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The wife should face prosecution for assault.She doesn't know her husband is the one he has business with.
What kind of man doesn't stay at home on new year day?The wife doesn't satisfy you so a teenage girl becomes your option.Mtcheeew

15yr old girl starting too early to sleep with a married man sef.Where are her parents?

jaybeyblu:
@op you have to work on healing first and recovery from the trauma of your past before you may be able to function properly, the anxieties and depression you feel is an after math of the abuse you suffered. I suggest you see a psychologist, but if you are unable to do so, you could check the internet and look for ways you can heal from emotional abuse. You can also join a group of people (there are lots) or a forum where you interact with people who have gone through similar abuse and are recovering, just like a support system. As for changing your job, most bosses shout, you have to work on your self first if not you would keep changing jobs. Are you a christain? If you are i suggest you get some books on mental health and emotional healing, i can recommend the book; beauty for ashes, by joyce meyer. I hope this helps. *Hugs*

Follow this.
You need to work on your mind and mental health.You are having issues related to your past experience that's affecting you.
Just get help like the poster above said.Develop your mind and your spirit with the Word of God
....forgetting what lies behind but reaching forward to what lies ahead.(Phil.3:13)

Retaliate how?She wants to play away match too?

What's a sparkling clean joystick?

You can only pray for your sister that they should be able to come around and do the right thing.
You can't threaten the boyfriend,if he doesn't do anything,you can't force him.
It's your sister who hasn't made herself that valuable.

There's a possibility that he might not marry your sister afteral.Just prepare to help train her kids.

No matter the circumstances of your birth,you need to know you are beautifully and wonderfully made.You didn't choose how you came.
I once dated a lady who didn't know her father too.The man got the mother pregnant and disappeared.

AfroKnight:
Which league? My friend, let us face reality

Who's topping the league right now?

Arsenal just can't be trusted tho.

They look nice.

.......If only Arsenal will win the league this year.

herboshedhe:
Family,family,family...thorpido,thank you so much!!!

Awww,thanks.2016 will be a great year.Believe

Urine:
Seriously? You have valid proof that they were going to travel and never come back with the baby? This is not that kids first trip out of the country with her father, why is this trip different?

Immigration stopped them on the grounds that the mother's consent was not given.At other times,consent would have been given by the mother,for them to have travelled.
That tells you something was wrong this time.

Urine:
Treated her like a doormat? She is being paid 300k monthly, 2 years rent in Lekki paid, 500k for Christmas, and trips abroad. They both have issues but this girl is living the life, the only reason why this happened was because she wasn't part of this trip.

@bolded,what they wanted to do was run away with a child without the consent of the mother.In developed countries,this is a big issue that attracts jail time.
It's more serious than any money she was receiving.

They had known each other for a while and as adults had a sexual relationship.
The baby had to be born first so they could conduct a DNA test to ascertain that the child was truly his own.
It's only right to let a man know he is the father of the child you bore as a woman.It doesn't mean you want to release the child.
I hope this answers your questions.

fabre4:
Shey he just picked her and impregnated her
secondly why did she inform him of his child after she had been born if she she was sure it was his child
Thirdly why did she inform him of his child if she didn't want him to keep the child

For how long have you been waiting?Have you run tests to identify the area of the challenge?

Na now Davido dey get sense.He suppose go meet am and dobale.
Mr Dele Momodu didn't have to go about it that way on social media but the way your family was treating the child's mother was bad.
You don't impregnate a lady and start treating her like a doormat.

UIA04:
Irresponsible Marijuana smoking kids bringing shame to their families imagine a whole Dr adeleke being dragged into this

If he didn't train his son well,he would be dragged into it.

Move on man!
You should be concerned with what you are making out of your life now.Do you have a new job or business you are running?Think of building that.

This Davido sef.....
Na girl wey no know im level cos am.

Onegai:
I don't know how they can make that mistake. One is deeply uncomfortable and gets worse, the other just feels urgent and a need to release. l

It happens usually to first timers.All they feel is the pressure down there and they just want to release it.

Miracle baby.
Some pregnant women don't know the difference between the urge to poo and labour contractions.

Evil that men do.

Young ladies and waka waka.
May God guide the steps of the youths.

RIP young lady

Why did you have to build on such a foundation?You didn't have to accept to marry him in the first place.
For how long do you intend to keep using contraceptives?
I think you should give the marriage a chance.Why not move to Canada where he is?

babythug:
This is well said. And from that post the guy in question did mention that he cousin had already determined to buy some kitchen items himself but expected the lady to buy or rather have started buying.

I can't understand why he wanted to discard her because of a *mere that* sha!

I think he stated that she was working and he didn't see what 'assets' she had from her income.
He's probably also one of those men who think a girl's competence in the kitchen is top priority.

damiso:
Oh well I guess different strokes. But he could have as well told her na?

See now the 'wifely' lady that bought kitchen stuff was not married and now wants her stuff back

That's why I think the 'Is he/she wife/husband material '? question can never be fully exhausted.

Yea,it's different things for different folks but I don't think a lady should do too much.

kasheemawo:
I am not intelligent

I thought as much too.

Rather than bring scriptures to support your points,all you can write is a dum.b comment.

Shinatu:
We are instructed to celebrate his death and resurretion- Esther, may provide the scripture if I am able to get some time to look for it, it is with Christmas that there are no direct instructions, but as you mentioned the purpose is clear.

There was no instruction to celebrate His birth in the scripture but it wasn't written anywhere too that there was a law against it or that it was a sin.
When Jesus was born,the bible records that three wise men came to visit him and brought gifts of gold,frankisense and myrrh.The question is who told them to bring those stuffs?Was it in the law of Moses?
You see things like this are not expressly stated and that is why God gave us His Spirit and the liberty we have in Him.
The most important thing is that it's not a sin.

damiso:
He should be the one embarrassed that he only had stainless steel plates.

I don't even think 'setting the house' is a bad thing per se as many engaged couples actually get/and furnish an apartment together.

But to be reconsidering her marriage suitability based on the fact that she served him/friend or relatives with the plates available at the time in his house I don't get.

Getting an apartment and furnishing together is alright as long as they both decide to do it.

I think this guy in question thinks the kitchen department should be taken care of by his fiancee and suitability for marriage depends on how well she does it.

damiso:
Don't worry I bought some new ones How many times or people are we hosting sef? No be only me and am dey use wine glass?

I hate clutter so taken the old ones to the charity shop. I chuck out anything that I have not used in 2/3 years and when I buy stuff I tend to give away or throw away the old ones. My mother is horrified


My biggest fear is my house turning to my mothers My mother has enough plates, cups, coolers etc to cater to a 500 guest party. Expensive ones o . But when we have a big party we get caterers who end up providing the table placement which includes plates,cutlery and serving stuff ie chafing dishes . I don't get it Her former argument was 'I am buying for you people you will people will thank me when you marry ' ;DPeople being me and my sister but now me and my sister don't even want them

I asked cos if it was in his house I don't get how the girl should be the embarrassed one?

I think it was his house though I don't think it was stated.He expected her to 'set' the house while planning for marriage.

kasheemawo:
what is your bible verses saying categorically that man should marry one wife? Anyway most of Christian doings are no inside bible eg Christmas, esther, father Christmas etc

'And He answered and said unto them,have ye not read,that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female,and said,for this cause shall a man leave father and mother,and shall cleave to his wife(N.B.,not wives): and they twain(meaning two- not three or four) shall be one flesh?(Matthew 19:4-5).

Show me where it is written in the quran that you must go to the university!

The key thing about Christmas is the purpose and understanding of why Jesus came.That is what the Christian celebrates.For Easter,we celebrate His death and resurrection which was for a purpose!
If you study the bible,you will find the purpose there and that is all that matters.

babythug:
Just a few days ago, one nairalander claimed his cousin was about to ditch a chic because they were engaged and the lady wasn't purchasing kitchen items or something like that. He felt she wasn't ready for marriage! What had happened was the said lady served food to her fiance/boyfriend and a guest with stainless steel plates and he was so embarrassed and felt she should have/own more decent plates....

so you see the dilemma single women are sometimes placed in

Tearoses beat me to some of the points i wanted to raise.
When a man is a bachelor,he must have things in the house that are sufficient for his bachelorhood at least.When I was a bachelor,I had a camp gas and had ceramic plates.That was all i needed.I didn't need any woman to buy and bring any other thing and whoever came to my house used what I had.
After you marry,you can decide(usually would) to change those things.At that time the woman can decide to buy new ones.

The case you mentioned,was it not his house?Why didn't he put those things there?Whatever you have in the house as a bachelor is what you use.When you visit the lady's home,she serves you with what she has.When you marry,you can both decide to change whatever you desire.
There should still be limits even while courting.A fiancee is not yet a wife.

kasheemawo:
What if Nigeria pastors are allowed to marry more than one wife wont this adultery stop? Abi what is essence of one wife and Hundred concubines?

Is it every man/pastor that is keeping concubines?
God didn't say man should marry 3 or 4 wives.It's the lust of men that brought that about.

These evil people just wasting the lives of young innocent girls.
By the way she's married and divorced already.Wish all these child bride thing can stop.

Miami11:
Some parents are never helpful with such situations

Some play favors and even fuel more division in kids

Trust me my own mother cannot handle a family feud.

You're right in some cases parents take sides especially if they have a favourite.