₦airaland Forum

Well,you put the cart before the horse.
It is plan well first,have a stable source of income, marry............and have a baby.
Not have a baby and then not have money to marry or struggle to feed.

As it is,you better cut your loss and plan on moving forward as a single mother.You will be wasting your time and dragging yourself forward if you keep trying to make your baby papa marry you.

Seahawk:
Not when the person is a 26 year old woman

As long as she's under my roof, I will still exercise some authority and guidance or she has to leave my house.

Ishilove:
The lady is TWENTY SIX, not SIXTEEN. A lot of her peers are married with kids at that age. Which counseling do you want to give a grown ass woman that her own mum has not already given her?? They sent her to computer school but the aunty carried her two left legs to waka iranu waka, and got pregnant in the process.

The lady is already spoilt rotten from the 'village' and is solely responsible for her own actions.

I agree she's matured enough but still not too old to be guided.
The moment you come under my roof,you become my responsibility and I would be involved in your lifestyle somehow.
If I see you show signs of waywardness,I'll call your parents/guardian and inform them you are coming back.
I agree some village girls can be spoilt rotten but remember she didn't get pregnant in the village.She probably didn't have the freedom she's had in the city.

Not exactly your mom's fault but if you bring a girl from the village to stay with you,you should have spent time educating and counselling her.
The moment you notice anyhow waka,you put her on the next night bus.

Boys for city tear eye and 'bush meat' dey quick fall.

The milk is spilt and there is little you can do now.Your mom has to take part of the blame.When someone is staying with you,you are responsible for that person's care and guide.

gabazin080:
I spend plenty of quality time with them during weekends. we go out but not together most times because am someone who doesn't like attention. whenever we go shopping together, I always feel like the center of attraction because of the numbers I took with me.
so most times I only go out shopping with my son and buy things for those at home.


am not enjoying it but I just find it hard to love them equally.
I need help

Why don't you start by CONSCIOUSLY rotating who you take out if you won't take all of them out at the same time.
Also since you've identified the other twin as your least favourite,consciously spend time with her.
Don't make your girls especially feel like the boy is preferred.

Raising children is not just an emotional thing,it's a conscious effort to do right.
Work on your relationship with your wife too.

Heartbender:
And his name is Christian (which means "Christ-like". These are the ones y'all let yourselves emulate

Such an irony.

Well I hope the reforms continue to better women's lives.

Such crude and chauvinistic laws in the first place.

Na your job cause am.
To dey wait nowadays dey leave women for 'shelf'.

slawomir:
Please just stop arguing and visit a government hospital then sleep there for maybe two days and see how people die eaisly

You can argue with me because you have not been to a government hospital once especially any university teaching hospital and see how people die everyday

Am just angry with you

I work in a government hospital.
Stop generalising and stop painting everywhere black.You really can't appreciate the efforts of health workers until you spend time(not visit) around these hospitals.

People die every time,with or without treatment.

I have a treatment for your anger.

LZAA:
Bro u sabi work
Teaching wetin?na so one of my gees been dy down dat time na im d nurses dia dy do anyhow
Manage see doctor lo and behold baba dy use tab check symptoms [/b]of wetin homie dy tell am
Just happy say no be serious ish then
Teaching wey?lie lie

That's not a strange thing.Medicine is evolving and treatment modalities keep changing.
Why is it called a [b]teaching hospital anyway?

slawomir:
Isoright

So you get mind carry her go government hospital

He be like say her case nor worse

If not that woman for don die

The easiest way to kill your relative or friend just take them to government hospital especially a university teaching hospital
I bet with my balls they will die within two days because the non commitment and lackadaisical attitude of workers in government hospital is second to none

How many teaching hospitals have you been to?Make una stop to dey rubbish the efforts of health workers in Nigeria.You don't know how much efforts some put into their jobs......even paying for treatments of patients with their own money.

Such a pity.Force feeding a baby can be dangerous.

Worth the tears of joy.
Congrats to her.

Was it necessary to disfigure the skin?How will that stop him from still lying?

Mad people everywhere.

Replace it.

Dad's job was too risky.Don't know how life would have been if I grew without my father.

Looks like the baby didn't come with the deformity(though she might carry the gene).
Love is a beautiful thing.

1stpikin:
so pathetic. The bitter truth is that no one knows when his/her time is up.



Its well.

This one chose his own time,his time was not up.

Should have sought help rather than take his life.If he had asked Basket for help,won't he oblige him?He chickened out too easily.

Ishilove:
Olumba Olumba junior is still alive and propagating his father's heresies

Yes,it's the son,Roland that's running the church now but they keep deceiving their followers that he is 'on the mountain' somewhere and still delivering prophecies.

Olumba Olumba is dead.

Foolish girl abi woman.
She doesn't know bigamy is a crime?She says the lady is looking for her husband like he's a criminal but he is!

God will move His hand in this country just like it happened with Abacha.We won't remain this way as a country.

Those girls have nothing to lose.

See his ugly face.
Ugly face,ugly heart,ugly character,ugly life.

Tufiakwa.

They just look stupid when they wear this kind of clothes.Anyway,the madman's displays in the market can be a source of entertainment.

Abasi akan.
Pray o......especially when you have a big event coming up.The forces always want to turn your joy to sorrow.

Abasi akan.

mamatwiny:
Bloggers! How can fibroid be 38weeks?

They mean size of a 38week pregnancy.

SAMBARRY:
now look at it in this perspective. Who are the professors and lecturers in public universities? They're the middle class people these elites are trying to manipulate and impoverish by not paying them their salary and allowing the educational system to break down. They know once the masses kids have poor quality of education, then they'll be no better than their illiterate parents and the elite kids who studied in ivy league universities will be able to use money,sound and in depth knowledge from prestigious universities to rule their contemporaries who went to oou,uniben etc and will also be gullible and if the lecturers aren't paid salaries, they will be too weak to fight and revolt despite the knowledge they have and the little money they have will only be used for survival.I wish youth of this generation can think deeply and objectively,but unfortunately the elites are happy the youths are totally clueless to the havoc they have done. They don't even know the elites have sold their future and that of their great grand kids

And that's why you see the rich marrying the rich,you rarely or almost non existently see the rich marrying the middle class or poor

Obj pikin marry omo baba ijebu

Shebi there is moshood abiola polytechnic in Abeokuta and baba obj is from Abeokuta, why him pikin no marry any girl from mapoly? He also has a farm in ota,why him pikin no marry one of his farmers daughter?

He has friends who are professors,pastors and lecturers (middle class people) why he no match make him son with pastors daughter? Maybe like adeboyes daughter? Why adebutus daughter?even when they all knew the marriage will not work

The conspiracy is a grand one.

SAMBARRY:
bros,its a closed case.its like you don't know how desperate these people are to hold on to power and leave the power within their family like its some kind of family business or occult?

If the middle class didn't blow that opportunity jona gave them,then we can be talking about "its not a closed case'.Jonathan gave these people ONCE IN A LIFE TIME OPPORTUNITY that NOBODY WILL EVER GIVE THEM.the door that has been locked out for the middle class and the poor for 50 something years,a man came and opened the door and instead of the middle class to quickly run inside,grab the key and ensure that this door is continually opened for them,they just went inside and lost focus and were carried away with the glamor and office of which the gate keepers at the door were not happy and when the man who opened the door left,they grabbed the key back AND NOT ONLY SHUT THE DOOR BUT PUT PEOPLE THERE that will ensure that they don't even go near the door


These elites know that if the middle class who are majorly educated get hold of power in mass, e don be for them.they have no other future or hope.because these desperate cabals aren't as educated as the middle class hence they will flight like a desperate and wounded lion to see that the middle class will not get there and they also know the middle class will expose their secrets,bring about access to education and enlightenment and they will no longer see anyone to be bowing to them or kissing their asses.no one will be rankadedeing them,no body will be ready to lie down for them to walk over.their prestige and future is gone forever so they will never let the middle class get there

Hmmm,na wa o.God help us.

SAMBARRY:
lmaoooo unfortunately the educated middle class with (masters and PhDs) or entrepreneurs and bank workers don't have the financial resources that these political elites have to break the yoke.

The thing with elites is that as they're living power or a "juicy office", they're planting their kids who studied in Harvard,Cambridge and Oxford to continue the oppression and close door policy from where they stopped. Look at the saraki empire in kwara state for example. That man has his wife,children, in-laws, siblings, grandchildren etc planted in key places in kwara where the shots are called, so how the middle class wan take get voice?

Moreso the truth is the middle class have blown a life time opportunity they had.they had that in Jonathan era.when Jonathan was there, he really empowered the middle class financially and instead of the middle class to use that opportunity to quickly entrench themselves in power when they were given opportunity and a voice, they were Carried away by the money and frenzy/glamour.now jona don comot office so the middle class in Nigeria are not really relevant. They're just floating. In Nigeria you either have,excessively .as in extravagantly rich or abjectly poor.the middle class are only trying to survive so even when they have the education, knowledge and expertise, they don't have money and crafty wisdom the elites have

That's true but it is not a totally closed case yet.
Someday we will have sincere educated middle class who will infiltrate the rich politicians/elites and play a fast one on them and wrestle power.