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CONGRATS SIR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

KoiceReloaded:
I hate the show for a petty reason I don't wanna get into right now.

hi, a link to download lucifer.
thanks

calgaryFriend:
tHAT IS what the OP wrote, she has started nagging her husband because according to her, the man is not doing enough with the 20k/month he is giving her for feeding.

This is how some men will start running away from home and be going to beer parlour, na from there the girlfriend of their friend will bring her own friend. Na so you start to dey loose your husband fa.

I worked in Naija for 6 good years, worked a professional job and saw this narrative countless times.

I just dey warn the OP, make devil nor con pour sand sand for her garri.

I don talk my own.

Sand sand for gari wey don dey sour. Kai, as If marriage is a tournament and the husband a trophy. African women don suffer.


Which money will he give his outside girlfriend that he won't give to his wife. Is it also justified for the wife to get the remainder from an outside boyfriend since the horseband is not coming through.?

Honestly, what you wrote is utterly myopic and devoid of objective reasoning.


You are still evading my questions of the 5k breakdown abi i go wait taya.


i pity the woman for the vulnerability of her condition. If she is not pregnant, i doubt she will open a thread for this, she would have purchased her own form and beat the odds.

I think this is tpia.

A lone-ranger rocking her thoughts alone

calgaryFriend:
It is the truth, you are the one trying to pretend that that is not a real threat.

I bet you know it is, so what is wrong with talking about it ?

It is better for her to learn from the mistake of others and not herself.

You are evading my questions and this threat is getting stale.
A man that can't increase the feeding allowance of his family, will give maintenance allowance to a prostitute from which the supposed "runs girls" will use 10k to cook soup for him? What planet are you lots living in? I think something is wrong somewhere with this reasoning sir.

calgaryFriend:
What should people earning 50k per month do ? Steal ?
Money will never be enough, the onus is on a good wife to be grateful and manage what the husband is able to give her.

Not become an ingrate like the OP is doing.

People are roaming around without job and someone is saying 20k permonth for food for 2 poeple is not enough, that is someones monthly salary you are blowing away.

Be grateful OP, your husband is a hero, dont allow strangers make you belittle your husband, I pray it will not be too late for you to learn.

If you use your attitude to push him away, there are useless slay mamas that will cook correct soup for him with 10k per month and still give him snake in the monkey shadow style in bed fa. .........

10k a month threat from a prostitute that will later cost him his manhood. For real.
Emotionally blackmailing women by dishing out what you cannot take is a faux pas in this 21st century. If you think your 20k a month feeding allawee is feasible, run it down let's see sir. People are watching this thread to see if they are over spending and ways to cut down, so do well to enlighten us. No point giving vague remarks .

sassysure:
Seriously

Do u know that some people here have passed that stage and talking from experience?
So it's poor people that will manage 20k a month?
Okokobioko

This forum is beau

Do kindly be objective here by running the scale on how the money can be spent. Stop trying to whip up sentiments, ma'am.

How much is the soup money? even if it is one soup in a week?
Breakfast for the seven days.

Come on guys bring it on please.

Even if they are buying foodstuffs in bulk, half bag of rice is already 7.5k, yam, beans, oil both vegetable oils, a month provisions nko, abi na aboki tea dem go dey drink .... how much go remain.

calgaryFriend:
So based on all this scary things you typed here, therefore how much do you think the man should be dropping in a month ?
For your information an entry level graduate in most states in Nigeria earns less than 50k.

So for a family where the husband is an entry level government worker earning 50k how much do you think he should drop for feeding ?

Please lets be realistic here, 20k for feeding is just too much sef, except they dont plan on building there own house, then let them continue blowing there salary on food.

This is what i wrote for the lady above. Help plan this 5k per week stuff let see how feasible it is. The feeding money is 20k right for one month? A horseband and wife with a baby on the way.
Break it down on how they will spend it on food. Give me a feeding plan for one week for this couple all things being equal using 5k per week.

sassysure:
So if u want to eat rice, u cook one cup, tomorrow, if u want to prepare soup, u prepare for one serving only?
Anybody who don't buy thing in stock is a bad home keeper.
How do u do that.usave from what was giving you. From there, u buy half bag of rice, garri, beans, oil etc.
Sometimes, u take out of non feeding money to stock your house and keep build back from what is giving to u.

No wonder some homes are on fire.

We can break it down.
If your husband earns 100k in a month( average middle income earning) and gives u20k for feeding in a month and u said it's not enough, your husband will die before age 50.
Add extended family, house rent, utility, transport,miscellaneous and sickness, then savings. Nothing to save again anyway.

U guys should take it easy o
There is God o

The feeding money is 20k right for one month? A horseband and wife with a baby on the way.
Break it down on how they will spend it on food. Give me a feeding plan for one week for this couple all things being equal using 5k per week.

nwanneni:
if you know me well you go know say I no dey build future around any child!
Very volatile scenario.
N.a. una sabi.all of you know the truth but una no want gree.
The husband no get car refuse say make madam no use.just a problem. Of preference.
Shebi una be feminist now.make madam make herself comfortable as much as she wants now
I no go suffer my woman at all.i cannot have something and deprive her of it.
But in this case,a guy's gotta chose you know.
Pikin weh go grow know say mama say papa must buy car instead of building himself and supports mama is a confirm ote!
Abi make den buy car now and later no fit train pikin for school
N.a. wah o

Wetin concern me. Mama go still download your tori for pikin if you treat mama like that and na only kaikai bayelsa dey go dey buy for you not even Jack Daniels or Johnny Walker.

calgaryFriend:
Are you saying all the pregnant women in Nigeria have the luxury of a car ? If they do not, did anything happen to those children ?
Even here in North America pregnant nursing mothers use the transit , being pregnant is not a reason to buy a car. The poster does not even go out, she is home all day did you not read that part ?

Calgary friend, the lady is a fashion designer not your typical housewife and the post you quoted was meant for the fellow specifically. He has issues with men taking care of their wives or rather issues with wives asking for favours from their horsebands. Thank you.

Meanwhile, I have issues with the feeding aspect and it seems as if you are accustomed to Nigerian feto-maternal mortality rates indices and their various causes/predisposing factors especially poor nutritional intake, please do well to find out.
The inherent maternal and fetal morbidity caused by poor nutritional intake during pregnancy in Nigeria is alarming. Is it the anaemia, preterm birth, neurological deficits in babies like neural tube defects and micro-nutrients deficiencies? This is coupled with the environmental risks factors pregnant women are exposed to.

calgaryFriend:
How many house wives get 20k a month for feeding from their husbands in Nigeria ?
This is sounding very ridiculous now, for 2 people 20k to feed is not enough ? You want the man to go and steal ? What is wrong with you people ?You want to eat your future away now ?

For a man that earns less than 100k a month and the wife does not work you say 20k on feeding is not enough a month, no wonder we have all these poor people roaming around.

So how much would be enough ? They should be spending half of the monthly salary on feeding , just 2 people ?

Are they not going to pay rent ?

Why do women reason like this ? It is sooooooooo unfortunate.

Oga i am not your typical Nigerian with poverty ridden mentality. Even coppers with their 19850 allawee no get savings, just feeding themselves and they are crying all over the place, talk more of a full grown adults with a baby en-tow. Baba, if 20k is the monthly allawee for the house, please keep it and manage it yaself.
Thanks.

nwanneni:
call me whatever you like...I don't mind.
Like say you will leave shaping up your business or preping up yourself for a bigger tomorrow to buy a car for a lady because she is pregnant.
I am just saying what I will do if I were in their shoes.not like I will let my woman fly okada or so.
I have cars that really don't do much already. I wouldn't even get married if I am not fully prepared for it.

Funny how you refer to her as a lady not his wife A lady he wedded who is carrying his child. As if the Nigerian horseband will allow her to even drive the car to begin with. Continue doing yaself, you think say you dey do me. Las las, na one bottle of hot drink the pikin go dey give you at every visit after the mother don download the story of their birth to them.
Save that money wella cos na your retirement be that.

sassysure:
Let us look at this holistically.

A wife and her husband spending 5k for feeding in a week?
Damn!

And she said it's not enough.
Unless there are other things apart from feeding.
Hmm.
That means, when kids come, it will be more than 10k a week.
There is God o

I have long observed here that sometimes stories are exaggerated. It takes insight to put bits together so as not to be biased.

5K a week is for lower lower middle class in a low income cities. They can only survive on this if they have every foodstuffs and the 5k is for one pot of soup and one pot of stew for a week.
She has to add or else they will starve. 5k is too poor to feed a full-grown adult with an equally full-grown pregnant wife. What about the cravings....

nwanneni:
It is not the best thing to do but isn't such a big deal in this case.
now this is the reason why it happened like that.
The husband of the lady makes all the money himself and is at crossroads here.
Does he buy a liability or procure an asset?
Now going with womanly advise or opinion(especially the ones that don't make any money) can be catastrophic here.she would want that car of course so she can pose to her unmarried friends hence discourage every idea of the husband procuring his education instead!
That is what I feel happened.

Your sense of reasoning is totally indescribable. Men don't carry babies that is why somebody like you will tell a pregnant woman and soon to be mother that a car is not a necessity. You prefer her hopping okada and keke with a baby tied to her back instead of getting a car to ease the stress. I barf on your behalf.

Snow1:
Got my IELTS, once without hassle. Scores needed for visascreen for USA. Believe yourself and trust God and you can do it. I took my IELTS, 10 days after my NCLEX. I actually booked ahead before my NCLEX exam. Thank God.

yOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

kevin25:
Lunatic continue ranting no go take ur drugs slowpoke

HOMEWRECKER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

kevin25:
every body cant be like you lunatic

Unrepentant home-wrecker and rumormonger. Your type will find it difficult to marry because you are an irredeemable and documented pauper, who is patiently and jealously waiting for crumbs from the tables of their friends rich wives.
Jealousy kill you dia, ingrate animal sired by extinct orangutan species.

phenylalanine:
Sorry if i sound rude, but don't u think the woman felt u are the one giving her husband bad advice and don't want to see u in the house, normally some women will pretend until the visit leaves b4 showing their character again.

On point sir.
Next time, na hot water the woman go pour for him body.
Yeye gossiper and hopeless home-breaker.

lumeedee:
Pls I need help with this request o

Please does anyone have a reliable contact for nursing license verification at NMC Abuja?
Thank you

NMCN does not waste time anymore in verifying certificate. Just pay and submit everything. They are efficient and reliable now.
I was waiting for my tracking number three weeks after submission only to be informed by CGFNS that they have received my docs without hassles or the usual errors.

eni4real:
That is the scenario!! The husband ask the wife to dish her food.... The wife refused and ask him to dish it himself. She did that in the presence of a guest...
How is that not disrespectful

If this happen in Nollywood, family meeting is the next step...

Except you are referring to your maids and kids that is when the scenario will be disrespectful. When you realize that you are addressing your wife, the person that compliments your effort in all things then i am not seeing any disrespect. It will be very disrespectful for you if you view your wife as your housemaid.
Meanwhile, where you there sir? How can you gauge the tone the man used in communicating to his wife? I still reiterates that actions and reactions are equal and opposite. He should've choose his battle wisely. He knew that all is not well with his relationship with his wife and to crown it all her believes that it is his right to order his wife around, the woman who provides and cooks the food he eats. He got served.

pandv:
you never disappoint. but how can you know when a woman is submissive to you?

When you have peace of mind in your home, it means that someone is loving and another is submitting. You can't have submission without love unless you are living in West Point.

Submissiveness in Nigeria context is one of the over-exaggerated words ever used. Nobody will be 100% submissive in this 21st century not even kids.

eni4real:
"Dear pls dish my food" is a disrespectful call right??
That is immaturity on the part of the woman. There is nothing disrespectful in that!!!

I didn't read where the man said dear dish my food Please where is it ? He must have exhibited the usual Nigerian men character and was shocked to the marrow by the reaction.
Action and reactions are always equal and opposite.
No woman will wander away at the sound of a pet name, she will snicker and behave anyhow but will still respond somehow.

Billy0naire:
You are a typical timid man that is incapable of understanding that cerebral power is the divine order. I am a man, a real man and not a snow flake. I am such man that is not afraid of the devil and not even the Gods. But even as tough as I am, if I ever get challenged intellectually by a woman, I am humble enough to admit to learn from that woman. If she is more wealthy, then there is something she knows more about money that the man does not know, so what makes the man superior to the woman? His dick? His name? or his ego?

I am of the opinion that Gender is a farce, and brain power is ultimate. Success leaves clues and if the woman makes more money, she is more experienced in conversion of intellectual and intuitive functionalities to material gains.

So, the woman is absolute head of that home and the man should wash the fuccking plates or go out there a be a man and bring money and respect to the home and himself.

Full stop to foolishness of snowflakes and weak men who think they deserve Glory because they were birth with a phallus.

Respect is Earned and Money is Key to any earnings.

TELL THEM SIR.

victorDanladi:
Please tell us how you've not reduced your husband and in what way have you shown him respect if you do all you posted above

What is disrespectful about how she and her husband relates? If you questions how this person lives with her husband, what it means is that you do not know the meaning of a wife.



I think what most Nigerian men mean when they mention wife is a MAID.

The statistics of men creating threads and crying over women on the internet is skyrocketing.
They thought they are strong but alas .............................

caridi:
Oh that's very good... I'm really happy for you. unfortunately, I was already sensitized before I got to know about rhesus compatibility

You had an abortion/miscarriage in your youth?.
The well-being of the baby will be checked during the pregnancy. If tests shows that the fetus has severe anemia, early delivery (before 37 weeks of pregnancy) may be necessary. That's if the baby survives the first and second trimester.
Another option may be to give a blood transfusion through the umbilical cord while the fetus is still in the woman’s uterus. If the anemia is mild, the baby may be delivered at the normal time. After delivery, the baby may need a blood transfusion to replace blood cells..
Expensive and very tricky.

OR
GET A RHESUS NEGATIVE SPERM FOR INSEMINATION.

GOODLUCK

Mindfulness:
Preach sister.
Disclaimer note: The list is still incomplete.



Exactly! And on top of it all women still contribute to the family's income.

Weaker vessel my foot. Then they will even have the guts to die earlier.



What a question! How old are you? You can't see that most of these things MUST be done daily and weekly?
And when I say that only inexperienced boys argue on such threads, they get upset.

Their arguments pisses me off.
We have accepted our fate so men should man up to their responsibilities.

Snow1:
My IELTS result will be out next week, I believe I will pass it. I think I will apply also to WEST WAYS, but from research, they seem not to reimburse parts of the Nclex journey.
SHEAR WATER HEALTH: I think they are good, unfortunately my recruiter assigned to me wasn't friendly, can't explain and didn't follow up my mails. I had to leave them.
INTERSTAFF: Have booked for Skype interview, however have been postponing it.
ADEX: Have not applied.


The actual truth: Before sponsoring myself for Nclex, many people were like "the agencies will reimburse you"...This is a CAPITAL LIE, they will just reimburse parts. Only 1or 2 might reimburse the trans-fare to write Nclex, which I believe is where I spent the bulk money.

If someone has posted this, I would have prepared my mind better.
Many won't understand, till you pass Nclex and come to a fix like me, looking for agency that will reimburse the trans-fare....lolz

I wasn't banking on the refund at all. i have a feeling i is going to be a semi-scam something. I just want to be able to get visa sponsorship without the 100 -200 bedded hospital wahala.
Can you give me a break down from Visa application to writing NCLEX in the Philipines. The nitty-gritties. cost, hotel, visa etc. It will be much appreciated

Iamemblem:
For the hardcopy or just soft copies?

Please go to telegram and download as much NCLEX books as you want. Do not let anybody open market for your head.

biGDhAp:
.. lol ..


are this done everyday ,weekly or monthly??

You should get married to find out. Or maybe you should co-habit with married couples since you didn't grow up in a family house.