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LaneBoi:
Lol. One bastard is asking me for xmas gift as if she and Jesus are twins. The matter weak

I tire 4 this ladies that beg like beggars

So as a side hustle I do during holidays, am a transporter, moving pple from one place to another, some days ago, on 28th of December I think, as I was acquiring my clients when I saw a young girl and asked her where she's going.... she gently came to me from the other side and pleaded with me to help her reach our junction that she don't have money.... I thought it 4 a while and decided to help out somebody's daughter out of my magnanimity and benevolency .... she sat next to me and as the short journey proceded, she started a conversation with local man... tru my accent she was able to understand that we r from same tribe..... I asked where she's going from here, she told me, I asked her how she's going to reach without cash and she muttered "I don't know "...
Local man still gave her little thing to use for her transportation to her destination... she asked for my contact, but said "don't worry give me ur phone " I gave her my phone and she flashed her number... she thanked me and I zoomed off.... fast forward to 2day..... babe called me, I was busy so couldn't pick, I called her minutes later... after greetings... she started asking me annoying questions like what I will use to do new year 4 her, that I should do new year 4 her... this is not d normal play-play whining.... babe was damn serious.... I told her that am busy right now, I will get back to her later.... I quickly added her number to my phone's black list..... Pls I want to ask what is actually wrong in this country... this misbehaviour is becoming a national matter... who did this thing to our ladies.. who had had such experience with these girls.. Pls share

HARDDON:
Wow to the frustration, waste and pains average guys go through.
Baffles my brain.



This is really very painful.

You are in the super friendzone and a gate guy can't wake up one morning and wants to be man of the house. It irritates the lady of the house.
Forget the flaunting... You are nothing but a bestie.

There is no Sexual attraction and she can't see herself submitting to a YES man.

I know there are a lot you didn't expressly state here. But I know, I just know.

Solution?
Breaking forth from this shackle is no mean feat. But it's not undoable.

You have to do the opposite of all that you have been doing! Starting with Ditching that wack idea of proposing again! Is there any different thing you want to say that she hasn't heard and turned down before?
Oh sure, you can of course buy her attention by swinging the bribe line of travelling, the way average guys do. But he who brings ant infested log to the homestead, must never complain when visited by lizards.


Grow some balls and Start ignoring. Cut chats, calls, visits and all.

Apply their principle on them:

Has a gurl asked to buy her something and you refused b4? How did she react?

Good, that is how u shld react now. You can't let her play with your emotions and you swallow it like a dunce.

henceforth, if she has the guts to shake the table, you take it a notch up by breaking it.
This is your only way forward. If she is really worth it.


On a final note,
How can you value sand when it is always available?


SENSE PILL:
Ladies Love Balls.

half way onto this quote I decided to pause and check the moniker that possess this great wisdom. I wasn't surprised it was Haddon

Spiritfun:
I met this beautiful girl sometimes two years ago. She's intelligent, smart and well mannered. I professed my love for her some two months into our friendship but she outrightly said NO.

I decided not to give up on her but to show her more love and care. As days went by, our friendship grew stronger, my love for her grew as well. Our life's goals are so similar that I find it very difficult to let her go.

I made sure I took the center stage in her life by doing everything necessary to help her build her dreams and its working perfectly.

I started showing her off on my social media handles just to test her reaction but contrary to my expectations, she loved it. I was proud that somehow I have perforated her defences.

Along the line, she started professing love to me too and that was the best moment of my emotional life. Then I decided to propose to her again but alas, she said NO and I was very sad and frustrated and she noticed it. At that point, I decided to give up on her and focus on other goals in life. She pleaded with me not to let our friendship die because she's afraid of losing me. I didn't bother to ask her for explanation on why I should still remain her friend without knowing where it will lead to in the end. I didn't also bother to ask her reasons for turning me down two times. I just agreed to her plea and ended the conversation.

I tactically started avoiding her to enable me heal but she would complain and plead with me to keep the friendship. I sucumbed because this girl has almost all the qualities I need in a wife and because of my standard, it's really difficult for me to find someone else that matches my preferences.

I know almost all her secrets and she knows mine too except my plans to travel abroad, preferably Canada. I made sure I did not let her know about this for some reasons.

Then, I found myself being obsessed with her again and she's been all over me too.

Now the crux of the matter is that I have perfected my plans to travel on or before February next year and I want to give her the last chance and propose to her again. I've conditioned my mind to accept whatever response she will give me and move on with or without her.

My major problem is whether to tell her about my travel plans before I propose to her or vice-versa. I know she also nurses the dream of living abroad. I'm afraid she might accept my proposal if I let her know about my Canada plans if I let her know about it before proposing to her.

Kindly advise me on this please cos I don't want to make any mistakes. I LOVE THIS GIRL and I'm certain that will make a good wife for me.

isn't there something you are forgetting to let us know?... is she already dating someone else? , if you don't know up till now, then ask her, don't even propose again, just invite her to somewhere cool and ask her to tell you why she's refused ur proposals, and still wanna be with you "as friends ", you might find out some facts for your self that will make you to re-propose or abort mission....

let it not be that local man is here fantasizing about "ur future wife" and she's "all over her bestie"..... hold ur travelling plan to itself first

stupidity:
I couldn’t believe my eyes and ears today.


A very good friend of mine was on the phone today while we were sitting close. I could hear all the conversations clearly.

He was confidently telling a lady on the phone to never step her foot in his home again that she brought bad luck to him ever since they started fvcking.

While he was busy saying all that, I did all I could to stop him, I pinched him, tried using my hands to tell him to end the call but he was reluctant.

After the call the call he explained he’s been seeing the girl for close to 6 months now and it was always bad news or business gone wrong after they meet and have sex


I’m still in shock hearing this. I’m trying not to believe people hold this kinda belief.


Has anyone been in this shoe or heard something like this before?


I believe things do go wrong when not handled accordingly but blaming someone coz you both had sex is something else.

Even Robert Greene knows this, that's y in 48 laws of power there is a chapter that goes by INFECTION, AVOID THE UNLUCKY AND THE UNHAPPY..... bad luck and unhappiness are contagious bro.... believe me here

Olanre05:
She is only trying to get the guys attention with her WhatsApp status. The poster himself should give her a benefit of doubt by listening to her and then move on from there....

am sure she will set her status so that the other guy wunt see it b4 writing that suicide rubbish.... Las Las ehh bitches ain't loyal

Olanre05:
I like your healing process and the way you handled it with utmost maturity. Here is my take on the issue, there are two sides to a coin, you must have given her heaven and earth, make her better off what she used to look like and the likes,and there is one thing you ain't doing right which she might have spoken to you about severally and you ain't changing. Which she is getting from the other guy aside from the materialistic and monetary aspect of it...

this got me giggling, that's no bleep of an excuse, no one is perfect, she's supposed to use what she's getting to endure what she's not getting.... many ladies r glorified ingrates shaa... tufiaaa.

Hannah346:
Hi Nl,
I 've been in this relationship for 3 years now...
We were happy and loved each other..... Then three years into the relationship, my bf started behaving strange and funny...

He doesn't call or text like before and when I talked to him about it , he always pick fights with me...I decided to keep mute...

Then one day I was at his place and decided to go through his phone( something I hardly do unless I needed to send pics or videos on my phone)...I found out he has been cheating with a girl he met on IG and they have been seeing each other and having sex....they even send nudes to each other on WhatsApp...

I was really hurt and I woke him up...he begged and said he was sorry that it was a mistake but I didn't listen and left...later that week he called me and said it was over between us ..I was really shocked cuz I didn't understand what was happening..... I went to his place that day to confront him and there he said I was boring and am not what he wants ...I was confused cuz none of my ex or anyone else ever told me I was boring.... I begged him and told him I could change but he said it was over...

After a few days I started seeing pictures of him and that girl he cheated with on WhatsApp... I couldn't help but stalk him on fb and IG and it turned out they were really having fun and ....

I deleted his number and blocked him on all social media and decided to move on....I decided to stay off relationship since then around June

Then around October... He called and said we should meet up that he wants to talk to me....I met with him and he apologized for what he did..I asked him about what he said to me then and he said he didn't mean the 'I was boring' .I told him it was past and its forgotten but deep down I was still hurting and I felt like smashing his head right there but I was cool......
Since then we have been talking and chatting but I found out the girl left him for another guy....

He said he still loves me and he is asking me out again and I don't know if I should give him another chance cuz I still love him...I told him we should just be friends for now ...on the other hand am still hurting about what he did.....
We have Been hanging out alot and am loving him more everyday
Am very emotional and I think I might give him another chance if I continue seeing or chatting him...
Should I just forget him and move on or give him another chance
Pls advice.... Thanks

miss, am sorry to sound like this but you are just like a tall tree without tap root that is being blown about by the wind, forget emotions for and use ur celebral cortex for once.....he cheated on you, upon that called you "boring" and now he is toying with your feelings and emotions and the mumu u is here catching feeling..you forgot to ask him when u stopped being boring...mtchewwwwww.. it will end in tears miss... simply move on and 1 day you will find a guy that deserves you

Queentee214:
Hi everyone,
Am really confused on what to do right now and I need advice.

I and my ex broke up six months ago...I broke up with him cuz we are always having misunderstandings...not just that..he can't control himself when angry , he always end up insulting me and calling me names but apologize when he is calm. The last one that led to our break up was when we went to his friend's birthday party..on getting there,,i met an old time friend(a guy) and we talked for few mins .i went back inside where the party was holding and I met my bf angry already,,we end up quarreling there and he called me a prostitute in front of everyone(that wasn't the first time he would embarrass me in public)...I was hurt and left there...i started ignoring him and the relationship wasn't going well anymore...i broke up with him afterwards ..i love him but I can't accept his flaws ..we tried to get back together but end up blaming each other for everything.

Six months later, I'm in a relationship with another guy..he has his flaws too but not bad...
Now the problem is I still love my ex and we still talk and chat almost everyday... He is the first person I call when I need advice and vice versa..my ex family thinks we are still together and always call to check up on me....this is causing problems in my new relationship....I decided to cut contact with my ex but he is isn't ready to let me go and neither am i..
Just last week my bf broke up with me and told me to call him when am ready to cut off contact with my ex...
Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me
I need to forget and move on from my ex
....pls advice... Thanks

Pls no one should come here and start telling me I met a good guy and toying with his feelings.. My ex is also a good guy, he just has his flaws...I just need advice... Thanks

See Queentee, I get you and I am not here to judge you, but you see, it's obvious you still have feelings for ur ex, that's because u sustained that feeling by still keeping in touch with him, u still chat with him, probably stay on long calls with him and all those things.... out of sight they say is out of mind, if you can just make up ur mind and cut him of by letting him know you are now in a relationship, if he persist by still showing u those little care, asking after you and all those things that melt women's hrt, then cut him off, don't answer his call, leave his msgs unreplied, mute his whatsapp status and all those other things that foster communication.... ur new guy left cos you r still stuck in ur past, if it was me I go do just what he did... you have not not even given him an opportunity to see what he has to offer, now lemme gist you, even if you go back to ur ex he will still abuse you, he ain't in control of it. Anger is not easy to drop, and who embRamses his woman in public think before you make a serious mistake...if you go back he will think he is irreplaceable and that you will always come back no matter d shit he does to you... so dear go and put ur house in order with ur new guy..

Sunisonflex39:
bro u understood me better, I didn't plan for any of this.. it was just normal friendship.

and I she demanded to know why I changed at first.. as the close friends we were, and I really don't have anything to hide, I told her why.. and said am all good with it.. the young girl begged me to be her best friend cos over the years we have got closer which I agreed on..

u are not completely wrong here... see if this girl now loves you more than her former, and you still love her, tell her to tidy up things with d oda guy, cos as am seeing it there is no hope for him again even without you I d equation.... this life is simple, if you can't take care of her, then someone else will.... d babe should be where her hrt accepted... period.... after all if her bf is what she wants, she wunt be looking for a bestie to check up on her...a bestie is a back up plan kept by girls

Christonjnr:
Please health professionals in the house,i meet this particular girl 3yrs ago when i was in 4level in the university. Though she lied to me she was a virgin then,but i later realize it was a lie when we both gone intimate , she later apologized and admitted she lost it with one of her girlfriend when she was into lesbianism.

The issue now is that she always see her menstrual period at the 1st week of every month usually 3rd 4th or 5th.
but things got messy during my Nysc camping,before i left for the camp,we had sex and she took postnor2 the usual drug for pregnancy prevention,during the next month she didn't see her menses at the usual time and the next thing she told me was that it came out on 12th instead of the usual time, after that unusual one she started seeing it the normal date which is the 1st week of the month.

Now the issue is that,she called me after 4 months ago and told me her menses has changed from the usual date and the latest date now is 20th of every month,this continues like this for the past 4 months now.

So I'm getting suspicious of this latest change of date to 20th,which I'm thinking that she had an abortion.
Please health professionals in the forum should help me out,can something like this happen ?
I'm thinking of confronting her,which might lead to possible breakup.
And through out this date for the past 1yr now we have not had sex due to the place I'm working which is very far from her.
pls don't mind my grammatical error,
matured advice please,
mode please help to move to FP

Las Las pple geh time shaa.... op no go die b4 ur period oo

Pettyprincess:
This is the kind of thread i love seeing
Just take a look how both couple are attractive!!
Nigerian girls usually pick the best white men to marry because they see the value of what Nigerian guys can't appreciate!!
White men are romantic,caring,understanding nd also take good care of you!!!
Dear Nigerian ladies dnt let anyone tell you you can't find love outside your race,the truth is we have more options nd opportunities!!!
Our Nigerian brothers wnt like this

see her mouth like caring..... go and ask white men if baba is their president....men go sweat hussle money still come beg u to chop am so that they will be tagged caring..... mtcheeeeeeeeww

Sunisonflex39:
bros I was willing to back of.. you should have seen the way this girl cried and plead that I should not leave her life completely...i agreed to be her best friend.. there was no issue at first but just recently she started behaving abnormal.i told her I v always respected the fact that she has a man.. that if I was in his shoes, I will be feeling bad to what she is doing.

all of you that are bashing op, forming saints could have even done worst sef... una for Don even kpansh d babe teh teh, but for op to come here still shows that this wasn't his initial plan, make una reason am like that... that guy has been dating himself for long thanks to op, op shouldn't have stayed glued to a lady in a relationship cos with time feeling start to build up from d girl... I have a similar story which I don't want to share yet... d op just needed advice, if you have a nice one, then help him out, if you are here as accuser of the poor naive dude, then f**k off...we agree here to read up things and help one another out not to accuse

Quality20:
met just less than 6weeks ago, but from her chats she has dated and enjoyed sponsorship from professors and other guys in d past and now here I'm a man just managing a job of about 20k a month. She hasn't really requested money from me directly but has always brought up things like "my sisters marriage is next month I'm trying to balance Souvenir's cost of abt 100k", at other times it could b like how cn I get a loan, wanna change phone or I'm looking for !money to pay my tailor, I'm gonna b travelling next week and now my ATM is trapped and can't get my money, etc. pls has any guy(s) on this forum dated such type of girl? As for me ,I'm beginning to feel she could be a pathetic liar and that she would never b able to do away with those professors and other rich guys who sponsored her and gave her regular stipends, after all I'm not at d moment in a position to do as they did not to talk of even out doing them

ur post should have been "Pls does anyone know where I can find a better job"

and for your post all I can say is that you are about to get some nice stings from a glorified "hoe loo show"

Quality20:
met just less than 6weeks ago, but from her chats she has dated and enjoyed sponsorship from professors and other guys in d past and now here I'm a man just managing a job of about 20k a month. She hasn't really requested money from me directly but has always brought up things like "my sisters marriage is next month I'm trying to balance Souvenir's cost of abt 100k", at other times it could b like how cn I get a loan, wanna change phone or I'm looking for !money to pay my tailor, I'm gonna b travelling next week and now my ATM is trapped and can't get my money, etc. pls has any guy(s) on this forum dated such type of girl? As for me ,I'm beginning to feel she could be a pathetic liar and that she would never b able to do away with those professors and other rich guys who sponsored her and gave her regular stipends, after all I'm not at d moment in a position to do as they did not to talk of even out doing them

ur post should have been "Pls does anyone know where I can find a better job"

and for your post all I can say is that you are about to be saying by a glorified "hoe loo show"

coolguy4christ:
My girlfriend and I had issues sometime last year which eventually led to a break up. Early this year, we made up. I initiated the make up because I still loved her even though, it was she who ended the relationship.

When we started again, I told her I wanted a fresh start and that she should come out clean with me of whatever I need to know when we were apart. She knows how much I emphasize sincerity as I hate lies. She confided in me, that she had sex with a guy whom she dated briefly when we were apart but that she used protection. I believed her and didn't really bother myself because we were not together when it happened.

Few months later, I proposed to her and she accepted my marriage proposal. Since then, the relationship has been beautiful and we have become better as we were previously before the break up. We are actually planning our wedding in a few months.

Yesterday, she confessed to me that she had an abortion while we were apart. That she lied about using protection and that she got pregnant and aborted the baby.

Since then, I have mixed feelings for her:

Firstly, I am strongly against abortion and she knows that. Secondly, She lied to me!

The second reason is actually why I am more angry with her. She has lied to me previously and I don't know if I can believe and trust her again.

She has been very remorseful and she told me she came out clean because she wants to set everything right before we get married.

The issue here is that I don't know how can I trust her again?

my own is that I say the truth even though it might hurt,

gee, that guy that got her pregnant was y she left you, having satisfied her carnal desires with him plus ur begging, she felt she should come back to you.. well, most ladies love to explore, my advice is for your to is to make her confide in you and let make her tell you all you wanna hear, she is a repentant soul for letting you know even b4 marriage, if you are OK with it and you still love her, then go ahead,,,, and bro b4 I 4get, make sure she hasn't damaged her womb and she is telling you this as a stunt to defend herself when those kids are not coming forth, so b wise and think, I don't know how you will verify weda her womb is still in tact, that's ur assignment

axcal:
I have been dating a girl for over three years with the intention of marriage and she's very nice to me but had not introduce me to her family. I suddenly begin to see some changes on the way she cares, so I decided to search her phone and find out that she had gotten a new boyfriend that was seeking for her acceptance to tell his parents about their relationship. I then called two of her friends that she chatted about the guy and pretend as if I'm the guy, they all showed positive reaction towards her love for him. I even copied the chat and printed it for her.
Since then, she became annoyed with me and refused both my calls, texts and any other form of communication. I sent several messages, but no reply. I later get another girl which right from the beginning took me to their family. After a while, I called the former one and we greeted. From then, we continue to communicate as if things were normal and she's pretending as if nothing had happened. Pls do I quit the new relationship because of my ex, or I should stop my ex for the new relationship?

ladies ehhh.... Na so I hacked her whatapp, only to see shit, that's her chat with her girlfriend... I kept my cool initially, later I opened up to her, thinking she'd apologize for the shit.....babe begin ask me where I got the permission to access her phone... me cant beg her, ubunja will not be proud of me, hardon will disown me, ilegend will give me knock, she later chatted me up and I was like, "I don't know you will talk to me again", babe said "and you don't seem to care" I laughed in Swahili and Japanese... now I don't give a f**ck because

anslem04:
Bro calm down, she jus a GF not yet ur wife, yu shuld be hapi u av a competition now is d time to show ur manly attributes, show less worry n let her see why u are d best option.
i didnt say impress or go collect renloan to start splashing, stop seein the other guy as a threat. i was two times in ur shoes

In naira Marley's voice..... Alaye calm down joor, she's not ur girlfriend just ur turn

lilmax:
How can a MAN possess this high degree of low self esteem?

He even apologized

If you're asked what she brings to the table I know you will say sex


The good thing here is, you will realize how stupid you were in months to come

, at the bold......

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly. But recently she met a guy who asked her out she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like. I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business. Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. when she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone. When her probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her. I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

UBUNJA's MISEDUCATION: That Lil' Break-up She Initiated For No Reason, she said two weeks and you are begging her, it will end in tears bro.. am waiting for your next post

Daniwak:
I finished service 2016, got my 1st job 2018 April. Though the salary wasn't big, it was just 40k on 6 months contract. In this 6 months, each time i receive salary, the 1st thing i do i transfer 5k, sometimes 7k to bae. I never failed any month. At the expiration of the job, i got another with a 60k salary, i send 7k to bae, 7k to mum, 5k to younger sis. I save the rest for my masters and feeding. I never failed to give bae money any month but i failed mum once. We had issues around May this year, i was complaining to her of not giving me time, all she could call me was a stingy guy, that she has bin wanting to tell me since and its better she told me now. We broke up anyways. We reconciled 2 months ago. I love her i won't lie but each time i remember that she said, i just feel bad and hurt. This is a gal i can categorically tell u apart from sex, ive gained absolutely nothing from here. I want to know if m a stingy person 4 not giving her more

how can i give my mum d same amount I give a hypothetical lady, for a foolish hypothetical love,
my stupidity Neva reach that level bro. And who diverts such ratio of a little stipend of a hypothetically temporal salary to a hypothetical ungrateful bitch of a girlfriend.
I have much to say but am running low in battery...
I don't blame you anyway.... I blame those who banned ubunja.... u need to swallow those redpills

08035718996

dave4rella:


Let her give you hypertension
Before your grammar kills you
Ijiot

do it's beta to die if hypertension than fire for grammar

blackpanthar:
You may not graduate well.

Is life a JOKE to you? is your higher education a PLAY?

Why bring DRAMA into your life when you are not studying theatre arts....

See you both are not MATURE for relationship. you just wanted sex... ADMIT IT and stop deceiving your future... you do not intend to marry her or date her... because you do not even have the fainted clue what DATING is...

why dont you have sense like this? Do you not know what you want in life?

is it time for WOMAN? abi for you to make your life shine so bright any lady will be thankful she has you...

am really sad for you because at your age you should not be having HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE from a Lady, it is understandable if its from your GP but now your BP is on high because of WOMAN...


SEE, Correct your error fast. NYSC is there to meet better and nicer ladies who are SO READY TO BE HUMBLE and settle down...

why did you not break up.... you now come here to ask.... DID YOU SEEK OUR CONSENT WHEN YOU WANTED TO ENTER WHATEVER YOU HAD WITH HER?

You couldnt control yourself when you wanted to get her, now you cant control her too... see you are a BOY, not a MAN.

go and STUDY and DO YOUR PROJECT and stop looking for the wrong advice for the wrong destination.

#BITTER TRUTH

thou shall not murder the op in this manner nah, chaiii

Richnerd69:
So, I have this friend of mine, we were and still best of buddies right from childhood. We are both from humble backgrounds, and still made something tangible out of life.
We've been through alot... We've had each other's backs over the years and still...

Fast forward to early this year around January , my friend Chuks(not real name) met this hot Chick at a party of one of our mutual friend, and they both hooked up and they began dating the following week. Although he's got a girl he wants to marry and they've been dating on and off for yrs since our university days and service days... 2weeks after he met this new girl, she began to spill out some revelations about her family, and it happened to be that she was from a very wealthy home, and not just that, but her father is a well known politician y'all might know in our city, Port Harcourt.

These revelations came after he persuaded her to tell him the source of her luxurious lifestyle, Clothing & jewelry. Ever since, she has been showering my friend chuks with gifts like expensive wrist watches and gadgets ... Some times they go shopping and then adds to his wardrobe collection every month with expensive wears. They eat and drink out at expensive hotels and bars...To ice the cake, on his birthday, she took him out in the night, after he had spent the day out with his wife to be.

This new lady bought him a white Mercedes car and a grand piano (he is a good pianist ) on his birthday in June. That night he professed his love for her and they promised never to leave each other . This got his fiance questioning if he had other side hustles due to his obvious expenses and excess luxury. Tho he can afford them, but the rate at which he gets new and expensive things is alarming.

I've been covering up for him all this while, his main chick complained to me on how he has suddenly changed, and sometimes cancels plans because something always came up. She is a good woman and has been loyal to him over the years. I feel sorry for her.

I've been invited to hangouts with them a few times and I must confess, this lady is in her mid 20's and she's drowning in money . All this has been going on right under his fiance's nose , and now, the great shocker came when she revealed that her dad is having her relocate to Europe to have run her Phd and manage his company over there... Guys, She wants my friend to resign from his 6figure paying job, abandon everything and follow her else they break up and she will forget about him for good. She hasn't assured him a job yet but he's sure of her and she's leaving by December.

Now, I've been talking to him for 2days for him not to let down his fiance, plus he has a good job in one of the oil multinationals in ph and I knew how hard he strived to get to where he is now . He shouldn't just throw everything away for some spoilt rich brat who might dump him...He's beginning to see me as an enemy of progress and He's thinking of resigning next month.

Guys, what would you have him do if you were in his shoes I'm done advising him.

G, your friend is being blind and irrational, give him d advice you can, if he insists to fly away then let him be. A girl that loves you will not give you condition of breaking up, instead she go first go ova there and arrange for your coming..... my niqqa, as am seeing this condition.. AM THINKING IT WILL END IN TEARS..... cos this lady will now be feeling like a god over your friend... I Don talk my own ooo

do you have irritations when under the sun or eating hot food?

PrimadonnaO:
Eyah. They are at that crossroad again

Hard fact is that the relationship has come to an end. Please, let her go, you're not ready.

I have a very unpopular opinion on this. I feel men get more desperate than women about this whole marriage thing.

Most men, they lose their one true love, the yin to their yang in their younger years... because they always feel they are never ready... they are chasing what nobody has asked them to chase.

And then one day, they wake up and realise "well, it's about time." Ironically, they still haven't acquired so much... matter of fact, they have lost more in terms of finances and emotional investments in the wrong people.

But somehow, they suddenly realise they need to get married. And at that very point, the good girls become scarce... the ones who fit perfectly... their preferred kind of woman. When the desired is not available, the available becomes the desired. So it is that men settle... marrying people they may never have otherwise married if they had decided a lot earlier.

Everything is planning. If you find a woman that's down for you regardless of your financial standing, best you make good use of the blessing. Y'all can delay having children for as long as it takes to be more financially capable. I mean, if you can date someone for 2/3 years without once knocking her up, why can't you be disciplined that way in marriage, too?

With unity of direction and hardwork, everything soon falls in place.

But no. You want to make all the money that you will still not make. And by that time the small money that you have will still not be good enough for most of the women that are available. Because they are the ones all out for "what financial improvement can you bring to my life?"

can't believe this piece came from a lady, this is the best write up I av seen this night

Ubunja is a legend man... Twale baba. Learning from people's experience has made me wiser, ubunja 12 cartons of cold Heineken for you ;DUbunja is a legend man... Twale baba. Learning from people's experience has made me wiser, ubunja 12 cartons of cold Heineken for you

Phenomenal16:
Love is blind...marriage is the opener n hypo that will open that ur blind eye,,,,,I wish I can get a man that will do this kind of thing for me....now tell me y would I cheat?
Guy u av tried anyway ....make more moni and give her high bp ...some gals are damn lucky
One thing about gals like this is that they tend to go back to guys who r worse like wtf
Now u know wat? Don't allow ur emotions cloud your thinking faculty ...don't allow it....the brain is for thinking
In conclusion.... Dump her.dump her...close ur eyes n dump the damn cheat...am a gal..but I don't support evil

Hey phenomenal, don't say that if you have this kind of guy, why will you cheat! I use to be a big fan of true love but recently am beginning to question if it exists! you know y? just by being close to someone, with time affection builds up. ya it happens and we say 'I think am falling in Luv with him/her. the problem started when this guy went away for 4 months, his girl and d new guy am sure will always be together and then boom! affection sets in. She's not to be blamed entirely, she's just confused, she will still love this first guy like seriously but she can't help the affection she developed for the second guy. that's women for you!!!
The only way a serious intelligent lady should have fought the upcoming affection is to stay miles away from the new dude.

[quote author=DMerciful post=77030335]Tell her now! She probably likes you too and besides as a man one of your strength is rejection! Women hardly woo men cos they can't stand rejection but for men, rejection is like fowl in football, the game continues! Infact you have a better chance now cos she knows you to some extent and when you do ask her out, do not give her time to think about it. Either she answers you there and then or she forgets it! Giving her time to go and think will land you in the dreaded friendzone! [/quote
thanks boss

ubunja:
you're too late

how?