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Just negodu

So sad but suicide is not the solution.
I hope the guy gets prosecuted.

Someone must be in charge of his wardrobe and that person is not doing a good job.

Find an elderly person you can confide in in your family.Maybe your father's brother.
You can simply tell him to visit your house that his attention is needed to sort things.
How old are you?The best thing would have been for you get your own accommodation.

People are just crazy.Evil people.
One of those times jungle justice is prescribed.

The person must be joking or must be living in fantasy.

He could still have gotten a club in the premier league in Turkey or Portugal or la liga.Why a championship club?

Wow

'Fell on a broken sisha pot'?Who gave her this lie,her lawyer?
Nonsense.

Paedophiles deserve harsh punishments.
Like mutilating their preeks.

I do not see anything wrong in a woman buying a property in her own name.
I have a problem however with her(or him) buying it without the knowledge of the spouse.You don't trust each other?What kind of marriage is that?

I'm sure he beat her while pregnant.Why didn't she move out?

Those hips are surgically enhanced of course.She didn't need to go under the knife.She was okay the way she was before.She just needed to hit the gym.
Few years down the line,she might require another surgery and things will just go downhill.

She doesn't want to abort it,so for how long will you keep it hidden from your fiancée?
You better tell her and damn the consequences.
You knew what you were heading for having unprotected sex with another person when you had a fiancee.

LaClickLaBend:
wife not slave

Read well NOT just quote.

PrimadonnaO:
It's high time y'all stopped this argument. Don't make her do something under the justification that she would enjoy it. If she wants it, let her initiate it. Haven't you heard that about a 90% of women don't reach orgasm during penetrative sex? So this enjoyment y'all keep clamouring for is ASSURED for the man alone.

If she wants it, and since she'd enjoy it as you say, then let her initiate it herself! The truth remains that most women can very comfortably do without sex, but a man can't. Ordinary two months of no sex and they start getting cranky and all, when a woman can do 2 years, no sex!

You have interpreted my statement the way you wanted it.You are probably 'cranky' about sex.
Nowhere in my statement did I say or indicate that a man has to force his wife to enjoy sex or that she must not intiate it.All you wrote in bold was not necessary.
That's why I corrected the person I quoted that it is lovemaking and not just sex.

I hope you enjoy sex.

Mariangeles:
How come it's "She...she...she " ??

Is it all up to the woman ??
Na wah o!

Read my subsequent comments.
It is NOT all up to the woman.

The wife will be distraught.
Crazy things dey dis world.

TEYA:
My point is inasmuch as rape is illegal, you as a person must take certain measures to protect yourself, you cannot live carefreely and assume every human being is law abiding and cares about your rights. You cant take a stroll in sambisa forest and be seeking for justice if boko haram attacks you.

I agree with you about taking precautions but the suspect in this case was not a total stranger. He was a friend.

TEYA:
Go and roam about the streets of warri in the middle of the night, that does not give criminals the right to harass you.

Is crime legal?Do criminals get punished when caught?
You need to understand that it's not about what people may do, it's about doing what is right.

DerideGull:
Why did she not think of possible rape when she visited a young man alone in a room? Please think before you take leap.

Rather you think that sex without consent is rape and there is a law against it!

Big boys.

Book dem no go read

Evil that men do.

^^^^^A lady in your house gives you no right to rape her.
When you live in civilized societies,you will understand better.

bukatyne:
How can a business woman be a full time housewife except you are talking selling groundnuts in front of the house?

People who grow their businesses kind of have less time than their employed counterparts; they only have a less rigid schedule.

As per your neighbor, she is out of the house all day with the kids so how does she handle child care/chores?

I thought you said full working wife not full time housewife?
It's the flexibility that they take advantage of.
Her day can't start until she bathes,feeds and get the kids ready for school.She drops them off and goes about her business.
The kids don't finish from school until about 4:30pm because they do lessons too.
Weekends,her husband is around so they can both take care of the children.

bukatyne:
This only caters to dropping them off.

How does she really care for the kids?

I am talking about a full working wife.

People who have their own businesses are 'full working wives' too or do you mean women who work with organisations alone?
My neighbour is a caterer.She does the school runs for the children.Takes them to school and goes out to sort her own business.
She picks them from school and they come back together late evening,so she works her schedule around the children.

I guess your topic addresses people who work in paid employment more.It's almost impossible without a help,grandma or aunt.

jasonguru:
There is a statement that I don't understand, how can a human being bless God?

It means exalt or praise.

imnotconfused:
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Hello thorpido,please can you expand on the bolded?I mean the easier bit?I hope you don't mind me asking.

Maybe easier is not the word to use.
Women are better at multitasking.

JoannaSedley:
The op said couple not wife alone.
Imagine a wife working in the island going back to pick her kids in mainland then returning to work in the island then going back to mainland at the end of the day. That's like how many hours of shuttling to and fro ....kikikiki. Most of the time this is done on a public transport while Oga goes to work with the family car. Taking your kids to your place of work ...I wonder how many bosses can accept that.
The wife will do all this things then come back wash, cook and clean and then be expected to fvck all night long. Marriage is becoming less appealing as the days go by. This is no longer the era when you have relatives from all angle flooding your house.

You have to read well. Not everyone works for people or live on the mainland working on the Island.
I wrote that specifically addressing the woman who has her own business. I also said wife because it's easier to handle for women.

It's not in every home that the woman does the cooking,cleaning and washing ALL by herself.
The sex issue.....she is not one like a bottle of beer where the one who drinks enjoys the beer but the bottle itself gains nothing. It's love making........not just for the man.
Choose the right man to marry.

Sit him down and have a talk with him.
Tell him his recklessness with money makes you unhappy and that you want him to work with you to improve on it.
Tell him to keep money in an account that he can 't easily access or keep with you.He can only take the money if he has a genuine need.

If he doesn't show willingness to improve,you know what to do.

bukatyne:
Good evening house,

The Topic already explains itself.

In Lagos of today, how do a working couple with kids survive without a maid?

Practical examples pls.

I think it depends (more) on the type of work the wife is doing.If she is self-employed, she arranges her work schedule around her kids.
She drops them in school,goes to her work,picks them up after school,they go to her place of work together,she closes and takes them home.

You are an introvert, op,aren't you?