₦airaland Forum

You married a mummy's boy and I'm afraid you have to deal with that.
Have a discussion with your hubby about this and seek ways to improve your relationship with your in-laws.

You will need to let your in-laws know how you feel too but not by engaging in a shouting match with them.

Your parents must have had terrible childhoods.Now that all of you are grown up,you don't need to depend on them again.Try and be close to each other(the siblings)and be the family to each other.
Let your parents continue in their folly until they are too old to help themselves.

Don't let your dad be able to bully you again.Get to know some people in the police or military if possible.

queen47:
Oga, I sight you ooo.
How have you been?

I've been cool.Hope u're cool too.

The confusion he's been having in his family life has been taking him places.Sometimes people try all sorts when they are in trouble if they do not know where to seek true peace.

Shouldn't you have sorted your sexual preference before dating to the point of engagement?Have you been having sex with this guy and what has been the experience if at all?

Break off the engagement.If you marry him,both of you will end up frustrated.

bigtt76:
Blame the girl too ....she was not raped it must have been consensual. At least no other girl have come out to lay such complaint. The Principal sef .....na hin be the only male child for that school ?

Girls at that age are very impressionable.Only few can say no at that age.
They said it was a common thing with him.Others may have just been keeping quiet and 'swallowing' the stuff.

PRINCIPA!
If a corper had done this,we would say it's exuberance.
Why would a principal stoop so low?

MizMyColi:
Okay
But you can do well by first recognizing the mental stronghold, deconstructing it and then guiding her into a new way of thinking.

That way, you won't be accused of being oblivious to the pains and challenges of the average human who is yet to truly rise above.

You're right.We live in an African society and in Nigeria,it's a big deal.The moment your older relatives see you,the next thing they ask is,'when is the date'?I can't wait to wear asoebi.
The pressure is real but you have to rise above it.

MizMyColi:
You sound like a person who isn't fully integrated into the Nigerian society.

Of course, I get your point.

But you actually gave the impression of a person who lives in la la land, where everything is happy - go - lucky

Here in Nigeria, 30 years is enough for people to start looking at you like some demon possessed, high-handed good for nothing girl, whom no man wants to have anything to do with! The subtle question on everyone's lips, even though they will not tell you is How come she is not married at this age?

Ever heard of societal conditioning?
It can make you believe a lie about yourself!

Now that said
I'm actually on the same page with you...

A young lady must gird herself, she must cook develop herself in such a way that societal rants, emotional blackmails and worth nots, do not form the bedrock for which she makes a decision on whom she wants to partner with for life (God-Willing).

Whether you are a young girl of 19 or a young lady of 35, you must begin now to reverse certain views society has/will make you hold about yourself and others, especially those of same gender.
Your thinking and choice of words must change! Your perception forms your reality, the onus is on you to choose the perceptions-cum-reality that'll ever matter to you!!

Ka Chineke Me'Eziokwu

I actually wrote with the mindset of the bolded.It's the way I have conditioned myself over the years.
I understand how it is but I wanted her to think of how it should be.

When I had the opportunity to come close to Chief Mike Adenuga,I noticed he used a Nokia communicator.I actually expected something more sophisticated.
I don't know if he has changed the phone though.

MizMyColi:
Excuse me?
Do you live in Nigeria?

So 30yrs is too old?Of course I live in Nigeria.
If 30yr olds feel they are too old,then it's part of the problem because it creates a mindset in itself.

The people above have said it all.Heartbreaks are hard to take but time makes the pain ease off.
You're just 30yrs.Don't get desperate.Guys like to take advantage of much older girls because they know they want to settle down.
Just occupy yourself.Pick up a hobby apart from your work.If you worship in a church,you could join a dept so you are busier and at the same time can enjoy fellowship with some people.

What kind of thread is this?

Saturday is not a working day so people can sleep/rest on saturday after the vigil.

#simple

Disgraceful.
That picture doesn't tell the true story sha.There's a daughter in that picture.

The bible does split anything.The bible is so clear on homosexuality as wrong.People can twist it the way they want but it doesn't make it right.

The arm of the law would do justice to him.

Modestly,that is what the scripture says.Don't wear cleavage revealing clothes,too short skirts or transparent clothes.
That scripture does not say wearing earings is a sin as some denominations/churches have made it.

Op,there are people here to support and hear you out.There are things one does not have control over in this life but you can make the best out of life with things that can change.



Abi u old,husband no dey?

Na wetin dey sweet am kill am.

No-one has a right to take anyone's life.Before you decide to import a woman and spend so much on her,you have to count the cost and if things go awry in the future,you accept your loss and move on with your life.

The men who think these women deserve it should think that they are people's daughters and sisters.

LadyFiona:
Nay, he married a dumbo. Will copy that post to buttress how violent and irrational some Nigerian men are, imagine slapping an adult because she insulted an adult " according to him".
The elder bro may be there grinning from ear to ear for the prompt response of his younger bro.

One day, that wife will leave without as much as a hint.

That in bold makes a big difference.

elantraceey:
She heard her mind/ the devil talking to her not God.

...and she's going to get a big back hand slap if she keeps mentioning God.

I don't think that is enough to make them stop you.It depends on your place of work however.
Many people are hypertensive and yet work in big organisations.

You should see a doctor about your bp sha.

ahnie:
Miss zino z a success.the stoolin hz stopped.And the Damsel z doing great.went for Bcg yesterday,was asked to come for another vaccine wen she turns a month and two weeks.

Nice one

BukkyBayo:
This is a man I cherish so much. He has failed to understand that nobody is perfect. I try my possible best to see that my man is always happy, all I get is that with every little quarrel, I get beaten up and called all sorts of names. I could easily cheat on him firstly because he has cheated countless number of times in our marriage and secondly because I feel he no longer has regards for me, but what will I gain, and what will God tell me. I tell this story in pains as I wish that one day things will change. He used to mean the whole world to me. I wish somebody could explain to him that I tolerate a lot from him so why cant he take the other side of me that is not perfect. No family is 100% happy, it all depends on how you manage your home. How you understand your partner. How you treat your partner. I wish someone could teach him how to pet a woman; How to apologize to your wife when you beat her up; How to be good. I have tried to remain good but he says I'm still a devil faking all my characters...I have known him for years and we've been married for years...All I need is your prayers because he was not like this. Only God can change him to The Sweet Man I used to know and love.

Didn't you date him and was he like this from the start?
@bolded,I don't know what your marriage to him means and why you have to sit there and take all these?

Anyway,since you say we should pray.........

Our Father,Who art in heaven,hallowed be Thy Name,Thy kingdom come.
Thy will be done on earth,as it is........

annabee:
That's dapo. Changed his name to dade in oau, now Stephanie. He used to stay with his family on a street behind ogundana street allen. This is madness. He comes from a rich family. Smh

you must know him.I worked around there and sometimes met him in a restaurant close to Ogundana st.He started with wearing earings and sometimes wore bra pads.He later started braiding his hair and painting his lips.
I'm still mystified by this sex tansformation thing.Can't seem to understand why people do it.

He should have written the final exam first and do whatever he wanted after.
I know a few doctors who are into something else now.I know a lady who is into baking.

Medicine is not just about the certificate.It really involves a lot of commitment and discipline even after you have graduated.

ahnie:
Blessed you.

How's your daughter now?

Bless is gay afteral they still engage in a*** sex.I know some do surgery and rework their privates but I don't know how functional that is.If the men who date them know they are transgenders then those men are gay.

Stillfire:
You don't have to use your child to appear subtle or pass a message across, haba.
It's just petty.

Well maybe petty is the word but I don't think it's envy or any form of bitterness.