls in your CL, then the problem is you - you need to find girls wey get class - just that girls with class they make some guys fear.

That's why many of them dey date rubbish, and generalize that all girls are bad.

Find a girl that can stimulate, engage and even initiate brain-wracking conversations.

It's okay to ask a person why they're not fine. If you care for someone you'd want to know. Unless you're her husband or father, you don't have the responsibility of giving her a solution - unless you want to.

your post reeks of insensitivity. Do you know how many bad eggs are there in society? Lmao. Even the one you're currently dating, give it time. Don't blow your trumpet yet. Everything isn't black and white.

Amovingman:
tenrack come see ooo 😹

ROTFL e go dey all right

LordIsaac:
When I first truly fell in love. I loved the innocent experience, but still regret ever meeting that individual.

women go stain your white. Mafo

SoliBayNG:
So many children on nairaland these days. Back in the days, you will see mature and constructive inputs.

Brah, women are focused on achievements these days. Fulls making someone that's 31 seem like she's 60. Only boys talk like that. New studies even show that men should be as wary, as quality of sperm reduce as they get older.

Brah, the signs are there. In her circles, there are many guys that are more suitable. Just cos someone wants to get married doesn't mean they should settle for someone that lacks focus or doesnt wanna upgrade himself. As a man, I get irritated with directionless women, talkless of being a woman and carrying the weight of the home.

She should not start what she can finish. A man with vision and dreams that isnt well off isnt a problem. But how will a man leave what's giving him money to go run errands? He cant think? Cant tell his mom he will do it later?

What happens when they get married? He would still tell her she's trying to change him, and she saw him the way he was. Motivating him to greatness will be termed nagging.

If I was a woman, I rather get a sperm donor, focus on my career and be happy, than be married to many men these days, that aren't worthy of being called men.

Being a man isnt a title, it's about the ability to lead, command the respect of your wife, not by coercion, but by actions.
No one can follow who isn't more knowledge than them, or they struggle to respect.

This is Africa, men are still providers and supposed to lead. If he cant do that, he's still a boy.

Age is irrelevant. Better to be married to a 45 year old lady that suits your vision and gives you peace, than a 25 year old that still has her eyes outside and leaves you restless, all in the name of marrying young.

Guys on nairaland are super embarrassing. Lots of learning to do. 15 years or so ago, you wouldn't see these comments calling a 31 year old, old. Funny enough, many of these dudes at 35, haven't achieved what this lady has achieved when she was 27.

Girls, dont be afraid to have standards. Stick to it and focus on your personal growth.

There are still fantastic guys out there that age means nothing to.

you insulted guys on Nairaland only for you to begin to sound like a kid. Wow

Goo0dHardDick:
Swears!

On Facebook is worst. They'll either insult you or ignore or look for ways to use reverse psychology and reasked you the question to begin exchanging words with them

I don't know why Nigerian girls are cursed with stinginess and selfishness. I swear na only fool go take dem seriously.

Goo0dHardDick:
I know this has been asked a billion times, but women will rather choose to insult than to answer the question.

Others will ignore because they have no answers fully implying they're naturally stingy.

I keep asking, if giving of money to women is a proof of love why are men not receiving from women too?

CC seun farano justwise nlfpmod mynd44

lmao. Question wey majority of them go look pass. Very self centered things.

Pukkalolo:
After my first painful breakup with my first girlfriend, I made myself a promise:

I'd never use money to win a woman's romantic companionship.
Instead, I'd attract her with the one thing many women deeply crave but rarely say out loud.

What is that one thing?

Let me explain.


First off, understand that money is a form of distraction when it comes to triggering raw genuine attraction in a woman.


I once saw two different videos that explain this perfectly.

In the first video (a scene from a movie clip), some men tried to steal meat from lions using clever DISTRACTIONS. They used their van, noise, and tricks to pull the lions away, then they rushed in to grab the dead antelope. It worked for a moment. But as soon as the lions figured out the tricks the men played, they charged back and chased the men. The men dropped the meat and ran. One wasn’t fast enough. The lion pounced on him.


That is exactly what most men do today. They use money, cars, dinners, trips, and promises as DISTRACTIONS to get sex and companionship. It can work temporarily. She’ll play along.

But the moment she gets her own money or finds a better option…she leaves. In the Western world, she leaves while taking half the man's assets with her and ruining his life in the process.



Now the second video… from a BBC documentary on Kenyan warriors.

These men didn’t use vehicles or tricks. They waited for a pride of lions to make a fresh kill of a buffalo. Then they walked straight toward the lions on foot, calm, bold, confident, showing zero fear. They maintained strong eye contact with the lions while heading towards the lions

As they got closer, the lions began to panic and retreat. Then the men cut off a large piece of fresh meat and walked away calmly and confidently. The lions only returned after the men were gone.



Why did it work? The lions sensed the
Men raw, DANGEROUS MASCULINE ENERGY… These men weren’t begging or tricking the lions with distractions. They were claiming what they wanted with raw dominance and audacity.



Bro… This is the wiser path in 2026 and beyond. As a man, you have to Return to your Raw Masculine Energy

Nature’s default design is simple: Strong masculine energy meets feminine energy and raw attraction happens. Money is secondary. It can amplify things, but it cannot replace the real spark.

Masculine energy is that unapologetic vibe of “I own this situation. I don't give Bleep about what you think.” It shows in. your eye contact, behavior, the way you talk, your decisions, and the way you lead without hesitation.

When a woman feels this energy from a man, her body responds. She gets wetter. She becomes more submissive and drawn to him. Not because he’s rich, but because he feels DANGEROUS in the right way… like the Kenyan hunters the lions respected.



Society, women and women fight hard to suppress this masculine energy. They push men to become nice, simp, safe, understanding providers who use money to impress. Because a man with suppressed masculinity is easier to control, easier to disappoint, and easier to leave when something better appears.

This is why so many men today feel depressed and lost. Their raw natural masculine fire has been buried under layers of female-pleasing and financial performance anxiety.

The wise adaptation is to reset to your core mascot energy..

Money will still matter. But it will come as a bonus, not your only weapon. And when you combine real resources with unstoppable masculine energy, That’s when you become the kind of man women crave and respect.

bro where did you learn these abeg. Give me books to read

vickyhow:
Women tell on themselves 😂
There is no way she’s coming out of that, she’s drowning 😝

Checkmate

I'm telling you bro. Very despicable lot. Since I started seeing them for what they really are, I've started to loathe them. One had the effrontery to tell me to send her money before she connects me to her brother for a business deal. Even hung up on me. Like seriously? How do these creatures even reason? Despite promising her that once it breaks even, I'll send her money. Same person I've sent money couple of times o. I just laughed. Selfish things.

Akir2025:
. Men Stop

Don't Send Her Money for hair
Birthday
Shoes
clothes
Phone
Family issues.
School Fees .
Medications
Call cards and Data

Wake Up Guys .

If any Girls wants Free money they should go and meet there Parents .

Girls Go and Work if you need Money .

Men Spend wisely even if you have Intensions to Marry Her

The Naked Truth. .Those that are Hurts by this Bitter Truth Would keep getting Hurts .

No Man Force any Lady to Go and starts Turning any Man to ATM Machine

If What Your father Gave You is not enough ,Go and Work ...Stop Trying to Be Smarts .

Truth Hurts Badly

no mind dem. See as dem dey cry. Very selfish and wicked creatures. It's always about them. Everybody else can go to hell. Shiorr