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Wetin una dey argue for this thread sef. Sexual this, culture that.

We wey dey visit the thread to learn more about how to migrate to Canada only to come dey see different argument laced with dogon turanci

Abeg make una calm down and restore the thread back to its original status

behati:
It is not proper to tell a stranger on the internet how to run her home or what gender roles should be adopted, esoecially when she did not ask for it. She stated in her post that they were a family of 5, why didn't you ask who was minding the kids when she went house hunting? How do you know he's an African man? Everyone does what works for their family and we should all respect that!

you guys like making a mountain out of a molehill.
She meant no harm in stating that the man should do the house-hunting. It was just more like a harmless suggestion/advice.
Let's not stress this issue anymore

sistaj:
Settlement journey. Pardon my long post...... Always lots to share when I come around to it. I have been staying with my crew in Apple Hill, Ontario where our in Canada(where I haven't stepped foot) are much bigger and join the complaints crew. It reminded me of the naughty boy poem . We saw a couple that we liked and asked about the application process and we were given forms.We explained our status as new immigrants and they said we must have a co-signor who will be our guarantor since we had no jobs yet. We explained we had money to cover a full year's rent and could spread cheques to cover that and that I worked overseas and would provide payslips but the manager said a guarantor was needed. We collected the forms and left. Now our host was not eligible to be our guarantor because he is not a resident and was on a special visa but he rallied round to help us find someone who could be our guarantor. He got me to ask someone(a Nigerian) he had earlier introduced me to but I was not very willing and told him my reasons. She has lived in Ottawa for a long time and promised she would send me a list of areas to avoid in my househunt and after several reminders to that effect,she didn't send it. I was now wondering how someone who didn't send something like a list would agree to guarantee me but my host was adamant it was not that a big deal and she would do it. I asked her to please everyone and not to be labelled strong headed and she very swiftly and readily agreed without even asking questions and that was a redflag and I knew she wouldnt do it eventually.I told my host my observations which my husband corroborated but he still said nahhh, she understands and would.Long story short...she didn't. I began to look for prospective guarantors.Hit up a few people which didnt work out. I still continued my apartment inspections and explaining my situation to the real estate people. The main issue was not dealing directly with landlords because with landlords, the decision is theirs to make but with the management companies, there are protocols to follow and most times, the people on ground are not the ones to access your application. The people who are accessing you have not met you for you to upsell yourself and it is just a matter of ticking checkboxes.At another showing after I explained what we have been going through and the struggle to get a co-signor,the lady said if we had significant funds in a Canadian bank account, that that could waive the need for a co-signor. If we are to require a guarantor however,the person has to fill out a separate application with her/his details just like us and I wondered why it had to be so but she said it was their policy. At this point, we had gotten someone in BC who agreed to be our guarantor and provide payslips. I wasn't sure the person would want to fill a new application in his name though instead of just signing as a guarantor. Now given that I have seen a place that I was told money in the bank would waive the need for guarantor, my hopes were high. I had other appointments and went for more showings. I saw a really nice place with two bathrooms and was told to go to the office downtown to apply. Throughout the inspections, we were attended to by the nicest courteous people. On this trip downtown, we also met a very nice receptionist who called the person in-charge and immediately he came out, I noticed him withdraw and become uncomfortable. He was obviously an immigrant(only the aborigines aren't lol) but not caucasian. He was very uneasy in our midst I am not a body language analyst but when you encounter certain people, you can correctly put labels like racist after interacting with them and you would not be wrong. I told him what we were here for and he asked who will be occupying the apartment.I told him my husband and I plus three children and he said sorry,the maximum no of occupants is 4. I asked him if he had other apartments in other buildings and 3 bedrooms but he said they are all the same rules.We thanked him and left. So far, that has been our only experience with someone being visibly uncomfortable in our presence even in their own space.
Usually, applications are made with a deposit of last month's rent and I have been wondering the consequences if someone applies at two places and both get approved if the person can get one deposit back. We went to another showing and finally a spacious space(from experience) because one measured 880sqft and I have seen some as small as 640sqft. I told the lady our situation and that we were a family of 5-because of my experience at the previous place and she said she doesn't care about that. I also asked the question of what happens when two applications are approved and she told me that the one I don't choose is not obliged to return my money because usually,during the application the apartment is removed from the market and held for you until a decision is made. I explained our situation to her and she said it doesnt matter as long as we show evidence of good money in our account for instance 50k. I knew it was just an illustration. Now my hopes were higher than ever and she said she would send the application to my email as they do theirs online. She did and I applied showing POF over her illustration. However, it was in multiple currencies, CAD,AUD and Naira which I converted on xe.com showing the CAD equivalent. My hopes were really very high because in this case, the same lady was in charge of vetting the application. Now given when we landed, all these things were happening close to the holidays and this final application fell into the xmas holiday window. We were asked to come in again just before the holidays to sign some forms and bring first and last month's deposit. I also asked when a decision will be made and we were told by the 27th of dec. On 27th I waited and had to call and I was told our application has been sent to the lady's manager in Toronto.I began to feel that this thing don get k-leg o.Otherwise why would something she usually does be sent up the ladder. Alas, the email came and the application was denied and according to them,it was company policy not to disclose reasons for declining an application. I was given the option of getting a guarantor who would fill out an application,provide id and payslip and sign the guarantor form. At this stage, based on the no of people we reached out to the first time for guarantorship,more people were ready to guarantee us. I had a problem however with anyone having to fill out a new application in their own name and I wasn't sure anyone would want to do that. I reached out to them and they provided needed documents sans new application explaining it wasn't the norm. I totally understood. One of them gave me very good and legit reasons and was very angry with the ontario system saying it wasn't so in his province and asking us to move to another province. I understood his frustrations.
I was tired too. I emailed the building manager telling them getting someone to apply in their name was proving very hard and I was told they can't make any exception. I will go and pick up my money orders(money orders were made in the company name for the deposits) next week. I began searching and booking appointments again and the next one is for Jan 2. Two of the ones I already viewed are still vacant but I am sceptical to apply because of the apartment size. I hope to get a better sized one.
I am commuting from apple hill to Ottawa and not eligible to receive some settlement services because I don't have an Ottawa address even though I explained my apple hill stay was temporary. I am no longer enjoying having to commute to Ottawa to search for apartments and I decided to call emergency shelter services in Ottawa. I have an appointment with them next week. I want to be in the city where I can continue my search for a place as well as have an address to enable us access settlement services and most importantly enrol my kids in school. If it wasn't for the kids school in january, I wouldn't be fazed. I would remain in apple hill until I get a place but I don't want them to miss school anymore because they didn't complete this school year. I don't know if I can though(the school) with a shelter address. I only intend to stay for a few days though lol. I dont really know if we will stay until I am given a place and I deem it fit because I know shelter accomodations are not ideal places. .
Lets see how it pans out.

You will get your apartment soon enough. Patience is all you need. Just relax and God will handle the rest

henrysolution:
Such is life.
You know iPhone just introduced dual SIM which Android has had for years, iPhone also just recently launched the swipe keyboard function which andriod has had for ages.

people like big names.

and whoever told you that iOS is bigger than android?
Last I checked they are equal in stats

Itannooluwa:
including your Mother, sisters,Wife,Sister in laws and Daughters
thanks

enough jare. That's how they will be playing the family card.

You ladies are dumb and think in a uni direction. Go and kill yourself.

When you're coming to the world next time come as a man

Taniaa:
There is no feminism here
His gender isn't the issue here but him showing up to work inappropriately
Explaining to you is like explaining to a brick wall cause you simpletons just aren't getting it

Gender isn't the issue? If it were to be a lady tying towel will zoeyj comment “pervert”?

Nonsense. You ladies need to fix up your mindset.

Tozara:
What did you just do? Hypocritical bastard.

lol. Send me your account number. It seems you couldn't even afford chicken this Xmas cuz you sound like a frustrated church rat.

I'll send you 40k to help your destiny. Or it's not enough?

gbosaa:
Even among thieves and robbers, there are some abiding principles which guide them. One of that is trust. If you can’t be trusted, you are worse than vermin.

Yes I will judge him. He is worse than virus. This is a woman that is poor in health, betrayed and robbed by the last carer and here’s this fool doing the same thing to her.

Conscience kill him there. What sort of advice does he want??

Remorse my foot. He should return the money and that’s what he should do. What else do expect someone like me to tell him?
I wouldn’t ask him to go kneel down, confess and apologise to the woman.

All he needs to do is return the money he stole. He doesn’t need to come to Nairaland to confess. Let him return the money where it belongs.

...and no I wouldn’t do such a thing...I’ve been in his position and I didn’t take advantage and I’m talking about millions and this was when I didn’t and never had up to N50k in my account. If he was standing beside me, I’d be the first to cast the stone.

All what you've just typed, Just imagine if God does the same to you after you've betrayed Him many times.

Lol. You guys gotta take a chill pill � . No mf is perfect

Tozara:
What did you gain from quoting me to display your stupidity?

At least I'm more matured not to portray insults online to someone who I don't even know exists.

So who's more stupid?

Tozara:
You must be a mad, useless bastard for faulting me for condemning an idiot who deserves to be condemned, a criminal looking for an escape route. Why shouldn't he face the consequences of his actions? Why should he escape?

You're just another fool with similar history, who feels a tendency to go easy on another like himself in order to make himself feel good.

Get the fück out.

What have you gained from all the insults you just typed now. I hope it added one naira to your empty bank account

PUSSYBBQGRILLS:
na so we take pussy surprise our customers too.

God please shower your sense on this person

MrBrownJay1:
Bro, you are looking at it from a thief perspective.... Now as the owner of the stolen money, would you really want to still have such person in charge of your money?!

Dude I'm looking at it from a reasonable perspective because the owner of the money is not even aware of the theft so hence, no need for any confessions. Case closed

Tozara:
You are simply a selfish, wicked fool.

How the fück can you even summon the courage to ask for help as if you are in a dilemma? If you are broke and in need of her financial help, you can't ask her to help you at her own convenience?

You are a fücking stupid thief.

gbosaa:
You are a thief. You are disgusting. Someone who trusts you so much, how could you do that?

You are worse than a pick pocket and an armed robber. Those ones you can avoid but for someone like you...you are worse than virus. She’s still living with you, vulnerable and smiles with you everyday while your heart is full of evil and mischief.

Shame on you. If you don’t return that money, you’ll lose more than that. Trust me on that.

That's the problem with you Nairaland users.
Someone voluntarily came here to confess what he did and seek for advice because he is surely remorseful and still has a conscience and all you punk-ass can do is judge him. Are you yourself perfect? Who knows you could even be worse.

Please if you can advise him without insults and judgements then don't comment at all.

MrBrownJay1:
... And act like he Aint a thief?!

I think he should face reality and accept the consequences of his actions. He should go face the person he stole the money from, hand over the 20k, explain how/why he did it, and face the wrath of that person.

I certainly wouldnt want to have such person "still" in charge of my affairs, and would dismiss them on the spot.

oh please.
He doesn't have to let her know he took the money. Just return it simple! Returning it is what matters, whatever happened is between him and God

Merry Christmas to everyone on this thread.

Merry Christmas everyone

joepepsy:
Is all they got in Lagos?pls I beg in name God never you call any Nigeria state city,all slum.

You don't know Lagos. Forget that bullcrap the OP put up there

Agriculture is your best bet.
A poultry business costs nothing except buying feeds for your layers.
Then you start breeding them and selling eggs too. This is one way to becoming a silent millionaire

JennyKadry2:
Exactly.....the irony though when it is a Christian claiming holy holy. As long as you are committing one sin or the other, you have no right to point fingers at people. I work with people who identify as LGBTQIA. Some of these people have opened their doors for me to enter their country. I stopped talking to one muslim woman who was invited(by another christian family) to our church's end of year and she was there talking about how being gay is a sin and the 14years sentence in Nigeria. Her husband couldn't get funding so they had to leave the country. Good riddance. Now they are fighting to come back. Stay in Naija and practice Sharia biko

I really do not care about anyone's sexuality as long as they are not hurting anyone. Imagine someone living with a boyfriend and talking about how being gay is a sin. Living with a person you are not married to or fornicating isn't a sin? since na you practice christianity pass

If I owned a company tomorrow, and a gay person applied for a job and interviewed very well better than an heterosexual person, be rest assured I am offering the former the job. Make them carry me go Mountain of fire for deliverance if them wish .

Comment of the year.
I owe you a Walmart Gift Card

Must one be married before applying for this Express Entry?

cutezain:
My inspiration for you.

I landed on a Monday evening , my body had not adjusted to time so when I woke up i decided let start my house search I sent out lots of email not just frloe house alone but for jobs as well ( I already had a viewing booked from Nigeria) . So I got another viewing .

This place was divine within my budget 622 I only pay hydro took the application I didn't want to be in a rush . Also also opened my bank , and got a new SIM that same day . Next day I see the other place not sooner nice , still I take the application form , you never know. As I was getting the form what do I see a call from a company asking me to come in for an interview just day 3 . YES!!!!!!!!!

So I leave the building go home call my family lay out every thing n seek 2nd opinions , so I go on Thursday to submit the application for the first house with my bank statement hoping to get it den off I went for my interview , I get the job I decide okay no harm just submit the other application. On my way there the first house manager call n say SORRY we can't approve you for the house , I felt sad but motivated to I get to the second place n they say, SORRY SOMEONE JUST TOOK IT .

Hmmmmmm.

I took a cab went to the mall sat and got a meal , I called the agent for the second place coz she was soon nice , I told her don't you have something for me n she said hold on my hopes are high again . Yes was a response we got a bachelor's for 700 , ha hanty!!!! I want it she set me up for a viewing Friday the next day with a colleague. I went home happy so that day by 3:00pm I get a call ......

It's another company want me to come in for an interview ( smiles) we do a phone interview ,I passed I schedule the interview for the very next day afternoon .

In the morning I set out first to the bank got my deposit , then went to view the house oh my Magnificent . I walk with the agent back to the office. Fill the forms pay my deposit give them a copy of my bank statement just to add more spice n off u went to do my interview I passed bthe second stage den suddenly I get a call I am approved for the apartment. YESSSSSSSSSSS!!!! Re schedule my last phase interview to Monday went there signed my lease , payed now I got a house .
Ps more jobs are calling.

In 4days I did it , you can do it . Wives , husband's help each other I declared war in success n I will get it.

Dream,plan n push like u never have .

Good morning everyone!!!!!!

Congratulations �. This is what you call a system that works. This is the quality of life many Nigerians are seeking for. Keep pushing and the best is yet to come.

Congratulations Captain

Pogba the playmaker

Pogba have mercy. Dat goalkeeper na person papa o

Lindelof with the sauce. Chai Rashford suppose convert am

That is clear holding. It's a yellow

Send the message, it's 4-1

mvem:
...Chai!!! See how low your club has been reduced... You are beating Cardiff and you are soo excited... I mourn for you

Say whatever you want. But this is the beginning of a winning streak

Mods update it. 2-0 meehn

All United haters, kiss ma ass

Princeofnigeria:
i wish you know me you won't dare say such to me because my boys will mess you up.



Try me I'll fish you out

Fish me out?
You think I live in the ghetto like you and your miserable boys.

I'm far above your league and I didn't need to involve myself in cyber crime before getting here. My past is your future.

Princeofnigeria:
Rubbish.


Any attempt to distabilize all the Nigeria youth hustling out here won't work


We know it's the politicians plot they're afraid the poor kids now ball more than them.


No going back for ever hustling.


God bless all the genuine hustlers

Shut the hell up, you yahoo cunt.
Inflation may be high but the wages of sin is still death