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sirdouglas:
In as much as you are trying to be mean. I understand your point. For the record, I am not a boy. I will appreciate if you address me with more respect.

Marrying her will not be such a bad idea but we may not enjoy the marriage. Especially her. She has said it over time that she knows that I don't love her. In as much as that is not entirely true, it is not far from it. She doesn't fit my profile for a wife and that is why I have been trying to end the relationship.

If this is coming from a woman I will understand but coming from a guy makes me want to ask you how old you are. Sorry but that's so insensitive of you and immature.

I never meant ill for her and I have been as reasonable and honest I can be with the situation. Judging me won't solve the problem.
What about a girl that a guy rejected for good three times and told her that he doesn't like her for marriage and she is still insisting and keep coming back? It's a two way thingb ro and I am expecting you to be more reasonable with your replies.

So u are a man and u went looking for a 19yrs old girl?
Uncle Uncle

Powerful prayers from a loving father.
Congrat to d Damijos

koyyes:
You won't even notice all these if you were actually busy inventing something.

Someone with a d1ck typed this and feels he has done something good and productive in life...

P*$$1 slave.

Saving souls is a kingdom invention
He has sure done sth good
Stop encouraging nonsense
Most of these girls need help

paul1995:
The sickness has no cure tho I searched a drug recommended from USA rilutek it cost 60k but I heard it only prolong the person life to 3 or 4 month the thought of losing her makes me scared .

She won't die. Take that thought from u and stop confessing negativity.
Jesus will move in compassion n heal her

Almost everybody commenting didn't reads article.
Just commenting from d heading.

OVA200:
Am not married but I won't exceed my budget of 500K
Call me poor if you want to.

U r wise jare.
That was our budget n we maintained it

teresafaith:
I don't have to know his wife to know she never meant it.

Most of us say a lot of things we didn't mean out of frustration

God bless u

15ssDRIVE:
Boss.
Abeg Abeg Abeg, cool down for Jesus. Since 2013 till now,she no leave!

Now wey e remain weeks for your to walk,you wan leave with the kids?

What if the doctor tell you again,that you need another 6 months ? Then you will need her again?

Money is different and caring is the main thing.

Think oh ...... think well-well. She might have her own Bleep ups,but you tell me .... U no get Bleep up ?

Call her home,talk to her like you daughter,ur sister,ur aunt,your Mom and finally like your loving darling wifey.
Ask here reason for those: words.
Ask where did you get it wrong?
What can be done for amendments.....

No mind people wey dey tell you say... kut her head,shootttt her. Their own case worst pass this matter wey dey ground .

May ur well of wisdom never run dry.

daddymummy:
The worst beating was when i and other students went to pluck mango in the ravine when i was in sec sch.It was a taboo to go to the ravine as a boarder.As we were plucking the mango,our compound master came with one useless women and saw us.He asked us to kneel down and was about to flog us on the hands.But the woman insisted we must be flogged on our back.She told the man that she would not have sex with the man unless the man flog our bare back.The man asked us to remove our shirts and started beating our back.But when he reached six strokes,the useless woman said the man should continue beating us until we cry.She said it gives her pleasure to see males crying.The first boy cried after 20 strokes,the second boy cried after about 10 strokes.But since i dont used to cry,the man continue beating me up to 65 strokes until my back was flowing with blood.It was then i cried.The useless woman then smiled and asked the man to follow her to go and have sex in the man's house.She said the man has bought the sex with our tears

That is demonic. That lady must be an ogbanje. Lol

DJ BEN is a goal

1usd now #184.
What's happening?

WritePal:
Ultimately, God directs affairs among men. This is another sign of God's interest and focus to do his will.

Tuesday will be 19th of the month of February, Month 02..

That is 2019, the year of the election.

02 + 19 = 21. The number of perfection got from 3 (Trinity) X 7 (Days He created the world).

Chai, all this sense cos of election? Lol
Who do u this thing Lol

Your skin is so flawless baby. But keep it safe for ur husband to be.

alfaman3:
Like shoe sizes and li
pstick colours?

Lol. That would have been better.

Thought u had something reasonable n rational to discuss.

Are they related to oshomole n his wife?

1StopRudeness:
that was my original suggestion, i told him to get the his mum to go discuss with the lady's mum, just that u cant start looking for my first post.
this was just to tackle the point of the lady that said he should just stand his ground against his mum as if his mother doesn't want him to get married. Its just a date shift i dont know why a couple would fight over something like this... its not like they've paid for halls and the money is wasting, or the wedding planner said he wont be available for another date, or all the bridal train said they are travelling abroad.

women!!! una to dey take wedding matter too hard

The guy looks unstable. This is not d first time of changing d date, so to d lady n her family, they are being fooled.

MichaelBukamzy:
Quite true.some of our parents no dey try shaa. but it would be so bad if he goes to his inlaw's place for marriage alone.

I agree with u.
Its not even proper.
They should all come to a consensus

Xisnin:
It is always funny to read a similar story from different guys making the same mistake
and wasting women's time.

You knew right from the beginning that she lacks "respect" but you still went ahead with
the relationship.

The main problem with your relationship is that you guys think differently.
Why would you expect an independent lady to have no opinion?
Not in this 21st century.
If you want a totally submissive wife, just get yourself a jobless woman with little education.
Stop complaining and only date someone you are comfortable with.

I know you are probably thinking everything will change but it won't.

Another issue is that your mom is totally in control of your decisions.

Double like for ur comment

mokay:
I understand your pain bro. I was in your shoe but not exactly the same story. My advice is this, don't fight a war you can't win. You will lose this. Stick with the plan with your mum. You are the guy here, don't sell your family so cheap. I guess you feel you will fund the whole wedding ceremony from your end, don't take fake blessings from your mum. Be a man!

Likewise, the girl doesn't want to sell her family so cheap.
How will u feel, if ur sister keeps bringing different marriage date to u guys?
Won't u sense d guy is not serious??
Try and be in other people's shoes before u castigate.

Cindy95:
God/Allah bless you dear... the guys are all shouting that the girl is obeying her family forgetting that the man is doing the same.
please both of you are practicing sane thing. it's not easy changing wedding dates, it looks embarrassing and childish. it's better you don't fix a date if you guys ain't ready nd before you fix a date, the two families ought to be there to deliberate on it.
you are the man, you know your woman and your family better than us, besides we just heard one side of the story.
nobody knows what the lady in question is also passing through. so please before we judge, let's put ourselves in the girls shoe. (it's better we don't fix a date rather than change it thrice and it's enough to end everything cos no one knows what will happen in April too)
please, I'm not here to judge anyone but this matter should be resolved between the two families...
nairaland just might not give you the perfect answer cos we dont know the situation.
the best advice you will ever get is the one you actually gave to yourself so please I'll advice you to do it the right way.
thanks

God bless u dear.
U have said it all.
I nor blame those commenting, it is him who brought his issue here to get one sided advice, I blame.

Eberechi24:
If am your woman, I will feel this way. It's not about being desperate. Why did you propose when you know you ain't ready. It seems you are using marriage proposal as bait to keep her.

Just sort your issue with your mommy. Show some seriousness, you might keep postponing till the end of next year.

Forget those men that want you to quit your relationship, they are miserable.

I love u for this.

[quote author=jefdr001 post=74011622]Your woman finds it hard to submit to you, so she may not be respecting your mumc, hence your mumc and your girl will never agree on anything at all, not even wedding dates. you sound like a man that tolerate disrespect from a woman but understand that your family never will and they mean well for you. Because they are not the ones in love they tend to see more clearly. Also it seems your fiance sees herself more as a blessing to you than you are to her. If this is true your relationship is one sided and this is not good. Be a man and let your fiance respect your momc. Prove to her that she is just a total stranger you are learning to relate with. That is called giving her her seat. Never spite your family without a good reason and this obviously is not one. Let your woman learn or you move. No matter how painful.[/quote


No need getting married to a "total stranger" he should look for a close family member to marry.

gulfer:
And how many years have you spent with your mother, that girl and her family will show you shege if you head-on to marry her..........My 2kobo

The prophet himself

1StopRudeness:
na the guy born himself abi? something you yourself cannot do, you are telling another person to do it.
can you just chose date and tell your own parents that's final without carrying your mum and dad along with their own arrangements. You think a wedding ceremony is only about two of you alone. he should kuku ma marry like some whites folks that dont even invite their parents since he doesnt want to be a mummy's boy.


na your kind woman no dey wan see mother in-law or her advice for her matrimonial home.

So, why not advice him, for both families to sit n pick a convenient date for them all?
The girl's parents had advocated for that, yet d guy's mom is just so far, making decisions from afar.

prettyesther20:
From this, I think your mom is the problem. She is not accommodating maybe u are a mummy's boy and she's trying to wrap her fingers around you. Oga man up biko



Why will a mother even having a thought of cursing his son just because of wedding date. Hmm your mom is trouble

God bless u my dear. Most of the men commenting are just too biased to see that part. Women nor just get say for this our land

carzola:
Walk away bro.

Listen to your mum

Bleep the girls family for even involving
In your relationship.

Las las any girl that listens to her
Family isn't ready to leave her family.

A girl is not suppose to listen to her family, but d man is suppose to listen to his mother. Hmmmmmm

MichaelBukamzy:
oga,this is enough warning sign to back off.you are still skeptical about marrying her.at this stage,the both families should have been close friends already. you wanna go with your inlaw's date against your mother's? she might have her own reasons too,she went to the extent of laying a curse must you go against her. also,as you are doing all you can for the wedding to hold,remember to observe wheather madam has shed off that bad character as she promised,trust me relationship is always time for mutual deception.when you settle down,she will dig out those attitudes been burried just to keep the courtship going. if i am you,i will back off if inlaw is not ready to go with my family's date,i cant ditch my mother because if unfortunately shit hits the fan,you fit clean am alone .

A mother that finds it convenient to curse a child of her womb because of ordinary marriage date is manipulative.

IamD18:
Low self-esteem is damn bad!

What nonesense! Will you die if you don't marry the lady?

If little issues like wedding date can make her family advice her to call off the relationship, what then will happen when a bigger issue shows up in your marriage.

Trust me Bruv, if they really want you. I mean, if the lady and her mother really respect and like you, WEDDING DATE will not be enough reason for her to think of calling off the relationship, it won't just be enough reason for the mother to tell you to leave her daughter alone.

The earlier you understand that no one is irreplaceable, the better for you.

In my opinion; Kindly part ways with her,Mr.


PART WAYS!!!!!

Why are u one sided??

Jonathan:
Sometimes when you see a Benz and it looks like you’ve seen it before .
It’s actually a girl you know that was used to buy the Benz. That’s why the Benz look familiar

Hahahaha. Sense nor go kill u oo

Emmacolinho:
Whoever cursed you did it from the depth of his heart Useless animal

Hahahahaha. U get PhD for stroking o