₦airaland Forum

MARKone:
@ thelish, what is your husband saying about all this. You see when my own mil came for Omugwo, after she baths my daughter, she will start applying dusting powder inside her privates, saying that it will help her not to be promiscuous when she grows up, meanwhile, I did not meet her daughter a virgin. Anyway I warned them to stop that practice, and it stopped. You see at times you need to stamp ur foot and be firm in protecting your loved ones against unwholesome practices and believes. Why will your MIL be against BCG, if something, God forbid, happens in the future, will she be there to run upadan with you. Please don't mind them, anything that will b inimical to your child(ren) wellbeing oppose it to the fullest, nothing will happen.....meanwhile that ur MIL sef, how she put her pikin for freezer

hahahahaha, funny u.
My hubby is kind of scared of his mum. And if we both keep quiet, we might lose the baby. The navel got an infection. He exposes me to d wrath of his mum by keeping quiet. The battle is still on close to 2yrs now. Her children n relatives don't talk to me. She told them all kinds of lies. Some came to fight, why some were just threatening their lives on phone.
My dear, marriage tough ooo.

glossy6:
Are you serious?

very sure dear. That one na small one sef.

Joy1706:
Stay with a man who had no qualms sleeping with ur mom? Chai! No wonder men call us fish brains

I was shocked at that comment as well.
Womennnnn

Onegai:


I seriously need to be thankful to God for my MiL and Mother, no crazy theories and backing down when I didn't want something...

I thank God for u ooo.
My mil is d controlling type. what she says is final. U dare not challenge. And hubby is kinda scared of her. After bearing so many, I had to speak up. And she got angry n left. Telling everyone I insulted n challenged her. But only God knows best.

MARKone:
Are the parents of that little baby that DAFT!!!, that they do not know that chemicals in laundry Detergents are harmful to Adults talk less a new born baby, and GIN as in Alcohol, Op must b kidding right, OMO kee...hmmph. Next thing now, she will use razor blade to design that baby's face.



Na this kin MIL go put the baby for fridge unto say e dey run temperature.

Mine did this to her eldest son many yrs ago. putting him in a freezer. She claim to know all oo

Onegai:
You might want to tell her to inform the MiL that Omugwo has ended, let her go home. Just for the sake of those babies' survival and good health.

Just reading this. post made me shiver in fear... Please say you made it up

Made up? u ain't see nothing yet.
Mine is worst. U dare not talk. She refused BCG. The battle is still on after 2yrs. That I disrespected her just becos she wanted to cut my baby's tummy with razor blade to apply some things

glossy6:
The mum in law claimed to have used it on all her kids and recently on some relatives. The issue came up when the twins were rushed to hospital after one was found to be having challenges. The doctor however said the baby has jaundice and the omo was not d cause of the medical emergency.

Thank God the babies did not die.

Am eager to know if some tribes practice this or the woman wan kpai the babies

Ur talking of my mother in law ooo.
Mine uses generator oil for circumcision, dusting powder n Robb for navel.

cococandy:
Breakfast in bed from this awesome man

see romance ooo, this ur hubby nor be Africa man at all ooo. if not u should be kneeling to serve him this, or else he brother go provoke o.
happy new year love.

HOUSEEEE, EVERYBODY GO ON UR KNEES N ELBOWS FOR OP. There is something this kneeling is doing for him we don't know and he can't just disclose it. Pls be ur brother's keeper. Save a soul.

ournaijablog:
abegi, it shouldn't fall on the woman alone, like I mentioned supra this is a trait of both sexes, yes it takes a wise woman to build her home, marriage is a partnership not a one person institution, it is about love, understanding and co-operation, without these a marriage is bound to fail anyway. so a wise woman who goes about building her home without the co-operation of the husband is like pouring water on a rock remember a house will definitely crumble without a solid foundation

Thank u

benedictac:
but remember the bible says "the wise woman builds her home while the foolish one destroys her home with her hands.

U Neva see foolish men wey destroy their home? u make it sound like only women destroy homes.

Assslayer:
You had better wake up from your illusion before it becomes too late, is it not ur pastor who donated 1 Billion naira to Idahosa university ? And yet he is using ur own 1000 gate fee, tithe and offerings to support his ministry. Or do you want me to burst mega firms owned by your pastor ?

Bros, u get time ooo, pple wey dey speak in tongues on top woman na u dey follow argue?

oloyede252:
this is funny..ok continue..i fear you o.lemme run before you turn me to mumu husband.

Hahahahaha. U nor reach jare.
Oya run before I change my mind ooo.

oloyede252:
can you turn your husband into a houseboy?if you already have.ur juju strong o

Can u turn ur wife into a house girl? if u already have, ur juju thick oo.

Miami11:
People have told you to move on, in simple words get a life, find your own man start your own family

He was controlling to your family, apparently he does not like tha anymore, he has grown wiser

Let them be, it's seems like you will never rest until you break their home

hahahahaha.

Icecomrade:
@ops
Whats your own nah.!.
Its her body. Its her life not yours. Am sure u ve done worse things. Whats the difference? You choose to hide your attrocities
Still wondering when hypocrites will learn to mind their Business.

Why decorating evil?

feran15:
she should know that when dealing with Nigerians, going naked won't work. they would miss the point you are trying to make.

Which kind point? she naked be say she naked.

kITATITA:
The woman should be praised for promoting breastfeeding. These days several women refuse to breastfeed their babies because they don't want others to see their breasts. Our mothers and grandmothers had no issues with such exposure, either as maidens or mothers. It's the West and their brand of civilization that brought practices that produce unhealthy population and increased chances of certain ailments, including cancer.

The promotion na with unclothedness? lol

toksbisola:
@thelish; you're very funny; lol. Sometimes though, a long epistle like this, helps to reset matters.

OK oooo. I pray make she read am sha.

toksbisola:
@Op; what I’m about to type would be a bit brutal and harsh which you probably might not like but bear with me; here we go.

It’s imperative for us to stay out of a marital home that ain't ours. I know you might say as your brother is not complaining; then you should be the one to complain on his behalf. IT WILL BE IN YOUR OWN INTEREST TO LEARN TO MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS (no offence hope none taken). I won't even comment on the aspect of you turning up in your brothers house without telling him first and forget that analogy of it being your brother's house as that is now another woman's home hence; you now need an invite to go there since your brother is no longer single; courtesy demands so.

Aside that, have you actually discussed in confidence with your brother about your observations of him turning into a house boy running errands for his wife? I hope you have before you came to this conclusion. Your brother is an adult in his own right and has chosen his wife; so whether you like it or not you are an outsider as long as his family is concerned; meaning you are not his wife and neither are you his daughter.

For your information, theirs nothing wrong in a husband helping his wife out. You said your sister-in-law is loaded (don’t know if she makes more money than your brother) and maybe that’s why you feel she’s using your brother as a house boy. I doubt that very much; hence, don’t think that because she’s loaded therefore she’s taken over headship from your brother as that might not be the case.

A man will leave his mother and his father and he will stick to his wife. YOU ARE NOT YOUR BROTHERS WIFE HENCE DON’T GO THEIR AND CAUSE UNNECESSARY STRESS FOR YOUR SISTER-IN-LAW. That might be the way your brother and his wife do their thing; and yet, you want to go ahead and cause trouble; WHATEVER FOR? Do you know whether your brother offended his wife and this is the way of him showing how sorry he is to get back in her good books? I’m sure you wouldn’t know; yet you’re sticking your nose in an area where they haven’t called you in to adjudicate.

You’re also agitating to tell your mum which might be right as well as wrong. Let me tell you a little story. I know of a similar case where the sister-in-law like you; told their mother how his wife turned her brother into a house boy and the mother went there to confront/fight her daughter-in-law and guess what, on the day the argument started, the mother had a stroke and till today she’s like a vegetable (a once healthy woman) and as for her son’s wife, all she said was sorry; bear in mind that her daughter-in-law is not the one that is suffering from the effects of a stroke. As for her mother-in-law, her life has changed completely from having a healthy life before she confronted her daughter-in-law to now suffering as a stroke victim. This is as a result of her daughter who couldn’t keep her nose out of the business of her brother coming to report to her mother what was happening in her son's house. I only mentioned this experience for you to be careful about how you're going to discuss this issue with your mother.

Desist from going to create troubles unnecessarily as you don’t live with your brother hence you ain’t party to the A to Z of how your brother and his wife runs their home. You don’t know if the wife was suffering from a medical issue on the day you visited and your brother felt it right to assist his wife in that manner by becoming a house boy as you term it; YOU JUST DON’T KNOW; HENCE THIS YOUR CONCLUSION IS BASELESS. Although you might say you didn't observe anything wrong with her physically; doesn’t mean that nothing was wrong. It wouldn’t be in your brother's best interest to start discussing with you if his wife has a medical condition; IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS.

If you are not married yourself then you might not fully understand how a husband and wife relate as against a boyfriend/girlfriend. If anyone should be the one complaining that his wife is sending him on errands it should be your brother; and if he is not complaining then please learn to stay clear of your brother’s marriage. When you saw the house boy errand going on with your brother, there was no harm in you saying; let me get it for you brother. Would that have taken a hair from your body seeing that you didn’t like his wife sending your brother on errands like a house boy? I guess not.

There are times when your brother also sends his wife on errands and my question to you would be is she a house girl? I’m pretty sure if you see that your brother is sending his wife up and down the whole place on errands you will sit down comfortable and say after all that is what a wife should be to her husband a house girl; so lets not play sentiments here and in the process, get yourself worked-up/upset because it is your brother that is being sent on errands.

When you are married and your husband expects you to do every single thing in your house then you’ll remember this day of your experience in your brother’s home where you would have loved it if your husband assist you on some errands. Or let me put it differently; assuming your husbands’ sister comes visiting and sees you sending her brother errands like a house boy and she goes and tells your husbands' mother(you mother-in-law) and she subsequently comes to confront you for turning her son (your husband) into a house boy; I wonder what you will do. I am just trying to imagine you telling your mother/sister-in-law to mind their own business. But now that it is your brother, you want your mother to go and create a scene in the peaceful home that your brother, his wife and child(ren) co-exist in?

I just hope that the peaceful home your brother currently has and is enjoying; your actions’ wouldn’t mess up their home/marriage and allow a once peaceful home degenerate into a broken home because of YOUR BUSYBODY ANTICS. You really don’t know if behind close doors your brother has the upper hand where he is in total control as the head of his home.

MY FINAL WORDS TO YOU WOULD BE TO STAY OUT OF YOUR BROTHERS MARRIAGE; (FACE YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIP (IF YOU HAVE ONE) MOST ESPECIALLY IF THERE IS PEACE IN HIS HOME. AS VERY SOON, YOUR BROTHER IF CARE IS NOT TAKEN WOULD BAN YOU FROM COMING TO HIS HOME SO AS NOT TO DESTROY HIS PEACEFUL HOME; SINCE YOU DON’T KNOW HOW TO STAY OUT OF OTHER PEOPLES BUSINESS. TAKE SEVERAL SITS BACK AND STOP TAKING PANADOL FOR ANOTHER PERSONS’ HEADACHE; ESPECIALLY IF THEY DIDN’T CALL YOU TO TAKE THE PANADOL ON THEIR BEHALF.

It’s in cases such as what @op has narrated that makes me believe that women are indeed their own worst enemies.

I rest my case

Bros, u get strength oooo. All these epistle because of no nonsense mama n jealousy sil?
pple like this, don't have time to read ooo. You know how busy detectives are?

lolaluv1:
Looool@jealousyyy

yes oooo. nor be short one ooo. This is advanced one. lol

EfemenaXY:
Oh, you're female?

No wonder you sound bitter. Jealousy stuff. I doubt all you typed is true - and even if it were, it probably didn't happen the way you've painted it on here for us.

You must truly dislike your sister-in-law. What are you expecting your mum to do? Rain insults on your brother and his wife? Turn your brother against his wife?

Stay clear of that marriage. Mind your own business.

Na their type dey turn marriages to Fuji house of commotion. If her own husband do all these for her, she will be d most happiest o. Women leave other privileged women alone. Jealousyyy.

Charmerbeautylooks:
Hmmmm, where is my husband make him come see gift!

They need to see it ooo. #goingtoshowthistomyhubby#

There is a woman in my street, wheneva am passing n I greet her, she will never respond. So I stopped greeting her n hated her person. Not quite long, I learnt she is deaf n can't hear people. I felt so bad about mysef. I did some things for her in order for me to forgive mysef. we are close pals now. I retouch my hair in her salon. Though I had to demonstrate for her to understand me.

semochendo1:
How time flies, he's now 3yrs and has gotten a sis...

Babes are in trouble oo. God bless u son

Olasco93:
You remember the Story in the Bible how God changed the name of Abraham to Abram and that of Jacob to Isreal and how both men's lives changed as their names were changed.

I would advice you and your wife to know the 'Real and Intending Meaning' of the Names you finally decided to name Her because in our Society (Nigeria) for and the World at large, (Christiand) or not names are so important and it has its SPIRITUAL implications whether you know/like it or not.
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Don't just name your child any name because you feel the name is nice or generally acceptable. If you child is so important, so does her name because even God recognizes him or her with the name you name her.
'Remember how God called the names of Men and Women in Bible days (he didn't name them by Himself, their Parents did)'.
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I would advice maybe you choose the name: SOPHIA (It's just a suggestion). It means Wisdom and as you know, it means God's Wisdom. ''Remember that WISDOM brings everything to you.''
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Or better still just click on the link below and make a choice by Deeply looking at the meaning, not just the Sweetness of the



name.






www.resourcesforlife.com/library/names/feminine.htm

U know how many wey I nor know wey lack sense? U make it sound like all Sophia have wisdom

nnachukz:
This can not be done here because our President can not stay one week without traveling. He travels for everything, naming ceremony, birthday celebration, launching etc.

Even maltina dance all

yahoo boys at work.

EfemenaXY:
Thelish: help the @op with his predicament

Hahahahaha. That one pass me dearie.
I just hope the two women are in good terms cos I don tire to see gone too soon posters ooo.
But the OP trust himself sha. He is up to the task ahead.
Compliment of the season Efe.
I wan come ur house Xmas day come drink grass juice oo. lol

KanwuliaJara:
Haba!
I nefa "de-ATIVET" with shame o!
aaa
I still dey KAMKPEEEEEEE KI DI GBA!!!

As offline "ativitis" sweet pass online YOWN, how for do na?

NL don dey kwensssssh sumor-sumor!
So glad I am alive to help with the FOOOnera!

Hahahahaha. So good to hear from u again?
Its really becoming so boring. But na people like u go fit give am life ooo. Compliment of d season .

I will never forgive mysef.