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It will depend on what his long term goals are.Does he want to settle in Nigeria in the future?He should take up the international job in Nigeria.If he is the type that doesn't care about having a future in Nigeria,then he can take the option of staying in the US.

Denying your husband sex is not the best way to go.

Good for him.Jesus said everyone who has learned of the Father,comes to Me.

Op,is this happening in your family?

82yr old woman? What kind of beef will anyone have with someone of that age?

Ok oh.The people behind it should not die again.

RIP Mama

South Africans have a lot of carbohydrates and fat in their foods and most times don't watch their diet.

.It's obvious this money is not legit.

salsera:
Hmmm
Dapo
There is no dem say with Dapo.
I didnt go to Ife but I visited often so I met him at guest house frequently.
Dapo did quite a bit of prostituting in Uni or free sex. He was looking for customers when I saw him first time.I just thought he was a wierd looking woman (bad foundation) Besides I didn't get why he kept running after any man that even casually looked his way.

Till my colleague who was alumni greeted him then it clicked. And yes he had aristo lovers who were obviously closet gays who flocked to Ife by then he was staying in quarters.

I heard the rest of his story from his newspaper interviews , by then he was a street walker. It was the only way he could get sex. If you read some of his writings online he isn't totally 'all there' though he is a smart man.

Coco
Back in the day when I would follow up on transgender stories you'd find regret stories, constantly trying to be more of the other gender surgeries so much so it becomes an obsession. The more startling fact is that a large number keep the Instruments and have incomplete transition, simply because that's the only way they have been found attractive sexually . Why keep a womb if you transitioned to man or keep the p..nis if you always thought you were a woman in your soul.

I'm sure there are a few cases where they are content with the change. But for Dapo that molestation at 6and subsequent molestation or should I say rape in school with the kind of treatment he got in 90's Nigeria messed an already messed up man.

Coogar
By the way he actually started his transition in Nigeria. Like a lot of transgender he got hormone therapy on the black market. Its the surgery he got funding for. I doubt he did that in the UK, funding for that kain tin no dey available then oh. Maybe na Europe.


The problem with addressing gender identity crisis prepuberty is that if they start hormone therapy that early then if this they change their minds then biologically they are in s?'t. Cos it surpressing one hormone and effectually affecting their growth.

I used to work on Allen Avenue and often came across him.Someone mentioned that he had a house off Allen.At times,we would have eye contact and he would try to hold the contact.(I always felt pissed off).He wasn't handsome/beautiful and i just wonder what his partners saw in him.I guess gays have it twisted anyway.

The most important thing is to be sure if he is fighting for you.Has he tried to talk his parents into accepting you?Has he shown any resolve to go ahead with you.

It's in his hands really.If he doesn't fight,don't waste your time.It won't be worth it afteral.

Op,is there anything you're doing to make a change?

Crap.People just say anything even when they are ignorant of what Jesus would do.

How can you know what Jesus would approve of when you don't even know Him?

Juzzybabe:
Wow!!! It is true that a problem shared is half solved. I think mine is completely solved.
Have been quiet for a long time,enjoying myself. My little angel and I are doing so great. Am about to start work,but I run a kool growing business tho,I should be starting work anytime soon. When I left the house,I didn't contact my inlaws until weeks after,but when I did,they were mad n ruin insults but I care not. Hubby was angry and insulted me too. But now he's begging.he wants me to come back to but am not ready yet
As for my MIL,the woman still dey misyawn ooo,she said she don't want to ever see me with her son,
Well,like it is said,marriage is a prison,so be careful with who u choose to be your prison mate."I chose my husband n he chose me,as long as we are married we remains prison mates but am gonna keep living my life to its fuuliest until he's ready. I am really greatful to you all for the encouragements and financial support. Those who take time to call,awww! We are so greatful. Thanks to all.

So are you in Ghana now?Glad to know you're sorting yourself out.

It's imperative that anyone who will believe the bible must also be a student of it.You can't be a student of the bible by using only one version of the bible.You have to compare notes and also get a study bible which has footnotes.

The NIV is the most popular english version and has publications by Zondervan(but they are not the only publishers).

The verses you listed are missing as you rightly said but in the footnotes,you will be referred to scriptures in other chapters indicating that those verses have the same words as the scriptures of reference.

There is an updated version of the NIV too(2011)that seeks to correct the omissions.

Most importantly,search(and study0 as Jesus said.

Jesus is Lord.

Violin spider dey this side?
before they use.
People ought to clean cups,kettle,jugs etc

It's abnormal.Distance is no excuse for the behaviour.It's a disorder.

salsera:
Yeah he was. It was some uncle. Father was polygamous, mum died when he was 8 thereabouts.

Obviously,that must have had an effect on him.

Thelish,what of his family?Do they know about his predicament and is he getting any support from them?

thelish:
my dear I never said he was my lover, he is still my lover, I have never stopped loving him. am just confuse n angry. when I said he stood by me, I never mentioned cash or money. if I dont love him, I will not assist with his school fees while we were in school. my ATM was for the both of us. it pains him that after all what I have done for him, I have not really enjoyed money wise. even the money I realized from my sales still belong to d both of us. neighbors n friends had laughed at me severally, that how can a beautiful young lady like u degrade yourself to sell food. but I don't answer them. am just scared that for how long will I continue like this? he is the only man I have known all my life.

Can't your hubby sell food too?
I think your hubby should get off his butt.Times are tough for a lot of people but when you sit waiting for manna from heaven then it is worse.He's a graduate as you said so he should make use of the knowledge he got from his education.He should be creative and do something.
You chose to stick with him and support him while in school and married him.Whatever made you do that,don't quit now.

thelish:
I have always done that. he is a very nice man. I married him because I believed in him n his future. he stood for me at a bad phase of my life. his love gave me a reason to live n quit suicide. Though before our marriage, his brother promised him money to start a business , which we have even secured the shops. But he disappointed him after our marriage. He is my best friend n lover but how long can I wallow in poverty?? I just need someone to talk to. cos my heart is heavy .

If he did the bolded at a phase in your life,then it's payback time.You can't leave him now.
He should stop looking for a white-collar job and do something hands-on.He can start by teaching,a school or a jamb center.

He must have been molested by a male.I guess that knocked him 180degrees.

cococandy:
I hope he has rebuilt that house for them

Lol,that will be if he thinks like an African.

Poor girl.I saw her corpse.Her body was mangled.

Maturity mostly.Most guys who are older would be more exposed and matured,better able to handle a relationship.
Most girls don't want boys they have to start nursing.

Ahhhh,you are in serious trouble!

On a more serious note,except it's a mushroom hospital,noone will use a used syringe for you.The nurses are trained to know that.

I think you should just ignore her ways.However,your friendship with her will cause a problem someday.She seems to have a complex.

diviniti:
yes I am, is it dangerous cos am in my third trimester.

You should go to the hospital and have yourself checked out.Spotting in the third trimester could be a minor problem but it could also turn out to be an indication of an underlying serious problem.
Please go to see your doctor even if the bleeding has stopped.

diviniti:
yes sir

Yes stress(both emotional and physical) can cause spotting.
Are you pregnant?

diviniti:
Oga Thorpidor, gudpm sir, pls can stress cause little blood stain?

You mean spotting?

Bsmartt:
The message is long overdue because nowadays pastors even invite them to the church program in the name of Gospel comedy. This can never happen in a mosque because Muslims separated worship from comedy. The religious leaders should act fast!

hmmm,muslims are very religious people.

Some people are just messed up in the head.